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Everything that we do wrong, it's because we don't know how to do it right. Sometimes, we think that we're doing things right but it's wrong. Why do we do it wrong? Because we don't understand it enough.
The economy crisis will bring a lot of change in the human world. Big empires will fall to give place to new ones.
I predict that we'll have a home base business boom. Why? Everyone seems to want "Financial Security" with the absence of it at work(due to the fragility of the economy), most will seek money elsewhere, and where can you work if nobody has money? You'll seek to make money on your own.
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My wife had an abortion before we met, now I don't want her.
Q. How to address this situation. I have been married for 23 years and very happily. We have 2 boys and they are now adults. I received an email from a site that revealed someone looking of my wife of 23 years. It turns out that the person is an ex ...
A. 7 July 2008: I prefer abortion than seeing kids on the streets because their parents can't feed them.
You'll have to accept the fact that not everyone is like you, we all have our believes, our past that may not follow your believes.
You should never mar... (read in full...)
She wanted to know from me if I wanted her to go away, or stay with me and wait for me. I don't know what to do!
Q. I am totally confused and I am afraid I am going to make mistakes and we all know you get older not younger. At the end of the year, I had my heart torn out by a girl I was completely in love with and ready to marry. I was really hurt and wasn...
A. 7 July 2008: Don't expect to live a life without making mistakes. I think you may be seeing this a bit the wrong way. I feel as if you're the good guy here, as if that you're not the one who lost your ex, she's the one who loosed you.
You can't live a life thi... (read in full...)
My BF has the chance to see many girls at his summer place of work... and I'm super jealous!
Q. ok i think im just about the most jealous person my bf just got a new job workin at a canoe launch loadin and unloadin the canoes into the water and i went up thr yesterday 2 pick him up from work and the girls there are dropd dead sexy perfect body ...
A. 7 July 2008: When you own a car, it doesn't mean that you can't look at other cars.
If he's happy with you, why would he risk the relationship?
When I was with my girlfriend, I was still looking at other girls all the time. When I was seeing a cute gu... (read in full...)
I tend to get attached very easily - should I hold back or throw myself in there??
Q. Hello all, 11 years ago when i was 16-17 i had a relationship with a bloke of 18-19. We were good friends before (i classed him as a best mate) but we had AMAZING and very adventurouse sex. i was going to uni so was unable to continue to see him....
A. 7 July 2008: I say go back to see what man he grown into. But that just me, I'm the curious type.
I feel as if you may regret not going back to see him. Maybe there's something still there, maybe not. Only one way to find out.
I prefer crying because I... (read in full...)
The problem is, I'm jealous of everyone who is successful...
Q. I am 19 years old, but i feel that i've wasted my entirely life doing nothing. I'm often compared with my sister, who is 15 and already has a boyfriend, knows to play the piano, goes to hawaiian dance lessons, is going to enter the school she wants ...
A. 7 July 2008: Life is all about being the best "you" that you can be. You should stop focusing on other people and start focusing on yourself, your goals, your dreams.
When I was 19, I didn't accomplished much either. Got my first GF at that age, guess its a st... (read in full...)
I had a baby very young and people seem to judge me. How should I handle this?
Q. why do people always judge me when they see my in the streets, or abuse me and call me all the names under the sun when they see me with my child. im 16 now, just after my 14th birthday i was raped by a friend of my cousins in his late 20's and ...
A. 4 July 2008: I admire you entirely, you're very strong.
We live in a world where people judge by what they see instead of judging with facts.
Live for yourself, let others say what they want. What matters is that you are a proud young lady who love her chi... (read in full...)
I'm 6 mths pregnant and I hate what's inside of me, what do I do?
Q. im 17 and 6 month pregnant i dont feel i love this child i hate whats inside of me what do i do ...
A. 25 June 2008: Put him in adoption when he's out so a family could love him like he deserves.
I don't know what happened, but he must represent something bad if you don't want him ... sorry to hear.
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How can I know if someone I know from the Internet likes me?
Q. how do i know if this guy likes me?? when we are both online we always talk together....is there like something i can do to know if he likes me in that way or he thinks of me as just a friend....we actaully know a lot about each other! soo can u ...
A. 25 June 2008: It's really hard to say, long distance relationship can be an hassle sometimes.
It's more painful than anything else since you can't really touch the other person and stuff.
I don't suggest it to anyone.... (read in full...)
How can I get on birth control without going to my mother's doctor?
Q. well the thing is i want to be put on birth control and i have been haveing sex for about 3 weeks now and and we been using a condom but how does a 17 year old girl get birth control with out going to my mothers doctor and she nows i want birth ...
A. 25 June 2008: I don't think it's possible, you need to go there so he can prescribe the right ones and stuff.
You want something that works right? Don't take any chances and go see a doctor.... (read in full...)
What do you do when your girlfriend still has strong feelings for her ex?
Q. what do u do when ur girlfriend still has strong feelings 4 her ex?...
A. 25 June 2008: I'd probably say something like "Look I just want you to be happy, if I'm not the one that can do it, take the road that will bring you to it."
It's hard to do, but look at it this way. It's for her own good, and yours. You deserve to love som... (read in full...)
I just don't know what my heart wants! And I don't want to hurt her!
Q. argh help! i dont know what i'm doing! i broke up with my girlfriend about 3 weeks ago after a 2 year long relationship, the breakup wasn't brilliantly handled on my part in the sense that i'd never broken up with someone before and I broke up with ...
A. 25 June 2008: This is a similar situation than what I'm in right now. Was with this girl who was like you in a way (committed part). She broke up with me for a month and then came back saying she still had feelings for me. The coaster started again...
After... (read in full...)
I'm worried my first time will hurt!?
Q. Im thinking of having sex with my boyfriend , but im worried about the pain. I have a horse and therefore i ride alot , ive rode all my life and im also very sporty ive been told that by doing sports that that can make it less painfull ? so do you ...
A. 24 June 2008: It all depends actually.
The first time that I did it with my GF (both virgin at the time) she told me that it was a little bit painful for the first 2 minute and after that she was ok with it. She also told me that she had a little bit of blood... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend and I don't feel guilty. Do I have no morals or is it a reflection of my crumbling relationship?
Q. Why don't I feel guilty for cheating? I've been with my bf for a year and things have been really bad between us for a while now, we can't seem to fix it but he won't let me break up with him. Last night I ended up giving a blow job to a guy from...
A. 24 June 2008: Well in my opinion when something like that happens it's because you don't have any feelings left for your current BF.
I believe that if there's love, you won't have the urges or the need to "play" with another person since you're satisfie... (read in full...)
What can I do? ! really hate my body!
Q. Hi i'm sure you get this all of the time but i'm going to ask my question anyway. i really hate my body. i have small breasts (about a b-cup) they used to be bigger (a c cup) and then they shrunk (i lost 30 pounds because i was overweight). they are...
A. 24 June 2008: I don't care what you say, I know that you are beautiful. You don't want a man to love you just for your body but for who you are.
Don't change for them, they're not worth the sacrifice. God as everything planned for you, when the day will com... (read in full...)
How do you sleep when your partner isn't there?
Q. Not really a problem, just curious. This spring my girlfriend took a trip to see her family and she had been preparing her luggage and I noticed she had put in some t-shirts of mine. She frequently wears them as night shirts but there were from ...
A. 20 June 2008: C: Mimic their presence in some way.
I like to cuddle a lot, when she wasn't there, I was falling asleep with her pillows between my arms.
All depends on the person really.... (read in full...)
Man charged with sexual assault to me, I feel sorry for him and am scared.
Q. This isnt really about relationships but i value everyones advice on this site and iv always came here in the past with troubles. so im hoping you guy can help me now. A good few months ago a man who i new from a rival store to the one that i w...
A. 20 June 2008: I think you done the right thing. You're right, he was a stupid man for doing such thing. If you let him get away with that maybe he would have came back and do something worse.
That's going to make him think twice before doing something like tha... (read in full...)
My BF is a very abusive person, swears at me and even tried to strangle me. Is he iterating his father's violent behaviour?
Q. My boyfriend and I have always had a great relationship but recently he's started to sort of bully me..ie pushing me pull my hair etc, nothing to serious. However, the violence seemed to escalate further just last week as we had been out at a pa...
A. 11 June 2008: I think that you're are being in a trap, the fact that you loose contact with the people close to you kind of creep me out a bit.
Who will you turned to if things get worse?... (read in full...)
My BF is a very abusive person, swears at me and even tried to strangle me. Is he iterating his father's violent behaviour?
Q. My boyfriend and I have always had a great relationship but recently he's started to sort of bully me..ie pushing me pull my hair etc, nothing to serious. However, the violence seemed to escalate further just last week as we had been out at a pa...
A. 11 June 2008: Your boyfriend did have a bad model when he was younger.\
But I don't think he understand the simple principles that goes like this "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you."
I think that he should follow the same medication ... (read in full...)
Have nightmares all the time because I was sexually abused by my second BF, my first relation was also a failure so now I am hopeless and don't know how to work this out!
Q. Someone please help me. I feel so messed up. Early 2007 marked the time when my life begun to turn upside down. I went from being a innocent 17 year old who hadnt even kissed a guy or had a bf, to being a 18 year old in an emotionally, mentally, and ...
A. 11 June 2008: I think the best way to put this behind you would be to talk to a professional.
You need to talk to somebody, it will help. I had a friend who talked to me about her abusive past, and the nightmares that she was still having about it. She admitted... (read in full...)
Why do girls always say I only want sex?
Q. I've been reading a lot of books about relationship, confidence, how to think positive etc... Those books changed my life. I've became more social, self-confident and more of a people person. I seem to be getting the wrong idea out though. I in...
A. 6 June 2008: I never saw it that way before.
Wow, I knew I was doing something wrong. Next time, It's going to be the most publiciest of public place in the world.... (read in full...)
Why do girls always say I only want sex?
Q. I've been reading a lot of books about relationship, confidence, how to think positive etc... Those books changed my life. I've became more social, self-confident and more of a people person. I seem to be getting the wrong idea out though. I in...
A. 5 June 2008: I don't feel as if I'm acting any different with these girl since I don't have feelings for them and don't want anything else than being friends.
I do like to have physical contact with someone. Now that you mention it, maybe they see it as if I'... (read in full...)
I want a baby but I have no boyfriend and am only 12.
Q. i want a baby but im only 12 years of age. im a single,im good with babys i baby sit my cosin 2. i feel like im ready, but am i. how can have a baby without a boyfreind....
A. 5 June 2008: Well I think you first need to wait a little bit. You may be ready to have a baby, but you need to think about the baby first.
You'll need money to feed him, diapers, toys etc ... I was told that during the first year, the baby can cost about 20... (read in full...)
Should I let my wife sleep with other men because I sleep with other women?
Q. Actually i like sex and i am having sex with many girls. one day my wife has seen me during sex with another girl. that time she did not say anything but right now she has also staret to have sex with her male guys. she do the sex in front of me and ...
A. 5 June 2008: "Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you."
I've seen some people who had open relationship like that, they're doing fine. Even though they have sex with other people, they're still in love.
Sex and love are 2 different things... (read in full...)
Making myself sick by thinking I'm gay because I get aroused by girls sometimes
Q. Anyone out there who is female and turned on by females in the general public...lately ive been getting turned on by femininity but love my bf and love thinking of him cuz thats REAL to me...my mind is diverging though and i wanna know if you do ...
A. 5 June 2008: I sometime encounter boys who I find very attractive. The idea of having sexual intercourse with them never occurred... yet anyways.
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We are now at the stage where we just don't have sex, my wife says she cannot explain her lack of libido; I do not know how to save my marriage!
Q. Hi I am a 29 year old man and i have been with my wife for 5 years married for 3 of them. We have a little girl who is nearly two and we both dote on her. Just after we were married our sex life appeared to change dramatically, I understa...
A. 5 June 2008: I was in the same situation once (sex...). Turn out I just didn't know how to turn her on, I did some small changes and noticed a big difference.
My problem was with what she was seeing of me. I was always a mess, wasn't dressing properly... (read in full...)
Is it to late to say, I have made a mistake?
Q. I split up with my boyfriend after a year because he always put me down and I was fed up with the arguements.. He was really upset and said he would change if I gave him another chance but I was unsure and so had to think about it. I'v now realised ...
A. 5 June 2008: Well maybe his love for you, since it wasn't nourishes, faded away.
We often don't realize how happy we are while we're living it. We don't notice it until it's gone.
If he doesn't love you anymore, find somebody else who will. Find another kin... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: The way that I see it is that you feel as if you're not attractive and unwanted when he does it right? (My girlfriend once admitted that's what she felt at first)
It's just something I liked to do, just like playing cards with friends or watching... (read in full...)
Boys seem to only like me as a friend! Any suggestions?
Q. i am lonely. i haven't had a boyfriend now for just over a year. i think it's because i get called a bloke at school.. and boys are afraid to go out with me because they will get the mickey taken out of them. i have pleanty of friends and they are ...
A. 4 June 2008: You're 16 year old? I got my first girlfriend at age 20. Think that I regret it? NO! Everything just happened by itself too, was awesome, totally loved it.
Well good relationship often starts with a good friendship with someone. (Noticed that on ... (read in full...)
Do I tell him about sleeping with someone else while we were broken up?
Q. hi. me and my boyfriend both lost our virginity to eachother last january (so around a year ago) a few months after this we broke up for a bit, and i ended up sleeping with someone else. all i thought about was him. we got back together and ...
A. 4 June 2008: I think you should wait to see if he ever ask you that question.
If I would be at his place, I would have thought of the idea that you may have slept with another guy while I wasn't in the picture.
I would understand it and accept it without w... (read in full...)
Does it mean he doesn't love me if he lied about the porn?
Q. I am torn because my bf of about 8 months looks at porn. I found videos he dowloads, web cams vids and short movies. I am very hurt and feel betrayed. I asked him in the beginning if he looked at porn and he said no. Then i found it on the comp. I ...
A. 4 June 2008: The reason why he lied to you was probably because he knew you would react like that.
I don't quite understand why some people get mad when their mate looks at porn. I was actually happy when my girl was watching some because who do you think wa... (read in full...)
If a guy wants to flirt, how would he do it?
Q. guys need ur help..if a guy wants to flirt, how would he flirt...theres this guy i like, he came up to me from the back and played with my ears(infront of everybody, if it makes a difference)...and then he played with my hair... i know i wrote about ...
A. 3 June 2008: Depends on the guy, but looks to me like he's interested.
When I "Flirt" I'm just nice with the person I'm interested in. I smile, and look directly into her eyes.
I test her out by first giving my hand when I introduce myself, just to ... (read in full...)
Knowing about her past makes me feel inadequate, but I love her! So why do I feel like running away?
Q. My problems kinda about jealousy... So i'm really, really close with this girl. we're not ''official'' but only because I wanna give it time, we do everything a normal young teen couple would do. My problem is with her past...It isn't that sl...
A. 30 May 2008: The important thing in a relationship is not each other's past but the present and the future with that person.
You both have different life background, it doesn't mean that you can't follow the same path as of now.
If she's with you, it mea... (read in full...)
I got a present for my boyfriend! Should I mention it or not?
Q. I got a present for my boyfriend. I'm so excited about giving it to him, but at the same time, I don't want to tell him what it is until I see him. Do you think it's annoying that I told him I got him a present but I can't tell him what it is? Is it ...
A. 30 May 2008: I'll talk about what I would like on this one.
I would prefer not knowing it before you give it to me. Because that way I won't spend time thinking "What did she bought for me, maybe it's this I told her I like, or that... " and usually you make... (read in full...)
Does his porn preferences mean he is gay or bi?
Q. My husband, Does mean he is gay or bi? Been married for a few years and have kids together. He often watches porn and masturbates. I know he likes to watch 2 girls or threesomes. He really loves going down and swears he is a p...y man. But lately ...
A. 30 May 2008: I'm really open minded when It come to sex and I like to experience new things when it come to it too.
Luckily I was with a girl who liked to experienced to, and I did experience things anally which I enjoyed. I read on the internet that we, guys... (read in full...)
'Truth or Dare' game leads to an awful revelation by my wife! Am I over-reacting?
Q. I've been cruising this site on and off for a while. I like to read the questions and have even given my own advice a few times. Now it is my turn to ask for advice. My wife and I had a party last weekend. After the group dwindled down to 12 or so...
A. 30 May 2008: I heard this once "size doesn't matter, it's how you use it that matters."
I feel as if you are overreacting. She saw a bigger penis than yours, so what? He's not the one making love to her, he's not the one married to her, he's not the one who ... (read in full...)
Guys, any flirting tips for girls?
Q. guys, how do u like girls flirting with you?? and girls i can really use ur help! this guy i like, hes very open minded and experiences, but i have never had a bf, hes all flirting i dont know what to say back to his flirting...and i know u have to ...
A. 30 May 2008: If a girl wants my attention, she needs to be herself. I like someone who smiles, a bit shy. I like when I have good conversation with them, I like when they come close but not too close to me (Forget the boob thing) and I do like to have the ... (read in full...)
Any advice on dealing with my unreliable mother?
Q. I hope you guys can help me out with this. My mother is really upsetting me! Not only is she one of those nagging mums, who get on your nerves and interfere with EVERYTHING you do! But it seems as though she doesn't care about me anymore. ...
A. 30 May 2008: Well moms really are weirds sometimes, seems to me like you have one weird one of your own too huh?
The best thing that you can do about it, in my opinion, is probably to talk to her. Calmly and respectably, to show her the mature side of you.
Mo... (read in full...)
What should I do? Tell her about my true age?
Q. i met my girlfriend when i was 13 she was 18,i told her i was 16,im now 23 and she's 28 what should i do/how should i tell her? (p.s we never had sex before i turned 18) i would also like to know if iwas ilegal for me to like make out with her a h...
A. 30 May 2008: I try to put myself as the person who receive such news but I just can't figure out how I would react.
Please give me an update on this, I really want to know how someone would react to that.... (read in full...)
I was wondering if it's okay to give my instructors a 'thank you' card and maybe some chocolate?
Q. Hey, i have jst recently left school and i was particulary friendly with one deparment in my school, i got flute lessons and singing lessons and i would lvoe to get my two instructors a crad saying thanks and prehaps a small chocolate thing? there ...
A. 30 May 2008: I think that if you want to give a good gift, you need to know the person. What he likes and such, it's kinda hard for "us, cupid" to give you good ideas like that.
A gift certificate to a store of his liking mby? A T-shirt with his name and a lo... (read in full...)
He doesn't make any sounds when we make love...
Q. i have a boyfriend.we have been together for a year and ahalf. When we make love he doesnt make any sound he so quiet that i wouldnt know if he is enjoying himself. Well i asked him why he's quiet? He told he he doesnt know and he said i also dont ...
A. 30 May 2008: I do the same, doesn't mean that I don't enjoy it. The only reason why I don't moan is because I'm concentrated on pleasuring my partner and that I want her to moan.
I don't think you need to worry about it.... (read in full...)
I met my GF 6 years ago and to this day she is unaware of my real age!
Q. alright i have been with my girlfriend for 6 years,problem is when we met she was 20 and i was 14 but i told her i was 16 it was still young but not as bad i knew if told her my real age she wouldn't take a second look at me.im now 18 and she's ...
A. 30 May 2008: There's not a thousand way to do this, you have to tell her.
Tell her that the reason why you did it was because you had the foolish idea that she would look at you only for your age instead of whom you were. That you did it because you wanted t... (read in full...)
I was wondering if it's okay to give my instructors a 'thank you' card and maybe some chocolate?
Q. Hey, i have jst recently left school and i was particulary friendly with one deparment in my school, i got flute lessons and singing lessons and i would lvoe to get my two instructors a crad saying thanks and prehaps a small chocolate thing? there ...
A. 29 May 2008: No better way to say "Thank you" than a gift of goodbye. I'm sure they'll feel good inside if you do so :)... (read in full...)
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