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She only tolerates the missionary position, saying almost all others hurt. Can this be corrected?

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Question - (15 January 2008) 7 Answers - (Newest, 16 January 2008)
A male United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My girlfriend and I have regular sex, averaging once a day. When we do, she prefers a very strict missionary position. She says she has comfort/sensitivity issues and it hurts her in almost every other position. Are there any women who have felt this way? What did you do to get past it, if you did?

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A female reader, Sugarbuns Australia +, writes (16 January 2008):

Sugarbuns agony auntIt could that you are well endowed in the nether region and if so, yes most positions will be out of the question. My ex husband was quite large and generally sex was uncomfortable except in the missionary position, which was boring for both of us. The only other thing I can think of, is that you need to spend more time on foreplay so your g/f is lubricated and can do other positions more easily. She may also feel self conscious when she's on top (alot of women do because we know you watch us when we're up there) so it's safer to be on bottom. It could be any one of these problems. Some you can fix, some you cannot. Good luck.

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A male reader, chlez83 Zambia +, writes (16 January 2008):

My girlfriend's like that and it pisses me off at times.It's just time the more she grows comfortable with you,the more she'll want to explore but keep asking to try something else.It took me 4 months of missionary before we tried sommething else.Some women just love missionary and it's part of your challenge to help them like other things.

Good luck.

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A female reader, jkobeska United States +, writes (16 January 2008):

a friend told me this a while ago "certain times of the month right before or after your period i think you uterus moves back or something like that and certain ways can hurt.

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A male reader, daletom United States +, writes (16 January 2008):

Do you bring her to orgasm before attempting insertion? That should make her as ready as she'll ever be to receive you.

Other responders have already mentioned lubrication (she may not be producing enough of the natural kind), foreplay (she needs more time) and pace (slow, deliberate strokes until her internal muscles stretch).

What positions have you tried? Woman-on-top positions are often suggested. These allow her to find the locations and angles that work best for her. You certainly can't feel the subtle differences that make it pleasurable or painful for her! Once you find the best way in, you can transfer that approach to other positions. Laying on your sides, either face-to-face or spoons, also gives her more latitude for moving and adjusting her body position for the easiest entry.

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A female reader, xapathyxrebornx United Kingdom +, writes (16 January 2008):

xapathyxrebornx agony auntHmmm well I'm still young and dont have much expierience but trying out differnet positions if they hurt we would slow down and become alot more comfortable.

Have you tried Lube? It might not make things so sore =]

Also try foreplay before hand and make her know shes loved and make her comfortable cause this could be emotional as well as physcial =]

message me if you want to talk x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 January 2008):

Yes. I'm like that. I did nothing because I don't think that's a problem, hence it doesn't need to be fixed. I did learned to like the doggie style though (with time). I have not much experience. Maybe as she gains experience she'll start to like and want different positions.

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A male reader, rcn United States +, writes (16 January 2008):

rcn agony auntIf the other positions are uncomfortable, you may have to move around a bit to make it comfortable for her. I was with someone we had to do that, she had a tilted (U). Going streight in would cause pain.

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