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I'm a 23 year old student of life, I love and study every aspect of it. I seek to understand the world around me. I'm fascinated by how well human adapt to every situations that surrounds them.

Everything that we do wrong, it's because we don't know how to do it right. Sometimes, we think that we're doing things right but it's wrong. Why do we do it wrong? Because we don't understand it enough.

The economy crisis will bring a lot of change in the human world. Big empires will fall to give place to new ones.

I predict that we'll have a home base business boom. Why? Everyone seems to want "Financial Security" with the absence of it at work(due to the fragility of the economy), most will seek money elsewhere, and where can you work if nobody has money? You'll seek to make money on your own.

"Change brings opportunity"

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Am I old before my time?

Q.   Im 25 years old, i dont drink much, i keep fit and im happily settled with my long term bf. Everything initially sounds rosy however since ive become happy and settled none of my friends want to know, i constantly try to organise days and nights out ...

A.   27 May 2009: The friends you currently have, are they the same than the ones you used to drink with? It's normal for people to change interests in life, there's no age for that. Usually, an interest shift is followed by a friend shift. In life, you tend to ... (read in full...)

Am I an easy target because I am messed with so much?

Q.   What is it with most men. Ive been messed around by my ex 4 two years dont know if he want me or not! Stupidly ive hung around cos i was in love. And yet hes been sleeping with other and me in between making his mind up! Ive not been with anyone! ...

A.   26 May 2009: Sometime, single mothers gives that "desperate for love" feeling away which some guys uses to their advantage. Since they sense love before they can themselves feel it, they don't care about the other person as much. It's not about toughen up... (read in full...)

Addicted to porn

Q.   About a month ago my boyfriend and I talked about how much his watching porn bothered me, he said he would stop because of how much it bothered me. After several weeks of assuring me he had not watched any porn, yesterday I found out he was lying...

A.   26 May 2009: The reason why I watch porn is because it gives a bigger orgasm than just masturbating. Maybe he doesn't want to stop but a good way for you to know what he's watching would be to give pictures of yourself. Acknowledging is addiction might ... (read in full...)

He wants to leave if I don't do what he wants....please help

Q.   we got married 7 months ago.we meet every 3 months,its long distance marriage,cos im waiting for spouse visa. any how,before i meet him i was in relationship and he did read the emails i had with my ex which i sent and received before i met with my ...

A.   26 May 2009: I would think twice about this marriage, he doesn't seem to think that male and female are equal human beings.... (read in full...)

I don't know what he is playing at!

Q.   about 7 months ago i lost the love of my life he was my everything i loved himm so much ... since he broke up with me we slept together on a few occasions ..im still madly in love with him but cant seem to move on other guys dont appeal to me cos i ...

A.   26 May 2009: He's playing at "messing around with you." It's a game played by typical guys (girls do that too) to get what they want out of a girl. He knows that you have feelings for him and he's putting it to his advantage. You're being used, that's not... (read in full...)

My mum thinks my boyfriend is abusive but I want to move closer to him

Q.   okay my family LOVED my boyfriend up until we had a massive argument and I told my mum everything that he's done (he's not done anything abusive, but he does small things like reads my texts, hacks my email, reads my msn history, doesn't let me talk ...

A.   26 May 2009: I do get the same feeling than your mum on the matter. It does sound like an abusive guy. When jealousy becomes to the point where there's no trust, it's a relationship with one abuser and one "victim" instead of being a partnership. Trust i... (read in full...)

We have a child together, but my girlfriend's stubborness and my defensiveness are hurting us, suggestions please?

Q.   My girlfriend and I have trouble communicating. Some of the things she says comes off the wrong way, and her tone of voice throws me off. She has an aggressive tone of voice, which she's had trouble with. We get into arguments because, of the way ...

A.   25 May 2009: Since you can't control her, ask yourself what you could do to make things better. Seeking counseling is good but it can't be forced. So what can you do? Teaching by influence is a great way to bring someone to your way of thinking. If you bett... (read in full...)

Guys: What makes you want to commit to a girl?

Q.   What exactly makes a guy want to commit to a girl? i have this guy friend (he fancies me..I fancy him too) but we have been on and off without a year and hes played all these mind games and generally the whole situations soo messed up p...

A.   25 May 2009: First thing that comes to my mind is love. If I'm in love, I will commit to the relationship. If I'm not, I tend to look around to find it. It's not about how you look but if there's a connection or not. When I look at a girl, some of them I w... (read in full...)

What do I do when all my boyfriend wants to do is to have sex with me?

Q.   What do I do when all my boyfriend wants to do is to have sex with me?...

A.   25 May 2009: If it's too much for you, you may want to talk to him about it. He might be in a relationship with you for the wrong reasons.... (read in full...)

How do I become less predictable?

Q.   I've become so predictable in everthing I do my friends and family always know what I am going to say or do, and it's getting me nowhere cause people get bored of being around me. I do occasionally do unpredictable things and get noticed for a while ...

A.   25 May 2009: We're creature of habits, it's normal to fall in a routine at times. It takes new information to get out of a routine. Once you know there's something else, the routine change. For me, when I was younger, I was in the background because I had low ... (read in full...)

I want to make love to my boyfriend, but it is wrong in my culture

Q.   I am so confused. I'm 18 years old girl i've got a 24 year old boyfriend he's muslim i'm sikh. we've only been dating for a month but knew eachother 2 months before and we have even had our little up and downs but i love him so much and vice ve...

A.   25 May 2009: Just to add to Loopy14... Some people have time span rules of X months before doing anything sexual with a new partner. By following that rule, it gives them a chance to know the person more and not rush things. Since religion is a personal th... (read in full...)

Husband says he doesn't love me because he doesn't feel loved by me

Q.   I am 33 years old have been with my husband for 17 years and married for nearly 11. We have had the usual marriage probs but have always pulled through until a few days ago he dropped the bomb shell that he no longer loves me. I'm devastated, we ...

A.   24 May 2009: I would give "The five love languages" book by author Gary Chapman a try.... (read in full...)

How can I increase my salary

Q.   iam commerce graduate with diploma in computer science from private institute. based on this i got experience of 14 year as programmer and unix system administrator. now everybody is asking for BE/BTECH/ME/MCA i am getting only 12000 p.m. how to ...

A.   21 May 2009: "Money is the greatest measurement of one's mind set ..." You can only create, and maintain, the level of wealth that matches your personal development which is why, if you want to have more, you first need to become more. Jim Rohn says "If you ... (read in full...)

Messed up first time sex, now terrified of women!

Q.   Can anyone help me please. I'm too embarrassed to talk about this to anyone even to a counsellor. The thing is, I know I should just go up to a woman ask her out and see what happens from there but its a lot harder for me now than when I first st...

A.   21 May 2009: Action cures fear every time. If you do what you fear, the fear disappear. When a guy is stressed, he will have a harder time to get hard because there's lots of thing on his mind. It might have been too fast for your first experience, it took me ... (read in full...)

How can I force my girlfriend into dropping some weight?

Q.   Ive been dating my girlfriend off and on for two years. We are both in our 40's and she is a couple of years older than me and has two grown up kids. We get on really great and spend a lot of time together, although we don't live together. She is a...

A.   21 May 2009: Although I do not support your thinking on the matter, maybe doing dates that involve a little bit more physical activities could help. Walk in the park, swimming, hiking etc.. ... (read in full...)

Can a relationship work if you are not sexually attracted to your partner?

Q.   Can a relationship work if your not sexually attracted to your partner?...

A.   21 May 2009: A relationship is a result of love. To it's core, it's about trust and commitment.... (read in full...)

Condom broke during sex....where do I go from here?

Q.   i had sex and he finished inside me however when he pulled out the condom had a big hole in the middle. This happened two days after my period had ended and im expecting my period the 8th of june. Are my chances really high im very worried and ...

A.   21 May 2009: Pregnancy test would be a start. I don't know when it's best to take one but I figure that it must be at least 2 weeks after sexual intercourse.... (read in full...)

Please help I cant stay hard whilst having sex

Q.   I am a 18year old boy I am going with my girlfreind now about 6 months we try having sex a lot of the time and 9 time out of 1o when we are havin sex i go soft i dont know what 2 do it is driving me mad and also her mad we have even nearly broke up ...

A.   20 May 2009: Just to add to what Boonridge... said, I found that my diet had the ability to give me either less or more powerful erections. Also, I noticed that the more I masturbate the harder it was for me to get hard ... well I do masturbate way to often so... (read in full...)

What is love then?

Q.   love my bf more than any body even more than myself whatever i did till date i did it for him and never looked at any other guy or felt like looking at nude men even...my bf is the only person in my mind..since paet 8years and i have no inclinatons ...

A.   20 May 2009: For a long time, I was telling people that porn doesn't affect a relationship but when I studied my past relationships, they seem to end when I started to watch porn on a daily basis. By masturbating, the sex drive and attraction to your partner ... (read in full...)

He's always reminding me about past relationships

Q.   i used to love so many guys before, i cried i almost have killed my self,but luckily, i have God in my heart. well i have this present relationship by now and if you have read my other questions you might know my life...im having a relationship with ...

A.   20 May 2009: I think I remember reading on of your other question. I don't think love is something that needs to be proved, it's just something you feel around someone else. There is, however, various love languages based on the "5 love languages" book by ... (read in full...)

Sex life gone bad.....

Q.   me and my girlfriend have been together for 2.5 years. we are very happy and are moving in together next month. However our sex life annoys me. when we first got together I used to get oral sex from her but wasnt allowed to cum in her mouth, we ha...

A.   19 May 2009: "we've been together for a while and i no longer feel i have to impress you" I find important to keep the flame alive in a relationship. No she might not like doing certain sexual things but was it alright to pretend she did? Those things she did ... (read in full...)

Dreams about anal sex....

Q.   i'm a 16 year old, current single, and tbh a little insane, :), anyway, recently i had a dream about this girl that i consider as a sister ( we are not related ) now when i see her i get horney, and constantly thing about it, the thing is we were ...

A.   19 May 2009: If both person involve is willing to try it, I don't see why you shouldn't. It can either be a painful experience for her, or a pleasurable one depending on how you are with it. ... (read in full...)

I would love to carry out this fantasy for my wife!

Q.   My wife fantasizes about watching me sleep with another man and I am bi curious, so I'm willing to do it for her. I'm just wondering how I would go about finding a man without "outing" myself, because I'm not actually gay... just curious....

A.   18 May 2009: Dating site, in my opinion, would be the easiest way to get in contact with someone. Just have to explain to them when you explained here and I'm sure you'll find someone who's willing.... (read in full...)

Views on faith???

Q.   What are peoples views bout faith?! Is it really mapped out for us or do we create our own destiny in life??????...

A.   15 May 2009: A person is made up of three parts: The body, the soul, and the spirit. The body is our physical self. The soul is basically our intellect and our emotions, also our will. The spirit is the part of us that transcends this world. It is the part o... (read in full...)

I jumped to the conclusion that he had female company over at our house....did I over-react?

Q.   My boyfriend and i live together,yesterday i had the day off from work,i worked overtime yesterday so i got home around 8pm. I usually leave pajamas in the bathroom so when im ready for them i know exactly where they are. To my surprise when i came ...

A.   14 May 2009: Over react? Is that the correct question to this story? What if he's telling the truth? If things aren't at the same place = cheating ? Why is it the first thing that came up in your mind? ... (read in full...)

I need a boyfriend!

Q.   i need help.i know im kid but i know what im talking about.i need a boyfriend.my boyfriend that i absolutely loved dumped me when i moved cn anyone help.can you tell me if i need to go to the skating rink and meet one there please help....

A.   14 May 2009: Why do you need a boyfriend?... (read in full...)

Involved but I think I am in love with someone else

Q.   I have been in a long term relationship for over 8 years (not married but feel like it). I love my partner dearly and sex is alright but I still have feelings (not sure what they are) for someone else. The thought of this person gives me butterf...

A.   14 May 2009: If there's no reason for you to leave your current partner, I wouldn't suggest you doing so. The feelings you have can be develop with many people along the way, will you change partner every time they occur? How long those feelings will last with ... (read in full...)

I've lost everything because of sex.

Q.   I had a best friend, who eventually became my lover. I never knew we were just friends with benefits, but when i found out i was crushed. When i told him how i really felt towards him, we started to go out and i loved him dearly. We broke up twice, ...

A.   12 May 2009: Jim Rohn said "You cannot choose how long you will live, but you can choose how well you will live." If you would to die today, what would your friends say of you at your funeral? If you don't like the answer, know that life is about choosing... (read in full...)

How can I build my self-esteem and learn to approach girls I like?

Q.   I go to an all boys school, so I dontb see that many girls. Very often, but in my town there is this girl who I think I love, thing is, I have a really low self esteem and I have only ever talked to her once. We barely ever see each other and I ...

A.   11 May 2009: I remember having self esteem problem at your age as well. Teenage years is a very confusing time. The only time I truly started to see a change in me, confidence wise, was when I started reading self-growth books. To it's core, self confiden... (read in full...)

The relationship with my dad is fading fast and I don't know how to rekindle it. Help

Q.   i am 13 years old and when i was younger i was very close to my dad. i looked up to him all the time. But as i've gotten older that relationship seems to have deteriarated. my mum had two more daughters so my dad now has three daughters. i also pla...

A.   7 May 2009: It's good to organize activities with your dad alone. It could be a weekly thing, like a movie, restaurant, walk at the part. Be honest with him, tell him that you feel that you guys are becoming distant and that you want to reconnect back. Ma... (read in full...)

My boyfriend thinks it would be a turn on to watch me having sex with our dog!

Q.   Hi everyone, I am 26 and have been with my current bf for almost 3 years. We have a great relationship, he is perfect in many ways. We get along great and have a great sex life. We are both very open at trying new things sexually and I will admit ...

A.   1 May 2009: There's no law against bestiality, otherwise we wouldn't find site about it with just a simple search, online, on the matter. It is weird, some find that weirdness to be a turn on. It is not something that should be forced, only those who t... (read in full...)

Homeless and depressed, how can I improve my lot in life?

Q.   Hi everyine my name is Paul and ive been going through alot lately. Im not sure what to do. Right now im staying at a homeless shelter and im trying to get back on my feet. Its like i keep getting knocked down for some reason. I was currently ...

A.   29 April 2009: Sometime it's best to stop focusing on what is and start focusing on what it could be. God gave you the ability to dream and the vehicle with which to achieve them. He would never put obstacles that you can't overcome. Changes bring opportunit... (read in full...)

I'm scared to tell her that I'm going out with someone 12 years older

Q.   I am 22, my bf is 34, and we love each other. My mother is 45 and yesterday she told me a guy who was 38 asked her to be his gf. (My mom has an amazing bf who is also 45 so obviously she won't date that guy.) My mom doesn't know about my relatio...

A.   28 April 2009: It's also funny that the age gap with your bf and your mom is 11 years and that it's 12 years with you. I've seen 20 years old woman going out with 50 years old man. It's not uncommon to see younger woman going out with older guys. With ag... (read in full...)

He says he only cheated for sex...can this be true?

Q.   My question is can a man (or woman)who cheats on their partner with the same woman and says it was only for sex nothing more over seveval years can it be true? He would go to her house for coffee and sex,and have gropes in the car if he gave her...

A.   28 April 2009: "What sort of person would do something like this?" A person who's not happy with his sex life.... (read in full...)

Really weird love quadrangle...??

Q.   I'm in a really weird love quadrangle... I really, really like this guy who is one of my best friends; we've known each other for about a year, and we get on really well. But he's gay. It's common knowledge that he has a major crush on another...

A.   28 April 2009: What can you do? It's not rare to see a girl falling in love with a gay friend. If he's gay, focusing on loving him won't bring you anywhere with him though. Same goes with your Lesbian friend. ... (read in full...)

How do I get close to the one I love the most?

Q.   well, the title says it all... can you please, please, please, give me some helpful tips on how to get along with the one i love? i am asking this question because i'm getting so nervous and tensed when i see him. and that makes me go crazy i...

A.   28 April 2009: I do like when a girl feels uncomfortable around me, it shows that she find something in me that makes her loose balance. When ever it happens, and if I do want her presence next to me, it's up to me to make her feel more comfortable. However, ... (read in full...)

I hate my sister!

Q.   i need help. i think i hate my sister! she always gets me so angry and encourages me to do the wrong things. she dropped out of college, shes failed half of her GCSE's and i know shes on the pill and has a fake ID. shes recenly got cuaght in topshop ...

A.   28 April 2009: "the rest of my brothers and sisters know shes a failure" Most people can tell when someone else has faith in them ... or when they don't. They can sense if your belief is genuine or phony. And truly having faith in someone can change his o... (read in full...)

I'm not on birth control. Can I get pregnant?

Q.   I'm not on birth control but when I have sex with my boyfriend he doesn't ejaculate inside my vagina. He normally ejaculates on my stomach but last weekend he was a bit slow pulling out and some of his sperm went in me. It was mostly outside but ...

A.   21 April 2009: Yes There's always a chance of being pregnant even though he doesn't ejaculate in you. Sometime, there's sperm in the pre-cum. You'll know when you do a pregnancy test / when you're supposed to be in your week. If you can't have birth con... (read in full...)

How do I get out of our engagement? He's not the one anymore

Q.   My fiance and I have been together for exactly two years and one month now. I'm nineteen and my fiance is seventeen. Although he's only a year younger than me in school terms, he's just a really young guy in his graduating class. Anyways, just ...

A.   13 April 2009: Many people thing that they can make someone else change, but that never happen. In order for someone to change, it must come from within him. Relationship is not supposed to be forced on any level, it's a partnership between two people. People w... (read in full...)

How do I find more independence when my boyfriend is away?

Q.   My boyfriend of nearly a year and half has gone away for a week, and i miss him terribly. I've found myself doing nothing, just feeling sorry for myself. How do i create more independence in my relationship, and stop myself feeling so bad when...

A.   13 April 2009: Activities often help your mind to think about something else. Things like walking your dog, doing dishes, cooking, reading, hiking ... etc, could help you focus on something else and therefore give you the "I can do stuff even when he's not here... (read in full...)

Ribbed condoms?

Q.   Do ribbed condoms make a girl "loose"?...

A.   13 April 2009: No, condoms aren't thick enough to stretch more than a penis would without it.... (read in full...)

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