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anonymous
writes:Hi, i have a bad problem. Right, i go to an all boys school, so girls are hard to meet, and i keep thinking about two boys in a sexual way(Not all together). I do still fancy girls and think they're hot. Am i bi, or is it just because they are like, the two most attractive people i know, or is it some other reason. Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): I have to disagree a have questioned my sexuality on and off since i was 14-15 i am now 18 and stull confused yet a would not carry a sexual act out on a male yeh i have jaked of to male porn but i think the fact tht it is such a forbiden thing makes it all the more exciting i dont advise you do it as it will only confuse u even more take time out and see wat you realy want i dont ever think i could have a loving realationship with a man or a real intamate wun a think fantasies are fantasies they are all in ur mind if u choose to act on them then thts fine you might find you are gay bi or straight as a teen your hormones are everywere and unfortunatly finding out exactly wat sexual orentation you have may not take a week a yeer it cld take u a while to figure it out but what you got to think to yourself is your young justnow live life to the max if u turn put gay then fine but to be honest most teens go through this phase and it dosent help wen ppl are sayin ur bi or ur gay no1 knows what or who u are only you know
Even been confused about my sexuality there is times were i could have acted on tht but wen i have been put in they positions it realy didny feel quiet rite :)
So your not alone i think most if not all teens and adults go through a stage like this sum lasting longer than others wat u have got to look at is if a girl which lots do think or even fantasies about other girls does this make them lesbians no gay bi les its not just abot been sexualy attracted to a man/woman its about loving the person aswell if u love other males and can picture spending your life with them then maybe ur gay maybe not i dont think anyone can be an expert wen it comes down to sexuality but i fully belive tht no 1 is 100% straight or gay we all have the ability to love people no matter wat sex so ber tht in mind :) hope this helps :)
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reader, Clare12801 +, writes (22 January 2008):
I dont think that your bi, around puberty boys and girls get confused about which gender they like. the only way you can be bi is to actually go out with a boy. (you already meet girls). it is really confusing, if it happens for a long time and you know you really really like both boys, then you might be bi.
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reader, flower1 +, writes (22 January 2008):
Have you had feelings like this before? It may e that you just admire these guys, or it could be that you feel more for them in a sexual ways. what ever you feel be true to yourself and dont let anyone else tell you what to fell. it is ok to feel the way you do.
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reader, i cant say  +, writes (22 January 2008):
no no your gay ! i was in yur position at the same age and as i grew up i just knew girls didnt appeal to me now dont get me wrong you cant tell when a girl is good looking but when it comes down to it you just not that in to it but give your self time !!!!!! time will tell xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): I understand what you mean. I wasn't allowed to date or be around guys until I was 16, due to my mom. So I got really close to girls, and I began to fancy them. Then when I turned 16, earlier this year, I became horribly confused because I still had thoughts about boys as well as girls. So here's what I've decided;
Everyone, to some extent is "bi". But if you chose to embrace it, that's when you actually BECOME bi.
If you WANT to fancy girls and boys, then do it. If you don't, you can always pursue women and maybe you'll find a woman who doesn't mind.
I sure as hell wouldn't. Anyway, I hope this made sense. ^^;;
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (21 January 2008):
 Heyfrom the sounds of it your at the age of being confused
from saying you've just thought of some sounds like Bicurious =] (which I am)
That means just thinking or fantasising about the same gender sexually =]
Give it a year or so, if your feeling are still teh same, see if you actually want to date, kiss or see a guy if you do try it out and see if you like it =]
message me if you want to talk x
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (21 January 2008):
 I wouldn't worry about it for a while. At your age hormones are raging and as your body is growing, your mind will wonder. It's quite common for people to fantasize about people of the same sex, especially if you see them a lot more than ones of the opposite sex.
Bearing in mind you are too young to have sex (I think homosexual sex is still illegal up to the age of 18!)
relax and see your friends. Give yourself time to see whether you're just going through a phase.
By the time you're old enough for a relationship, if you go out with girls but still feel attracted to boys, than chances are you do swing both ways!
All the best!
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reader, IntoxicatingLastBreath +, writes (21 January 2008):
 Well
Just because your thinking of guys sexually it doesn't mean to say your bi hun, you might just be thinking about it because there's not many girls around and your getting curious because of everything, it's totally understandable and normal..most people go through these fazes..people say it's because of your hormones..which it most likely will be, because at your age they're pretty much blossoming..and it messes with your head :P
Just wait it out and things will be clear soon, don't worry or anything though.
If you were bi even would it matter to you?
It doesn't matter what your sexuality is, you'd still be awesome!
I'm bi myself, and it's cool really..because it means you get the best of both :)
So if you ever do decide to tell anyone ignore the snide remarks you may get, and remember if you feel you want to tell someone at home only tell people you TOTALLY trust, because that was my mistake.
You also might be bi curious, that means that you could just want to see what it's like with a guy because it's entering your mind, and you wanna be exsperimental with them because your curious.
You might even do something sexually with a guy and not like it..and decide your straight :]
Whatever you do just let your sexuality blossom..in time it'll come clear about your thoughts and stuff..and i'm sure a lot of guys at your school are bi/gay
In time when you find out your PROPPER sexual orientation, i doubt it will change :)
Feel free to contact me at any time
Hope i can help
~Krissy [x]
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reader, studentnurse  +, writes (21 January 2008):
Seems to me your confused. Nobody can tell you if your bi, but I would say that if your thinking of the same sex in that way, there is a rather good chance of it. And something to understand is most everyone excepts it. And no matter what there is nothing to be ashamed of, you are who you are embrace it. Cause it's the only life you have. Take some time to get to know some other bi or gay people and see what they have to say about your feelings. Cause nine chances out of ten they are the nicest people to have on your side. Feel free to message me when you want.
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