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I'm worried I wont be big enough to satisfy my girl!

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Question - (15 September 2007) 11 Answers - (Newest, 7 May 2008)
A male New Zealand age 30-35, *5 YR OLD GUY writes:

HI IM 15 AND IM ABOUT TO HAVE SEX WITH MY GF MY PENIS 5'5 INCHES LNG IM SORTA CONSCIOUS ABOUT THIS COZ I HEAR HER GOING ON ABOUT BIG PENISES SHE IS A VIRGIN IM SKILLED IN BED AND I KNOW MANY WAYS TO PLEASE A GIRL BUT I DONT KNOW IF ILL BE ABLE TO MEET HER STANDARDS PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2008):

dont worry about anything like that!

because if shes a vergin its definitely going to hurt!

and the only reason that she would be talking about a big dick

means that shes just bragging and

half the time being a vergin you definitely dont know what to excpect!

so dont worry everything will be just fine and be gental

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A male reader, lboy United Kingdom +, writes (22 September 2007):

lboy agony auntdear cupid,

oh hunni, first if this girl a virgin then u have no standards of hers to live up to so dont worry and just remember its not the size its how u use it if u can still make her orgasm it dont matter she'll love it and also the best part is u have sell chance of hurtin her so just be kewl and get on with it .

p.s all girls say they want a big cock but most girl dont really care.

good luck

lboy

xxx

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A female reader, Annonymous247 United Kingdom +, writes (19 September 2007):

Hey honey! listen all girls say things about big penis's just to make them sound big them selves, when it comes down to it (sex) she will be glad its not massive because it wont hurt as much. if shes not happy with it then its u to her to tell u but im sure things will be fine...my bf's penis is only about 6 inches and the first time we had it was great and penis first time girls will enjoy aslong as u take ur time and enjoy it too! DONT RUSH!!

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A female reader, little miss helpful United Kingdom +, writes (19 September 2007):

little miss helpful agony aunthey i have private emailed you with your answer from you last question.

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A female reader, little miss helpful United Kingdom +, writes (19 September 2007):

little miss helpful agony auntcan i just tel you one secret: most girls go on about large penises but most of us dont want them as we are scared it will hurt (especially our first time).

because your her first she will think your great anyway all girls do its something they remember and because they havent experienced it before we all think our first time is the best. (after getting over the pain of course)

dont worry about it just do your thing and relax.

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A male reader, 15 YR OLD GUY New Zealand +, writes (16 September 2007):

15 YR OLD GUY is verified as being by the original poster of the question

o thx for the help the thing is tht when im with her she goes on about me having big hands and big feet and tht i must be (Hung) o by the way im 6inch circumference and this is the thing tht sorta drops my confidence but the other nite she txts me saying tht its a bit weird tht i know so mutch about sexual stuff coz she asked me bout tips on masturbating i gave her 2 ideas not to many but she didnt know ov them so she starting asking me how i knew this nd i said a few former gf did the same thing and it pleasured them and then she replied with im a little paranoid tht if we have sex i wont know mutch about sex i replied dont worry my experience will better help you then it will me im sorta confused HELP?????

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A male reader, daglish Uganda +, writes (16 September 2007):

daglish agony auntWatch those capital letters coz its kind a like rude. First u are kind of like torn btn having sex and pleasing a girl. I aint sure whether u are just curious or really are ready to shag your honey. Let me hope the latter is true. No need to panic abt sex, when u get excited, the penis will automatically size up and it will needle its way thru her vagina as long as you take the effort to push it in and out. And then the size of the penis keeps increasing with age. You still have ten good years of development.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007):

I think she's worried about having sex and trying to appear cooler than she is! Just speak to her calmly and tell her how you feels, ask her if she's scared about having sex. I wouldn't worry about it, she just sounds scared and this is her defence kicking out!

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A male reader, Tommy7 United States +, writes (15 September 2007):

You must try. I think she will have no problems with your size. Which by the way is about average,

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A reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2007):

dont panic your normal, please dont write in capitals

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A reader, schlottjl United States +, writes (15 September 2007):

schlottjl agony auntYou are normal and normal is very good. She is a virgin so she has no idea what to expect. Even if she has seen pictures or movies, real life has a blessed way of seeming larger than film. But the important thing is that if she would have the gall to make you feel in adequate when push came to shove . . . so to speak, do you think that she is worth your self esteem? Only you know her. But if there is even a chance of her putting you down, I would wait.

She may not be ready for sex yet even though she acts as if she is. Sometimes people joke and talk lightly about things they are worried about. She might want to be seen as a sexy, flirtatious person who isn't a cold fish. She might not realize that she is hurting most of the guys that are within ear shot when she talks this way. We all are worried that we are perfect or physically good enough.

You should talk to her about this. Ask her if she had thought about it from the point of view of guys. She is setting the stage for 90% of the guys out there to not want to reveal the real deal to her. What if you were constantly talking of perfect skin, no hair perfect curves, smelling like a flower, perfect labia, perfect skin shading, perfect nipple or breast size etc. These are all unimportant things (save distinct bacterial smell...) that are subjective and ridiculous. But if a guy were to over talk these minor points any girl would worry too.

Which leads me to my conclusion. If I were not ready for sex I might subconsciously be directing conversations so that people kept their pants on. Sex for girls is an extremely bonding act than can profoundly affect a girl- even for life. You really need to be able to talk to her seriously about your concerns before considering her worthy of the most intimate you.

Good luck to you!

(For fun ask her to give you actual numbers for circumference and length. It could be funny. I have heard women say they love huge a penis- and they say huge is 2" in circumference and 6" long. Get a cloth tape measure and see just how weird that would be!)

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