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Everything that we do wrong, it's because we don't know how to do it right. Sometimes, we think that we're doing things right but it's wrong. Why do we do it wrong? Because we don't understand it enough.
The economy crisis will bring a lot of change in the human world. Big empires will fall to give place to new ones.
I predict that we'll have a home base business boom. Why? Everyone seems to want "Financial Security" with the absence of it at work(due to the fragility of the economy), most will seek money elsewhere, and where can you work if nobody has money? You'll seek to make money on your own.
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How do I get over my crush on a teacher?
Q. Recently, I have transfered to another school due to financial reasons. At first, I was not too hyped about the idea, because I was going into my last year and didn't want to leave my old friends. A few months flew by, and I was into it. Howe...
A. 12 August 2008: Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never knew.
Falling in love with a teacher is something that happens often when dealing with a good teacher. A teacher must believe in his student in order for them to belie... (read in full...)
I am irritated with my girlfriend because of her flaws, what should I do?
Q. I have a big problem. My girlfriend is lovely and everything but there are some things I don't like about her. I know this myght sound like bitching but most of the time she doesn't keep up her promise: she tries hard and everything but s...
A. 12 August 2008: We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to love imperfect person perfectly.... (read in full...)
What do I do about Girls?
Q. I would consider myself a typically nice guy. Nice, defined as I like doing things for others, but I don't let them tread all over me either. I also would not consider my self confidence low. And yet still, I have the hardest time getting dates. ...
A. 11 August 2008: The opposite of success is quitting, not failure. If having a date is your goal, try again and again and again.
Don't look at a woman and think thats the only thing that could make you happy. Don't put her "up there" and you "down here".
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Should I tell his family my version of the story if it will assist me in getting over this?
Q. I have been in an 8 year relationship with a man and he has dumped me over and over again so he could go sit out at the lake all summer without feeling guilty.He has promised me twice that we would move in together, then has literally put me and my ...
A. 10 August 2008: Be a problem solver, not a problem multipliyer.
Don't try to look better by degrading someone else. The only one you're fooling is yourself.... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair - now I'm having fantasies about it!
Q. My husband was working overseas for several months. During this time we carried on a healthy phone sex relationship. After he came home, I discovered not only he was having an affair, but that he had sex with her while we were having phone sex. Of ...
A. 8 August 2008: I do feel more aroused when I do something I'm not supposed to. The fact that it's illegal adds up to the filthiness of it.
Some people are turn on when their partner having sex with someone else. ... (read in full...)
I moved to another country to be with him, now I'm pregnant with no job and no friends and he is too predictable: no quality time together! Help!
Q. Three years ago I fell deeply in love with a guy I found most attractive. The feelings were mutual and we moved in together 12 weeks later. Life was good. I was happy and he was too. The sex was great and everything was fabulous. However, things ...
A. 8 August 2008: Your "in love" experience is going away and he's not talking your love language to fill your love tank.
If I judge on what I'm seeing here, you're love language is "Quality time" meaning that if someone want to show you their love, they have to ... (read in full...)
I think I still like my boyfriend - but its affecting my life - help!
Q. I am a 16 year old gal....its almost 3 months since my breakup...my problem is very strange i can't really express it but still I'll try my best in explaining it....sometimes i feel that i love him still...i can't live without him nor am i able to ...
A. 8 August 2008: Was it your first relationship? They say that you'll never forget your first relationship, I second that!
I think about her a lot, but then I ask myself. Was I really in love? How can I know? How can I compare? I never cared for anybody else in ... (read in full...)
I am dating my best friend, who started to be with me before she broke up with her last boyfriend, I have trust issues here, she is a "friendly" girl, do I try to have her draw the line with her male friends?
Q. hi just started dating my best friend. We've been friends since her last relationship and well she's a really "friendly" person. I know cause when we were friends she kinda cheated of her bf. We nvr did anything that's considered cheating but with ...
A. 8 August 2008: If you start to create boundaries, that's when she'll want to get out.
When does a prisoner want to get out of jail? When he's in it of course.
When does a girl want to get out of relationship? When it feels like a prison.
She loves you, ... (read in full...)
How should I greet my boyfriend when I get back from travelling?
Q. hello, im about to turn 16 in a month. but anyways, this is kinda stupid but you see im traveling at right now and though i know it wasnt the best idea i got back together with my boyfriend while ive been away. thing is last time we were together...
A. 8 August 2008: W/e we would tell you, I thing that doesn't entirely depend on you. Sure you can move to him and do the kissing position but you can only do half of the work you know.
Usually, for me anyway, those things aren't planned. You just do them when you... (read in full...)
My husband is going through a mid-life crisis. I don't want to lose him.
Q. I need some help believe husband going through midlife crisis i love him dearly. He has stated he has lost all feeling for me but has said he is trying we r still together. What can i dol to help him find those feelings again. I dont wanna lose him...
A. 7 August 2008: The reason why he doesn't have feelings for you anymore is probably because you guys don't speak the same love language. His love is not nourished.
Some feel love when their partner tell them they love them. Some is by doing something special ... (read in full...)
Is being this horny, all the time....normal?
Q. ok I'm 15 and I'm always horny. Whenever i get an erection and I'm alone i tend to masturbate and its quite annoying because if i dont masturbate then I'm very horny through out the day..is there anything that i can do too not be as horny? Or is ...
A. 5 August 2008: Welcome to your teenage year mate, it's normal to be horny all the time. It won't stop until you're 25, from what I was told. (True for me so far)
Had problem with the condoms too at first, you can always ask your partner to play with "it" to ... (read in full...)
I was going to meet an online guy for sex and I think my boyfriend is controlling!
Q. hi,i need help. my bf is jealous and controling. For over one year he is constantly finding my dating profiles and complains. He has given me an ultimatum,which i find petty. All i do is have sexy chats and send each other pics. I was going to meet ...
A. 5 August 2008: How would you feel if he would be doing the same thing than you? Sexy chat online and stuff.
If you think it's ok that he does the same... Since he's not maybe you should find someone who would let you do it.
If you think that he shouldn't do ... (read in full...)
I have sexual feelings towards my cousin...
Q. me and my cousin are the same age (just 4-6 weeks apart) and are really close. Ive been having sexual feelings for her for some time now and i'm not shure whether she has the same. i have thought up a tactic to say someting like -please excuse me if ...
A. 5 August 2008: I had crushes on my cousins as well when I was younger, they were all babes! I also develop tactics like yours but stopped myself before doing them because I thought "What will my family think about that if they ever know."
Got a bit scared s... (read in full...)
Is it normal to worry about this stuff when I'm still so young?
Q. well i'm fourteen and i worry all the time about if i will ever get married or have kid's, or get a job, and what kind of job i want. and i worry about if i will ever find someone that loves me, which is werid cause even though i'm still very young, ...
A. 5 August 2008: Worrying about something won't change anything so why worry. Most of the time when we worry about something and it happens, it's not as bad as we would have imagined.... (read in full...)
My friend doesn't seem to fancy anyone. Is something wrong with her?
Q. I have a question on behalf of a friend. She is 14 and last year she had a serious - I mean serious - love for a male actor (she is female btw). She often talked about wanting to bed him etc. However, now she has not mentioned a crush of any...
A. 1 August 2008: At 14 I didn't fancy anybody, was too busy playing Pokemon cards. At that age, I thought girls were useless.
Now ... well ... I don't play Pokemon cards
(Kidding of course ;)
Give her time, it will come :)... (read in full...)
I'm 13. My mum says I can only go as far as holding hands - what do you think?
Q. So here it is. I'm thirteen. I have a boyfriend. My mom doesn't exactly approve. She's fine with me dating but she only wants me holding hands. For my age, what is acceptable in a relationship? ...
A. 1 August 2008: Depends on the person.
I didn't have a girlfriend since I was 19, and it felt as if it was the right time. Sooner would have been too soon, later would have been too late.
What I found not acceptable is going out with someone just for sex and... (read in full...)
My girlfriend likes porn a lot. Is this normal?
Q. At first, I thought male are more likely get addicted in watching porn. The case now is my gf likes it a lot. She even asked me to watch with her. At first, I thought that is a way she tell me how she likes it. The more she get into porn, the m...
A. 30 July 2008: What age is your girlfriend? I was told that when they hit 23- 25 that's about the time they get the most sexually active.
And that's about the time most guys start to settle down.
Since I watch porn, I think it's perfectly normal. I don't ... (read in full...)
I love her and care for her, but I feel like I'm being suffocated; I tried telling her this before, but she burst into tears.
Q. I have always sucked at this part and am not sure what to do... I'm 31 and have been dating a girl for about 15 months now. She's also 31, very nice, and we share a great deal in common. There have been some issues since the beginning of our...
A. 29 July 2008: Let me just say that I admirer the fact that you take personal time for yourself.
I think that you should just stick with what you say. It's normal for a guy to love a girl. It's also normal to want to have "Me time" here and there. It's during "... (read in full...)
I don't know how to react to my friend saying she is bisexual and that she likes me!
Q. Hey there....well the other night I was texting my friend Rachel and she told me she was bisexual. Then I asked her if she liked anyone...and she said she likes me. I wasn't creeped out or anything I was just...I don't know what I was thinking! I ...
A. 29 July 2008: My best friend (boy) told me the same thing. I told him that I love him lots but not in the same way that he did. We are still best friend to this day.
Didn't change anything either.
... (read in full...)
I have trust issues. I've fallen for a friend, he's bi. I don't want to ruin everything.
Q. How do you know if you are completely over your ex boyfriend? My ex boyfriend dumped me, then a day later him and my best friend (of 19 years) were going out together. It broke my heart as I lost two people at once :( It was an awful time for ...
A. 29 July 2008: A friend is for life, relationship often ends after a while. If the love is not reciprocate it will probably create awkwardness between the two of you.
I haven't experience the situation myself, but that's what I've seen. I also saw two best fri... (read in full...)
I get a lot of sleep, but I'm always tired, how do I get my mom to take me to the doctor?
Q. this isn't about love or sex or any relationships.. But I still need some help.. I sleep A LOT and I'm not sure whats wrong with me, my mom wont let me go to the doctor or anything to get checked because she just thinks it's the way I sleep...
A. 29 July 2008: There's a diseased called Menopause or "Kissing disease". Kissed someone lately ? ... (read in full...)
I feel better about my looks and I think I'm ready for a boyfriend - how do I go about this?
Q. Hey. My problem is pretty simple really, so here it goes :) I used to feel really depressed about the way I looked. I always used to look in the mirror and think "Urgh, Im so ugly". I never used to give eye-contact with people when they were talking ...
A. 29 July 2008: Be yourself. Nobody like a fake. I bet ya anything that you want that there's somebody somewhere that has a crush on you but is to shy to ask you out. It's always the case for anybody , we're so blind about it too.
Tips: If you're afraid to look ... (read in full...)
He always has to take over at some point during manual or oral stimulation and finish off the job himself - is this normal?
Q. Is it normal that I can't make my boyfriend cum by hand or oral? I can get him really really aroused but he always ends up finshing off himself by hand or by sex. I am pretty sure I'm doing it right, going fast etc, but I go for so long I just get ...
A. 29 July 2008: Well, I like a girl who talks dirty when doing it by hand. Just the hand itself doesn't do much to me, then again Maybe they didn't know how.
That's just me though.... (read in full...)
Not ready for sex and too scared to tell my boyfriend...
Q. im not ready to have sex but my boyfriend is and i don't want to tell him what should i do...
A. 29 July 2008: If you're not ready, you won't appreciate it as much. Take your time and wait, if you BF truly loves you, he'll respect that.... (read in full...)
We love each other but I can't fully trust her as she cheated and is generally flirty, how do I overcome my worries?
Q. hello i have been in a relationship for nearly two years now and i love my girlfriend to pieces, we have regular sex, a fantastic connection, we have talked about marriage, and we love each other with all of our hearts. the only thing is i dont ...
A. 28 July 2008: Nothing last forever, Life-Death. Relationship-Break up.
Don't worry about it, if it's going to happen it's going to happen no matter what.
What worries do is actually kills beautiful present moment that you live with her. That could affect the... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he like me? Why is everyone else better than me?
Q. Having met a man a few weeks ago on holiday we didnt have any sex (although he was keen to) he gave me his address and phone number and e mailed me and we met after a seminar he was attending which was just four days after returning. We e mailed a ...
A. 28 July 2008: We can't think for him so let's see if I would be the guy in this situation.
Hmmm...
After a couple of emails, maybe I would have loose interest because I would have felt like it's going nowhere, so I would have backed off. Maybe I would ha... (read in full...)
SHOULD I tell my friend I like her, although she has a boyfriend? I feel this will help me move on...
Q. I have known a certain girl for about a year. We are pretty good friends, but not in the sense we hang out a lot. We get along and I really like her. I see her maybe once or twice a week because we have some similar friends. I actually just st...
A. 28 July 2008: What do you think she's going to do? Leave her current boyfriend to go with you? Don't you think that if she wouldn't love him that she would had left him already?
I think the only thing that it would do is put you guys in an awkward position... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems a little too dependent on me, I am starting to feel responsible for his happiness, how could I talk to him about this?
Q. I am having a problem with my boyfriend being a little too dependent on me. We both love each other very much and have been living together for about 6 months. I love spending time with him when we get a chance. I recently started a new job, and I ...
A. 28 July 2008: You have "Quality time" written all over you. (It's a love language, pretty much self explains)
Have you tried to organize stuff to do with him? "Friday night, after work, want to go for a picnic at the park?"... (read in full...)
I am a very messed up kid, and I feel really stuck.
Q. I am a very messed up kid. I think I was abused a while back by my brother. He used to kiss me and sort of hump me with my clothes on. I couldn't tell my mum coz i love my bro but he was really horrible and once he got drunk and was really scary...
A. 28 July 2008: Not really a question here huh?
I feel as if you just wanted to tell your story to somebody. For someone your age, who's "messed up", I must say that you write pretty good.
Let it out.... (read in full...)
I used vulgar language around my girlfriend and now she hates me, how do I get her back?
Q. i just broke up with my girl friend ana and now she hates me alot. we broke up because of me using vulgar words towards her, any ideas on how to get her back?...
A. 28 July 2008: Apologize!
I'm going to tell you something right away. This situation will repeat itself if you don't learn to control yourself. Life works this way: "Lesson repeated until lesson learned"
My dad always told me, if you find a girl that you li... (read in full...)
I feel like the man in the relationship. And I hate it!
Q. I have been married for two years. At first, my husband couldnt keep his hands off me, but then life changed. Reality if you like. Work, baby, health etc. I work in a high powered, stressful job. Out early. Get home very late. My husband got m...
A. 28 July 2008: "Where there's a will, there's a way"
"When the going get tough, the tough get going"
In my opinion, you're totally right. It should be the other way around. (That's the kind of family I grew up in.)
I like to be in charge of things and to ... (read in full...)
She told me she doesn't know how she feels any more. What do I do?
Q. What to do when your Gf says she doesnt love you? It hurts so much!!!, My girlfriend and i have been going out for almost 4 years now. A couple of months ago she told me she didnt know how she felt anymore? I was pretty shocked but we agreed...
A. 28 July 2008: In order to keep the flame in a relationship, you always have to make an effort to look good in front of your partner.
It's something that we tend to let go once we get in the "comfort zone". (Which i think is the same think as the "old" she's ta... (read in full...)
Things are changing. He doesn't tell me what he is doing any more. I love him and I don't want to lose him.
Q. I have been in this relationship for 2months and things have been going well in the beginning but as time went on everything changed, he doesnt tell me if he is going home or what, he didnt even tell me dat he went to go fetch his child, he doesn't ...
A. 28 July 2008: Guys sometimes loose interest when they feel they achieved what they want. Some like to be challenged, work for what they want.
Maybe he knows that he won your heart and feel as if he's there an doesn't have any challenge anymore.
If Id be him,... (read in full...)
Should I risk being seen as the "Bitch of an Ex" and just tell him no, It's over?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together just over a year now but I feel the relationship just isn't working for me anymore; we seem to interact less like a couple and more like friends now, which I'll admit is my doing. I find it difficult to kis...
A. 28 July 2008: TBH with you, no matter how good you play your game. It always shows when you don't really love someone, it something that you can feel. Love is not only an emotion, it's something that you can see. It's a glow in the eyes, a sound in the voice, a ... (read in full...)
Are girls turned off if guys have hairy asses?
Q. I've been complemented on having a nice and big ass, but the thing girls don't realize that i have a hairy ass. So here's my question, is it a turn-off, or do girls mind if guys have hairy asses??...
A. 28 July 2008: I think they judge your more on performance than anything else , judging from what I see here on dear cupid.
I often see stuff like "My husband can't bring me to orgasm" etc. I never saw something like "My husband as an hairy ass, how can I tell h... (read in full...)
Men's favourite things (non-sexual) that a girl could do for him?
Q. What are a man's favorite things for a girl to do for him (non-sexual). Things that really make you smile, laugh or get the warm feeling in your stomach. [Added from the same user] Guys if a girl sent you a text, or an e-mail. What would be a good q...
A. 24 July 2008: I get that feeling every time a girl I love smiles at me. Or when she say "You know what? You really mean a lot to me." with a smile.
I guess what I'm saying is that there's nothing more beautiful than a girl's smile to me.... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm a complete turn-off for him. How can I just let it go?
Q. My boyfriend and i have been talkin about oral sex, im willing to go down on him but him going down on me is not a good idea. Its not that i dont want to but its just that im not confterble with my own body its not that i feel large or too thin but ...
A. 24 July 2008: Maybe it's to soon to do something like that.
I was with my girl for about 9 months before we saw each other naked for the first time. Took us a little while but when it happened we were totally comfortable with it. I always was actually ...
A... (read in full...)
How can I learn to enjoy swallowing, and also how can I suggest he go down on me more so I'm receiving as much as I'm giving?
Q. i really love giving my boyfriend a blowjob, but i've never let him cum in my mouth. i really want to swallow, but even precum makes me gag. is there a quick fix because i really want to do it? also, he doesnt go down on me as much, even straight ...
A. 24 July 2008: Hmmm let's see.
The way my ex was showing me that she wanted more was when we were deep kissing, she was taking my hand and showing me exactly where she wanted me to put it.
Or sometimes she would just ask me do to something to her, I didn't... (read in full...)
Do you guys flirt with the less attractive women in a group just to get attention from the others?
Q. This is a Question for guys. Do you sometimes in a group of girls flirt with the less attractive girl to get the more attractive girls attention? I have had men that I know tell me that they do this when they are intimidated by a beautiful women. ...
A. 24 July 2008: I second that thought, I tend to break the ice with a "less attractive woman" if they're in a group.
But, sometimes by doing so, the less attractive woman often end up being more beautiful than the attractive one.
I noticed that anyway.... (read in full...)
I'm scared my boyfriend will dump me or try to make me dump him.
Q. how come iam so worried to loose my boyfriend like i've seen his past relationships cause he dated some of my friends befor i known him really well! and im scared he gonna get bored of me or just doesnt want me anymore i know he loves me but still ...
A. 24 July 2008: Think, you are living a good moment with him right now. By worrying like that, you're spoiling the moment.
Why is it that when we're happy, on mind think of ways to loose or happiness.
Life is to short to be little. Life each moment as if it ... (read in full...)
How do I learn to trust my boyfriend?
Q. Okay so today i took my boyfriend lunch on his lunch break and while he was on his way i looked through his condom stash to count how many were left because i knew how many we have used. And it turned out that 6 were missing, i didnt look to see if ...
A. 24 July 2008: By doing things like that, you're ruining good moments. By saying "What would I do if without him" you're actually messing up the time when you ARE together.
Why is it that when we're happy we can't seem to enjoy it? We always tell ourselve... (read in full...)
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