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writes:I have been going out with a girl for 2 months now, but i have recently found out that at the very beginning of our relationship, she kissed another guy. She was very drunk and couldn't even remember it, her friend had to tell her. Should i ever take her back??
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reader, StudentOfLife  +, writes (9 September 2008):
 The same situation happened to me with my ex, she went to a club and make out with another guy.
She came home crying when telling me that. I could have yelled but I loved the girl and that didn't really affect me in the least.
It all depends on what you consider as cheating. To me, kissing, grabbing ass/tits ... that's not cheating. Having sex with someone else, that could be something that I couldn't stand. Then again, it all depends on the situation.
Forgiveness is the greatest act of love in my opinion.
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I don't think that she saw it as cheating on you since she didn't even remember, probably didn't even feel anything for the guy. My girl probably felt something and she thought that it was wrong so for her she cheated on me, the guilt took care of the punishment. I seriously didn't care and I think that at that point, it brought us closer.
Hope it helps! :)
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reader, xxloopyloo123xx +, writes (9 September 2008):
 if she was very drunk then i think you should take her back, however you do need to set some rules like not doing things like that! would you have done the same if u were drunk? if you like her a lot then i think that you should give her another chance, as everyone deserves a second chance.
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reader, starismine1  +, writes (9 September 2008):
 Beware of women who get drunk and kiss, flirt and touch other men. Or who bask in the attention of other men in front of you. You can tell by the look on her face, the expression in her eyes, and how her mind wanders over to where other men sit to see if they are watching her. Drinking only gives us the ability to let go of inhibitions keeping us from doing what we really want to do or saying what we really think (perhaps in a sloppy way, but we still give away ourselves). Women who crave attention from guys will always make you feel insecure about their interest in you. If you rationalize her being drunk as an excuse to forgive her behavior, you aren't looking at her clearly or seeing how she really relates to you and to other guys when she's with youu. Look for a wowan who doesn't need another man's interest in her, drunk or sober, to feel good about herself.
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reader, 05hughesk +, writes (9 September 2008):
 hiya, Well if it was at the very beginning of your relationship then i think you should forgive her.But you have to realise that 2 month is'nt that long. A relationship is based on honesty and trust.. if you think you can trust her to not do it again then go for it .. but if you think she's the kind of girl that if you forgive her then she could it again because she thinks she just going to get away with it .. If i were you i would give her another chance .. if anything does happen again .. then i would leave it because it's not worth the heartache .. x
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reader, claireleatherdale +, writes (9 September 2008):
 that all depends on how u feel mate i kissed another man at the begining of my relationship 5 years ago but that was it my bf stayed with me and now i've been happily married 4 3 years and believe me if we didn't love each other i wouldn't of said sorry and owned up 2 it so follow ur heart and if u want 2, give her another chance
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