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I'm a complete wreck here and don't know what to do for the best.
Q. Hello again Dear Cupid and all of the Agony Aunts (and uncles I guess) =D I'm sure that the last relationship problem I had was the last time I was on here. We broke up because I walked in on my own home and found her in bed with another 1 year a...
A. 6 October 2007: Realize she is a different person than your prior gf. Flying off the handle is a good way to start her thinking of someone better. Treat her like you would want to be treated. Each time you feel jealous, think what is the cause. Then if it is ... (read in full...)
Do I hold out for this bloke that could make me really happy if he eventually split up with his lass, or leave it now?
Q. Ive fancied someone from work since i started there 3 years ago, but i new he had a girlfriend, so stayed well clear. about 2 yrs ago he came onto me at an xmas party but i thought he was just drunk and laughed it off, and weve just been our no...
A. 1 October 2007: You deserve better. Respect yourself and find a better boyfriend.... (read in full...)
Do I hold out for this bloke that could make me really happy if he eventually split up with his lass, or leave it now?
Q. Ive fancied someone from work since i started there 3 years ago, but i new he had a girlfriend, so stayed well clear. about 2 yrs ago he came onto me at an xmas party but i thought he was just drunk and laughed it off, and weve just been our no...
A. 28 September 2007: Are you sure he really has a gf? Maybe he has broken up with her? Check this out before you decide what to do.
Tell him he needs to make up his mind because you will no longer be a side dish.... (read in full...)
He's older, messes around with me and looks out for me. Should I date him?
Q. Hi, i really need some advice. i really like this guy i work with. hes much older than me (15 years), and i need help finding out if he likes me too. he always messes around with me ang plays little games. He looks out for me too. what do you think?...
A. 22 September 2007: Continue to play his games. Sooner rather than later he will ask you out.... (read in full...)
I've been married for 17 yrs. Am I in love with a young girl at the church?
Q. I am 40 and my wife 39 and we have been married for 17 years, about a year ago a 21 year old girl came to my church and i can,t get her out of my head. am i in love with her? it is driving me crazy....
A. 17 September 2007: You don't know her and she doesn't know you. It's lust, all in your head.... (read in full...)
I recently had unprotected sex, but took the morning after pill. When can I start taking the contraceptive pill?
Q. i recently had unprotected sex with this lad i have been seeing, it was the first time i had had unprotected sex and i am not on the pill i was waiting for my period to get back on it, i went and got the morning after pill and i am just wundering ...
A. 17 September 2007: Ask your doctor.... (read in full...)
How long does it take to move on from a relationship?
Q. How long does it usually take to move on from a relationship? A little background,was seeing a guy for 2 years,was very intense,everything was good,had sex 3 times a week.Then we ended on a weird note ,just things got hectic in life,he new job ...
A. 17 September 2007: No two brealups are the same. For most people it is like a death. The loss fades over time. Focusing your mind on different things can help. Ypou don't need to immmediately sleep with a new guy. Wait until you really want to.... (read in full...)
He's embarrased. so how do I break the ice and ask him to come to the club again?
Q. i met a boy at this club and he goes to my school. After we had been for about 4 weeks, it was the holidays. then the day that it started again, i was at school, and one of his friends came up to me and said, 'jake fancies you' i was quite glad ...
A. 17 September 2007: Talk to him or ask his friend to arrange a meet.... (read in full...)
I'm a bisexual girl and I like 3 females...which one do I choose?
Q. hi, im in a difficult situation. im a bisexual girl, mostly into girls at the minute. i like 3 girls, all 3 want to be with me also, but i dont know who or how to pick!! each of them are different and brilliant girls and i dont want to upset them. ...
A. 17 September 2007: Date all 3 casually until you get to know them and then pick the one you like best.... (read in full...)
We broke up and I still love her!! What can I do?
Q. my girlfriend just split up with me! but i still really luv her :( i dunno wat can i do to help?...
A. 17 September 2007: Ask her why she split up with you.... (read in full...)
My ex allowed his female cousin to pick a fight with me...now he wants back with me.
Q. I hav been having so much bad luck laterly ..:( my ex boyfriend's cousin wanted a fight so i gave her a fight but it was when i was goin out with my ex.And he dint stop it from happenin and he says hes wants to get back with me but i duno what sha...
A. 17 September 2007: Did you get beat up? If so, he should have come to your aid.... (read in full...)
He's older, messes around with me and looks out for me. Should I date him?
Q. Hi, i really need some advice. i really like this guy i work with. hes much older than me (15 years), and i need help finding out if he likes me too. he always messes around with me ang plays little games. He looks out for me too. what do you think?...
A. 17 September 2007: He may act like a father to you, which is fine. Wait and see if he asks you out on a date. Do you enjoy hanging out with him?... (read in full...)
Why do I flirt so bad with other guys when I'm with my bf?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend now for a year and a half and a couple of times when we go out we are drinking and i flirt with other guys i mingle and dingle and flirt and kinda forget about my bf then on we'll usually get into a fight and on the ...
A. 17 September 2007: You drink so much you lose your manners.... (read in full...)
I love her but she dates someone else. Is there anything I can do?
Q. i love this girl but she is with someone else.what should i do?...
A. 17 September 2007: Become her friend and learn how serious she is about her bf. If she loves him, back off and just stay a friend.... (read in full...)
He keeps saying he loves me but I can't get past the feeling, I like him just as a friend. Any advice?
Q. Hi Everyone. I'm in need of your help again. My partner and I split up in February this year after 4 years together. We didn't live together but I have a son from a previous marriage and he has 2 sons too. Mine is 12 and his are 14 and 17. ...
A. 17 September 2007: I've known many kids who did not work while going to school and many of them turn out to be very successful. Likewise, I also know many kids who worked while at school, myself included, and many of them turn out to be very successful. Sometimes I've ... (read in full...)
Does she really, really like me? What do you think?
Q. oh god! Someone help me. There's this girl in my college i really really, really like. Well i've spent half a year talkin to her bein her friend etc etc. Over time it worked because she talks to me nearly everyday at college. I call her most of time ...
A. 17 September 2007: Did you treat her as you would expect her to treat you? I think she may like you, but if you keep acting like a bad boy she may change her mind.... (read in full...)
She has this other guy hanging around and I need to know--how do I save my relationship with her?
Q. Here is my problem. I met my current girlfriend more than a year ago here in Los Angeles, CA. We were together since then. I've been in two relationships before, but I'm her first boyfriend. Four months ago, she had to move because her parents ...
A. 17 September 2007: Ever regaining your position as her bf is a long shot. I think as soon as you are out of sight she has a roving eye. That is not how a normal girl in love acts. If I were you I would waste no more energy on her. Find a new girl in LA.... (read in full...)
Sometimes during sex I stay quite dry. Advice?
Q. I'm in my 20's and am in a serious realationship. We have been together 2 years and I love him very much. My problem is sex. I do enjoy it but sometimes when we try to have sex I stay quite dry (therefore its not very easy to do anything) and ...
A. 17 September 2007: Use KY Jel.... (read in full...)
Is it illegal for a child to have child porn on their computer, if it is of their friends or partners in the same age group?
Q. I am aware that child porn is illegal, but I am currently in highschool, and many of my friends, all of which are under 18, exchange sexually explicit photos. None of these pictures are put on the web, or etc. But they exchange them to each other ...
A. 16 September 2007: I don't know the law in your locale. But, clerly they should not be doing this, it's a sign of immaturity. Also, a sign that they doen't respect themselves. It is also dangerous because it may attract perverts to them or show up later in their lives ... (read in full...)
He says he feels like I'm a step ahead of him on everything. Is it time to go?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and currently live together. He comes from a pretty messed up family and has therefore had a lot of difficulty in relationships. Our has been plagued with conflict..him being dishonest abou...
A. 16 September 2007: Sounds to me like you have a good thing going. Do you really want a guy to lead and take care of you? Would you be content to follow your man?... (read in full...)
Do I hold out for this bloke that could make me really happy if he eventually split up with his lass, or leave it now?
Q. Ive fancied someone from work since i started there 3 years ago, but i new he had a girlfriend, so stayed well clear. about 2 yrs ago he came onto me at an xmas party but i thought he was just drunk and laughed it off, and weve just been our no...
A. 16 September 2007: Knowing how he is, are you sure he's the guy you want, or was he just a challenge? From my view you need to drink less and find a more stable boyfriend.... (read in full...)
I don't know if me cheating means he isn't the one, or it was just a manifestation of my committment fears mixed with alcohol?
Q. I am 22 and have been in a relationship for the past 4 years with John. he is my first and only boyfriend. we've started talking about marriage and kids. sometimes i get freaked out about being so young, not having 'played the field' and not being ...
A. 16 September 2007: You need to decide if you really feel sorry about what you've done and whether you want to "play the field." Most people lead happy lives without first playing the field. For most people playing the field is only a fantascy.... (read in full...)
He says he cares about me, then says he doesn't, it's a repeated and confusing situation.
Q. my name is jen i am 16 years old me and this boy(the love of my life) started goin out april 2006 he broke up with me a couple weeks ago we went out a year and a half... he told me he just wants to be friends he never wants to be with me agai...
A. 16 September 2007: This guy will continue to be a hearache for you unless you break away completely. The wait awhile before you look for a new boyfriend.... (read in full...)
I am almost certain no drugs are involved, I just think he will always be flighty and I want the "normal life..." What to do?
Q. I have been with my b/f for nearly 5 years. We broke up in April after I learnt some devasting news about his life, he has started to take drugs. I threw him out of our home and bought him out. I kept in contact with him to support him to s...
A. 16 September 2007: Eaiser said than done, but you must give him up. Be more careful in selecting your next boyfriend. People tend to repeat their mistakes in picking mates.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a pornography addict!
Q. Hi, Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months now. 5 months ago, he told me that he had an addiction to pornography. I was really upset at first, but then decided to stay beside him, be a prayer support, and try to get him through it. Thin...
A. 16 September 2007: You need to help him find more things to occupy his time.... (read in full...)
We seem to have a thing going, but I'm nervous after bad experiences in the past. Can you help?
Q. I text and talk to a friend at school alot and when i was absent she texted me after school and said she wondered where i was and said she missed me i said i did too. we are in the same grade but no classes we meet at the cafe in the morning until ...
A. 16 September 2007: The more chances you have to meet her the better able you will be to understand her. I say go for it.... (read in full...)
Will he tell his wife about the affair???
Q. Hi, I became very good friends with my neighbour who was (is) in a very unhappy marriage. He did not even need to tell myself, my husband of 9 years (at the time)or our tennant. She mistreats and isolates him as badly as my ex mistreated and i...
A. 16 September 2007: I think the odds are good she has the pictures. Try to cut a deal with her. Clue the bf in on what is going on.... (read in full...)
She works hard during the week and doesn't go out or want to meet, maybe I should walk away, is she interested?
Q. Is she interested? I have been seeing this girl for about a month, once or twice a week. She has spent the last couple of weekends with her family. The last time we met she asked me out, then no contact for 4 days until I sent her a txt message. M...
A. 16 September 2007: Obviously she is no old fashioned girl. If you really want a modern independant woman as a girlfriend I say stick with it.... (read in full...)
I've been hit with a really depressive mood, that I now assosiate with my girlfriend. How can I get rid of this??
Q. I've been in a bit of a depressive mood this week and for the past year ish I have suffered with mild bouts of deppressive moods, nothing that has been serious. Since leaving school I have done a lot like get a job, start college meet my girlfriend, ...
A. 16 September 2007: I suggest you consult a psychiatrist. Sometimes bouts of depression are caused by brain chemical imbalances. Many times a short period of tratment will cure the problem. The sooner you act the better.... (read in full...)
How can you help out a boyfriend you have just ditched?
Q. hi this question is for all the guys !! iv just split up with my boyfriend today and just woundering can you help me out my boyfriend was on his own for 5 years now im here with 3 grown kids and i love him very much i never wanted this realationship ...
A. 16 September 2007: Agree to stay just friends. I bet he will get up the courage to change his mind.... (read in full...)
I'm pretty sure he likes me, but he's still giving me mixed signals...
Q. Hi..I'd just like some other people's perspectives on this. I've recently just transferred to another college to continue in my second year of A-levels,,about a week ago,, and basically I didn't know anyone. I was alone in a class on like the 2nd ...
A. 16 September 2007: Accepting a first date is always a risk. Ask the friend of his you previouly dated about him.... (read in full...)
I've developed feelings for a man I think lives too far away from me for things to work!
Q. I have been e-mailing a guy in the forces,who is serving abroad, for a while now. It started out as cheering someone up in a horrible place, but soon turned to flirting!We talk almost every night, and seem to have alot in common.He now wants to meet ...
A. 16 September 2007: Check out the information that he has given you. If he checks out OK verifable meet him in a safe place.... (read in full...)
I'm a complete wreck here and don't know what to do for the best.
Q. Hello again Dear Cupid and all of the Agony Aunts (and uncles I guess) =D I'm sure that the last relationship problem I had was the last time I was on here. We broke up because I walked in on my own home and found her in bed with another 1 year a...
A. 16 September 2007: You spend too much time dwelling. I think you need to make a point of occupying your mind with different thoughts. I find reading and watching comidies works for me.... (read in full...)
Long distance and no affection for me, what should I do?
Q. I feel that my boyfriend is not affectionate enough. We are in a long distance relationship, and as much as I try to be sweet and nice with him; he does not seem to show the same affection towards me. I feel like he just talk to me 'cause he have ...
A. 15 September 2007: Don't build love affairs in your head. Talk to him and see what he says.... (read in full...)
In love with my best mate, how should I approach this?
Q. hello. i need some advice. im in love with my best m8 but dont know how or if to tell him. we get on great always laughin even have conversations that we both admit we wouldnt have with anyone else. im sure he must know i atleast fancy him. the ...
A. 15 September 2007: Talk to him about his views on gays.... (read in full...)
He's in the army and only gets weekends off.. and then he spends them with his friends, not me!
Q. my boyfriend is in the army and we only see each other on the weekends when he do get into town he goes straight to his friends and always want to hang out with them what to do ...
A. 15 September 2007: How much time does he have and how much does he spend on you. Make hi sit sown and negotiate a certain amount of time.... (read in full...)
We love each other but we have conflicts everyday. He mistakes the disagreements with fights.
Q. I've in been a relationship for about 6 months, and we both feel we have something real special and we love eachother so much, 2 months ago we decided to leave this town, for the summer we went to alabama and new orleans, now we're back home and ...
A. 15 September 2007: Why would you want to stay hooked up with a guy with whom you constantly fight? Delay the wedding and try to get to the bottom of the problem.... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and I think he cheated on me! There's so much evidence! What do you think??
Q. hello IM GETTING MARRIED IN NOV. im so excited butt heres the problem i fear that my love for my fiance is not letting me see whats really going on i maybe wrong but you tell me what it sounds like my fiance works with a girl that he told me...
A. 15 September 2007: He's not totally devoted to you. Better to break up now than after the wedding.... (read in full...)
She is worried about all family and friend's expectations for her present relationship.
Q. Hello, just wonder what your views are on this. In love with my affair. She's in love too but still aint ditched her fella. Just carry on hoping she will one day start shutting him out cos it's getting stronger between me and her or ultimatum? What ...
A. 15 September 2007: Don't play in the game.... (read in full...)
I suffer with irritable bowel syndrome and the last couple days I have had really bad back and neck ache, I was just wondering is this something to do with my IBS?
Q. Hi, I suffer with irritable bowel syndrome and the last couple days I have had really bad back and neck ache, I was just wondering is this something to do with my IBS?...
A. 15 September 2007: Try taking a couple of Tylenols. A vibrator on the sore spots might help.... (read in full...)
I don't trust my long distance lover. Why hasn't he contacted me today, he usually does?
Q. My bf and I are in a long distance relationships, so we talk on the phone a lot, he calls me on the mornings, noon , and at night...However, today, I spent the whole morning, noon and night calling him and text messaging him. He did not answer nor ...
A. 15 September 2007: Don't be so paranoid. He may have had good reasns which he will explain later.... (read in full...)
I'm worried I wont be big enough to satisfy my girl!
Q. HI IM 15 AND IM ABOUT TO HAVE SEX WITH MY GF MY PENIS 5'5 INCHES LNG IM SORTA CONSCIOUS ABOUT THIS COZ I HEAR HER GOING ON ABOUT BIG PENISES SHE IS A VIRGIN IM SKILLED IN BED AND I KNOW MANY WAYS TO PLEASE A GIRL BUT I DONT KNOW IF ILL BE ABLE TO ...
A. 15 September 2007: You must try. I think she will have no problems with your size. Which by the way is about average,... (read in full...)
Should I wait for him to make his mind up that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me OR should I just forget about him and try to RE-do my life.
Q. I am 29 yo and I feel like my life is not complete or that it has no meaning. I am not happy most of the time. My relationship with my b/f is not stable and we are also separated by hundrends of miles. I am not happy with my career, don't like ...
A. 15 September 2007: Make a realist list of your goals. Have him do the same. See if you can make the work. If not you must change or move on.... (read in full...)
Was I just mistaking friendliness with romance?
Q. Okay I've never had this problem because I've never had a guy make me as nervous as this one. He works in the same building as I, I started to notice him because he's always around to open the door, help, or just say hi but I dont even know his name ...
A. 15 September 2007: He may like but doesn't was to put his job at risk. Tell him the name of a bar you will be at after work. See if he shows up.... (read in full...)
Do you think my teacher might have the hots for me?
Q. I'm not really sure if my teacher is interested in me and I really need to find out. I'm going to say right now that I do NOT have a crush on him, i'm just wondering if I need to back away or not. For staters, he talks to me for as long as he can. ...
A. 15 September 2007: He seems to have a weak pesonality. His duty is to resist temptation of schoolgirls like you. You are leading him into a situation that may destoy his life.... (read in full...)
I'm a complete wreck here and don't know what to do for the best.
Q. Hello again Dear Cupid and all of the Agony Aunts (and uncles I guess) =D I'm sure that the last relationship problem I had was the last time I was on here. We broke up because I walked in on my own home and found her in bed with another 1 year a...
A. 14 September 2007: I think the both of you are in termoil. You should stop making long term plans in your head until 6 months following her divorce becoming final.... (read in full...)
We seem to have a thing going, but I'm nervous after bad experiences in the past. Can you help?
Q. I text and talk to a friend at school alot and when i was absent she texted me after school and said she wondered where i was and said she missed me i said i did too. we are in the same grade but no classes we meet at the cafe in the morning until ...
A. 13 September 2007: It's normal to be nervous. She is probably nervous too. Invite her to do something with you. Like playing a game of scrabble, watching a video, studying in the library, etc.... (read in full...)
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