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Everything that we do wrong, it's because we don't know how to do it right. Sometimes, we think that we're doing things right but it's wrong. Why do we do it wrong? Because we don't understand it enough.
The economy crisis will bring a lot of change in the human world. Big empires will fall to give place to new ones.
I predict that we'll have a home base business boom. Why? Everyone seems to want "Financial Security" with the absence of it at work(due to the fragility of the economy), most will seek money elsewhere, and where can you work if nobody has money? You'll seek to make money on your own.
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We are still in the relationship even though she's not 'in love' with me. How do I let go?
Q. I met my girlfriend just under three years ago, at the time i was in an unhappy relationship of about 9 years, and when we met the whole cliche happened... fireworks, sleepless nights, shortness of breath upon even seeing her in the street. We both ...
A. 19 September 2008: It breaks my heart to see things like this.
I am not going to give you any advice but share with you what I've learn from a very interesting book.
The author of the book says that there's 5 different love languages and that in other for a spou... (read in full...)
Is going to the zoo considered a date?
Q. Hey, I am 25 and completely useless and inexperienced when it comes to women. But i've been speaking to this girl for about 6 weeks now and we text and email every day. I've only managed to meet up with her a couple of times but now she's suggested ...
A. 19 September 2008: If this is a date, she wasn't really specific about it otherwise you wouldn't have asked the question. Maybe she just want to hang out.
Last time a girl invited me out, we went eating and for a walk to finish the night with a movie at my place. I... (read in full...)
How do I choose between two girls that like me without hurting anyone?
Q. See, well I liked this girl(C) and she liked me back. But after a while we grew apart but I still have feelings for her. And there's this other girl who I kinda like as well (I)she likes me back too. But I the first girl wants me back and I cant ...
A. 19 September 2008: That's a good problem to have if you ask me.
Like Aunty Em said, sometimes when you have 2 choices and you really don't know what to take. Don't take anything and wait for your mind to have a clear decision.
When it comes to situations like ... (read in full...)
How can I get rid of the ugly stretch marks?
Q. I really need help. I went through a stage where I was very heavy. I lost the excess weight, and I have pretty nice abs, but I have terrible stretch marks. Is there anything besides surgery I can do to reduce or get rid of them? And would a guy ...
A. 12 September 2008: If Bio Oil works, it's all good.
As far as "And would a guy think less of me for having them?" in my case it didn't matter with my ex. I did ask the question though because I was clueless of what it was, she just told me that she had loose we... (read in full...)
Suggestions on starting a conversation with a girl please!
Q. Hi. I like this girl, blah blah blah, I'm sure you've heard it before. I'd just like some suggestions for conversation. If I know what I'm going to say, I can be a lively conversationalist. If I don't know what I'm going to say, I'll just sit there ...
A. 12 September 2008: I was told, by what I consider a "Date expert", that to not see yourself as being inferior to the one you want attention too but to be equal. Like Guillaume said, just talk to her like you would talk to anybody.
He told me that too, he asked me... (read in full...)
I want to give him something different, something special for his birthday next month. Any ideas please?
Q. Okay, so it's my boyfriends birthday in a months time, and its the 4th birthday i'll have been with him but i'm looking for ideas for a nice present. I'm a pretty sentimental person so have made him things every birthday, christmas and vale...
A. 12 September 2008: In my opinion, sex should always be to the maximum but that's just me ;D
Those are hard questions when we don't really know someone. I think that you don't chose a present for someone, it's the present who find it's way to that person. With tha... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to give me oral without actually asking him outright?
Q. iv been with my boyfriend for 4 months now, and we have a great sex life. the only problem is the fact that no matter how many hints i make, he will not give me oral sex. Iv tried everything i can think of except asking. I dont want to ask him ...
A. 12 September 2008: Don't know if I can't speak for all the man out there but Annalisa is right in my case. I like to pleasure my woman and I like her to tell me what she wants.
If you ask him and he tells you that he doesn't like it, well there goes the pain of ... (read in full...)
My LD boyfriend yelled at me and cursed me when I said I would delete the pictures of his ex'es from his camera. We haven't talked since. Is it over?
Q. My boyfriend and I have not talked for two nights so far and we are in a long distance relationship that's been going on for a year and two months. I am so confused and lost I do not know what I did wrong or where I stand with him anymore.I been down...
A. 11 September 2008: I think we all have pictures of our past relationships. Even though we are not with that person anymore, we still keep them for the memories. Sometimes it remind us of what we liked from a girl. Sometimes it remind us of what we dislike of them.
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Do you think he means what he says? Do you think I'm going to lose him??? Help!
Q. I have known this lad for 5 months.. it doesnt seem that long but it feels like it's been forever .. the other night we was sat in his house and we was having a drink and just talking and having a little kiss and that .. but he stopped and i was sat ...
A. 9 September 2008: ===
This is my opinion only.
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What a rude thing to say if you ask me and on a cell phone! ...
The first time I did it was with my ex (her first time too). We were together for about a year and a half before doing it (been doing foreplay... (read in full...)
She kissed another guy? Should I forgive her?
Q. I have been going out with a girl for 2 months now, but i have recently found out that at the very beginning of our relationship, she kissed another guy. She was very drunk and couldn't even remember it, her friend had to tell her. Should i ever ...
A. 9 September 2008: The same situation happened to me with my ex, she went to a club and make out with another guy.
She came home crying when telling me that. I could have yelled but I loved the girl and that didn't really affect me in the least.
It all depend... (read in full...)
Can I catch worms from a cat?
Q. This is really dum I know, but I went round to my friends house the other night and he has a cat. This cat had things like bits of cotton hanging out its bum, which I was told were worms. Can you catch this because now I cant get it out my mind and ...
A. 3 September 2008: The question itself is pretty funny, since it's a dating site and all ... know what I mean?
I remember my cats used to have that, and my dad used to tell me that it wasn't good for the cat because he would get skinny and stuff so we bought p... (read in full...)
My friend like my girlfriend. Should I break up with her?
Q. My friend likes my girlfriend and i think it might hurt our friendship.Should I break up with her?...
A. 22 August 2008: No.
I know that they say "Friendship last forever and relationship doesn't" and it's true.
But know that if your friend is not your friend because you're going out with a girl he likes ... he's not a true friend.
Believe me, if she's ... (read in full...)
Have I gone through puberty yet? I think I'm too small.
Q. Im 11 and im not sure if i should hav gone through puberty yet cuz i dont think i hav yet. My penis is only 3 1/2' hard and 2 1/2' floppy. Is that normal?...
A. 22 August 2008: I don't think you hit puberty yet, and there's nothing wrong with your penis. You can't judge puberty only on the size of a penis.
The signs of puberty are usually the same for everyone. Change of voice, growth of body hair, acne ...
On the ... (read in full...)
Pornography and relationships
Q. As some people reading this will already know, I moderate and write regularly on this site. Porn is one those issues that is often cited as a problem and also causes a fair amount or moral controversy. On the one hand are the people whose ...
A. 22 August 2008: Great article.
I like the fact that it's overall neutral.
I do feel that it's important to let know your partner that you like watching porn early in the relationship.
It shows trust, comfort and removed the hassle of having to explain if ... (read in full...)
When my wife and I make love she just lays there, I am so sexually frustrated, we talked about this but nothing changes!...
Q. What do you think about this? I've been married for 9 years and we have four kids. My wife is a stay at home Mom which I give her alot of credit for. My Question is this...She has really never been into French kissing, Initiating Sex, Giving Oral or ...
A. 20 August 2008: Instead of telling her "I would like you to move more" have you tried this "Is there something that I could do better to please you even more?".
Most of the time when I ask that, they tell me what they would like me to do, or where i need to impro... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want kids, but not want the sex or the husband?
Q. Is it normal to want kids, but not want the sex or the husband? People say i'll grow out of this feeling but i am not sure whether i will. I would love to be a mother but a sex slaving wife, no thanks. Is what i am feeling normal as i am not a child ...
A. 20 August 2008: You're not going to be a sex slaving wife if you don't want to be one. Nobody's going to force you. The reason why you probably think like that is because you've seen it before (sometimes from our parents).
It's something that could be discusse... (read in full...)
A friend of mine has complained about sex with her husband, whata dvice do I give her next time she mentions this?
Q. A girl friend has hinted a few times about not enjoying sex with her husband. That he is not a good lover and he wants it too often. I get the feeling that it may only be once a month if he is lucky. What advice or where would you direct her for ...
A. 20 August 2008: I think there's sex counselors available for that. I understand why someone wouldn't want to tell that to their partner.
But I would like to know if I would have this problem because the only way to fix a problem it's to be aware you have one.
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My boyfriend thinks it's his job to parent me on chores. Is this normal male behaviour?
Q. My boyfriend and I are having some issues. He thinks its his job to parent me on chores. I have been doing better to remind myself to do things since I also have other things I focus on like school, and job hunting. He says I have gotten better then ...
A. 20 August 2008: It's not a male behavior, it's part of his personality. My guess is that he's either a "Perfect Melancholy" or a "Powerful Choleric". (Know that no one is 100% of one personality type)
A Perfect Melancholy like stuff to be done his own way.
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I caught my husband with whom have been married for 1 1/2 years, on a dating site. I know we need counselling, how should I get him involved?
Q. I have been married for 1 1/2 years. We have been together for 3 years. Just prior to the wedding I found out he had several relations with different girls, had been on dating websites, and still texting and sending provocative pictures to some of ...
A. 20 August 2008: Life is not about finding the perfect person but loving an imperfect person perfectly.
If he doesn't wants to go to the counseling, go yourself.
People have to go when there's no reason for them to stay. Maybe there's something he fell in love ... (read in full...)
When my wife and I make love she just lays there, I am so sexually frustrated, we talked about this but nothing changes!...
Q. What do you think about this? I've been married for 9 years and we have four kids. My wife is a stay at home Mom which I give her alot of credit for. My Question is this...She has really never been into French kissing, Initiating Sex, Giving Oral or ...
A. 20 August 2008: Personality and depression is 2 different things.
Speaking of which, I think your wife may have a strong Peaceful Phlegmatic personality. You are a lucky one if she is!
That personality is the most peaceful of them all, they live life as it ... (read in full...)
I can't talk to people and I'm a loner... how can I change that?
Q. Well it's time to be honest....I'm 21 and am a loner. I have never had any real social life up till now nor experienced any type of meaningful youth. I stay in my room night after night and my mum is right when she says I don't know how to tal...
A. 19 August 2008: You don't need to change, you need to understand yourself more. By understanding yourself, you'll understand others.
I have books that could help you understand who you are.... (read in full...)
Should I just let things be and move on with my life without seeing him one last time?
Q. So I've been seeing this guy since January. We've had many ups and down in our "relationship." Basically, he's been too immature to carry on a full relationship, even though he has told me that he wants a relationship with me whenever he thought ...
A. 19 August 2008: I studied personalities a bit, and your boyfriend (or ex) seems to have a lot of the "Popular Sanguine" personality.
They have a hard time to promise something because they can't see themselves far in the futur. It's like they're saying to thems... (read in full...)
Am I depressed or just stuck in a rut?
Q. This question probably has nothing to do with relationships or dating i just needed some advice. I hate my job all i do is cry and I feel I always get critisised. The only reason im staying here is because I owe people money and that I have rent to ...
A. 18 August 2008: Do not give up ever!
A pain I know too well girl! I'm 22, I started a new life in a new town about a year ago and since then I haven't move and inch in life. I'm not a money spender, thank god, because I have none to spend! Rent is high, food pri... (read in full...)
I have a question for guys!
Q. I have a question for guys! what do u like in a girl???? or what is the "perfect date"...
A. 16 August 2008: I like smiling/positive girl. Girls who are true to themselves, who don't pretend to be someone else. I like when there's a connection right away. Girls who don't take my jokes serioulsy and who won't feel embarassed when I do something stupid to ... (read in full...)
Anal experience pleasant but SINCE THEN I feel pain while on the toilet, doctor saw no sign of hemorrhoids so what's my problem???
Q. I hate having to ask this question, but im just so tired of the damn pain I've been having for the past moth, and I won't being see a doctor till wednesday. I have such a hard time going to the bathroom (#2). It hurts me, and I fear when I have to ...
A. 16 August 2008: Well we all have different opinion when it comes to dealing with other people. I don't really mind even if people would tell me that I'm gay.
I read somewhere that some people like to discriminate others so that it can make them feel big. I just l... (read in full...)
Anal experience pleasant but SINCE THEN I feel pain while on the toilet, doctor saw no sign of hemorrhoids so what's my problem???
Q. I hate having to ask this question, but im just so tired of the damn pain I've been having for the past moth, and I won't being see a doctor till wednesday. I have such a hard time going to the bathroom (#2). It hurts me, and I fear when I have to ...
A. 15 August 2008: I had the same problem because I wasn't eating right (which gave me liquid #2 (nice way to put it i guess)).
Which, from what I saw from the little reasearch I did on "anal fissure", could be the same problem than you have.
For me, it did event... (read in full...)
Everything is great in my new relationship but there's no spark. Is it possible to get one?
Q. I have been friends with the women im with from when we were 14 years of age we both have been married so now after all this time we descided to date...here is the issue we have no spark but every thing else is great.. how do i get the spark for ...
A. 15 August 2008: Sometime when I see someone who I feel I don't have a spark with, I will still go and talk. Sometime there's a spark that come from that, sometime it doesn't.
It's annoying when you find a girl who you really like but just don't feel it.
One ... (read in full...)
All bets are off now here in suburbia. His porn habit has me contemplating an affair, as I feel worthless and failed as a woman.
Q. We are a middle class family, living in suburbia. My husband of 5 years watches porn Friday evenings from midnight to about 2-3am. Didnt do it in the beginning but now he says he needs it. From 5pm I see him getting ready for it. Comes home with ...
A. 15 August 2008: I don't want to take anybody's side so i'll just tell you what I do.
Each time I start a relationship, I tell my partner that I love watching porn and that I don't do it because I want to hurt anybody it's just my little "me time" kind of thing.
... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do with my life
Q. hello, well this is going to sound really random. but im scared with what to do with my life. im going into my last two years of high school and im taking my GCSEs pretty soon. Ive always liked the ideas of writing books, i have good ideas but then...
A. 15 August 2008: I found that super awesome that you already have vision of the future. Not a lot of teens do.
A lot of adults don't have vision nor dreams either, they just live by the day and their life will be meaningless when they're gone. Living pay-chec... (read in full...)
I have to have a tympanoplasty operation. I'm scared.
Q. Well ever since I was small I've had ear infections through out my life.Well I went to the doctor recently and he said that I had holes inside both of my ear drums..he said that I have to have a tympanoplasty.Well I am scared because you know I am ...
A. 14 August 2008: I had problems with my ears when I was younger, I had a surgery and it went fine. Kind of glad that I did it because now I rarely have ear infections. ... (read in full...)
I keep breaking up only to go back and become confused again!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years im 21 and he is 25 and we have broken up 3 times all done by me. He is a great bloke but i just got bored as he is quiet, but sometimes we get on great. We broke up for a week recently and i went out on afew ...
A. 14 August 2008: We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to love imperfect person perfectly.... (read in full...)
My controlling husband has decided to change only now that I want to leave, what do I do?
Q. I have been married for ten years. I have three children from a previous relationship, now adults and one from this one. At the start we were very happy. Gradually, he became more controlling and insisted on everything being done his way. As a ...
A. 13 August 2008: We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to love imperfect person perfectly.... (read in full...)
5 questions for the guys!
Q. Hey guys I have got few questions for you. I want this to be answered preferably by men; 1) Why men ask or demand sex whether they are committed to you or not. 2) If a man loves a woman he wants sex and even if he is not in love he still wants s...
A. 12 August 2008: 1. Man are sexualy active at a younger age than woman
2. Ask him
3. Time, guys who want sex will show it early in the relationship. Guys who are in love will wait no matter what.
4. Because even though we're not in a relationship with that girl, i... (read in full...)
I still have trust issues, and there are times I just want to lash out!
Q. My ex cheated but I have forgiven him, and he has grown up since then. We both love each other and he is convinced we are meant to be together. I still have trust issues though. How do I resolve them? I feel especially insecure when his best girl...
A. 12 August 2008: Don't try to be the only friend for you BF, let him see other people.
Well I know this guy who used to be all over my ex, didn't really caused any trust issue. She could have gone with him if she would have liked too, but she didn't because ... (read in full...)
I still have trust issues, and there are times I just want to lash out!
Q. My ex cheated but I have forgiven him, and he has grown up since then. We both love each other and he is convinced we are meant to be together. I still have trust issues though. How do I resolve them? I feel especially insecure when his best girl...
A. 12 August 2008: If you love somebody, set them free. If they return, they were always yours, if they don't, they never were.
The more someone feels like he's in a prison, the more he'll want to get out of it.
Just trust him. If he cheats, leave him or som... (read in full...)
I have a great boyfriend, but I keep wanting to be with other men for sex, is this normal?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend on and off for 3 years. he's a great bloke who treats me like a queen, is faithful and great looking, but i keep wanting to be with other men for sex, is this normal? Does this mean i have to end it with him? Should...
A. 12 August 2008: My ex did the same thing, she was always talking about it too. Eventually we grew apart and ended the relationship.
Was it a good thing? Probably, we only live once and life is about experience, when you experience, you learn and when you learn-yo... (read in full...)
We will never be together, but I truly love him, but want to get over him, what can I do to accomplish this hard task?
Q. dear cupid im wondering which is the best way 2 get over some1 you have loved for years? i just cant seem 2 get him out of my head and theres no way we can be 2gether thankyou!...
A. 12 August 2008: Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never knew.
When we're in love we tend to believe that he's the only one who can make us happy. But there's other guys out there, like superrrshawna said "Give another ... (read in full...)
I have a huge crush on a girl at my school. How can I get her to like me?
Q. I have a huge crush on a girl that goes to my school. I want to ask her out so bad but I don't want to make myself look like a jackass in front of her (which I have done in front of other girls I liked). What do I do?...
A. 12 August 2008: Don't see girls like they're the only thing that can make you happy in the world. Talk to her like you would with a friend.
Ask her out, if she says no, it means that she doesn't like you.
You can't, make her change her mind about you. If sh... (read in full...)
I'm too embarassed to take my top off in front of a girl...
Q. im to embaressd to take my top off in front of a girl and im not sure what to do with it ? i have been working out latley and i was previously a boxer so i do still do skipping and spend time weight lifting and on my punchbag, but it dont seem to ...
A. 12 August 2008: The reason why you feel that way is because you compare yourself with athletes and people from magazines. I used to do that too until I saw some people from the magazines without make-up or anything. They're uglier than every person I know.
The m... (read in full...)
I really want to be a songwriter, how do I get started?
Q. Ok, i know this isn't a relationship question but i'm hoping that you will answer it anyway.I really want to be a song writer and i know that all song writers don't make it but i am determaned to at least try.Iv'e heard that most song writers ...
A. 12 August 2008: Well I would start by writing lots of songs/poems or rhymes just for the practice and then take the best one to make a portfolio out of it.
Also, maybe learning how to write music would help so you can have a melody with your lyrics.(To give gui... (read in full...)
How do I get over my crush on a teacher?
Q. Recently, I have transfered to another school due to financial reasons. At first, I was not too hyped about the idea, because I was going into my last year and didn't want to leave my old friends. A few months flew by, and I was into it. Howe...
A. 12 August 2008: Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never knew.
Falling in love with a teacher is something that happens often when dealing with a good teacher. A teacher must believe in his student in order for them to belie... (read in full...)
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