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Everything that we do wrong, it's because we don't know how to do it right. Sometimes, we think that we're doing things right but it's wrong. Why do we do it wrong? Because we don't understand it enough.
The economy crisis will bring a lot of change in the human world. Big empires will fall to give place to new ones.
I predict that we'll have a home base business boom. Why? Everyone seems to want "Financial Security" with the absence of it at work(due to the fragility of the economy), most will seek money elsewhere, and where can you work if nobody has money? You'll seek to make money on your own.
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I've moved on, but still think of my ex
Q. right where to start, ive recently had a new georgous boyfriend we get on so well and hes perfect and i love him like crazy. but latley i have found my self thinking about my ex and all the stuff we have been through together , and how i have hurt ...
A. 9 January 2009: I came across this online today and it made me think about your problem.
"Trying to forget someone you loved is like trying to remember someone you never knew."... (read in full...)
Is being in a relationship a bigger distraction than being single?
Q. I just got out of a relationship 3 weeks ago. I was dating him for almost 10 months. I dated a loser who was a pathological liar.. and i fell in his trap. The only thing he did not lie about was his love for me. He fell in love with me, he took my ...
A. 8 January 2009: That answer should come within you. Nobody can tell you what to do but yourself.
It may be too soon to take a decision but it seems that it's about to happen though.
No need to rush.... (read in full...)
I've moved on, but still think of my ex
Q. right where to start, ive recently had a new georgous boyfriend we get on so well and hes perfect and i love him like crazy. but latley i have found my self thinking about my ex and all the stuff we have been through together , and how i have hurt ...
A. 8 January 2009: Break-ups always hurts but are often necessary when things doesn't work out.
We all have times when we think about our exs and some regrets pop out in our minds. Things we should have done, or said. The only reason why it pop up is because we thin... (read in full...)
I feel like my heart has been ripped out
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years two days ago and now I feel miserable. I broke up with him because while I was visiting my sister in another state for 3 months I found out he was cheating on me with another girl. We were suppose to be ...
A. 8 January 2009: Life is like a camera, it's what you focus on that will develop.
If you think only about him, you will feel pain. If you focus on something else, you won't.
I see some girls go from boys to boys when they get a break up just because they can... (read in full...)
Bbw curious why hot young guys are attracted to me?
Q. I am 40 and overweight. I have a beautiful face, and a pretty bubbly personality. I look a lot younger than I am (around 30ish)-think fat kirsty ally. I left my boyfriend over a year ago, and since that time I have found a lot of twenysomething ...
A. 7 January 2009: I can't speak for all of them, but I like a woman of experience, in bed, more than anything else.
I wouldn't consider a relationship with one because our thinking would be too different. I don't want to be seen as "the young boy who doesn't ... (read in full...)
Are there any home remedies to remove ingrown pubic hairs?
Q. Hi, I am 17 years old and I have a feeling that I will become sexually active with my girlfriend soon. However, one concern that I have is that I am a virgin (which means it cannot be a STD) and I have TONS of ingrown hairs on my penis shaft an...
A. 6 January 2009: Ingrowth hair is a pain, what I do is take a tweezer and try to remove them one by one. In that area, it takes no time to heal.
I don't believe your girlfriend will think it's STD, we all experienced ingrowth hair in our lives. (What ever you shav... (read in full...)
How much does a guy plan to spend on a girl on the first date?
Q. Honestly, I want a guy's opinion on this one! How much does a guy plan to spend on a girl on the first date? And how fancy of a place or settle for a quick bite to eat and not let her super size?!? LOL. Say you both met online (dating site) an...
A. 6 January 2009: I like to do things differently than "diner/movie" kind of thing and I often find things that doesn't cost much. I focus more on originality than anything else.
Last date I had, I brought her up on a big hill. I placed pillows on the ground a... (read in full...)
I don't understand what he means by me being "too attached" after 3 years! Well of course I am!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He never really talks about our future together, and he always say things that make me question how he views our future, but I never questioned him openly until last night. For example, the other night I ...
A. 23 December 2008: The mind tends to create negative thoughts when everything is fine. For some reason, we think that something must will go wrong and we do unnecessary thinking or worrying about it.
Everybody is different, some like to dream about the future, ... (read in full...)
What do I do when my boyfriend's 21 and I'm only 13?
Q. I met my boyfriend online, and had no intention of ever getting together with him. But we talked, and found we had a lot in common... and eventually it got to the point where he told me he was attracted to me; I reciprocated the feelings. ...
A. 23 December 2008: When I was younger, my older cousins used to excluded me from lots of their talks. I must have been 10 back then and they were like 18-20. I never really understood that until I reached their aged.
There's things in life that needs to happen t... (read in full...)
I need to go, but does he really need to know?! And how will I do it, if sex with him is so good?
Q. i'm 19 and i've been sleeping with a 29 y/o for the past 6 months and well in all honesty..have no intention on stopping .. however, i'm also in a relationship with boy i've been dating for the past 2 years(comming up jan1)/who's acctually ...
A. 23 December 2008: If you'r not ready to commit to a relationship, then stop it. The worse pain, for most people, is the pain of being betrayed. Being betrayed is even worse than a break up, for some*.
Do what you want to do with your life, but try to live it to af... (read in full...)
What should I do if she says no again? Why would she refuse my proposal?
Q. Hi I've lived with my partner for 6 years. We have a daughter 4 years old. Last Christmas I proposed marriage to her and she said no. It's been a long year for me as i've not got my head around it. This year i'm thinking of proposing again. What...
A. 23 December 2008: Marriage often bring stress, it's usually expensive. Some just don't fancy the marriage idea all that much. Maybe she's not a religious person, or in the same religion than you.
I wouldn't ask her again if I were you, even if you get the answer t... (read in full...)
Is my waiting for him pointless?
Q. So I'm back posting again after a month since my ex (20) and I (22) broke up. Let me say it has been a really hard month too... To recap, he broke up with me because he realized he wasn't ready to be in a relationship because he realized how ...
A. 22 December 2008:
Head games at it's best.
Life is too short to wait for someone. You made it pretty obvious that you wanted him back. He gave you false hope in return.
"Just wait a little longer and you'll have me again." Why? Why can't you have him now? Sc... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from letting these people make me feel bad about myself?
Q. I’m a university student and I had a bit of a problem with some of the girls in that they bullied me a bit to get what they wanted because I wasn’t part of their gang. They didn’t get exactly what they wanted as other people stood up for me but they ...
A. 22 December 2008: The first thing you should ask yourself is why does it bother you that much.
Found out why you don't want to be by yourself, fix it, and people will come to you.
Others see in us what we see in ourselves.
Life is not about who you associ... (read in full...)
My ex told me things she did and I'm really torn up about it
Q. I broke up with a girl in May after dating for 2 years. We were done for 4 months and then things happened that made me think we were getting back together, but it really only lasted for 2 or 3 weeks before she called it off again. It's been about 2 ...
A. 22 December 2008: Even if she's not with you, life goes on. You can't expect her to do nothing.
What you're feeling right now is the feeling of being betrayed which you should ask yourself why you feel that way.
The easiest way not to have those feeling is to no... (read in full...)
Is he falling out of love with me? The passion is dying...
Q. My boyfriend is slowly letting the passion die when we have sex.....He doesnt seem to kiss me like he use to during but he still shows effection everyday....We have been together for awhile and I just dont want to be one of those couples that things ...
A. 22 December 2008: The first few times are always really fun, whether you want it or not, it gets kinda in a routine after a while. That happens when you start to know each other more.
However, that's not a sign that someone is falling out of love. If you like to ... (read in full...)
Do I stop all contact with my ex?
Q. Hello, I need some adise on whether or not I should cut contact with my ex, who I left a couple of weeks ago. Her ex wanted to get back together and she still had feelings for him and didn't know who she wanted to be with, so I ended it because I ...
A. 22 December 2008: There's no reason why you shouldn't be friends with her if it doesn't bother you much.
I much prefer the "Let go" approach, i get to move on faster that way.
... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me, any advice?
Q. I am a guy, a few weeks from being twenty years old. I have never wanted anything more in my life than to meet a girl who wants to spend time with me. So far, I have never had anything close to a relationship, I have only held hands with three ...
A. 19 December 2008: You are what you think you are. If you feel like dirt on someone's shoe, then you are and people will feel that way when being near you.
Think more of yourself and there is more of you to show to the world.
One thing I noticed, it's only when I... (read in full...)
How can I build up my self confidence around guys?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am naturally quite a shy person... but I am also fully capable of being outgoing! It's weird, because I'm at ease with girls, but every time I talk to a guy, I just freeze up! :s I would really like to know how I can make myself fe...
A. 17 December 2008: By understanding more about yourself, you'll understand more about people around you and you'll become more confident.
... (read in full...)
He's ok after we fight and I'm not!
Q. my boyfriend i fight heaps and then after we have a fight he says he loves me and thinks everything is ok but its not it always happens and lately ive been to scared to sleep because of the same dream i keep having buts only lately when we have a ...
A. 17 December 2008: The reason why there's arguments in relationship is due to a build of stress, most of the time, because of money. Some people feel better after letting it out verbally, some need another way to let it out.
I think your boyfriend feels better a... (read in full...)
I want to change my shit life But how??
Q. I wake up in the monings and never know what to do my room gets mess a lot but I don't see the need to tidy it up cos I have been wating for my room to be decorated for 6 years. I go to college to see my friends but when I come home I don't kno...
A. 17 December 2008: Tired of chatting online?
I love to read so most of my "bored time" is spent in books. I'm reading leadership books right now, really helpful.
I just like to learn stuff, sometime I cook random things. It's fun to just do nothing sometimes an... (read in full...)
When I like a guy, I eventually get bored and irritated when he gets attached, help!
Q. Okay i have a major prob, i don't quite see the prospect of dating anyone with the way am functioning. The prob is as follows : For eg. i like a guy..like him for max a month or something...then he starts to crush back..then wehave a good ti...
A. 8 December 2008: I feel the same way sometimes, it's a matter of decisions whether you want to commit to make it work or not. The commitment vary on how well I get along my partner.
You can fall out of love, and back in it with the same person. It's a matter o... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to want to have fun before I settle down?
Q. I told my girlfriend that I think relationships at my age are more to do with fun rather than love and she got really upset. I do love her but I don't want a serious relationship just yet. I'm only 17. I've been going out with her for over a year ...
A. 5 December 2008: Maybe you're not ready to settle down, telling that to your girlfriend is like telling her you don't have love or see a future with her.
When there's love, it's not about settling down. It's just spending time with the person you love. If you don'... (read in full...)
Can a shy man be attractive?
Q. Hello. Do women find good looking articulate loners attractive - albeit strictly those who do not exhibit psychotic tendencies!? Many thanks....
A. 2 December 2008: This is an my opinion.
Bossy girls often are attracted to shy people because they will do what they tell them to.
Also woman love a shy person because they know they can trust them. Someone who's over confident will more likely cheat on them.
... (read in full...)
Internet cheating
Q. My boyfriend of three and a half years has cheated on me over the internet before. Several times. I have asked that he absolutely not use Instant Messenger for that very reason. He promised that he wasn't using IM at all. Recently, I found out that ...
A. 26 November 2008: I'm the complete opposite of "xxaziexx".
Instead of attacking him. Why not ask why he does it? He's your partner in life, not your inferior worker. Maybe it's for different reason.
If he lies to you (Which he shouldn't!), it's his problem. He'... (read in full...)
I'm 23 and have never given a blowjob. Will someone please tell me how ?
Q. Ok, this is very embarrassing for me but it's something that bothers me......alot! I am 23 years old and don't know how to give a blow job for the life of me. I have had relationships in the past and they have never mentioned it, but i know myself i ...
A. 27 October 2008: Why not try to download a movie about it?
Porn is not only made for pleasure, it can sometime be for studies of sexual fantasies/positions.. etc or to give you an idea of what to do in certain situation.
I think it would be easier for you t... (read in full...)
Her parents have grounded her and taken her phone away...
Q. Ok so I'm sure you all have heard this story a billion times, but I never thought it would happen to me. Last night I ordered some pizza to this girl's house that I don't like as a joke, and now my girlfriend tells me her parents said she is ...
A. 24 October 2008: Joke = every one laugh
Bully = not everyone laugh, and there's usually a victim.
Sorry dude, we just don't have the same sense of humor. Mine is "joke" yours is "bully".
It's ok not to like someone, but it's not okay to bring her down becau... (read in full...)
I'm a people pleaser! I'm living to please everyone else and not myself, what can I do?
Q. "People Pleaser", thats my name ! I mean like im just living to pleasing evryone and not myself. The thing that makes me happy is when people are satisfied with me and when they are not i get depressed. There is nothing wrong with me. Im good loo...
A. 17 October 2008: I believe you first need to know what your personality is. Looks like a mix of phlegmatic and melancholy.
I have a book that I could recommend to you about personalities if you want.
:)... (read in full...)
How can I create a relationship with females when I'm so shy?
Q. I am 18 and I haven't a girlfriend yet. This is because I am extremely shy. What the best way to get a girlfriend?...
A. 10 October 2008: Shyness is a pain and will get in the way. A thing I did to remove, or lower, my shyness is reading a lot of self-growth books.
I read a lot about personalities/relationships etc and realized that the reason why I was shy it was because I didn't u... (read in full...)
I engage in sex with men I don't love, because I want to feel loved but they treat me like garbage instead! What's wrong with me?
Q. iam verry clingy...i dont know whats wrong with me iam scared to be by myself, i take a lot of crap form guys...i still talk to my ex and even mess with him from time to time after he hurt me so much....stupid huh....i even have this stupid relation ...
A. 2 October 2008: Do you feel loved by your parents? It may be a way for you to get their attention.
Only reason why I say that is because I've seen it in the past and that was the cause, may be different for you though.
You're not garbage. There's people t... (read in full...)
Where do I get advice about my 16 year-old having a stash of viagra in his wardrobe?
Q. One day whilst I was off work this week, I decided to clean the house, since we have guests coming round. As I was cleaning my son's room, I found a large amount of Viagra tablets stashed in a wardrobe of his - all the tablets were unconsumed....
A. 2 October 2008: My guess is that he wants to experiment with them. I doubt that's because he needs them.
At that age, I had worse thing than viagra in my room. I wouldn't worry about it. Instead of being on your guard ready to attack, wait for him to come tal... (read in full...)
How do I tell him my real age?
Q. My husband and I have been married 4 years. When we met 5 years age I told him I was 31 when I was really 35. I'm turning 40 soon and must tell him. How, I'm scared?...
A. 2 October 2008: I've seen this a few time on pof, for some of them it went fine, some it didn't.
Maybe a bit of research, on this site, would help give you ideas on the subject.... (read in full...)
How do we find out what our secret fantasies are?
Q. My wife and I are both interested in exploring all of our sexual fantasies, we are both very kinky and uninhibited and want to go further. Is there any way for us to share our deepest darkest fantasies without the other knowing if we don't share the ...
A. 2 October 2008: It's a good idea, but I agree with replacement on that one.... (read in full...)
I love my husband to death but he doesn't feel the same, never touches me or holds me, goes on dating sites, knowing I adore him and would turn the other cheek!
Q. Dear Cupid, Gosh where do I begin. Well I have been with my husband for 5 years. Only been married a little over a year. I love my husband to death but I know he doesn't feel the same for me. Well he says he loves me but he never shows it, ...
A. 2 October 2008: You may not speak his love language. I have a book for you if you're interested.... (read in full...)
I clam up when I have to confront my ex, as a result of the abuse he's put me through. Then I explode on my wonderful husband, who thinks he's second best, not true! Help me.
Q. I am happily married to a wonderful man that treats me with the utmost respect, love and he is so incredibly compassionate. My problem is that I was married to a verbally abusive man prior to my now husband and I have 2 children with him. I move...
A. 1 October 2008: The reason why you don't say anything to your ex is because you're afraid of him.
The reason why you are that way with your husband is because you feel good with him and he treats you right.
Funny when you think about it. Give a girl all the r... (read in full...)
Would a guy get jealous when you talk to other men even when he says he is not interested in you?
Q. Would a guy get jealous when you talk to other men even when he says he is not interested in you?...
A. 1 October 2008: I am not the jealous type, doesn't mean that I'm like him.
A relationship of jealousy is a relationship destin to fail. With jealousy, you feel trap. What does a prisoner do when he's trap? He tries to escape.
If you're not supposed to be w... (read in full...)
Can steroids be the cause of me not getting a hard-on?
Q. Hi, I need litle bit advice. i cant get a hard on now. i use to be perfectly fine but then i was on steroids for a while for body building. since i have come off them i dont seem to get a hard on, i think its because of the steroids but i d...
A. 26 September 2008: From what I've heard, steriods were adding testosterone to your system which would cause your testicles to shrink because they didn't need to produce any more for you body.
I never heard of it being an hard-on problem. Although if testoste... (read in full...)
I think my best friend feels as though she's always in my shadow, what can I do to make her feel more even?
Q. Hi...I need help... I think my best friend feels as though she's always in my shadow...its hard to explain..but like people think im prettiers than her, and I get more attention from boys than her and my schol marks are better than hers...p...
A. 25 September 2008: I studied personality a bit and you seem to be sanguine, which is an out going person and your friend seems to be a melancholy which is more shy and tend to like the outgoing personality of the sanguine.
The reason why sanguine likes melancho... (read in full...)
Is their any way of overcoming this shyness and if - how? Can you tell me?
Q. Hello agony aunts, I seem to have problems talking to girls. is their any advice you can give me into asking girls out ? I see my friends talking and getting numbers off girls on the streets, but i am unable to do it as something keeps on holding m...
A. 24 September 2008: The way I gain self esteem/confidence was reading self-growth books. Kind of made me accept myself and saw other as equals instead of feeling inferior to them.
Maybe it could help you too.... (read in full...)
I don't love my boyfriend anymore, the stupid thing is that I fell in love with a guy I have never met! Don't know what to do!
Q. i am 28 and i have been in a relationship for 14 years. i have never cheated so it's obvious, my bf is the only man i have ever had sex with. never consider myself to be inexperienced, never felt bad about having only one partner simply because i ...
A. 22 September 2008: Sometime when we end up a relationship, we realize only after how much we loved to spend time with our partner.
I believe the reason why you are not attracted to him anymore is simply because he's not trying to be. After a while, in a relation... (read in full...)
Why do teen guys only have one thing on their mind? What's the big deal about sleeping around while you're so young?! Why are they like this?
Q. why do guys nowadays only want one thing. ONE thing. every single guy that i like, end up going out with them for like a month n then they think they can get straight into my pants, i was goin out wi this guy called "R" and i was with him for 9 ...
A. 22 September 2008: In my belief, we live in a society that want everything easy. We're told that everytime the going get tough, we should stop. But if we do, we'll never achieved anything.
Teens/adult alike feel as if they can't do anything so they try to find qui... (read in full...)
We are still in the relationship even though she's not 'in love' with me. How do I let go?
Q. I met my girlfriend just under three years ago, at the time i was in an unhappy relationship of about 9 years, and when we met the whole cliche happened... fireworks, sleepless nights, shortness of breath upon even seeing her in the street. We both ...
A. 19 September 2008: It breaks my heart to see things like this.
I am not going to give you any advice but share with you what I've learn from a very interesting book.
The author of the book says that there's 5 different love languages and that in other for a spou... (read in full...)
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