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I'm dating a married man who cheated on me! His wife refuses to divorce him and I don't know what to do.
Q. What can i do now? I am a 26 year old girl, pretty and independent. My college boyfriend left me when I went abroad for my further degree. I had another boyfriend two years after I came back to the country, but i found he married, he cheated on m...
A. 21 September 2007: I can't beieve you blaming much of the problems on yourself. Those arguments are flawed. They are only excuses to continue your heartbreak.... (read in full...)
I really like a guy but I think maybe my friend likes him too. What should I do?
Q. hi, i really like this guy and we have a good time together, but im afraid incase he doesn't fancy me. I think we flirt but maybe thats how he is. Im also afraid that my friend lkes him. What should i do i really like him??...
A. 19 September 2007: Talk to your friend and decide who'll make the first play for him.... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend, but I have feelings for someone I consider my soulmate, too!
Q. I have been in a relationship for a year now and I love my girlfriend to death. The only thing thats bothering me is I have began to have feelings for another girl. I feel like she is my true soulmate but I know that I can never have her. As long as ...
A. 19 September 2007: Since most girls don't want a threesome you should make a firm choice and man up and stick to it.... (read in full...)
How can you turn a friendship into a romantic relationship?
Q. Hello, I just wanna say summat small. I know an amazing girl and I love her. She would feel the same I guess, but she just doesn't. She thinks I'm good looking, but she's not attracted to me, she doesn't really feel that way about anyone... and ...
A. 19 September 2007: Usually in this situation you can't get the girl to change her way of thinking. If you must try, go slowly and try to grow into her heart. Take her places, have fun with her and give her little presents. If she tells you to back off, do so and ... (read in full...)
I'm 18 and in college now - should I tell my 10th grade teacher who is in a relationship my feelings for him?
Q. Ok. I'm in love with my teacher. Well ex-teacher. He was my sophmore history teacher. Now im a freshman in college. Well i always had a thing for him. Well at the end of that year, we exchanged e-mails. We sthll write each other every once and ...
A. 19 September 2007: You need to move out of your fantasy and into the real world. It is obvious he is moving on with his life. You should savor your feelings but to think a word from you and he will come running is probably foolish. What memory of you do you want to ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a married man who cheated on me! His wife refuses to divorce him and I don't know what to do.
Q. What can i do now? I am a 26 year old girl, pretty and independent. My college boyfriend left me when I went abroad for my further degree. I had another boyfriend two years after I came back to the country, but i found he married, he cheated on m...
A. 19 September 2007: You need to start looking for a better (unmarried) boyfriend.... (read in full...)
I used various type of birth control, but I think I might be pregnant!
Q. Hey. I'm 16 years of age. I was on microgynon then i came off it. I had my period on the 29th of July and then after that I had sex without the pill. Then I had my period again, but only for 2 days. Then I had sex again and now my period hasn't come ...
A. 19 September 2007: Get a pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too busy to see me or call - He says he is not the phone type of guy!
Q. my boyfriend is too busy to see me or call. He goes for a week without calling if l dont call him he doesnt call and when l call he says l tried your number and l failed to get through. He also says he is not the phone type of guy. Tell me if he ...
A. 19 September 2007: Even if he loves you in his way, is he the right guy for you? Maybe you need a more touchy feely kind of guy.... (read in full...)
My husband and I are too shy to kiss each other! This shouldn't be an issue - we're married!!
Q. This is kind of embarassing to ask. My husband and I (married last weekend) are too shy to kiss! We kissed when the minister said kiss the bride, but before then it had been like a year since we kissed last..He is not the initiating type at all, and ...
A. 19 September 2007: Make a deal that you two will kiss every day. He must be the iniator or even numbered day and you will be the iniator on the odd numbered days.... (read in full...)
I think my ex is "the one," but my family really likes me current guy! What do I do?
Q. Oh my goodness such a dilemna. Im 19 and last year went out with this lad who was 6 yrs older than me, he was gorgeous and spoiled me and was amazing in bed and we had so much fun together. But now I'm with someone else, he treats me ok and wants us...
A. 19 September 2007: Go back to the one you like best.... (read in full...)
Everything was perfect until my date stopped calling me and became distant. We had a wonderful trip after that, but then he told me that he loved but but his heart was not in?
Q. Please help, ive been dating a guy for 2 months that totally swept me off my feet,im a very careful and guarded person normally but this time I could not hold back. We fell in love almost instantly, could not be apart and hated not hearing each oth...
A. 19 September 2007: Maybe he's gay.... (read in full...)
Now he claims that he never loved me and the only thing that made him feel that he was in love was the sex. How do I get over it?
Q. I have the worse problem. It was this guy that I was seeing, as well as sexually. We were always together, it's like we went togrther,but there was no title on it. I let myself fall in love with him after only 4 months. Now he claims that he never ...
A. 19 September 2007: Maybe you have poor judgment and enjoy being used. Maybe you learned a lession and won't repeat the mistake.... (read in full...)
He married his ex to "shut us down," now he wants to get back to me. Crazy to consider it, am I?
Q. My boyfriend of a year and I got into a huge fight. He got married to his ex girlfriend 2 weeks later to "shut us down". Now (6 weeks later) he says he made a mistake and wants to get back together. Am I crazy for considering it?...
A. 19 September 2007: Yes. The guy is an impulsive loose cannon.... (read in full...)
Who to choose: my current boyfriend who wants to be engaged or my best friend who is my ex?
Q. What to choose: Person A:Current Boyfriend/Possible Fiance, Person B: Ex/ Best Friend, or other advice?? I am 24 years old and have been in a relationship for about 3/12 years, though I keep thinking about my best friend/ ex. My current boyfrien...
A. 19 September 2007: I don't know what you should do, but I think it would be unfair to get engaged to your bf if you are having doubts. You didn't say much about your bf. What is he like and what kind of family does he come from? What would your future be like with ... (read in full...)
I really like my ex's friend and she likes me, too. But I think she has reservations about getting together!
Q. Me and this girl have been seeing each other for a couple weeks; I've had the biggest crush on her since I've seen her. Her friend is my ex girlfriend. I really, really, really, really like this girl and she says she likes me, too, although I have a ...
A. 19 September 2007: What else can you do but try to win the girl you like. Your ex must move on, what should it matter? There are just some things you can't control.... (read in full...)
How do I break off the engagement to my long distance partner? I've found someone better for myself!
Q. What should I do. Am 28 years, I was engage with this guy whom i did not know, He was introduced to me by a friend. The guy is in abroad we were contacting each other on phone, I posted my picture to him and he also posted his to me. We talked on...
A. 19 September 2007: Tell the distant bf the truth as soon as you can.... (read in full...)
Our friend is being quite snappy w/ me and will not talk about it! Does he have feelings for me?
Q. I have been close with a man of 42 (i'm 27) for some time now and he has recently became good friends with my husband. We all go out drinking together and my husband's friend and i have remained really close friends. My husband is aware of this ...
A. 19 September 2007: I think he has feelings for your and is being abrupt as a way of dealing with it. Be kind and try to steer clear of him as much as you can.... (read in full...)
My 'friend' is acting like an immature jerk about my past sexual relations - he says he's going to tell my bf about it!
Q. I am in a bit of a muddle. I have recently got together with a friend of my ex. Myself and my ex split up years and years ago, but a couple of years ago when I was at a low ebb and after listening to him tell me all the things I wanted to hear I ...
A. 19 September 2007: What's done is done. If your current bf brings it up tell him you have made mistakes in the past and it is too painful for you to revisit them.... (read in full...)
The guy I like found out about my feelings for him! Where do I go from here?
Q. The guy I like found out that I like him today. I really want something to happen between us but where do I go from here? What do I say to him?...
A. 19 September 2007: It doesn't really matter what you say. Just ask him a question to start a conversation. You will be able to tell by his attitude whether or not he likes you.... (read in full...)
We live with his parents! How can I get us out of his bedroom and into our own place?
Q. i wanted to buy a house not long ago and ive been with my boyfriend for over a year. we already live together but at his parents which i find we are always stuck in his bedroom. he's 23 and im 20 i feel like we're now at the point where we need to ...
A. 19 September 2007: Suggest you have 2 places and go back and forth.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend broke up with me because I am a virgin. She now wants to have fun with me, what should I do?
Q. Hey people, So me and my ex broke up for summer, she said she needed space and wasn’t ready for the commitment. 3 months later, she has returned back to the uk. When I found out she was back I sent her an email and we got chatting on msn, she...
A. 18 September 2007: She didn't really love you. Why would you be wanting her back? What if she decides she needs another round of random sex.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants to know my every move and who I've been talking to. Is this normal???
Q. My girlfriend and I of 9 months have recently moved in together. She feels as if I am lying to her if I don't tell her EVERYTHING I do. From who I talk to, to emailing an accquaintance to who I had lunch with. Am I in the wrong for feeling ...
A. 18 September 2007: Tell her everything for awhile. She will get bored and more trusting.... (read in full...)
I'm due to go backpacking for four and a half months. I'm giving everything up for this. How will it affect my relationship?
Q. Hi guys, I was wondering if I could have some advice. I am due to backpack round Europe for four and half months and I leave in just under a week. I am 32 years old and I have a great job and a great apartment that I love. I am going to be g...
A. 18 September 2007: Why didn't you ask him to go. Maybe you hope to find a new Mr. Right on your trip. Put the bf out of your mind and cocentrate on the trip.... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship but I keep having dreams of someone I knew 20 yrs ago! Why is this happening?
Q. I am in a commited relationship. yet i keep having dreams of someone i knew about 20 years ago. At the time i was too young for him. Then we moved away. So i have not seen him in 20 years. why am i having these dreams now?...
A. 18 September 2007: A fantascy is OK. Try to imagine other men you find attractive.... (read in full...)
I'm begining to think he doesn't find me attractive anymore. He seems to prefer girls on tv!
Q. please help, i moved in with my boyfriend about one month ago.we have been dating for four years now our sex life has been great.i wen't ot bed the other night and he was still up. well i got up to go to the bathroom and found him masterbating, to a ...
A. 18 September 2007: He could have been testing himself because he really has a problem. He should see a doctor about ED.... (read in full...)
I got back with my ex but am I just settling for someting that is just ok?
Q. Hello. Can anyone help? I split with my partner in February this year after 4 years together. It was my decision. We didn't live together but I have a son from a previous marriage and he has 2 sons too. Mine is 12 and his are 14 and 17. Sinc...
A. 18 September 2007: Stick with you original decision. Start looking for a new man that lights your fire.... (read in full...)
He didnt want a future with me so we ended. Its been 4 months but I want him back! Could it work?
Q. Me and my partner are both 41. We were together for 3 years.After the first year i started to talk about the future but he said he wasn't there yet and liked it the way it was, both having our own homes. After 3 years i asked for committment because ...
A. 18 September 2007: Why do you want to sign up for more years of the same. Deem yourself lucky to have been told the truth. Get your life on a new path.... (read in full...)
How do I ask my sisters boyfriends brother out without them knowing?
Q. I really like this guy that happens to be my sisters boyfriends brother and i don't know if he likes me but i want to ask him out... without my sister or his brother finding out???...
A. 18 September 2007: Call him up and ask him if he can keep a secret.... (read in full...)
I'm 16, he's 19, and he says he's wanted to propose to me!
Q. Right! i been wiv my bf for nearly 3months hes 19 n am 16 n we get on really really well as friends and as much much more i'm his longest relationship since he was 13 hes brilliant but last night we were chattin online n he was sayin how m...
A. 18 September 2007: Tell him you would like him to wait until you are 18 before he decides whether or not propose.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend isnt interested in penetration he only wants to masterbate over me. Is this natural?
Q. Seven years with my man and he never wanted sex all he wanted was to stand above me touching me while masturbating. I feel intimidated and unworthy can some one please tell me if this is natural not to penetrate ever?...
A. 18 September 2007: Is it possible that he does know what is normal? You need to find out the reason he does what he does.... (read in full...)
I havnt been able to orgasm with my boyfriend through penetration and its become a problem in our relationship. What can I do to make our sex life better?
Q. I'm a 24 years old. Me and my boyfriend are having sex for 5 months once a week at least. I never had vaginal orgasm before, I can have clitoral orgasm on my own or with partner. When my boyfriend learned I can not reach orgasm by only penetration ...
A. 18 September 2007: Engage in foreplay until you begin to orgasm, then have him penetrate you and position yourselves so that the top of his penis rubs on your clitoris. Use a lube if you are too dry.... (read in full...)
My boyfriends ex is trying to cause trouble. Is he cheating with her?
Q. I had written a post a few weeks ago about my boyfriends ex.. which was.. She emailed me and told me my boyfriend and her had been talking and that they were sleeping together.. I was furious.. Now I didnt believe her because shes been trying e...
A. 18 September 2007: She is still trying to get him back. Let him know that you expect him to stop pining about her and stop all contact with her and start treating you as number 1.... (read in full...)
I feel like I cant compete with his ex!
Q. I met my b/f 2 yrs. after his g/f broke their engagement and moved away. And judging from all the pictures he still had of her on his computer, and the things he had around his house when he asked me to move in, I knew he wasn't over her even ...
A. 18 September 2007: What more puzzling to me is why you think he is the best guy for you.... (read in full...)
I really like my deputy manager. Does he like me?
Q. my assistantdeputy manager atwork and me get on really well ive been round his house for dinner and everyone thinks there is something going on. i wish there was to be honest, i can talk to him about anything and i trust him so much. when im not ...
A. 18 September 2007: Cool it until you get a little older.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to be drinking more than usual.
Q. My boyfriend seems to be drinking more than usual. While it's not a dangerous amount, I worry. He IS under a lot of stress and I'm trying to understand him....
A. 18 September 2007: Be careful of guys who drink to avoid problems. Help him talk them out or seek the advice of others.... (read in full...)
Just friends with benefits?
Q. Just friends with Benefits? I am new to this kind of thing, but I needed a real third party perspective on a questionable situation. Bottom line is, I like my friend. We are both in our early 20’s and have been friends since freshman year of...
A. 17 September 2007: You have to decide whether you're going to continue to play a game or give hime a real choice. You need to do this face to face.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend, Friend, or Babysitter? Which am I???
Q. Girlfriend, Friend or babysitter? I have been seriously dating a dad, he introduced me to his (almost teenage) daughters very quickly. He is seperated and has full custody. Because of the distance, I spend the night (on the couch alone)and spend ti...
A. 17 September 2007: You sound as if there is no real dating going on. If you're not getting any adult contact the answer is obvious.... (read in full...)
How can I keep our relationship fresh?
Q. Hi I dont get to see my bf a lot as he often has a lot of work on. i see him about once a week We talk on the phone and text tho. We went out last week aand i found we didnt have a lot to talk about although i still had fun being with him it ...
A. 17 September 2007: Think ahead and do something interesting when you're apart. Then whe you meet you can tell him all about it. Choose things that you and him could do together.... (read in full...)
Terrified of my families reaction... Is there anyway we can get this out in the open, without it being a big deal?
Q. I am a 32 yaer old woman and for the past year I have been sleeping with my 17 year old step nephew. We both love each other deeply and want to move in together and bring our relationship out into the open. We are afraid of our families reaction. I ...
A. 17 September 2007: If you married him the ordeal might go better.... (read in full...)
My daughter is acting out to be with my ex and I don't know if I should trust him.
Q. Well an update here for my problems with my ex husband that some of you know about. Its been almost 3 months since my divorce and I thought after going through all the drama with my ex, me and my daughters would and could be fine on our own. That...
A. 17 September 2007: Sounds like both the ex and your oldest daughter are manipulating you. I think your oldest daughter wants to be with your ex because she thinks he will let her run wild. And I agree he may be using her to get you back. At 16 it is too late for you ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend over his ex?
Q. Is my boyfriend over his ex? We've been together over a year, living together for 6 months, but he is still in contact with her through texts, email, and occasionally phone (She lives in another country). Thing that bothers me is he hasn't told her ...
A. 17 September 2007: Sounds like he's trying to keep his options open with her. Not much of a bf you have there.... (read in full...)
I've been married for 17 yrs. Am I in love with a young girl at the church?
Q. I am 40 and my wife 39 and we have been married for 17 years, about a year ago a 21 year old girl came to my church and i can,t get her out of my head. am i in love with her? it is driving me crazy....
A. 17 September 2007: You don't know her and she doesn't know you. It's lust, all in your head.... (read in full...)
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