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writes:Hi, well I have a problem with bullying. It's not physical but at the moment they are mentally and verbally bullying me by making remarks about me to my best m8 and also shouting horrible names at me and calling me a tramp. There are 2 main culprits a boy and a girl. The girl sits next to me in almost every lesson I am with her, and the boy only sits near me but he makes remarks about me to my best m8 who sits in front of him. This is upsetting because I don't want my best friend to be taken away from me and it is just really upsetting.I don't want to tell th teachers because they are currently dealing with another issue of mine and they may start not believing me.Please help me as I don't want this to go any further. Also what can the school do to help?Thanks.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (15 January 2008):
 Ahh Bullying.. i remember it well.
I was beaten with one of those metal chair legs across my back,
while a teacher watched. and done nothing.
don't bother telling your teachers, we know they don't give a shit really.
you want to fix the problem? become sarcastic give as good as you get. laugh at your self and if all else fails punch, kick bite.. just go fucking nuts on them.
you worried about what will happen? like getting in touble with the teachers? nothing will happen. you will get teold off and sent to bed with no sponguebob square pants.
if i knew now what i did then...
my first day of scholl would have involved me hospitalizing a large number of kids.
i recently saw 2 of my bullies from high school on scooters.
and me?.. i was driving a car. lets just say i spent a good hour chasing them both.
deal with it now before it gets out of hand. ok if you get hit. big deal. wounds heal. show them whose boss and once they're down make sure they stay down.
i'm sure many people don't agree with me.
But if eople are affraid of you, they won't touch you.
its like prision. to survive you either become the biggest baddest guys b*tch. or on your first bad you beat the crap out of the biggest guy.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (15 January 2008):
 I suggest you ignore them, lets say your with youre friend and then get called something, simply ignore them act like you never heard it and carry on talkign to your friend. Even though i left i still get bullied sometimes. But now ive left nad i dont have to see them everyday they called me something lets say like "Oh hey fatty" (something stupid like that) I'd just smile and say "Hi hun(or mate, or a name people call them that pisses them off)" then carry on and walk off Bullies like reactions. DONT react, only 'react' if they're in your face and say something like "back off" if they dont just push them away and walk to another area, don't let them think you are weak, yet don't give a reaction either. message me for more adivce on anything or more ideas and scenarios, I've been through this, and remember you're not along. Stick by you're friend and help eachother =] x
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reader, shandygirl  +, writes (14 January 2008):
 I was bullied too when I was your age. It isn't fun, I know. It wears out your self esteem. But I think that the reason that they do that, is that they are jealous of you for what ever reason, and want to deflate your ego.
Or in my case, I was a smelly, poorly dressed kid, which had NOTHING to do with who I was inside. If you don't take a bath every day, and your hair is a mess, like I was, then other kids will pick on you. If that is you too, then clean yourself up. I am not being mean, just speaking from experience.
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reader, moocha +, writes (14 January 2008):
I am sorry to hear about you being bullied, its important to remember that bullies strive of getting a reaction for their victim so even if you feel like crying dont do it infront of them - dont give them the satisfaction of letting them see you cry.
If you dont feel ready to talk to your teacher yet then keep a diary, record all the nasty things they have said about you and then when you do feel brave enough to talk to someon about it at least you will have some evidence. The thing that scares bullies the most is confidence, turn the other cheek and remember that you are not making anyone in your class suffer therefore you are a better person than they are!
a trick i used to do was when someone was going off at me i would imagine the two of us in a boxing ring and imagine bashing it out with them - keep that thought with you.
Good luck, and even though it feels like a nightmare now school will soon be over and you have your whole life ahead of you, dont let thiese ignorant folls stand in your way!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 January 2008):
 You can inform your parents who can then attend the PTA to raise your problem .Your parents can also go and see your head or principal about it. This will make them stop.Rather than you make the complain and the teacher or school may not take any actions.
Or you could ask them to stop it.Ask them not to push you too far or you can report them to the police if your parents or your school does not take actions to stop it.
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (14 January 2008):
 Im very sorry that your being bullied i know what its like i went through my entire school life being bullied (my teachers at my school where useless they were lucky to last a year so although i did tell someone they werent there long enough to help) i just had to stick it out my friends were nice enough to stick by me and helped me through it and if your friend is a true friend then your friend wont let them take him away, you have to tell someone you have too they have to do something to help you, people have been so badly damaged by bullying they have taken there own life this is a serious issue and schools take it seriously its unfair to make you sit next to people who make your life hell so please tell any of your teachers they are there to help!
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reader, chrisiskool10 +, writes (14 January 2008):
Oh thats bad....i had a bully problem when i was in public schooll.Well first dont tell the teachers tell the princable,second when they tell you something like that dont take it, give them a small(non cursing)remark such as at least i dont smell like crap still inside a hoarse(im younger than you so i dont know what you concider rude 0_o)But dont curse or anything or youll be the bad guy.But if you notice they alwase pick on the clever-smart people can you guess why?Because they know your a threat.So they get your soft part before you have a chance.Dont ask me why but its true.
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