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... Send *indyCares a private message | | | *indyCares's profile:Hi everybody. I am an Italian woman currently living in Italy but I spent many years in England and USA. I hope my English is still decent but in case it got a little rusty, please be lenient.
My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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... (read in full...)
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I really want to use lube, but I can't get it. Alternatives? How to buy? Where to hide?
Q. Hey I'm 18 and I think spit just doesn't work enough. I guess I just want to try lube to know how it feels like because i'm quite sure it must feel a lot better (certainly since i have a tight foreskin) (i'm talking to use lube just for masturb...
A. 13 June 2011: Go to a herbalist's shop and get aloe vera gel or flax seed gel, or (ask them ) any other natural hypoallergenic skin moisturizer. Then you don't need to hide it... everybody is entitled to have dry ,sensitive skin :) ... (read in full...)
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