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Normal to have hair around the nipple area? I'm very self-conscious about it.

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Question - (20 November 2007) 36 Answers - (Newest, 17 April 2011)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I have a lot of hair growing around my nipple areas. I am very self-conscious about it. My boyfriend has noticed them before but he says it doesnt bother him. I try to pluck as much off without letting him see them. It's so annoying though to keep thinking that it is there and my boyfriend may notice it in the middle of sex. My boyfriend doesnt really notice them but I know they are there because i'm always plucking them off. Is this normal to have hair around the nipple area. I've heard other women has them as well but Im not sure.....

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011):

Wow! how liberating to see other people have the same problem as me. It's like balm to my spirit because it has terribly bothered me for many years and I have never talked about it to anyone. I first started feeling like a freak when I went for a yearly checkup and my doctor says "wow, you have hair around your nipples" when I was about 18. Since then I have plucked, shaved and after many years one hair has turned into two and they have gotten longer it seems or maybe it's because I never just let them grow out. I guess I will have to get permanent hair removal done or find someone like Roger P. Allen who loves it:)

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2011):

Ugh.!! I have the same problem. I have never told any of my ex boyfriends. They seem not to notice but I know they are there. I tried shaving once and I didn't like it because the hair got darker and thicker :/ I'm glad I dOnt have alot. I would recommend bleaching the hair for light skin women because it's less visible.I haven't tried bleaching them but one of my friends has, you can barely notice them. I think the laser hair removal is scary 0.0 Well Good luck to all of you guys :) I hope we can get rid of this hair soon and safely:)

Jackiie:)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011):

dont worry of it... it is of natural growth.. use veet to remove temporary period such as 6 months

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2011):

First of all, I would like to thank all of you who commented on this topic. For a long time, I thought I was alone with this problem. I started having nipple hair when I was a teenager, and often thought of myself as a freak because of it. Later on, I became a doctor and learned more about this issue. In any case, I wouldn't recommend plucking or waxing since it really can get infected, and later cause further problems. I am shaving, but it gets really frustrating since it has to be done almost on daily basis if you are having a regular sex life, and are in the beginning of a relationship or have a partner you think wouldn't be understanding of your condition. I would like to try electrolysis but am worried of possible side effects it may have on the breast tissue. If someone knows more about this procedure and especially how exactly safe it is, please let me know.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2011):

i have the same problem, i mostly got it from when i was younger i ended up shaving my arms, legs, back and chest area as i thought that if you shaved it would never come back, as a mind of a young child would do, now i have suffered this for many years im very self conscious girl about it, i never wear low down tops im always hiding this area, i have a boyfriend and i would die if he found out. or any1 in fact, i recommend not to pluck the hairs this makes them grow back MUCH THICKER, and darker this also makes the hairs grow longer. dont shave either. the best thing is to cut them i done it all to waxing, plucking, shaving, i didnt try the die cause it wouldnt make it look any different, but now im really wanting to go jus get the little bastard lasered off for good:) FUCK IT :D

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011):

Nipple hair is also quite common for some woman, and is usually not abnormal. In these women, a number of straight strands of dark hair grow from the outer border of the areola. Occasionally, the amount of nipple hair is excessive (and usually associated with an increase in total body hair). When there is excessive hair on a woman, it is called hirsuitism. Hirsuitism is usually due to hormonal influences, though in rare circumstances it can be caused by a hormone-producing tumor. Excessive hair growth should therefor be discussed with your family physician.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011):

Plucking stimulates the hair follicles and increases the blood supply to the root so that hair grows back coarse and the root more deeply embeded in this hormones sensitive area. It also distorts the root so that permanent hair removal - electrolysis - is trickier if you decide to try that method. Shave or clip hair so that you are not agitating the root.

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A female reader, akaia United States +, writes (24 March 2011):

i guess it's normal. i always have had it. i would start waxing as early as possible. u can get a wax kit at sally's beauty supply store, but make sure u read up on how to wax....make sure u pull the opposite direction of the hair growth and hold your nipple down with your palm. it is less painful then tweezing every single hair and less annoying than shaving and creating more dark hairs...once you wax, the hair becomes softer, lighter, and less visible and so much less embarrassing. plus, u wont have to touch it for 3-4 weeks usually

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010):

i totally have the same problem. im not sure about the plucking. iv tried it for the past yr. it seems to cause alot of ingrown hairs which are a big pain to remove. and the hair does thickin. i would deff try the waxing, since after a while the pores tend to close. but my next step it also bleech. the bleeching causes the hair folicule to burn off and turn extremely white. so that it can blend in. iv never had anyone notice them be4. but i have seen it on other women. it would be nice for a guy to fall inlove with them. but to me its just not a nice site. were women. we shouldnt be hairy! its just a genetic thing.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010):

i hv da same prob ....i wanna shave dem off , but m scared if my growth becomes more thick after dis .... its anoying i don want ma bf notice dem _...... wat should i do :(

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A female reader, Idk24 United States +, writes (29 October 2010):

I just read many of the comments and I suffer to and it sucks I'm very self concious and I shave and pluk however I recently found a product sold on target it's a bleach so you can lighten the hair it truly is amazing no more ingrown hairs

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2010):

Every girl has nipple hairs. I have dated lots of women of all cultures. You can even see for yourself on hairy women porn sites, who basically let themselves go naturally the way nature intended it to be. It's pretty shocking how hairy some girls can be! Almost if not as hairy as men!

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A male reader, olderthandirt United States +, writes (28 July 2010):

olderthandirt agony auntmy first girlfriend had one on her right nipple, we named it freddy and had a good laugh with it...ain't no big deal!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2010):

try putting nair on them, I do and it works

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010):

I share the same problem and it makes me extremely self conscious as well. Ive talked to my boyfriend about it, and was shocked when he said it didnt bother him. Apparently, this is normal, even though we may be freaked out about it. Ive done the shaving thing, and I feel like more pop up when I shave, so for now I just tweeze them. In grown hairs can be pretty gnarly, but until I find more out about electrolysis, tweezing is my only friend. I have never tried waxing, so I cant tell you well that works. Good Luck!

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A female reader, spein United States +, writes (12 April 2010):

it is completely normal. i have this too. i remember one time my boyfriend and i shared things we were really self-concious about. when i told him mine (i built it up extremely)he looked at me funny...because he thought it wasn't a big deal at all! my boyfriend has told me he doesn't care about the hair, loves my breasts, has told me not to do anything about it. but if i complain about it excessively he tells me after telling me breasts are perfect the way they are,that if i have a big problem with them then i can find a way to be happy with myself (pluck, shave). but i am comfortable with myself. i don't need to do those things because obviously it isn't hard to find someone who sees past that. i do sometimes trim though if it bothers me really badly, but he tells me all the time about how he never notices it. :)

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A female reader, goldenage Canada +, writes (18 February 2010):

It is very normal. I would recommend electrolysis. I had it done and I couldn't be happier. It is so incredible not to have to worry about plucking them or ingrown hairs anymore. God! It is so liberating. I never thought electrolysis was realistic, but finally I looked into it. It takes maybe 5-10 visits, and each visit should be about 15 minutes to half an hour. The lady I go to charges 40 bucks per 15 minutes. So, while it is pricy, you can pay over time (usually you wait about a month in between visits, so it can take half a year to a year to get it all done), so it really isn't that bad. Just think of it as a long-term investment. And DO NOT go with someone cheap. I did that at first and lived to regret it. They don't do it properly and then you waste more money on them than if you had just gone to someone professional. But seriously, consider it! It's so freeing.

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A female reader, Jongh South Africa +, writes (15 October 2009):

I am happy to tell you that it is so normal to have hair around the nipples - in fact, some women have very dark, thick hair, and their men don't leave them :-) I am on of these women, I have a lot of dark hairs; I tweeze em out regularly and find that over time they have stopped being so ingrown. A year ago I confessed my dark secret to my then boyfriend (now husband), and was so amazed when he laughed and said: "How on earth can u be so worried about something like that? U've got the most beautiful breasts I've ever seen." So from then on, the lights came on during sex and I was freed!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2009):

dont be conscious about it. I too have it (and it sucks!)

Just let it be. NEVER PUCK 'EM! It might get infected

-- and boy, that must hurt... A LOT!

Having nipple hair is normal, even for women. So instead of plucking of shaving it or doing anything else with it, just consult a doctor! It might just be some imbalance with your hormones.

And, if you wonder why you have it, maybe it runs in your family genes. Maybe you got it from your hair dad or mixed-race parent!

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A male reader, roger_p_allen United States +, writes (28 April 2009):

My very first girlfriend had this unique characteristic, and I found it as sexy as hell! My girlfriend didn't try to do anything about it, so she had thick rings of long, dark hairs about each of her nipples. I thought it acted as an irresistible magnet to draw attention to her perky nipples. I loved it! Yes, she asked me if she should do something about it, and I told her, "Don't you dare!"

I always longed to find another girlfriend with the same characteristic, but I never was able to. Maybe all the other girls just plucked out the hair without ever even letting me know, thus depriving both of us of the pleasure of enjoying this unique physical characteristic.

As far as the one girl who responded that she was so self-conscious about it that she tries to never have sex for fear of how a guy would react, she may be missing out on the guy who will love it. Maybe some guys will find it a turn-off, but why worry about that? Screw them! There's always other guys who, at worst, won't mind it, and others, like me, who will love it!

So ladies, anyone with this unique physical characteristic ought to just accept it as a natural part of their wonderful female beauty.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (16 May 2008):

You may have PCOS Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome. Most people I know that are friends of mine grow hair in areas that typically men grow hair (nipples, feet, stomach, neck, face, back). My sister has it, many of my friends have this condition. Most women aren't aware they have it until they try to get pregnant and are then sent to fertility doctors where they receive treatment. Most women with PCOS do not ovulate, do not have regulare mensus and can be hairy. Women with PCOS have to get fertility treatment to become pregnant and go on insuline medication (metphormine) to regulate insuline levels. Patients with PCOS have hormonal inbalances, are insulin resistant. Good luck, medication can help with the hair, but doesn't always work. You may also produce too much androgens.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008):

i dont think oyu shud pluk the hairs or they will keep on growing bk even worse like a mans beard

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008):

I have had the same problem since puberty (I am 24 years old). I tried plucking as many people recommended, and would NOT recommend that method to anyone. In such a sensitive area, you have a high risk of getting in grown hairs (due to the soft skin) and can cause painful, and more obvious problems. I ended up getting a horrible infection, and thought I had breast cancer (which runs in my family at young ages) but it turned out to be from plucking a hair! Which my OBGYN said DO NOT DO! So now I shave them. It takes 2 seconds - in the shower everyday to check to make sure they're gone. Problem solved.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2008):

I have nipple hair and it is annoying but keep plucking and never shave them. This causes ingrown hairs!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008):

Yea its quite normal in females to have dark hair near niples ... so better to pluck them after shower or wax them but please dnt use hair removal creams as they can harm this sensitive part..... or else u can go for permanent hair removal....

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008):

it is very normal to have hairs around nipple..

there are some reasons why they grow?

foremost hormonal change puberty or intake of medicines which have steroid in it..even using medicines related to asthama cause profuse nipple hair

that doesnmake anyone abnormal

even you melanin count in skin causes increase in coarse hair so avoid sun.....

plucking is safest

electolysis will be not safe on breasst chances of cancer increases...pluck them

and be happy

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2008):

i've never heard of it being "normal"...i too have the same problem, which i hate. i would do ANYTHING to get rid of it... i have never met any other girl with this problem. i try not to have any sexual contact with men in case they ever notice; not trying to make you feel bad (i'm sure the situaiton does) but maybe electrolysis or hormone therapy. or celibacy, like me!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2007):

This is verified as being by the original poster of the question

i found the following on wikipedia (an okay source) regarding "nipple hair.":

Nipple hair is common among both women and men, although it is not as socially acceptable for coarse, dark hair to sprout from the nipple area for women. As a result, many women and some men resort to a variety of depilatory and epilatory methods of removing the hair. Because the area around the nipple is particularly sensitive, plucking the hairs with a sterile pair of tweezers is recommended against other methods such as sugaring, waxing, or shaving.

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So I guess plucking/ tweezing it is more reccomended than other removal methods. I guess its not that bad if I'm the only one that clearly notices it. My boyfriend doesn't mind because he knows I'm really sensitive in that area so he associates this with sex which is a good thing for him.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007):

I heard plucking in that area was a big no-no (not sure why) so try to find out about other methods as the hair may otherwise just grow back thicker still.

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A female reader, love-him United Kingdom +, writes (20 November 2007):

love-him agony auntHii, nipple hair is nothing to worry about at all.. im really concerned that you pluck them!! that must hurt!! If anything i would say leave them, and ask either a doctor or a pharmasist (not sure of the spelling) to see if there are any ways to remove it safely or even dye it (not sure if you can on nipple) .. Mail me if you would like to talk, and i hope i helped :) x

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007):

If there are more than a few and are slightly coarse, just have a chat with your doctor, it could indicate hormone levels that are slightly out of balance.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007):

It's very normal. My college roommate had a lot of hair around hers; speaking as one who knows, do NOT shave them off! She did that and a little nick bleeds profusely.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007):

yes indeed, this is very normal and I think most guys don't even notice unless there is a lot. Every woman I know has them and also on the upper lip, and even some on their chin. Just keep plucking away, they get smaller and softer with age.

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A female reader, happytochat Australia +, writes (20 November 2007):

Alot of women have that. The only time it may be considered 'unsual' is if you had alot of body hair, then there may be a hormonal imbalance. I suggest if it really bothers you, and you have alot of other body hair, then see a doctor.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2007):

It's not that unusual. Most people have some. I once knew a woman that had more body hair than me - including all over her back, which I must admit was not only a surprise but something of a turn-off.

If you've only got the odd few, electrolysis will permanently remove them. It could be expensive if there's a lot of them though.

Phil

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A male reader, TomWilkinson United Kingdom +, writes (20 November 2007):

TomWilkinson agony auntIt's perfectly normal, we're animals after all! If they bother you then keep doing what you're doing and plucking them, but if your bf says they don't bother him be happy =)

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