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I'm a 23 year old student of life, I love and study every aspect of it. I seek to understand the world around me. I'm fascinated by how well human adapt to every situations that surrounds them.

Everything that we do wrong, it's because we don't know how to do it right. Sometimes, we think that we're doing things right but it's wrong. Why do we do it wrong? Because we don't understand it enough.

The economy crisis will bring a lot of change in the human world. Big empires will fall to give place to new ones.

I predict that we'll have a home base business boom. Why? Everyone seems to want "Financial Security" with the absence of it at work(due to the fragility of the economy), most will seek money elsewhere, and where can you work if nobody has money? You'll seek to make money on your own.

"Change brings opportunity"

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Ribbed condoms?

Q.   Do ribbed condoms make a girl "loose"?...

A.   13 April 2009: No, condoms aren't thick enough to stretch more than a penis would without it.... (read in full...)

Is using mirrors during sex fun?

Q.   Do you use mirrors during sex? How so? Is it a fun experience to have sex in front of a mirror or mirrors? What makes it fun?...

A.   13 April 2009: Some like it, some don't. It gives another perspective of what you're doing. It can feel as if you're looking at someone else having sex. The only way to know if it's for you is to try it.... (read in full...)

Will he be freaked out by "down there"?

Q.   Will my boyfriend be freaked out by my vagina? There is loaadss of hair, i know i can get rid of that, but the rest of it looks disgusting to me.. The inner labia are really dark compared to my skin, and are all shrivelled and wierd:/ Also, on...

A.   6 April 2009: Hair can sometime be in the way when you want someone to eat you out. The amounts of lips, the color/shape, those are all things that vary from a person to person but it doesn't change the fact that we know what to expect. The first time is al... (read in full...)

B/f bored with me in bed?

Q.   Lately I've had this feeling that my boyfriend is bored with me in bed, he only likes to get intimate once a week and it's always on a saturday night, always at the same time and I want it more, even twice a week would be a good start. I'm open to ...

A.   1 April 2009: It's nice that you take initiative over this. Sexy uniforms sometimes spice up things, or lubrifiant that turns hot and taste like chicken (just an example, there's lots of different taste). Some man aren't comfortable when it involves tools, s... (read in full...)

Why can't he just be a man and face me rather than treating me horribly?

Q.   My boyfriend suddenly started treating me horribly. I feel like jumping in front of a bus just to see if he'll show up at the hospital. Why can't I just break up with him? That would be the logical thing to do. I feel like he's mentally terrorizing ...

A.   30 March 2009: Not many people take responsibility in life anymore. Maybe he's crazy enough to think that by doing that, he won't hurt you as much. ... (read in full...)

I cant give her what the poor girl expects as I don't feel that way!

Q.   hello dear uncles and aunts ....its a bit lengthy stuff but please bear with me ...i have foolishly messed up my life ....im 21 and my girlfriend is 18...i kinda have a strange problem....before i come to it i would like to tel u that my girlfriend ...

A.   27 March 2009: I know your intentions are good, when you have tape on your mouth, do you prefer to remove it slowly or fast? If you remove it slowly, it hurts for a longer period of time than if you remove it fast. If you don't love her and don't break up, ... (read in full...)

Has anyone ever experienced this before?

Q.   Hey Aunts...i'm wondering can someone help me with distinguishing the meaning of something that happened to me as a teenager. Well it's kind of weird, but i'm sure someone may be familiar with this sort of thing... here goes...when i wa...

A.   24 March 2009: There's always something about the first love, it's special, more powerful since it's the first time. It's like we're made to stay with the first person we went in a relationship with. It always give me sort of a shock to see my first love now... (read in full...)

Moving in with girlfriend and her kids

Q.   Hay everybody, My girlfriend and I have been in relationship for almost two years and have decided to move in together.She has three kids (7,9 and 11 from first marriage).She is seeling her house and with that money will pay off her mortgage and...

A.   24 March 2009: I think a layer would be more qualified to answer this question.... (read in full...)

Some creative and inexpensive ideas for a birthday gift would be appreciated

Q.   I need some birthday gift ideas for my boyfriend of two years. His bday is coming up in exactly one month from today, and I would like some ideas on what to get him. I am leaning more towards making him something, like some arts and craft, cookies, ...

A.   23 March 2009: Those are all good. I especially like the massage session idea. Would be nice to have a homemade supper with your cookies before that. A gift is not about price, it's about having the person in mind when searching for one. ... (read in full...)

I don't know what to do... Should I have sex with him?

Q.   Let's just get straight to the point, I'm nearly 14 and I've been seeing this lad for just over 3 weeks, he's nearly 16, but the thing is he wants sex even though he says he's ready when I'm ready. Sometimes I think he will dump me if I don't have ...

A.   23 March 2009: It's known that young lads often just go in relationship for sex, once they have what they want. They go elsewhere. There's only one first time and it can either be a magical moment or just sex. I lost my virginity at 21 to my girlfriend at th... (read in full...)

I don't even want to hug my husband..let alone sleep with him!

Q.   I never thought this would happen to me but I really don't like my husband anymore. We've been together for 10 years, since we were 18, and married for 3 years. No kids and both aged 28. I always thought we were so great together - a perfect fit....

A.   13 March 2009: 2 books 1. Love & Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs (15$ on amazon). 2. The five love languages by Gary Chapman (10$ on amazon). I know it's hard to try to bring things the other way around, it takes eff... (read in full...)

Should I send him a second message with my number?

Q.   I'm pretty new to the whole dating thing. I was just wondering. If I told a guy that I had feelings him online (I have met him) and he said he does me and that we should meet up sometime. I agreed but didn't ask when... or any question really :/ And ...

A.   10 March 2009: It might not be necessary to do so. If he asked you to meet, it means that he plans to. He will ask for your info when the time is right for him. Right now, he's probably in the planning mode thinking on what to do and say.... (read in full...)

Why can't men understand how women feel about porn?

Q.   Why cant men understand how many women feel about porn? Especially after we marry and have babies.Like it or not guys, we mothers often give up a lot when we marry and have kids, Its pretty heartbreaking when we lose our pre baby bodies and end up ...

A.   10 March 2009: There's a movie called "Fireproof" that's pretty eye opening on the subject. I love having a relationship but I also love to have time for myself to masturbate. Sometime, I do encounter people who don't like porn that much, I usually ask if s... (read in full...)

Why Anal sex

Q.   Why does a man want to have anal sex with his wife? Why that kind of sex? ...

A.   10 March 2009: It's tight, it's dirty and we know we're not supposed to. We know that not everybody loves it and we feel exited when we're aloud to do it. It can either be a painful or a pleasurable experience. It's good to tell your partner early on about i... (read in full...)

Does wearing specs mean I'm a geek?

Q.   Whats your view as society on people who wear spectacles.? Recently i moved in to a new college and i am taking science and math classes. people call me a geek. Should i stop wearing them???...

A.   5 March 2009: Up to you really, remember that in order to be successful you must sometime don't pay attention to what others tell you. I'm sure Bill Gates was called geek once. "Be careful what you say to a geek, you might end up working for one."... (read in full...)

Lack of confidence....

Q.   The problem with me is that I have absolutely no confidence in me! I'm short and lean (5'11 and 58kg), ugly, talks tech 24 hours, jobless (thanks 2 the sharemarkets!) I just cant think I'm good! And those^^ feelings comes in my way when I t...

A.   25 February 2009: There's no such thing as a victory with no struggles. Go out there and mess everything up with as much girl as you can. Once you'll figure out all the ways to do it wrong, you'll find ways to do it right. Action conquers fear every time. Only... (read in full...)

My FWB knows I am a virgin - will he still want to have sex? I don't know what to do.

Q.   me and my friend with benefits we havent slept together and i am still a virgin i lied to him and said i have been with loads of guys and then yesterday i told him the truth and now he is feeling guilty that he has ruined my first time doing cert...

A.   23 February 2009: I don't know how it feels like to do it the first time with a random guy. But I did enjoyed my first time because it felt special. Maybe he experienced the same thing the first time and want you to experience that too.... (read in full...)

Scared of guys!

Q.   Hey this goes with my other ? I get very jittery when guys get too close. And not the good kind either I hate it I get shaky and want them to leave me alone and I get actually kind of scared.(I'm glad I'm now in a good serious relationship and he ...

A.   20 February 2009: It might be because you don't know guys enough. Just like scary movies, it looks scary at first but once you know how they made the scary part, it's not so scary anymore. It can be due to self esteem, I know for a fact that I was a confused f... (read in full...)

He came in me during anal sex, can it do harm?

Q.   Hi. My boyfriend and I regularly practice anal sex. Recently, he came inside me during anal. I don't know why I'm worried but it can't do any harm, can it?...

A.   20 February 2009: You might feel a little bit uncomfortable afterwards. I don't know about that condom thing, the reason why I like doing it is because I don't have to use a condom and there's absolutely no chance of getting her pregnant.... (read in full...)

I have a hard time with girls with rejection

Q.   hi. im at uni, havin a good time with boy and girl mates but when it come to girls i "like" i find itn hard. This is because i am proper self concious even though i am told i am pretty good lookin and have a good personality i find it hard admitting ...

A.   17 February 2009: Action conquers fear every time. Go out there and do a big mess, make it your responsibility to meet people.... (read in full...)

I hate myself and my personality, what can I do?

Q.   Im 25, I have a good job, lots of friends and Im nice looking. But I hate myself, I hate my personality I feel that people think that Im weird or boring and dont want to hang out with me. Im also quiet when I go out with friends and worry I wont ...

A.   17 February 2009: Maybe you could first learn more about yourself. I read a lot of books about personalities and it helped me to understand why I was behaving the way I do. ... (read in full...)

I couldn't get an erection because I was too nervous, how can I relax more?

Q.   Hey I'm 15 and the other day I went to have sex with my girlfriend for the first time (my first time ever), but I couldn't get an erection. I already posted a question on why this was and people said it was because of nerves, if this is the case...

A.   16 February 2009: You usually become more relax over time. It might have been too soon, especially if it's a first time. Depending on the person, some like to wait until they're fully comfortable in second base (Oral, bj etc ...) before going to third base ... (read in full...)

I'm 16 and my voice hasn't broken yet. I'm worried!

Q.   well to be honest every time i talk on the phone or on the computer my voice is real high and people think either im 11 or im a girl but im a boy and im 16. im rather worried about it coz i get bullied for it. is there anything i can do or ...

A.   9 February 2009: The age vary, same thing with hair and acne. They may bully you for that now, they might bully you on something else later. The only thing that you really can do is decide whether or not it affects you.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is way too close with his brother!

Q.   My boyfriend has referred to his brother as his heterosexual life partner - they currently own a house together. I don't want to suggest any distancing between the two, but I'm afraid of getting caught as piggy in the middle. Am I wasting my time ...

A.   9 February 2009: Brothers is for life and girlfriend/boyfriend is ... well not what it used to be. It might be this way for now but it will probably change later on. He, too, will want to be more with you than anybody else. For the time being, it would be best... (read in full...)

My husband doesn't have any sex with me...

Q.   My husband doesn't have any sex with me. He went to the doctors and he is healthy. He is absolutely cold, no stimulation, or sexy touch does anything to him. He says he loves me and he does not know what is going on. Could the mistake come from ...

A.   6 February 2009: I found that, for me, it depends with the girl i'm with and how many time I masturbated that day. There's sex therapist that can give pretty good advice when it comes to stimulation. A porn movie can sometime fire things up, I know it can be d... (read in full...)

Will a condom be safe enough, or will I need to take the morning after pill?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have decided to sleep together, I am not on the pill (I had a bad time with it years ago), will a condom be safe enough, or will I need to take the morning after pill....

A.   6 February 2009: For extra protection, you can buy spermicide (sperm killer). "Spermicides can be used alone but are more effective when used with another method of birth control, such as a condom." I believe you can buy condoms that already have spermicides... (read in full...)

I love him but I'm confused

Q.   lately my boyfriend and i have been having a few problems i think it may be because of my cowardliness of commitment and i'm not one to like being tied down for too long, he and i have been "taking it easy" or "on a break" for the past couple of ...

A.   6 February 2009: The more people you see, the less sure you are about which one you want in your life. Life is not about finding the perfect person but learning to love an imperfect person perfectly. The core purpose of our stay on earth is to populate it. Time... (read in full...)

Why does our country (UK) come to a standstill when it snows when other countries manage to keep going with transport etc?

Q.   Why can't the UK get it's self together and provide snow ploughs and more gritting lorries when it snows, instead of just giving a weather warning out and having drivers crash? Why does the country have to come to a standstill? They want us to use ...

A.   3 February 2009: It's a nice question. It's the kind of thing that I like to see on Facebook.... (read in full...)

Recently I've been finding it hard to sleep, any ideas?

Q.   I am 20 years old and recently ive been finding it hard to "fall asleep" once I am asleep I am fine..I can sleep for 10 to 11 hours if I have to. its just falling asleep thats the problem. i toss and turn and stress out because I have to be up at 7a...

A.   2 February 2009: It can sometime be due to a bad diet. Stress doesn't help either. When I was in college, I remember trying to read books from my courses and falling asleep.... (read in full...)

Doubts about a lasting relationship without christ...

Q.   Hello everyone my name is Feeljoy please my question is: is there really a lasting relationship on earth without christ in your life?...

A.   30 January 2009: I think i relationship with Christ will last longer because ,during time of struggles, they focus on something else than their current situation. Therefor, avoiding arguments with spouses.... (read in full...)

How do I get her to leave her b/f?

Q.   I have a female friend who is close to me. I told her that i love her and wanted her to be my gf but she said she was not ready for a relationship. Later she told me she had a boyfriend. How do i get her to leave her boyfriend or should i leave her ...

A.   23 January 2009: Looks more like she's trying to find a way to tell you that she's not interested without hurting your feelings. If she's not ready for a relationship, why is she with a bf? Why didn't she tell you that in the first place? Stop bugging her with... (read in full...)

Facing 30 and very unhappy about it. Unlucky.

Q.   I grew up with very little opportunities in life, I grew up poor and in a badly made house with no heating and no hot running water. I also have asthma, short eye sight, learning diffculty, depressing and low self estreem, so I found school very ...

A.   22 January 2009: Many successfull people started life worse than you. The difference is that they didn't focus on their struggles, only on the goals and dreams they had. Nobody wants someone who will talk about their problems, I know I don't. We all do have pro... (read in full...)

Anyone have any information about tiba program?

Q.   I play tibia and was needing a little help. I have seen where people have a program and clone objects in the game! I need help finding how to get this program and where to get it, any help plz msg me....

A.   16 January 2009: This was found on Tibia site: He that will cheat at play, will cheat you any way. Proverb "..." Let this be the last warning to all cheaters. We do not want you here. The stage is open and we are on: It's your choice where you go fro... (read in full...)

Is there an easy and secure way to avoid her getting pregnant???

Q.   Hi, yesterday I had unprotected sex with my girlfriend. I didn't cum inside her, I came outside but after some minutes we started having sex again still without protection and without me having cleaned my penis. She is in her fertile period, ...

A.   15 January 2009: She can become pregnant even if you don't cum inside her. The precum sometime contain full fledge sperms. Condoms, birth control pills will prevent those. Ask her to take the morning after pill. "Here's how the morning-after pill works... (read in full...)

Open mouth insert foot..now what?

Q.   Last night I casually asked my gf if when we first started talking and seeing each other 6 months ago, if she was still thinking about getting back together with her ex as they had only just split up. I didn’t mean anything by it as I wasn’t ...

A.   15 January 2009: I think the solution is within the question itself. Why don't you just say to her what you said here?... (read in full...)

I heard my sis's guy say he'd like a threesome with her and me

Q.   Ok im confused not quite sure where to start. I got a phone call yesterday im in adelaide and its 5:30am now, my sister was arguing with her boyfriend. Not mine to get involved. I know that but its actually something he supposedly said to her. He ...

A.   15 January 2009: I always wanted to make love to sisters or twins. I often say it out loud just to say it knowing that it will probably never happens. Would you have react the same way if he would have said a threesome with someone else than you? I hope you know... (read in full...)

How can I turn my life around?

Q.   It boils down to this. Every time I meet a woman and see her as a potential partner I discover that she is married or in a relationship. I have had little success in getting any partner in my lifetime. This is compounding my situation because ...

A.   15 January 2009: Others see in us what we see in ourselves. If you don't feel attractive, confident etc... how can you expect others to see that you are? Smiles often make a difference in how others see you. When you smile, it shows that the person to which ... (read in full...)

My wife is gorgeous & I hate men looking at her!

Q.   Ive been married to my gorgeous wife for 7 years. Im very insecure about other men eyeing her up in public. When we go out she looks amazing, the trouble is this makes me feel very uncomfortable as im constantly being hyper-vigilent to see if any ...

A.   12 January 2009: I would feel kind of honored if people would look at my wife the way you describe them that they do. They can only droll when looking, you get to do w/e you like with her. Destroying a marriage because you find your wife too beautiful and can't st... (read in full...)

Why do men tell you lies when they don't have to?

Q.   I believe I've fallen in a deep depression. I use to be the girl that that loved life and people. I would hug strangers and always look for the best in people. Lately life has really beaten me down. Last year my husband wanted out of our 13 yea...

A.   12 January 2009: Others see in us what we see in ourselves. In other words, how you think determines how you act. How you act in turn determines: how others react to you. If you don't trust your judgment, others won't trust it. You will have someone in your hea... (read in full...)

She says she cares a lot about me and she does truly like me, but her love for her ex is getting in the way.

Q.   So basically we have history we used to go out for a year, after that they started to date for 3 years, the last year of that relationship, he neglected her and she was tired of it, but also feels she's part of the relationship failing too. So now ...

A.   12 January 2009: "If you truly love somebody, set them free. If they return, they were always yours, if not, the never were." Maybe she needed more time to get her feelings set up. It depends on the person who quick she/he is to get over an ex, they all do, even... (read in full...)

I've moved on, but still think of my ex

Q.   right where to start, ive recently had a new georgous boyfriend we get on so well and hes perfect and i love him like crazy. but latley i have found my self thinking about my ex and all the stuff we have been through together , and how i have hurt ...

A.   9 January 2009: I came across this online today and it made me think about your problem. "Trying to forget someone you loved is like trying to remember someone you never knew."... (read in full...)

I've moved on, but still think of my ex

Q.   right where to start, ive recently had a new georgous boyfriend we get on so well and hes perfect and i love him like crazy. but latley i have found my self thinking about my ex and all the stuff we have been through together , and how i have hurt ...

A.   8 January 2009: Break-ups always hurts but are often necessary when things doesn't work out. We all have times when we think about our exs and some regrets pop out in our minds. Things we should have done, or said. The only reason why it pop up is because we thin... (read in full...)

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