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writes:[sorry for such a long question]Well my boyfriend and i have just recently got together and it has now been at least a month and a half. he told me before we got together that he had liked me for almsot two years and that he was so happy that i finally said i would be his girlfriend, everything was going great he took me out and he said nice things. then not to long after he told me that he didnt know what he wanted from "us" and that he changed his mind about me after all he said. he refuses to leave me and says he still loves me but still doesnt treat me like he used to, we hardly speak now and he desnt show any affection? i really want to be with him, what do i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionRecently he has also been making future plans for the both of us? this just confusses me as he stills doesnt act like he used to. is he still in it for the chase or has he just come to his senses?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI just want to say thankyou so much for the advice it has made me think and has helped me alot thankyou! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): There are alot of guys and gals out here who are mental ill--they play mind games and toy around with the emotions of others. This is why it's not a good thing to get too close to a person too soon regardless of what they are telling you. Knowing what I know about relationships and the entire dating process, I wouldn't care if the guy had a crush on me for five years....I am taking my time and not getting too involved. This guy was playing games from the very beginning and had no intentions on every being with you. Sometimes, as the months go by, the person may start to develop deep feelings for you, but this guy isn't worth all that aggravation. Just cut your loses and do positive things to get over him. I know how you feel...a guy..my ex two years ago did something similar and it went on for about 8 months.I use to always tell myself that I wish I had left him earlier rather than later. It took me over a year to get over him and I had to seek therapy for the emotional and mental pain I was exp.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (27 July 2010):
 I agree with the other aunties and unlces.
He didn't want YOU, he wanted the chase.
Let him go.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (27 July 2010):
 What do you do now? You block him from your email, phone, I.M., Facebook, etc. It's a lost cause. It's his choice - which he is entitled to make - not to continue. He doesn't sound very considerate, however.
Don't even ATTEMPT to remain friends with him. I agree he just seemed to like the thrill of the chase, and has now decided he doesn't want any more.
Therefore: YOU don't want any more with this man, either!
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reader, starfairy +, writes (27 July 2010):
 Sometimes the chase is more fun than the catch unfortunately
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (27 July 2010):
Dump him. He's in it for the chase and nothing else. How shallow. All he wanted was to chase you. Now he has you, he doesn't know what he wants. It's a waste of time to be with him, you'll just waste your life. End it now, move on to a guy who actually is interested in more than just the chase.
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