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*hynelly
writes:Okay I've never had this problem because I've never had a guy make me as nervous as this one. He works in the same building as I, I started to notice him because he's always around to open the door, help, or just say hi but I dont even know his name because everytime he's around I cant even think straight! So I decided to fix the problem by dropping hints to my friend to drop hints to his friend (the security guard) that I'm interested. End of story nothing has come of it. Was I just mistaking friendliness with romance? Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 Well, at least you know what to do now, and you're making the right, informed decision. Good for you.
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reader, shynelly +, writes (28 September 2007):
shynelly is verified as being by the original poster of the question I caught him running away from me yesterday so I had my friend go up to him and ask him wat the real deal was he says hes married if its true or not Im not into him anymore. Thanx everyone for your responses too bad this didnt have a happy ending ...:( sigh...
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reader, Anonymous21  +, writes (17 September 2007):
I have exactly the same problem n i dont know what to do at all. well not exactly the same cos i know his name n ive hung out with him at a works party too bt its still driving me mad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007): Yeah he might like you. Maybe he never got the message. Or maybe he is shy too. But do not let this discourage you. Cause you really did nothing wrong. I thought it was very subtle. Nothing bad at all. (If you were being pushy, acting like a fool, and not taking hints, then I would be embarrassed). But you did no such thing.
The one thing I will say is that when guys are not receptive (I mean clearly you are a pretty and cool girl) it usually means that they are already involved. So you could take that as a possibility and ask your friend, instead, to ask his friend if he has a girlfriend.
And as long as you are not pushy and you keep things very subtle and know how to take hints and let go, then I don't see anything wrong with showing a little interest here and there. It's kind of cute that your friend dropped a hint to his friend. You are not taking it any further. And you are not insistent about it. That is quite ok. So don't be embarrassed that you tried because you were a total lady about it.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (15 September 2007):
He may like but doesn't was to put his job at risk. Tell him the name of a bar you will be at after work. See if he shows up.
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reader, shynelly +, writes (15 September 2007):
shynelly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell its more culturally correct for the man to make the move not the woman so I'm kinda embarrassed that I made a pass and didnt result as I anticipated. Plus I envolved others which will most likely start the rumor mill going...Well he's still nice and curtious but no out of the ordinary "heres my number...or my name is..." I guess im just getting a little paranoid b/c im used to getting results and immediately. Next time I see him I'll try to start up a conversation if I can get my lungs to work correctly...
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (15 September 2007):
Maybe. See if there are any changes in his behavior. If he shows interest, you were not mistaken; if he can't treat you the way he used to, then you were.However, I would like you to think a bit about the reason of your question. You wonder whether you mistook friendship for romance. Suppose there was no friendship, just politeness, and no romance, either; why would it be wrong to drop this man the hint that you're interested? Perhaps your showing your interest would be the spark that would light the fire? If we take as correct the assumption that you can't show interest in him unless he shows interest in you, how could we accept HIS showing interest in you before you showed any interest?What do you think?
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