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Am I really that old-fashioned? I'm so tight, sex is painful and I want to wait for the right guy...

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Question - (21 November 2007) 3 Answers - (Newest, 21 November 2007)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I'm 21, one partner away from being a virgin, and I have a small problem -- or rather, I have a problem with being small.

Sex is painful. It was painful after the first time, and no, practicing with a well-lubed dildo hasn't helped. I am one of those incredibly tight women you only hear about in men's wet dreams, though nothing else about me is remotely porn-tastic.

Add to that my reluctance to bother with sex if I'm not in love and I have a bit of a dilemma, don't I?

So, agony aunts, uncles, and cousins, is it reasonable to ask a man to wait on me? Am I screwed, so to speak, unless I start looking for religious guys (and I really don't get along well with them)? What's so miserable about wanting to be in a long-term relationship before having sex with someone?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2007):

You can't go on like this, you have to solve the problem of being tight. There are ways of stopping this, one of them is surgury. I suggest it.

Sex should be good if it's alone or with anyone. While waiting can sometimes be good ( not realy tho ) this is a physical problem that needs a solution, and waiting won't help.

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A male reader, TomWilkinson United Kingdom +, writes (21 November 2007):

TomWilkinson agony auntIt's not unreasonable at all. If that's what you want to do, the right guy will willingly wait. They won't nessicarily be religious (although it's be more likely =)), there are still some nice guys out there, and if they do wait, there's a good chance they'll be the one for you =)

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A female reader, sexi South Africa +, writes (21 November 2007):

sexi agony auntHi

There is nothing wrong with wanting to wait and any guy that doesnt respect your wishes doesnt deserve you and should HIT THE ROAD. You can ask a guy to wait it is up to you after all.Do you want to know if it is ok to wait of what you should do b/c you are so tight?

Regards,mail me if you wanna talk

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