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My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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My boyfriend does not celebrate X-Mas and I'm hurt by his apparent disregard to my my feelings
Q. Me and my boyfriend are on the verge of breaking up over this.. He doesn't celebrate xmas, he's not from the UK, but he knows how important it is for my family to be around each other at that time, and this year has been one hell of a difficul...
A. 21 November 2010: Yes you can.
It works like this :
a Muslim WOMAN is not allowed to marry anything else than a Muslim man, but a Muslim man can marry either a Muslim woman or a woman from the "people of the book " : Christian and Jewish. This may not encourag... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not celebrate X-Mas and I'm hurt by his apparent disregard to my my feelings
Q. Me and my boyfriend are on the verge of breaking up over this.. He doesn't celebrate xmas, he's not from the UK, but he knows how important it is for my family to be around each other at that time, and this year has been one hell of a difficul...
A. 21 November 2010: Precisely, OP : you accepted, or chose, to spend your wacation in his environment- you did not feel at ease and you did not like the experience, so you are not keen to repeat it anytime soon.
He accepted ,or chose, to join your Xmas cele... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not celebrate X-Mas and I'm hurt by his apparent disregard to my my feelings
Q. Me and my boyfriend are on the verge of breaking up over this.. He doesn't celebrate xmas, he's not from the UK, but he knows how important it is for my family to be around each other at that time, and this year has been one hell of a difficul...
A. 20 November 2010: @Josh B667.
I have to disagree with you. To me, if you are sitting down with people to eat special foods and drink special drinks and exchange gifts on the birtday of a God that is not your God, this IS celebrating. So,if you don't want to cele... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not celebrate X-Mas and I'm hurt by his apparent disregard to my my feelings
Q. Me and my boyfriend are on the verge of breaking up over this.. He doesn't celebrate xmas, he's not from the UK, but he knows how important it is for my family to be around each other at that time, and this year has been one hell of a difficul...
A. 20 November 2010: Sorry, I had not seen your update. Then he IS Muslim. Just not observant.
I am not surprised at all he does not want to celebrate Xmas. He has been nice to make you happy once, last year, but obviously it's not his thing and he does not want to m... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does not celebrate X-Mas and I'm hurt by his apparent disregard to my my feelings
Q. Me and my boyfriend are on the verge of breaking up over this.. He doesn't celebrate xmas, he's not from the UK, but he knows how important it is for my family to be around each other at that time, and this year has been one hell of a difficul...
A. 20 November 2010: Respect is a two way street. And it's ok for you exposing him to your traditions , or gently inviting to know them better- but not forcing him to embrace them with tears and yells and emotional blackmails.
What's his reason for not "doing " Ch... (read in full...)
I wanna buy some romantic or dramatic novels any suggestions please?
Q. I wanna buy some romantic or dramatic novels any suggestions please? (important)...
A. 20 November 2010: Jane Austen's novels : "Pride and prejudice ", "Emma", "Persuasion " "Sense and sensibility ""Mansfield Park " , "Northanger Abbey "
"The group " by Mary Mac Carthy
"The romance of a fool " by Junichiro Tanizaki... (read in full...)
There's nothing that I have that she wants. What can I do?
Q. Like it says on the Title; there's nothing I have that she wants. I really have NO idea what to do. I offer to take her to the movies, she likes the idea but she's not psyched about it, I offer to take her to dinner at a restaurant, she ...
A. 19 November 2010: Maybe it's gonna sound as if I am some emotionless, spolled b---h, but I don't quite get your problem. Why do you expect her to be psyched out.
For some people , it's just their personality. I appreciate things, but I never squeal with deli... (read in full...)
How should make his birthday special?
Q. For my boyfriend's 18th birthday, do you think it would be a good idea to get a hotel in London for a few days, and book tickets to attractions I think he'd like; he's never been before but has always wanted to. I am already eighteen and we've been ...
A. 19 November 2010: It's a fantastic idea ! I wish somebody would give me a present like this !
Careful with the expenses. Hotel accomodation should not be a big problem, plenty of affordable ,decent little hotels in Earl's Court or Bayswater ( and plenty of abso... (read in full...)
We have totally different views on lying, who is right?
Q. How do I deal with this??? Me and my girlfriend are in mad love, and could probably make it if there weren't these issues. One is that we both have very different views on lying. I view lying as not very glamorous but a part of life, it...
A. 19 November 2010: You are right in theory and wrong in practice.
It's true that everybody says white lies , and that not any lie is a major breech of trust .
But : who gets to decide what's major and what's minor ?
The liar unilaterally ? Why ?
What for me i... (read in full...)
Flirting with my daughter's friend, old enough to be his mom!
Q. My daughters boyfriend is 20... iam 42 and have a son older than him. I really liked him so allowed him to go on vacation with us. A few months later my daughter in a joking manner said that he wanted me..........we laughed it off as a joke. It is ...
A. 19 November 2010: It's not about him- you just got cougar fever.
Nothing wrong with that- if you are single, spoil yourself and go hunting. It 's easier than you think- it's a very popular trend these days.
BUT NOT WITH YOUR DAUGHTER'S BOYFRIEND !
Do you wa... (read in full...)
Are we really working toward more in this relationship?
Q. I need your opinions on this please... I am in my mid 50's and have been dating a man who is also in his mid 50's. We met online about 4 months ago, he lives very close by, and we have been seeing one another occasionally ever since we met (it star...
A. 19 November 2010: He has told you, in a nice and caring way, that he feels pressured and he is not ready to take your relationship to the next level , as you want and as you may have sent him "signals " about.
It is probably true that he feels overwhelmed by h... (read in full...)
How do we have a relationship outside of samba drumming?
Q. Dear Cupid, Last year I had my heart broken, and found myself single again after a 10 year relationship. I decided at the time that I wasn't going to wallow in self pity and got myself out of the house and joined a group of people doing som...
A. 18 November 2010: You can either discreetly make enquiries through your common friend . Or even ask her directly, but not like grilling her, more casually , in conversation. Something like : I guess your boyfriend does not like samba. Or " Does your boyfriend ever ... (read in full...)
Can the depo shot stop your period right from the first time you take it?
Q. So, just got my depo shot on the firtst (first time ever). And I still made the mistake of having sex before my week was up (3 days before). My period was supposed to come around this week and hasn't shown. Needless to say, I miss Aunt Flo and am ...
A. 18 November 2010: I used to be on Depo and never had a period the whole time, just occasional spotting. ( No collateral effects either ).
But it is not the rule, in fact for most people it takes 2-3 months for periods to disappear. So, better take a pregnancy test... (read in full...)
What do you do about horrible housemates?
Q. two of my housemates dont like me i know this because they have spoke about me behind my back to my 3rd housemate. being a good friend she told me they had said that i dont think for myself my mum helps me with all my work and its easier for me i...
A. 18 November 2010: Simple : don't leave your shoes by the door, and wash your cups right away. Everybody would pick on you for that, what they want is normal !
As for the washing tablets episode, I agree it would have been classier of her just let it go, since you ... (read in full...)
How do we have a relationship outside of samba drumming?
Q. Dear Cupid, Last year I had my heart broken, and found myself single again after a 10 year relationship. I decided at the time that I wasn't going to wallow in self pity and got myself out of the house and joined a group of people doing som...
A. 18 November 2010: I guess it depends if she is still in the same relationship-but-it's-complicated that she was in at the beginning of this year.
If her situation is still the same, probably also her negative answer would be the same.... (read in full...)
Should I go to the party or stay away?
Q. I'm thinking of going to my friend's party but im not sure if it would be wise of me to go. The thing is, she invited this other girl who I hooked up with a few months ago, and the problem is, after I hooked up with her and text her and stuff, I...
A. 18 November 2010: Go- and when you see that girl, apologize. You don't need to be all dramatic and misty eyed. You can tell her simply what you have told us - Now I realize that maybe I have been selfish and inconsiderate , I did not realize it then. I regret that ... (read in full...)
Why don't my parents want me to grow up?
Q. I'm 23 and still living at home. I envy my cousins who are in their twenties and have children with their partners out of wedlock. My parents are really conservative and I'm not. They think that you have to be married just to leave home! I ...
A. 18 November 2010: You don't have to be married to leave home, at least not in Australia .
The advice is a classic one - get a job if you don't have one, start saving, become financially self sufficient ( even if this should mean living on a tight budget and down... (read in full...)
I don't feel I should have to ask for oral sex, especially when I give him oral 2-3 times a week!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost one year and I give him oral 2-3 times per week without him asking but he has only given to me maybe once a month or less. I don't feel like I should have to ask-am I doing something wrong?...
A. 17 November 2010: I disagree with the other respondents, because I don't have such a "business " attitude to sex : I give you X, therefore I have to get Y back.
At least in theory, if you give him oral 3 times a week- it's because it turns you on and because you ... (read in full...)
Why would a person say "If I was not with my current boyfriend, I would have this other guy instead"?
Q. Its just a simple question, why would a person say "If I was not with my current boyfriend, I would have this other guy instead"? What does this show? Should I warn the boyfriend? This guy is my friend and I over heard this from a friend and worries ...
A. 17 November 2010: I don't think it means anything , it's just one of those things you say just to open your mouth and ventilate your
tonsils. " If I weren't with X, I'd make a pass at George Clooney " kind of thing.
I would not say anything to her bf- now, and... (read in full...)
Should I wish him happy birthday? I don't want him to think I'm rude if I dont, but then again I don't want him to think we can be friends either!
Q. Hi all now I really need your help. My ex's birthday is in a week's time and I don't know if I should wish him a Happy Birthday or not. I was planning to maybe send him a Facebook message and wish him. We broke up around 10 months ago, but we had r...
A. 17 November 2010: I don't see why he should think you are a complete asshole if you don't wish him Happy Birthday. You told him that you could not deal with being friends, he told you he understand and respects you your decision, end of the story.
He did send you ... (read in full...)
How can I show that I do trust him?
Q. He thinks I don't trust him, and says a relationship without trust is nothing and so we are over. I'm devastated. I think I do trust him, but have been cautious along the way in case things don't work out. If I have a trust issue, it's not ...
A. 17 November 2010: "He is my world and brings real meaning to being alive.
When I tell him that , he just replies he does not believe me ".
But, if you buy him a car, then he would believe you ? ...... (read in full...)
Working with boyfriend & his family became too much..destroyed our relationship
Q. Don't know how to continue in a relationship. Been together over 4 yrs. 2.5 years ago was asked to join his family business to help out. Didn't know how controlling and verbally abusive his parents (the bosses) were. Always shouting and scoldin...
A. 17 November 2010: Since most of the stress seems to be related to your job and his family, I am optimistic. Just find another job, and stay away from his family as much as you can, - get your peace of mind back and this will have a powerfully positive effect on your ... (read in full...)
How can I show that I do trust him?
Q. He thinks I don't trust him, and says a relationship without trust is nothing and so we are over. I'm devastated. I think I do trust him, but have been cautious along the way in case things don't work out. If I have a trust issue, it's not ...
A. 17 November 2010: If you buy the car with your own savings, why on earth should it not be in your name ? Whose name should be it in ?
His ?
And why exactly ?
Does he want you to give him the car as a gift ?... Why ?
Uhm...I don't want you put bad thoughts in ... (read in full...)
He said he really liked me, slept with me and said he would leave his girlfriend for me, but that never happened! Why did he do this?
Q. So I travelled to France with a study abroad program this summer. We were all assigned 'buddies' and mine seemed very sweet and helpful. I rarely saw him and eventually found out he had a girlfriend who had the same name as me. I was shocked that he ...
A. 17 November 2010: Learning experience.
You have learned :
- some people lie. Don't believe everything you are told by someone whom you have just met- particularly when his actions do not match his words
- some people cheat without any particular hesitation. ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents that I'm pregnant?
Q. here is the thing i am 15 almost 16 in the uk -legal age of consent is 16 - any ways . me and my boyfriend of 2 years he is 24 okay now there is a age gap i am very mature for my age and my parents now know we are in a relationship and they thi...
A. 17 November 2010: Natasia and Dmartin89, I appreciate that you are tryng to encourage our Op, and basically you are right- once she has decided to keep the baby , might as well have a positive attitude.
Nevertheless I think it's not fair though dismissing so ligh... (read in full...)
What do I have to do for my girlfriend to forgive me?!
Q. It was my girlfriends birthday a little over a week ago and I had some stuff come up that got in the way of getting her a gift. I told her about it and at first she was fine with it, then a few days later she brought it up and i felt terrible...
A. 17 November 2010: Give us a bit of background info. Is this the first time that "stuff came up "?...
I don't think that your girl is miffed because she is materialistic or she really had her heart set on that Ipod or perfume or whatever it was you were gonna give... (read in full...)
Can someone please explain why he keeps on being a jerk but he still keeps on contacting me?
Q. I've posted about this situation before but things keep happening and I am at a loss. So to recap, I met this guy on a dating site and we dated 2 months until he ended it with me. Things were really great at the beginning but about a month into it, ...
A. 17 November 2010: He told you why ! "He has not finished the sex part with you ".
Lots of people like the security and the ego stroke of having a sexual spare tyre just in case, and that's what he is after.
... (read in full...)
Why on earth is he still with his girlfriend?
Q. So, here i am again...still as confused as ever. My ex and I split up 5 months ago after being in a 3.5 year relationship. within a few days he was seeing someone else, as she had been sniffing round for a long time. It hurt me alot when they got ...
A. 16 November 2010: If he says something then he does something else totally
different ( he says he loves you BUT he is with his new gf )... well, what he says cannot be the whole truth right ?
Anyway tryng to read people's minds is often fruitless and frustrat... (read in full...)
Heeeelp! Is my boyfriend cheating?
Q. I need advice on what to do... I've been with my boy 3.5 years now, he was my first love, first everything. I am 21. A few months into our relationship he got drunk at a party and spooned a girl he used to be intimate with...he promised nothing...
A. 16 November 2010: Red flags everywhere.
This sleepover thing is weird. I guess she is not his very best friend from kindergarten right ? So why do they have to have sleepovers in a single bed ?
I would never think of sharing a single bed with a friend, male or ... (read in full...)
Help!!! He wants to be with me but doesn't want to put a label on it. What does this mean?
Q. so i have been seeing this guy for a few months and we are planning on moving in together (his idea). but last night we were talking and the labelling subject came up and he said He doesn't like labelling relationships. basically it is what it is ...
A. 16 November 2010: It means he does not exclude dating other girls.
He may genuinely like you and not be actively on the prowl ,... but if he should happen into something he won't turn it down , because officially he has no girlfriend.
... (read in full...)
Ex wife is hanging onto my family!
Q. The facts: we were divorced a year ago after 3 years of separation and lots of good reasons to split. We have 2 boys, 23 and 19 years old, now out of the house (university and "exploring the world.) I met the love of my life 2 years ago, and am ...
A. 16 November 2010: I had understood that. It does not modify my opinion.
When she met you , your new wife knew that you come with a past in which you have formed bonds and ties that now are have been loosened but will never just be canceled - e.g.,your two kids... (read in full...)
Why cant I seem to hold onto a man? I'm not picking the wrong men, they are picking me!
Q. I seem to be caught in a cycle of rejection and I need help to break out of it! My long-term relationship ended nearly three years ago and this year I decided to try dating. In the last few months I have been rejected by four men and I can't figure ...
A. 16 November 2010: Showing interest does not meal that the deal is done, or that there is any deal to do, as for that.
I don't think it was a line. If they told you "!I don't want a relationship ", they did not want a relationship. Maybe they wanted casual date... (read in full...)
Ex wife is hanging onto my family!
Q. The facts: we were divorced a year ago after 3 years of separation and lots of good reasons to split. We have 2 boys, 23 and 19 years old, now out of the house (university and "exploring the world.) I met the love of my life 2 years ago, and am ...
A. 16 November 2010: And why should she ? Do you really think she should give up to something she cares about just because your new wife ( to whom she has no obligations )is controlling,possessive and insecure ?
Your ex still feels welcome to visit your family, and ... (read in full...)
How do I approach my kids on the issue of my new "friend" sleeping over?
Q. When is it appropriate for the person I've been seeing to spend the night? We've been seeing each other for 2 months. But here's the catch, I have two children, my son is 15 and my daughter is 9. My "friend" has spent lots of time with them and ...
A. 16 November 2010: You should NOT bring home a guy you have been dating for two months. It's very early to say that you two are fully compatible and that this is gonna be an LTR. I don't want to jinx you, and I wish you well, but you may be split up next week for all ... (read in full...)
I'm worried about travelling alone!
Q. I'm wondering whether i should go to a concert alone this saturday ?. some of my friends will be sat in the same block as me, and a fan i know online, but havent met personally yet, will be sat next to me, so i wont exactly be alone during the ...
A. 15 November 2010: Yes,go.
There is always a first time. Sooner or later you will have to catch a flight or a train or visit a new city by yourself, it's next to impossible you go through life without this happening to you. Make this your test run and start lear... (read in full...)
My man is upset because women don't hit on him?
Q. I am a bit upset at the moment . The man I have been dating just left my home after an arugement . He didn't understand why I would get upset when he started talking about how he wishes women would hit on him ... And I was the only person in four ...
A. 15 November 2010: It is harmless.
It's an everybody's thing.
Until a few years ago, any time I'd pass a building site I was whistled after and blown kisses. Now, more often , I am either ignored or greeted with a polite nod.
That makes me a bit sad. Why ? D... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him?
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for 1 year before he broke up with me 2 months ago because he said he needed time to mature, he wasn't ready for a relationship, and because we're too close. I told him I would wait for him but he said there was no ...
A. 15 November 2010: The little speech you ex gave you is to be traslated as it follows :
" I am young , I am a kid in fact. My life is about fun and games and the excitement of novelty. I like you ,sure, but being with you also implies obligations , and I disl... (read in full...)
Am I that boring? And not pretty enough for him? Help me figure this out!
Q. I feel like I shouldn't be asking people I don't know for advice and comfort, but I'm finding it hard to talk to my family about it and I just need some consoling now. I think I like a guy in my college who I've been dating for a few weeks/month ...
A. 15 November 2010: Sorry but I think this guy is still too hung up on his ex and even if he should like you , you would just be a rebound and/ or a shoulder to cry on.
No you are not selfish and self centered: he is. And rude too.
It's the bare minimum of dating e... (read in full...)
After 3rd date I feel like running for the hills!
Q. I started seeing a guy since Halloween. It's been three weeks and three dates. By the third date, I'm not feeling it, and he has a picture of us saved on his cell phone screen saver... I'm 22 turning 23 and have never dated before. Am I over ...
A. 15 November 2010: Probably you are simply not that much into this particular guy. ... (read in full...)
Can you hate and love someone at the same time?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together since May 2008. We started a long distance relationship because he was from the States and I was a Canadian working in Asia at the time. He flew about 100 times a year and he would always try to find time to ...
A. 14 November 2010: The Roman poet Catullus was wondering exactly the same thing about 20 centuries ago and he wrote one of the best love poems of all times about it :
I love yet I hate.
Maybe you wonder how that can be.
I don't know,
but I feel it happens
and... (read in full...)
Do men fancy their female friends?
Q. What is it with men and female friends? I have just had a major argument with a friend of mine about sex. Specifically the fact that because I am his friend, he would never sleep with me. I thought men were attracted to all women? Everythi...
A. 14 November 2010: You say that you've got plenety of male friends and they are all failed first dates.
Positive spin no.1 :
That's sort of a compliment. You must have a great personality. Not all men, few in fact, bother spending much time with girls they won't ge... (read in full...)
Is there ever a right time to tell someone that their partner is cheating?
Q. Dear Cupid What I want to know is where it would ever be right to tell someone that there partner is cheating on them. My situation is this: Four years ago I was drawn into an affair with a man I work with who was living with someone. He...
A. 14 November 2010: Revenge for what ?
You are a mature woman who willingly entered into a relationship with a man who was already taken. Maybe you did not know that he was not single when you began the relationship- but you could have left him as soon as you knew... (read in full...)
I'm a Christian, he's a Muslim and I don't think this is going to work!
Q. Someone please help me! I've just found out that my Internet romance, who I have fancied for about 4 months now and think he's amazing, is a Muslim! I'm a strong Christian in a very strong Christian family. I don't know what to to I love him to b...
A. 14 November 2010: Muslim men are allowed to marry Christian women.
The problem is that most often they don't want to.
A marriage is in most Muslim countries ,even the most Westernized ones, something much less personal and private
than in our culture ; it involve... (read in full...)
I agreed to an abortion but now I'm second guessing it!
Q. I'm 9 weeks pregnant with my 3 child which was unplanned. My partner who I've been with for 16 years wants me to terminate the pregnancy, I said I would, but am now not sure if I can go through with it. What should I do? ...
A. 14 November 2010: OP,thanks to you for updating us. I am very glad to hear how it went and not because I am particularly pro-life, I am just particularly pro-doing-what-you-feel-best-for-yourself.
I am sure your husband will get used pretty soon to the idea of a new ... (read in full...)
Got quotes?
Q. got good quotes ? any kind . love , life , dark , light . you name it . I need some good ones for my class . lol . help me out . post one or more(: thanks ....
A. 13 November 2010: "A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds " - R.W.Emerson
"He who has a why to live can bear almost any how " - Friedrich Nietzsche... (read in full...)
Are we really working toward more in this relationship?
Q. I need your opinions on this please... I am in my mid 50's and have been dating a man who is also in his mid 50's. We met online about 4 months ago, he lives very close by, and we have been seeing one another occasionally ever since we met (it star...
A. 11 November 2010: Glad to hear that - everything seems to be on track. Yes, 4 months is too early to attempt "predictions ". You'll have to just relax, let him pursue you , enjoy his courtship and see where it goes ( for a few months more , I'd say- not years, ... (read in full...)
I agreed to an abortion but now I'm second guessing it!
Q. I'm 9 weeks pregnant with my 3 child which was unplanned. My partner who I've been with for 16 years wants me to terminate the pregnancy, I said I would, but am now not sure if I can go through with it. What should I do? ...
A. 11 November 2010: @Odds : I understand your reasoning and I cannot say it's not logic, yet I can't agree,
As adults ,we know that all our actions have consequences and we take responsibility for our actions.
The male partner, I guess, knew that no protecti... (read in full...)
Are we really working toward more in this relationship?
Q. I need your opinions on this please... I am in my mid 50's and have been dating a man who is also in his mid 50's. We met online about 4 months ago, he lives very close by, and we have been seeing one another occasionally ever since we met (it star...
A. 10 November 2010: No no, I did not say there is any harm in calling, - you are friends and one phone call is neither stalking nor a breech of etiquette.
And, men are notoriously remiss in reciprocating communications in a timely fashion, so often women pick up the ... (read in full...)
Are we really working toward more in this relationship?
Q. I need your opinions on this please... I am in my mid 50's and have been dating a man who is also in his mid 50's. We met online about 4 months ago, he lives very close by, and we have been seeing one another occasionally ever since we met (it star...
A. 9 November 2010: Peraps I wouldn't do it. Not because there would be anything wrong. Like you said, you are friends, you have been hanging out for months,- it 's no big deal if you call him.
But , if you keep being proactive and initiating contact, you will not ... (read in full...)
Are we really working toward more in this relationship?
Q. I need your opinions on this please... I am in my mid 50's and have been dating a man who is also in his mid 50's. We met online about 4 months ago, he lives very close by, and we have been seeing one another occasionally ever since we met (it star...
A. 8 November 2010: In partial agreement with the other respondent, I too think that 4 months is still early to predict where things are headed . You are basically still getting to know each other and it takes time to build a solid relationship. So, be patient and see ... (read in full...)
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