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Everything that we do wrong, it's because we don't know how to do it right. Sometimes, we think that we're doing things right but it's wrong. Why do we do it wrong? Because we don't understand it enough.
The economy crisis will bring a lot of change in the human world. Big empires will fall to give place to new ones.
I predict that we'll have a home base business boom. Why? Everyone seems to want "Financial Security" with the absence of it at work(due to the fragility of the economy), most will seek money elsewhere, and where can you work if nobody has money? You'll seek to make money on your own.
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How do I get my daughter to respect herself more?
Q. How can help my daughter,to respect herself more? I see, she would do anything for getting a friend, including flattering and favors. I see she has some really nasty ''mean girls'' friend, who would never approve her,and she is endlessly running ...
A. 29 June 2009: As you know, teen years is a very confusing time for everybody. Only after reading self growth books was I able to put a bit of light into that confusing cloud.
Since we don't always say everything to our parents, she might find answers to some ... (read in full...)
Men yell smutty things at me and now my boyfriend is treating me smutty too!
Q. i often have men yell smutty things at me... it's unfortunate, disrespectful, but what can i really do? i just keep walking and ignore them. sometimes, even when im with my boyfriend, men yell things at me. my boyfriend obviously gets very upset, ...
A. 29 June 2009: First impression is everything.
What, in your opinion, could make them say those things to you? Do you dress in a way that describe what those man yells at you? What's the solution?
By telling your BF not to say anything back to them, he migh... (read in full...)
What's wrong with me that I've never had a boyfriend?
Q. dear people, help me i am really desperate i am 15 and single and i have never had a boyfriend, i feel so ugly and not confident if i could just know the signs that someone fancies me so i could feel more confident with me my self and feel that i ...
A. 29 June 2009: I was going through the same phase at your age (and since I'm a boy I was happy not having big boobs.) I got my first GF at 19. You're doing something right now that I didn't have the guts to do, to seek advice/ask questions. That shows that you're ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my best friend to come to uni with me? I'm terribly insecure!
Q. Im applying for university to do a law degree, ive decided to live away and am very insecure and scared of not making friends, ive always been very socialable but find my self fake smiling at peoples jokes and thinking god please shut up ...so im ...
A. 29 June 2009: I had the same problem until I asked myself this question "What will I do once I start my career? Will I still be dependent on my friends?"
Instead of convincing her to come with you, why not work on your self-con... (read in full...)
If I told my boyfriend about me cheating... do you think he'll forgive me?
Q. Okay well I still havent told my boyfriend I have cheated because I dont want to hurt him and I dont want to destroy the great relationship I have with him now! I seriously do not think I would ever cheat on him again cause the guilt I have felt so ...
A. 29 June 2009: Trust is relationship's core. Do you have to tell him? Nobody can force you, but what if he finds out anyway?
Life is about experience; through experience, you learn and when you learn; you grow.
It might not be a good experience for y... (read in full...)
My wife watches a lot of porn. Is this normal?
Q. I just found out my wife has a tonne of porn on her laptop. We have an ok sex life having sex about 2 times a week but many times she turns me down. I noticed she seldom goes to bed the same time I do and comes to bed really late like 2am. Her ex...
A. 29 June 2009: I love porn and often keep what I like the most on my hard drive. What I keep is what I fancy or what I like to do to a woman meaning that someone could look at my collection and know my fantasies.
If you would study what she likes, maybe you coul... (read in full...)
He drools over other girls every time we go out!
Q. I am so angry with my boyfriend. He takes me out then drools over another lady looking straight past my face into hers. He has been making remarks at other ladies in front of me and I tried to brush it off, but this time it was too much. He says I ...
A. 29 June 2009: Is it being selfish to you?
Every reason is a reason to break-up with someone (when there's no reason, there's no break-up). I know a lady who divorce her husband because he wasn't getting the garbage out.
Silly? Yes it might seem that way fo... (read in full...)
Naked and cuffed to the bed and now wife won't talk to me!
Q. hello,I just got married few weeks ago we are on our honeymoon..one night I decided to be kinky after dinner and decided for bondage,my wife my against being tied;so I handcuffed my self to the hotel bed..she was downstairs for dinner,so I had the ...
A. 29 June 2009: Some people get angry when they experience an embarrassing situation when they should actually laugh about themselves. We all go through stuff that's embarrassing. (When I was in 5 grade, I pooped in my pants while I was in class)
May not seem lik... (read in full...)
Are bachelor/bachelorette parties wrong for our situation?
Q. Ok so my BF and I are thinking about getting married and the topic of the infamous bachealor/bachealorette party has come up. Something I should tell you is that my BF and I have been together for about 6 years now and we were teenagers when we ...
A. 25 June 2009: If you don't trust him with his bachelor party, how will you be able to trust him once married? You said that you don't trust him 100% since he cheated but isn't true that trust is the core of a relationship? You were able to "tolerate" th... (read in full...)
I've found a lump. Can girls get breast cancer at 16?
Q. Hi! I found this lump inside my right breast and its realy sore. i just got a new bra the other day, so i guess you could say it's the bra, making me sore, but only one breast is sore and i can feel this lump inside my breast. when i touch it,...
A. 24 June 2009: Cancer can strike at any age.
These three kinds of lumps are benign:
Cysts
Fibroadenomas
Pseudolumps
One kind of lump is malignant: Breast cancer
Cysts:
What is it? This is a harmless (benign) fluid – filled sac of tissue. It ca... (read in full...)
I found out he has a girlfriend! WHY do boys lead girls on!?
Q. Why do boys lead girls on, kiss you, hug you, act like they care for you. then when it comes to it they 'don't want a relationship'? I was with my ex for almost a year and a half, it was so perfect to begin with, we were so in love, we broke up...
A. 23 June 2009: Don't let outside sources affect who you are inside. If you let the weather, people, ..., affect the way you feel you will rely on weather, people, ..., to make you feel good.
Guys love to have woman's attention and we enjoy the thrill of the hunt... (read in full...)
How do you approach a girl while at the gym?
Q. I go to the gym about 5 times a week and lately I've been noticing this girl who always seems to coincide with me in the ab workout section, I'm kinda shy and I just wouldn't know what to say to "break the ice" sometimes she glances my way and ...
A. 23 June 2009: If she's interested in you, it won't matter what you say. The way I do it is usually watch her work out program and ask question about it like "What muscle does that work?" or "Hi, my name is ... , I notice you come here quite often and was ... (read in full...)
The case of thr stinging lube!
Q. Hey Aunties and Uncles! Thanks in avance for any help you can give - it's all appreciated :) Anyway... Yesterday when me and my boyfriend of just over a year were having sex, he wanted to do anal, so asked for me to fetch the lube ('cause we ...
A. 23 June 2009: I can't really pin point why sometime it hurt and sometime it doesn't but in my case, lube isn't the solution since I rarely use any (she says she doesn't need it).
I think it may be how horny you are. With my current partner, she seems to toler... (read in full...)
Can you name some good places to meet nice, decent, cute down to earth girls??
Q. Hi, Can you give me some good places to meet nice decent girls? Nightclubs, Bars and Pubs Do not count!! the last couple GF's I've had I met in bars and they turned out to be big headaches and I was told I've been looking in the "wrong places" so I ...
A. 22 June 2009: Church and the library are good spots for me.... (read in full...)
B/f has issues being verbally affectionate
Q. Okay, I’ve been dating my boyfriend for five months now, he's amazing and everything has been doing well until now. In the beginning he was verbose, funny, and charismatic and had no issues giving me compliments. I’ll be honest; I’m a bit needy and ...
A. 22 June 2009: "The five love languages" by author Gary Chapman. He says that if you learn to speak love, you'll be able to figure out if he speaks your love language or not and why he's doing so.... (read in full...)
We have constantly had unprotected sex, could I be pregnant?
Q. me and my boyfriend we been dating for awhile and we hardly use protection. we been having unprotected sex for 3 months but he neva cum inside me and we both know that we clear of STDs. i had my last period 28th may and its been atleast 3weeks and ...
A. 19 June 2009: What did your pregnant test say?
Unprotected sex = more chance to get pregnant... (read in full...)
B/f has issues being verbally affectionate
Q. Okay, I’ve been dating my boyfriend for five months now, he's amazing and everything has been doing well until now. In the beginning he was verbose, funny, and charismatic and had no issues giving me compliments. I’ll be honest; I’m a bit needy and ...
A. 19 June 2009: He might be in the "I won her, I don't have to do any effort now" state.
Saying to a girl that she's beautiful is like saying "You're important to me."
I don't see you as being needy, he just doesn't understand how important it is to you to hea... (read in full...)
Could I really still be pregnant?
Q. Okay Im desparate Ive searched all over the net and I can not find the reason to having the dreams that I Have I keep dreaming about breastfeeding a baby girl and the thing is I missed 2 periods and thought I was pregnant until I started to bleed a ...
A. 19 June 2009: What did the pregnancy test say? If there's one thing I'm sure of is that a period is on time ... period. If it's late, there's something going on.
The dreams are probably the results of your worry.... (read in full...)
Everything's falling apart. What should I do?
Q. I am getting to a really bad point in my life where i just feel like completely breaking down. I feel as though noone ever wants to listen to me, like yesterday for instance i was trying to help my boyfriend and his friend out and they just talked ...
A. 19 June 2009: What's "living to the fullest" to you? You seem to be focus on yourself a lot and want others to do the same thing.
Everyone likes a good listener, if you talk too much, they'll look elsewhere for someone to listen to them.
"I want people to l... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has "been around"
Q. I'm stuck I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months but I met him for the first time when I was 14. I love him more than anything but the only problem is, hes got a "record" Lets just say, he's been around. My problem is that I just can't s...
A. 18 June 2009: Might sound crazy, but a way for me to overcome such thing is to ask her to do a STD and HIV test (I do too). At least I know she didn't get anything out of it.
Looks like he's not proud of that either since he lied to you about that girl. So... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I kissed another guy when I thought we weren't official?
Q. I have just started seeing this guy for just about a month, we weren't official and the other week I kissed a guy. didn't enjoy it as thinking shouldn't do this as seeing other guy. Had discussion with the person I'm seeing and we said we are now ...
A. 18 June 2009: Technically, when it's not "official" you're still on "the market". It might still be best to let him know, if you can't live with the guilt, hoping that he won't react badly to it.
I don't see "kissing" when it's not official to be cheating... (read in full...)
He never includes me in any family functions, what should I do?
Q. what is the best way to deal with the following problem: I have been dating a man for a long time and for the past year his kids never include me in any family functions or eating out. they just don't like me because i am with their father and ...
A. 18 June 2009: Don't force your way in their lives, be on your best behavior with them with hope that they will accept you in the long run.
Respect needs to be earned. Maybe they're afraid to love you because they don't believe that you'll be with their dad for ... (read in full...)
Should I leave her be, or remind her of our times together?
Q. So yesterday I wrote of my five years coming to a end with a girl I did wrong in ways but she walked out of my life the night before and so I got my first full 24 hours alone! SUCKED SUCKED...So what do I do try and contact her? it angers me when ...
A. 18 June 2009: When someone leave a relationship, it's because it's not what he/she wants out of it. She's not happy, that's why she left. Reminding her of good time would be like saying "Remember? You used to be happy?" it would only make her realize how things ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of him repeating the same mistake again?
Q. What are the chances of him repeating the same mistake again? If a guy ever cheated on his girlfriend. Then he broke up. Then has another new girlfriend. What are the chances of him repeating the same mistake again? People always says, sec...
A. 17 June 2009: It depends, for me, when I find someone who's worth it, I'm no longer in the looking zone.
But when I'm with someone who I don't really care about, I still look around. If I do that, it means that she's not the one for me and I end it there.
... (read in full...)
Should I try sex with a boy to see if I like it? Where to go from here?
Q. Hi i am in a predicament at the moment. I have only ever been with girls and had gf's ext. but for a few years now all I ever watch is gay porn and have fantasised myself with guys alot, I've even done some things to simulate a guy if you know what ...
A. 17 June 2009: If you don't get it out of your system now, the desire to try with a man will rise again in the future and you might have a girlfriend who'll get hurt.
It might be best to get your sexuality figured out before starting something with someone.... (read in full...)
24 year old teacher touches me and wants to hang out. I love him!
Q. I am in love with my 24 year old teacher. I am 15 so there is only 9 years apart, and if i wasnt a student it wouldnt be a big deal. This is his first year teaching at the high school and he is a amazing man. When he isnt teaching, he is just ...
A. 17 June 2009: I would suggest to wait 3 years for reasons you already know.
He does seem to be interested in you, which to me, shows that he doesn't have much self control and makes me wonder why he chose to be a teacher in the first place.
If he does th... (read in full...)
I found a ladys deodarant in his draw!
Q. so.... this weekend i went to sleepover at ma bfs place. anyway i foynd a ladies deodarant in his drawer and i really dont know wat to make of it.he said he didnt know who it belonged. anyway i thru it out but now am reall wondering is he having ...
A. 17 June 2009: Could be from past relationship, I moved since me and my ex broke up and I still find some of her stuff in my room at times.
If he says he doesn't know, it might be true. He might have friends that come over and forgot her deodorant.
... (read in full...)
I don't love him - what should I do?
Q. Hello I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and four months. I do not love him, but I care about him alot. I know he loves me, and this hurts him to know this. I feel horrible for feeling this way. I have had bad relationships in the past and...
A. 16 June 2009: Say what you told us here to your boyfriend. He might like to hear the truth about this.
If it's because you're still confused about the feelings you have for him, tell him you are so he doesn't start the buying process or anything against ... (read in full...)
Worried about Swine Flu, looking for reassurance
Q. Hey, Alright I know it's near enough impossible that I have it but I'm quite worried now. I read the symptoms for swine flu and I have a few of them, now I know it's more than likely a cold or some sort of flu - or it could maybe be my body rea...
A. 16 June 2009: There's more people who died of Malaria last week than known case of swine flu.
They'll say anything for you to keep watching T.V., not saying that it doesn't exist, just saying that there's currently lot more devastating disease and that the reas... (read in full...)
My ex wants me to be her best friend
Q. (She's 20 and i'm 19 and she's in SF and i'm in OC) Ok so me and my gf were going out for 1 year and 3 months and we were absolutely happy until she started having doubts for all the wrong reasons and to elaborate the doubts were never real doubt...
A. 16 June 2009: Are you going to be able to accept the fact that she's dating other guys?
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I don't know whats wrong with me, I'm not in good health
Q. I have been on a roller coaster sense starting high school. I have had friend problems guy problems and of course more. Last december I got to the point that I felt so alone I cried every night. I have never had problems with making friends and get ...
A. 15 June 2009: You let life happen to you, you let outside sources influence your emotions, your self worth, your decisions.
You lost yourself in the process of "people influence me", you don't know who you are anymore because you changed too much.
You're ... (read in full...)
I really like her but what's the best approach?
Q. There is a girl i been liking for 4 years know and i want to know how do i approach her. i think she is showing sign of intrest but i am not sure last night she fed me some french fries. ok me and her became celebate and she's happy i told my friend ...
A. 15 June 2009: Life is about working towards the thing you want. Whether she likes you or not, it doesn't matter, you do.
Don't be afraid of a "no". If she does say no, it will give you the opportunity to move on to someone else.
If you ask her, there's a ... (read in full...)
Attracted to older men!
Q. So I am 17 and my issue is that I am not into high school boys, I have never been with an older man but I am more attracted to the idea of being with someone older! Most men that i am attracted to are between the age of 25 and 27. Does that make me ...
A. 15 June 2009: Depending on the laws in your state, it could get him in trouble.
I've been told by a girl that she found 25 year old men to be less confused than younger years. That's why she was attracted to them.
People will always have something to say... (read in full...)
Am I a bad friend if I don't approve of her cheating on her husband?
Q. I hate to be in situation like this. I have a very close female friend whom I work with. We are both working overseas actually. Yesterday we had an argument coz she said she was disappointed with me for not defending her as much as she needs as her ...
A. 15 June 2009: I like what you said "history repeats itself", it's true that it repeat itself, not just for your friend but at a global scale.
It's alright for you not to approve, it's also alright for you not to take part in it. In a way, when you defend h... (read in full...)
Girls lose their virginity without having sex
Q. is it true that girls loss their virginity with out having sex? my girl friend with whom i studied high school have no virginity and told she never dated with anyone before me.and now we are living in different worlds and about to get married with ...
A. 11 June 2009: It's possible that she lost her hymen by inserting something in there. I heard that some woman lost their hymen when horseback riding.
In my opinion, you only loose your virginity once you have vaginal sexual intercourse with a man. If she says... (read in full...)
He always finishes the job (oral sex), am I not doing it well?
Q. I have been dating my "boyfriend" for about 9 months and we've had a physical relationship for about 6 or less. He obviously wants oral and I have willingly given it. We were firsts for each other and I feel like I am doing the worst possible blow ...
A. 9 June 2009: Well I figure everybody is different because some girls told me they were good and they couldn't get me off.
What I do is tell them stuff like "Tighter" or "Only the tongue" etc ... to help them out. I never encountered someone who found that off... (read in full...)
Views of success
Q. This isn't much of a relationship question, but I'm asking it more along the lines of what people's opinions are about it. If your daughter's dreams were to: -Graduate from High school early -Marry the man of her dreams (who supports and loves ...
A. 1 June 2009: The best way for her to experience life is to learn from her own mistakes.
You can't approve everything that she does, you can only hope that you educated her in a way that she'll make good choices of her own. It might not be something you woul... (read in full...)
Sex and virginity
Q. hey, ok I have a million questions, but ill ask this one question that I have had in my head for a while. im a virgin and I always think guys want to have sex with me because of that but I also think once I tell a guy im a virgin they don't want to ...
A. 30 May 2009: The first time is always special. Some guy people experienced something special for their first time and want it to be special for you too. They back down because they know they might not make it special for you (because like you said, they probably ... (read in full...)
I'm slowly developing a hatred towards women...
Q. A girl that I've been crushing over for about a year just rejected me. In my lifetime I've developed crushes over many girls and not one of them ever said yes, I can't fucking take rejection any more, I can't even feel the pain, I'm slowly ...
A. 30 May 2009: When I was younger, everything that was happening to me felt like the end of the world but when you grow up, you realize that you can take more than you originally thought.
Life is a journey that will shape a world in your image.
You can eithe... (read in full...)
Obsessed with lesbian porn!
Q. hey im 19 yr old girl, im engaged and pregnant but i have an obsession with lesbian porn, i watch it daily. i dont fancy women but id love to hav a woman go down on me, it gets me so horny when i watch it on videos. i love oral sex of my bf and ...
A. 29 May 2009: I might be able to help you out with videos. What's free is usually less good than what you pay for though. I know free sites, if you're willing to pay for one, I could probably find the best one for your taste.
Being Bi-Curious is normal. ... (read in full...)
Am I old before my time?
Q. Im 25 years old, i dont drink much, i keep fit and im happily settled with my long term bf. Everything initially sounds rosy however since ive become happy and settled none of my friends want to know, i constantly try to organise days and nights out ...
A. 27 May 2009: The friends you currently have, are they the same than the ones you used to drink with?
It's normal for people to change interests in life, there's no age for that. Usually, an interest shift is followed by a friend shift.
In life, you tend to ... (read in full...)
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