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| | *apathyxrebornx's profile:Hi my names Raven. I'm 17 and from a huge family. I've grown helping other people in my life and giving them Advice, Ideas and Suggestions. I came across this website and wanted to see if I could help other people from all over the world. Anyone should feel free to message me for advice, I'll be willing to help and I log on normally everyday.
I am 100% honest and give my opinion easily. It helps to tell the trust instead of lying to people and giving them the wrong idea. I am also 100% confidental, what gets said in both questions and messages is not said to anyone I know. What is written on dear cupid stay on Dear Cupid between the person asking the question and me answering.
A little more about my personal life:
I'm currently in a serious relationship, not exactly engaged yet, but already planning the wedding which will take place in around 2010-2011. We plan to move to birmingham in 2010 as well.
Like i said feel free to message me anytime and I'll reply asap
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HAd sex a couple days ago...is it too soon to have pregnancy symptoms?
Q. I'm 15 and i had sex for the first time a couple of days ago. We stupidly didnt use a condom and so theres a chance i could be pregnant. I cant tell anyone as it is a secret relationship. I am way too scared to go to the doctors to get the morning ...
A. 21 January 2008: it takes a few weeks to begind having symptoms.
I suggest in three-four weeks or if you miss your next period have a pregnancy test
AND an STI test by the way asap!
message me if you want to talk x... (read in full...)
How long do women want Sex to last?
Q. Do women really like Sex to last a LONG time? In the last relationship I was in... I say the last, it was actually my first ever relationship, when having Sex, I struggled to keep going. I would usually ejaculate rather early. On one occasion I'm...
A. 21 January 2008: annalisa advice is pretty good, but at my age (16) i prefer it to last about 15-30 mintues, if he cums its good if he fingers me to finish me off if i haven't orgasmed.
message me if you want to talk x... (read in full...)
I might be bi, or not
Q. Hi, i have a bad problem. Right, i go to an all boys school, so girls are hard to meet, and i keep thinking about two boys in a sexual way(Not all together). I do still fancy girls and think they're hot. Am i bi, or is it just because they are like, ...
A. 21 January 2008: Heyfrom the sounds of it your at the age of being confused
from saying you've just thought of some sounds like Bicurious =] (which I am)
That means just thinking or fantasising about the same gender sexually =]
Give it a year or so, if your ... (read in full...)
I want children, but my partner doesn't. He feels he is to old?
Q. Ok, so I been with my boyfriend for about 4 years and we have had are share of problems but we are very deep in love. He is 16 years older than me and he doesnt want anymore kids. He has three kids of his own. I want kids so bad and I wont give that ...
A. 21 January 2008: I agree with babyduck
i suggest you leave this man if you really want kids, you shouldn't change his mind for him.
peoriaman also gave good advice on how he would feel having a child in late age
i suggest you get out into the world anf find a... (read in full...)
Trouble having sex the first time! I need help please.
Q. i have problems with my boyfriend because he wants to have sex with me but im a virgin, and when we try ito, it hurt's a lot, so i dont know what to do. And i dont know what to say on the phone with him coz he says that his the only one that has ...
A. 21 January 2008: he wants to have sex with you, first make sure its also vice versa do you want sex with him?
secondly you could try foreplay (fingering and touching down below) to turn you on alot more and relax you. Also if he fingers you not long before s... (read in full...)
B.J's What else can we do, besides full sex?
Q. my boyfriend loves b/j. and i want to do other things along with that. so what can we do other than have sex? ...
A. 21 January 2008: hmmm you could give him a hand job or try dry humping (non penatrive sex with clothes on) hmmmm the choice is yours =]
make sure you get pleasure too though!
message me if you want to talk x... (read in full...)
Baby's names! who gets the last word?
Q. A while ago, I wrote in about wanting to be preggie all the time, even though a baby is still out of the question for some particular reasons which I will not discuss at this time because, well, they're irrelevant to the question, and the question ...
A. 21 January 2008: If you and your partner plan to have a child you both sit down and talk about names and both aggree and put in ideas.
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How can I get on top and go at it more quickly?
Q. I know this sounds stupid, but when me and my bf have sex, when I'm on top (like, resting slightly forward, putting weight on my hands which are either side of his head) I can't seem to go fast enough. It's hard to go fast, and I know this is how h...
A. 19 January 2008: Hey, try the cowgirl position, bascilly sit up, ask him to hold your hips and both of you work out a pace that is fast for him, doesn't exhaust you and is pleasurable.
the others gave great advice =]
message me if you need anything x
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Could unprotected sex cause a problem?
Q. Right, about a week ago my period stopped. It wasn't very painful, but it sometimes isn't. But ever since I stopped, I've been having what I think is period pain. As soon as I stopped my period, I had unprotected sex. (I know unprotected sex was ...
A. 19 January 2008: youi may be pregnant or even an sti thats the problem with unprotected sex
get to a doctor when your period is due for a test and get to a clinic for an STI test asap x
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Is soap a good 'lube'?
Q. is it safe to have sex in the shower when soap is used as a sort of lub...
A. 19 January 2008: i suggest you dont use soap just buy a [proper lube if its needed =] x... (read in full...)
My right breast is larger than my left - is this normal?
Q. I'm 17, and I've noticed that my right breast is bigger than my left one. Is this normal? It's not looads bigger, but quite a fair bit. I read a story in a magazine once about a girl needing surgery because one was significantly bigger, and now I'm ...
A. 19 January 2008: its perfectly normal nothing to worry about, you'll grow out of it and you will even up, its fine =] x
message me if you need anything x... (read in full...)
Is it weired to call your Baby, the same name as your EX.
Q. Hi! I was just wondering-- my boyfriend and I are having a baby boy due this March, and my absolute favorite name that i have picked out just happens to be the name of this guy i used to hook up with... i want that name so bad but it's kind of ...
A. 18 January 2008: Hmmm i dont think it wierd, just one day when you are choosing names just suggest randomly this name you like and then talk about it, your bf might not even know or have forgotten its your ex's name =] x... (read in full...)
Can my boyfrends habbit, be effecting my chance of pregnancy?
Q. well my boyfriend cum inside me many times...im trying to get pregant but i have all the side effects...and i took a pregancy test..and it was negativve..he smokes weed though....?...
A. 18 January 2008: yes it could... I suggest if you ywo want a baby anyway he should stop weed, if you DO get pregnant and he smokes it around you, the baby's gonna get it and weed can seriously harm or kill your baby... so i suggest you stop trying until he... (read in full...)
Did I miscarry?
Q. Right this is pretty worring because i think i might have miscarried without knowing that i was pregnant. I was having a really really heavy period to the extent where i put a tampon in and within 15 minutes i felt that it had come through so ...
A. 18 January 2008: It sounds similar to one, but alot of miscarriages are different.
Anyway as you see this as not a usualy period go to your doctor or clinic as soon as you can and get checked out, tell the docotr what you saw and felt and he should give you the best... (read in full...)
I asked him if he'd like me to be thinner, and now I can't stand for him to see me naked. What can I do?
Q. I love my boyfriend. and he loves me too and wud never hurt me. We're both people who think looks don't matter in each other (but criticise our own looks constantly). He calls me beautiful but i think it's that 'i don't love you cos ur beautifu...
A. 18 January 2008: If your boyfriend loves you for you he wont judge you...
im exactly the same hun, it took me a while to go ful one nude
all i tried to think was hes probably as nervous as i am as he is also very self concious
dont worry everything will ... (read in full...)
Does my body sound normal for a 16 year old?
Q. dear cupid i am a 16 year old boy and have been looking at my self in the mirror and saw something, my left side of the stomach seems to be a bit inner than my right and also my left chest/man boob (have lost weight but still their) seems to ...
A. 17 January 2008: well your 16 hun and still growing, i think this is fine and normal so dont worry.
Even though you lost the weight try toning up as it would help you loose the 'man boobs' you have x... (read in full...)
Could I be bi sexual?
Q. I am 19 years old and i have a boyfriend. I find men attractive and i like having sex with them. My sex life is quite normal for my age and im only interested in dating men and pulling men and i always have been. The only thing is, i get off more on ...
A. 17 January 2008: LOL hun dont worry you're like me,
you're
BICURIOUS
You are attracted to men, but you look up lesbian porn or sometimes fantasiseabout sex with a women yet you feel you coudn't actually go past that line and actually HAVE SEX with a woman
XD... (read in full...)
Why haven't I gotten my period in a week and half?
Q. My husband and I have been trying to have a baby for about 3 months now and we have not had any luck. But this month when I was suppose to get my period it never came. Now I am about a week and half late. This morning I tried a home pregnancy test ...
A. 17 January 2008: Hi, take a test in a few weeks if your period hasn't come. Also make sure you do the test on the first time you go for a pee in the morning which is when it is most accurate =D
If the result is still negative you can keep on trying =] x
good luck... (read in full...)
Will girls be attracted to me only because they know I've got a large penis?
Q. Alright this problem arised about a year ago, i first noticed that i was quite large when i found an article on the internet about average sizes of an adult penis. Well i immediately measured myself out of curiosity because i didnt really care until ...
A. 17 January 2008: I dont think it should be a problem you sghould ignore those people who are treating you like that.. You'll know if a girl wants you for you. Dont rush sex and see how long it takes before they ask. 1-2 weeks and its means they're most probably do... (read in full...)
He wants anal sex, I don't as it sounds really bad, am I overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to try anal sex. I have never done it and for some reason can't bring myself to do it. anyone have any words of wisdom. am I overreacting or is is as bad as it sounds....
A. 17 January 2008: Okay first of all your acount says your male....so im going to assume your male...
now if you are male and its your boyfriend then its kinda one of those things that if you dont enjoy you're not gay..
If your female dont do it unless YOU want to ... (read in full...)
I want a baby, why do I feel this way?
Q. I feel this odd need to be pregnant all the time. A baby is out of the question right now, but I so badly want one that I almost ache. I've never wanted anything more...Why do I feel this way? :(...
A. 16 January 2008: :-o I'm like exactly the same!
want the answer?
You're broody.
Plain and simple./
If a baby is out of the question...as much as you yearn for one, wait until your in a stable relationship possibly even engaged or married and THEN with a partner s... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant 2 days after my ovulation day?
Q. can i get pregnant 2 days after my ovulation day? how long do i stay ovulating after that day.?...
A. 16 January 2008: You can get pregnant ANY time in your cycle. you usualy ovulate on day 14 and around that date is the most likely time you can get pregnant. x... (read in full...)
Everytime we have a sleep over, we end up kissing! Am I a lesbian?
Q. hi i have a best friend we have been friends for 5 years we are still at school and in year 7. and we often have sleepovers and everytime she comes and sleeps around mine we end up kissing and i dont know what to do i think she really fancies ...
A. 16 January 2008: It might not make you a definate 'LESBIAN' but talk to her and see if she fancies you. You're at the age of experimentation adn maybe in a few years you can start liking boys.....that is if you want to =]
message me if you want to talk =] x... (read in full...)
He slept with THREE different women while on a road trip. His excuse was "He had needs". I'm very hurt. What should I do?
Q. this past summer my boyfriend went on a month long road trip with his buddies. i stayed home to work for tuition money, so i couldnt go along. he called me everyday and we talked for a while. i never suspected anything bad was going on. but just a ...
A. 16 January 2008: You've been with him since you were 15 and for a road trip he couldn't wait until he got home?
Hun i know it hurts but if hes done this he will probably do it again --plus in the back of your mind if he goes away again its going to be in your hea... (read in full...)
I want to make out with him, but I'm worried I'll make a fool of myself!
Q. i have had a boyfriend for a month, and i really want to make out with him...but im worried that when it comes time, ill mess up and make a fool of myself. Help!!...
A. 16 January 2008: Try not to think to much of it, just cuddle up to him leant close tilt your head near his, go with the flow, if you worry about it, and think you'll mess up then you'll mess up
imagine your the best kisser in the world and hun with some practice... (read in full...)
Are there any creams or remedies that dimiss the hurt during the "first night"?
Q. I am 22 and I am a virgin. More so, I am a virgin who just got engaged. I really want to have sex and so does my man - not that hes pressuring me at all. The problem is every time I try it hurts too much... i've used copious amounts of lube ...
A. 16 January 2008: Hmmm this one is a hard one.
Ok so you've tried lube and that hasn't helped.
Foreplay have you tried that?
Foreplay and lube?
This may be because you are virgin, the first time...usually...hurts for most women, the amount of pain depends o... (read in full...)
Will he speak his mind, possibly making me feel rejected?
Q. i started talking to this boy, i know him but he doesnt know me, he is like the boy all the girls like. and he's seen pictures of me but not the real me, and everyone says i look different in pictures. ive tried telling him but he wont listen, im ...
A. 16 January 2008: Hmmm I suggest you just take a chance with him. If you want then take a friend with you to meet him therefore if things go wrong you have someone to fall back on.
If he is the kinda guy who does call you hun and hurts you then he's not worth it... (read in full...)
I slept with my mate while drunken, now she won't even speak to me! Ideas to solve this?
Q. hi i got drunk at a party once and slept with my mate and she now wont even talk to me i dont love her but i want to talk it over with her how do i get her to just listen for like 5 mins?...
A. 16 January 2008: Pull her aside, sit her down and speak to her, I cant suggest much more then that =]
Could always text her asking if you guys can talk or something?
message me if you want to talk =] x... (read in full...)
I can’t seem to get the courage to tell her how I feel, as I got hurt in the past for doing this.
Q. Hey I have known this girl for quite a while. I’ve started to have feelings for her, but I don’t know how to tell her. I can’t seem to get the courage because last time I let someone know I liked them I got hurt. I’ve tried writing notes but I ju...
A. 16 January 2008: Aww hun I know you've been hurt in the past but its a case of if you dont take the chance and ask you wont know!
Instead of going full blown out and telling her you like her, maybe hang out a few times? Like go for a coffee or a movie AS friends,... (read in full...)
Does my teacher like me or am I confusing these signs?...
Q. Dear Cupid There is this teacher in my school. He is alot older than me but I have the feeling he's attracted to me he messes with other girls but I think he likes me. Here are a few things he has done: 1. If the desk infront of me is empty ...
A. 16 January 2008: From what you've said he's attracted. I suggest you tell the head teacher. It's wrong and he's going against Teacher-Pupil regulations.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has gotten another girl pregnant during our break, how do I cope?
Q. my boyfriend got another girl prenant when we fell out how do i cope we have 3 kids together...
A. 16 January 2008: Hmm hard one.
I guess if she's pregnant theres nothing you can do about it. All I can suggest is support your boyfriend and also I suggest yuo make him face his responabilities with both his other child and the children you have together =]
I ... (read in full...)
She only tolerates the missionary position, saying almost all others hurt. Can this be corrected?
Q. My girlfriend and I have regular sex, averaging once a day. When we do, she prefers a very strict missionary position. She says she has comfort/sensitivity issues and it hurts her in almost every other position. Are there any women who have felt ...
A. 16 January 2008: Hmmm well I'm still young and dont have much expierience but trying out differnet positions if they hurt we would slow down and become alot more comfortable.
Have you tried Lube? It might not make things so sore =]
Also try foreplay before ... (read in full...)
I feel betrayed because of his watching porn!
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend is bisexual. Which inst a big deal except he isn't faithful to our relationship. It's happened several times thought 5 years of being together. Every time he promises that he loves me and that it wont happen again. but in ...
A. 16 January 2008: Aww Sweetheart.
Its depends on what you want to count as self worth, but hun from what it seems, if hes cheating and spending time looking at other men and not you, its hurting you and making you feel second best from what it seems.
I think... (read in full...)
Could it be depression? The past two years seem to have mounted up, I don't know where I'm standing.
Q. hi guys. i always rely on this site to help me with minor problems but recently so much as been mounting up and it has turned into one big problem. here it is.....: first of all: i dont know whether i have depression or not but i go through ...
A. 16 January 2008: From what you said at the start it reminds me of Bipolar. I have a sister with Bipolar, one minute she was fine and then she would trun quite nasty.
Another thought could be at your age your hormones are everywhere causing mood swings.
I went ... (read in full...)
Your general thoughts of the uncircumcised penis?
Q. Hi im 17 years old and i am affraid that my penis is too small. it only measures 5.5 inches when errect. please help???? Also i was wondering what people thought about circumsized penises? by the way im circumsized....
A. 16 January 2008: Well on the subject of circumsized penises I don't know as my boyfriend isn't.
Now you say you're too small, 5 inches is around average and its not the size it's what you do with it! =]
x... (read in full...)
Problems with bullying...
Q. Hi, well I have a problem with bullying. It's not physical but at the moment they are mentally and verbally bullying me by making remarks about me to my best m8 and also shouting horrible names at me and calling me a tramp. There are 2 main culprits ...
A. 15 January 2008: I suggest you ignore them, lets say your with youre friend and then get called something, simply ignore them act like you never heard it and carry on talkign to your friend. Even though i left i still get bullied sometimes. But now ive left nad... (read in full...)
He can't last more than 5 minutes and this is a problem for us!
Q. When my boyfriend and I had sex for the first few times, the first being when I lost my virginity, he was able to last for a good while. Now, he's only able to last for 10 minutes or so, at the most. Average time being 5 minutes or less. He says ...
A. 15 January 2008: You're both still new to sex it seems, you've only had sex a few times from what you say. Was he virgin? it seems so as guys don't last for long as they are not expierienced much. The more you have sex, eventually he will last longer
messa... (read in full...)
How effective are condoms?
Q. Lets say your partner has a STD and he wears a condom no matter what weather it's oral or intercourse etc... Is it still possible for you to get STDs?...
A. 15 January 2008: If you use them correctly condoms are 98% effective.
100% protection just takes one word..."No"
There are cases t can pass like if he comes and gets semen on his hands and then tuches your vagina you can catch the STI.
Message me if you nee... (read in full...)
How early can I take a pregnancy test? Do I HAVE to wait until my next period?
Q. Hi. On Friday night I had unprotected sex, which I know was stupid and everything, but now I'm worried I could be pregnant. I was just wondering whats the earliest I could possibly take the test?? I'd only just come off my period when we did it, ...
A. 15 January 2008: Although others have suggested the morning after pill i dont think it would work by now at this point.
I'm sorry but you have to wait at least three weeks and even then the result wont be accurate, I do suggest you wait until your next period i... (read in full...)
Help! I can't get it 'up' for her and I don't want to lose her!
Q. Hey. I am 17 years old. Recently, I have been with a very close friend of mine, whom I have known since pretty much the beginning of high school. She is one of my best friends, we hang out all the time, and we basically talk about everything with ...
A. 14 January 2008: Hun maybe you're nervous at some stage at thats what stopping you from 'getting it up' are maybe it could be something else like low ciculatary system hun. I suggest you go to a doctor if the problem carries on.
message me if you need anymore ... (read in full...)
Want to lose my virginity but uncomfortable with the way I look.
Q. i will be turning 17 in a few months. I am still a vrigin and one of the select few in my school. I kinda want to lose my virginity but i am very uncomfortable with the way i look. I feel totally disgusted wen i look in the mirrors. My friends say i ...
A. 14 January 2008: I think you shou.d wait until you're with someone you love and if they love they they wont care what you look like. They will make you feel comfortable with yourself. (i was the same)
Anyway please dont have sex until your ready. If your like this... (read in full...)
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