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writes:Do women really like Sex to last a LONG time?In the last relationship I was in... I say the last, it was actually my first ever relationship, when having Sex, I struggled to keep going. I would usually ejaculate rather early. On one occasion I'm ashamed to admit I lasted about 40 seconds - 1 minute. She didn't complain, in fact she happened to say it felt really good as I finished. Sometimes our love making would last a long time, on evenings where for whatever reason I would struggle to ejaculate. Sometimes we would stop because she would say that she was tired, and the fact that she was a little out of breath backed that up.This leads me to ask how long women usually prefer Sex to last? Is there anything I can do to make sure I last longer?
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reader, troubledtoomuch  + ♥, writes (23 January 2008):
 I forgot to answer your question about making you last longer. What I used to do when I thought that I would not last too long is to think of boring things during intercourse. I would do this until my wife had an orgasm and then start to think of the sex we were having. Of course, you still have to think of the sex some so that you can concentrate on her pleasure. As far as boring things - work or planning something that you have to do. It makes the sex less exciting for you for a while, but better for her.
I told my wife that I would do this so that she would not notice it and wonder what was wrong. She said that she could not tell when I would do this. You should probably discuss it with your girlfriend first and see if it bothers her. Also, I have read that it does not work for a lot of guys. It takes a few times to get the technique working right. Give it a try if your girlfriend does not object. Ask her to tell you if she can tell when you are doing it and try to adjust your thoughts so that it is not obvious.
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reader, troubledtoomuch + ♥, writes (23 January 2008):
My wife likes the actual intercourse to last 15 to 30 minutes. More than about 30 minutes and she is sore inside if we do it again within 12 hours. She likes to use 2 to 4 positions. This is usually precluded by 10 minures or so of kissing and fondling and another 10 minutes of so of me giving her oral. After the intercourse, we normally take 10 to 40 minutes to snuggle. Of course, we con't time these actions, but have noticed the clock on occasions. We normally take from 40 minutes to and hour and a half for all of the lovemaking.
That is one advantage of getting older - it takes longer. When I was in my 30s, I remember lasting anywhere from 2 to 10 minutes depending on how horny I was. We still did a lot of snuggling, oral and cuddling before and after. Fortunately, she could have her first vaginal orgasm in a couple of minutes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 January 2008): Im 50 and I sometimes like it to last a good few hours or sometimes about a hour. My husband is a fantastic lover and wont stop until IM ready. Everyone is different. With past boyfriends, they have been so useless, ive been ready to stop after 5 minutes. It depends how much you are enjoying it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): Its not that I personally like it to last a long time. In fact, I don't like long drawn out sex, cause after a while it does hurt or can get boring. But I like it to last long enough so that I at least have a orgasm.
Its not really about how long you last but its more about the guy showing that he cares about pleasing you. Its about the effort that he puts in to it so that his girl is satisfied. That's the most important thing. Cause if a guy stops caring about pleasing the girl and just wants to please himself, then he'll last as long as he feels like, which probably won't be that long.
So its not so much about how long it lasts as it is about you showing that you care about both of you being happy and satisfied with the whole experience.
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (21 January 2008):
 annalisa advice is pretty good, but at my age (16) i prefer it to last about 15-30 mintues, if he cums its good if he fingers me to finish me off if i haven't orgasmed.
message me if you want to talk x
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reader, Annalisa + ♥, writes (21 January 2008):
 Ideally, you want some really good sessions that last about a hour (or more!) and some quickies to spice life up.
A quickie should only really be urgent, when both of you really want it but don't have much time.
Relaxed sex, however, should be fulfilling! A lot of women need time to build up to the point they are even ready to let you penetrate them, and if you go in early then come, you can cause some serious stress.
So 3 points:
1- Make sure sex includes manual and/or oral stimulation;
2- To allow yourself to stay hard for longer, pull out or slow down whenever you feel you are close to climax;
3- If you do ejaculate before she reaches her climax, finish the job with your hand (one or two fingers inside are fine + on and off attention to the clitoris, rubbing it in circular motion).
In fact, you could do the latter anytime after intercourse:
you could count how many multiple orgasms you can give her, before she can't take any more!
Enjoy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 January 2008): Usually, I think women usually want sex to last until they feel they are satisfied. Usually, this is indicated by them having one or more orgasms. From my experience, this should be anywhere from 15 minutes to 30 minutes at a time, more or less. Each time is different -- or should be to a degree.
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