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Do I wait for her to find herself?
Q. I spilt with my gf of 5 years about 5 weeks ago. We split because she started saying that she felt that she needed to go travelling on her own and find her self as it were. I then said fine and broke up with her. I love her still and miss her ...
A. 1 October 2007: You should be looking for a new girlfriend and maybe you will find yourself.... (read in full...)
What is "masterbating"?
Q. im 14, i feel really stupid sayin this as like everyone knows what it is and has probably experienced it.... but what is masterbating...?...
A. 1 October 2007: Masterbating is manually sexually stimulating yourself.... (read in full...)
My room mate tries to steal attention from guys that are talking to me. How can I deal with it?
Q. I'm currently in uni, living with three room-mates (all girls), who I have been friends with since high school. Because we all live in the same all-girls residence, we often do things together- especially residence parties. Recently, my one roommate ...
A. 1 October 2007: When she disses you in front of others you should hurl one right back at her. A taste of her own medicine may slow her down. She sounds very insecure. In private keep politely reminding her not to diss you in front of others.... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if my long distance lover is cheating on me!
Q. hi im 21 and i have a imp qestiion!! i have a long distance relationship (2 diff countires) and i just want to know if my girfriend is cheating on me? or if there are some signs she is. i mean she really hasnt giveing me solid reasons but there is ...
A. 1 October 2007: You need to trust her unless her attitude towards you changes.... (read in full...)
How am I going to deal with a long distance relationship when she has to go out of town?
Q. I have a girl I have been dating but I feel that its time we need to get married. She is beautiful and very nice to be with. One thing that has come up is that she is going out of town for an 18 week training and will be away till then. It means ...
A. 1 October 2007: Is she in the military? If so, you and her need to decide if you want to be married under those conditions.... (read in full...)
Opinions on my situation where my partner cheated on me
Q. i've posted in the cheating forum a lot but i feel this doesn't fulfill the requirements anymore. so here goes. i've gotten over the situation, but in brief, my boyfriend and i had been dating 8 months long distance (i was at school). talked ...
A. 1 October 2007: You are the problem. You'll never trust him, so I reccommend that you give up on him. Otherwise, both of you will continue to hurt each other.... (read in full...)
I trust noone. I want her back!
Q. i am sixteen.my girlfriend left me she said she loves me but there are other reasons we should be apart...i trust noone and i find all the friends boring i really want her back but whatever i do something always go wrong..when she told me to end the ...
A. 1 October 2007: Only she has the information you seek.... (read in full...)
I got called and Elephant and took it to heart. What is the average weight for a 5'3 girl anyway?
Q. Hi! I have had this problem for 3 weeks now and it's making me feel so down, drained, and depressed! To put it in a short version....well....I got called fat (an elephant) and I took it to heart and I starved myself for about 3-4 days....but...
A. 1 October 2007: 123 Pounds = 8.785714285714286 Stones... (read in full...)
I'm disappointed she hasn't contacted me.
Q. I met someone from the internet y'day afternoon, following a brief email exchange which she instigated and we seemed to get on well, after a couple of hours chatting she invited me to meet one of her friends which I did and when we parted she ...
A. 1 October 2007: Don't be so eager. You are expecting too much too soon.... (read in full...)
How can you find out what your partner really thinks about you WITHOUT asking?
Q. how do you Know what your partner really thinks about you,without asking them. how do you know if he thinks your to clingy, to full etc ? plz reply?...
A. 1 October 2007: And why would you want to know without asking? Are you trying to become a physic?... (read in full...)
He's moved on and now I can't get over him! Help!
Q. i honestly dont know how to get over him. Hello everyone! i have a big problem, i went out with this boy bla bla bla and he told me hed never hurt me ans this other shit. Like a fool i believed him, well he found someone else just after being broken ...
A. 1 October 2007: You are getting way too intimate with a guy before you really get to know him. Slow down your charms girl.... (read in full...)
I've had my heartbroken and have decided not to fall in love for a while. How do I avoid falling in love?
Q. okay?? i juss had my heart broken..and im going to tell you that i do not want to fall in love agian for a while! until im older..my ex still talks to me, nd i start to like him..then this other guy is talking to me..and i forget about my ex,and ...
A. 1 October 2007: There is no immunity against falling in love. But, self control can stop it from getting too far. Don't do any touching in an intimate manner.... (read in full...)
He says he has 0 interest in her but I am worried she is out to get him!!!
Q. My man friend and i have been dating about 2years and 9 months minus 2 months when we were broken up. We are now back together even though his family does not know it. The problem i have now is the following: he had a brother that was married....
A. 1 October 2007: I think you boyfriend has more interest in her than you are saying.... (read in full...)
My friend, who was once anorexic, is planning on taking tablets to help her lose weight. What should I do?
Q. Hi there, My friend (though not a very close friend) has recently been tempted into using amphetamines or "speed" tablets to help her lose weight. She used to be anorexic and is set on doing this despite me strongly adivising her not to. She w...
A. 1 October 2007: Tell this story to her teachers and family. Be anonymous by letter if you must. By telling you she is yelling for help. Be a tough love friend.... (read in full...)
We're back together, but my feelings haven't returned after our split! What can I do?
Q. Help! My partner and I got back together a couple of months ago after splitting up in February but whilst we were apart I lost all the feelings and love that I once had for him and I know now that I can't get these feelings back enough to make the ...
A. 1 October 2007: The sooner you act the better off you both will be. You only have one life to live.... (read in full...)
How can I stop throwing myself at boys??
Q. I know all you readers are just going to think im a total slut and a whore and everything else you can think of but i dont know what to do about the situation im in. My parents both died in a car accident just 12 months ago and i have been living h...
A. 1 October 2007: Your first priority ought to be your unborn child. Get to an outreach group that will help you birth a healthy child and adopt it to a loving family. Next, get yourself an education that will lead you to good employment. If you continue to act like ... (read in full...)
My brother's down coz the girl he likes is going out with his mate! Any advice?
Q. My life is fine but my little bro is 14 and his best mate is going out with the girl he fancies. He is really down and i hate to see the little guy sad. Please help him!...
A. 1 October 2007: Tell him we don't always get what we want. Tell him to find a different girl. We often find something different is much better than what we thought we wanted. He is just immature.... (read in full...)
Do I hold out for this bloke that could make me really happy if he eventually split up with his lass, or leave it now?
Q. Ive fancied someone from work since i started there 3 years ago, but i new he had a girlfriend, so stayed well clear. about 2 yrs ago he came onto me at an xmas party but i thought he was just drunk and laughed it off, and weve just been our no...
A. 1 October 2007: You deserve better. Respect yourself and find a better boyfriend.... (read in full...)
I am 14 and I need to know...what is 'fingering'?
Q. im 14... my boyfriend wants to finger me.. im not exactly sure what it means can youu please help mee....? x x ...
A. 1 October 2007: He wants to put his finger in your vagina.... (read in full...)
He's been giving out his number to others! What should I make of this?
Q. Well I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months. Just spent the last month working out boundaries, like do we want open/closed relationship, etc. About 2 weeks ago we decided together that we would be able to have fun with others in clubs ...
A. 1 October 2007: He's not as faithful as you'd like.... (read in full...)
How can I tell if a guy likes me or not?
Q. How can I tell if a guy likes me or not? I think one of my friends, J, likes me. One day he told my friend we were going out. Today, he dropped his pen underneath my chair twice and asked me to get it. Also, he asks me, and only me, about homework. ...
A. 1 October 2007: He is trying to get close to you. Tell him you want to be his friend but not his girlfriend.... (read in full...)
His ex is putting him in debt and I don't like that. Should I stick this out?
Q. Me (in my thirties) and my boyfriend (in his forties) entered into our relationship over three years ago, though we were friends for a few years previous. Before we were together, we were both involved in relationships where we financially supported ...
A. 1 October 2007: He is a fool. Tell him to get a lawyer/financial adviser and get his affairs in order.... (read in full...)
Will his girlfriends think I'm immature?
Q. Hi everyone, I'm in an age gap relationship. I am 18, and my boyfriend is in his 20s. Everything is wonderful so far, we've been dating for about 7 months. I've met his family, he's met mine, he's met my friends, everyone gets along, wo...
A. 1 October 2007: The age difference is not significant. Don't worry about it.... (read in full...)
What does a barrister do?
Q. hi there, i`m about to leave school this year and i am in the "top 10" of year 11's comming out with the most g.c.s.e's and i want to become a barrister i realized this when a teacher mentioned it to me can u tell me plz what a barriester actually ...
A. 1 October 2007: A Barrister represents clients before courts and tribunals.... (read in full...)
It kills me that I might lose her to another guy..how do I cope?
Q. Hi, I was dating a girl for 3 years, from my sophomore to senior year in highschool. She was my first "real" girlfriend, and i was her frist everything pretty much. There were a lot of times through our relationship that I didn't feel like it was ...
A. 1 October 2007: Let her go. Sooner or later she will find a dependable lover.... (read in full...)
We've been going out for 3 years and just moved in together - and he never wants to have sex. What should I do?
Q. me and my b/f have been going out for 3 yrs just moved in together but he never wants to have sex i'm 21 and hes 35 what should i do...
A. 1 October 2007: He may have a low sex drive or ED. Ask him to see a doctor. If he refuses dump him and find a new guy with a better sex drive.... (read in full...)
He keeps asking about threesomes. I've had them and they're not a good idea at all! Should I be worried?
Q. Okay i have been with my boyfriend for four years. And yes our relationship is somewhat good. But a few days ago all my bf did was ask about a threesome. I have had them in the past and they are not the greatest idea at all. he kept on begging me ...
A. 1 October 2007: Since you did it before, why not do it for him. Once may be enough.... (read in full...)
My gf said her boss would ride her to the airport for a business trip, before leaving she said she'd quit her job because I seemed...jealous. I was not, although having discovered flirtacious texts from him. What do you think?
Q. I need some advice about my girlfriend. Recently it's come to my attention that her new boss has been texting my lady late at night. She dosen't know I've seen them and as soon as she reads them she deletes them. For the most part the texts I've ...
A. 1 October 2007: I think her boss is making a play for her and she is being torn up by it. She may have to quit to get the boss off her back. Sad.... (read in full...)
In my relationship, I miss my family and friends who live a long way away. It's affecting our relationship.
Q. HI I have a wierd guestion ... Don't know where to start. Me and my BF have a great relationship .. I know that he loves me and I love him. He is year younger ... has his whole family here in NY, his friends, job .. his whole entire life ......
A. 1 October 2007: You need a boyfriend that you love to the point that you don't need to go and see your family so often. Your whole heard is not into this guy. Move home and find a nice local lad.... (read in full...)
I don't want to see moverly keen with my new interest. Any advice?
Q. Hi I recently met a guy who is 27. I am 19. He asked for my number. However, his first texts were him being angry because I had gone off with his mate that night and he was telling me how I should have been more respectful towards him because his ...
A. 1 October 2007: There is a high risk that this guy just wants to add you to his buddies list.... (read in full...)
How can I spice up our sex life?
Q. i would really like to spice up my sex life with my boyfriend, we have tried different positions but it always reverts back to the missionary position ( he seems to like being in control) whilst the sex is amazing, i would like it to be better for ...
A. 1 October 2007: Stop having sex until you reach legal age if you love him.... (read in full...)
I regret splitting with him. He isn't into me anymore. What can I do?
Q. Hi, I split up with my boyfriend about 4 months ago; and at the time i was fine and really was glad to be out of the relationship. I was being bullied at school at the time and was in the middle of my exams - 'we're both 17'. he was mean to me a...
A. 1 October 2007: Forget him and move on to a nicer guy.... (read in full...)
Has anyone had a rebound, realized their ex was who they want, and got back with them and it work?
Q. Anybody went into a rebound relationship and realized their ex was who they really wanted and gone back to them and had it work??...
A. 1 October 2007: Yes I've done this several time. It never seems to stick permanently.... (read in full...)
She is not over her ex yet, and is uncertain of starting a new relation but she flirts with me. What should I do?
Q. hey all... bit of a dilemma lol.. i am gay and i recently met a girl who is also gay. im 18 and she is 23, we got on really wel.. and i started to fall for her. One night i was out with friends and her friends and i told her best mate i liked thi...
A. 1 October 2007: Try to win her just for a temporary fling. Don't expect much and you won't be dissappointed.... (read in full...)
Flirtatiousness exhibited by a girl who is interested, as opposed to just being overly friendly? How can you tell?
Q. hi, i was wondering... how can one distinguish between flirtatiousness exhibited by a girl who is interested, as opposed to just being overly friendly, as i have a female friend (i am female too) who is very touchy and such. But i cannot tell if i...
A. 1 October 2007: When you get closer to a tease, she will back off.... (read in full...)
Is it fair that he will be leaving me on my own for a month every year?
Q. I moved out to new york to live in new york where he is from and where his business is out of. But now he is going back to colorado every january for a month to rent his houses (his other business). Im basically out of luck because i don't have my ...
A. 29 September 2007: If what's happening is making you unhappy stop doing it. Go home and start you career near your family. Find a local guy for your mate. Otherwise, you'll just grow more resentful and waste your time.... (read in full...)
I can talk with any guy, unless he is my crush; then I become shy. Advice, anyone?
Q. I like this guy... but.. I barely talk to him. I feel sooo shy when I am in his presence. I'm like, "WTF is wrong with me?" I basically can talk to any guy, unless he is my crush. I think he likes me back, because he is also shy around me. Once...
A. 29 September 2007: When he hugs you or does something you like tell him so.... (read in full...)
23 years age gap. I don't care about me, but of my boyfriend's reputation. Please advise.
Q. I'm having a relationship with an older man, there is a 23 year age gap but we are both very comfortable with each other and we're very happy together. My problem is that im worried that people may think bad of us, not many people know of our rela...
A. 29 September 2007: Let your bf worry about his reputation. He's in this too, and should understand the attitude of busy bodies. I find it is not useful to tell anyone who doesn't need to know.... (read in full...)
How can I get over this obsession about my famous hero?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a student who is currently studying hard and I cannot help but feel deeply upset beacuse, I love Martial arts and I am a fan of a hero who is my role model in the arts, I started out to admire him but then my admiration turne...
A. 29 September 2007: A good fantascy is OK, so long as you don't try to act on it. Take a martial arts class and find a guy with the same interests.... (read in full...)
Does he like me and how do I let him know I like him?
Q. hey im not great at talking to guys. and completly horrendes in relationships - too inexperienced and nervous. but i recently started at a new 6 form college - its great! and there's this guy i have my eye on. he's really cute! he's fairly quiet too ...
A. 29 September 2007: Ask him some questions.... (read in full...)
I've liked this guy for 6 years. What do you do when you find out you like a guy?
Q. Hi, this is a really stupid time to ask this and am stupid for not asking earlier. But hey am still going to ask I've liked a guy for 6years and still think about and might still have some feelings for him, am 14 he's 14 anyways i haven't told him ...
A. 29 September 2007: From time to time mention the things you like about him.... (read in full...)
Do I hold out for this bloke that could make me really happy if he eventually split up with his lass, or leave it now?
Q. Ive fancied someone from work since i started there 3 years ago, but i new he had a girlfriend, so stayed well clear. about 2 yrs ago he came onto me at an xmas party but i thought he was just drunk and laughed it off, and weve just been our no...
A. 28 September 2007: Are you sure he really has a gf? Maybe he has broken up with her? Check this out before you decide what to do.
Tell him he needs to make up his mind because you will no longer be a side dish.... (read in full...)
Do I hold out for this bloke that could make me really happy if he eventually split up with his lass, or leave it now?
Q. Ive fancied someone from work since i started there 3 years ago, but i new he had a girlfriend, so stayed well clear. about 2 yrs ago he came onto me at an xmas party but i thought he was just drunk and laughed it off, and weve just been our no...
A. 16 September 2007: Knowing how he is, are you sure he's the guy you want, or was he just a challenge? From my view you need to drink less and find a more stable boyfriend.... (read in full...)
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