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writes:I'm having a bit of a sex problem ... Okay so I have been masterbating since I was 4 but with a book so when I started having sex I was surpriesed I couldn't get there i have been have sex for years now and I can't figure out what I'm doing wrong I had a patient boyfriend but nothing we do gets me to orgasim somebody please help , tips or anything ! Reply to this Question
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (19 August 2011):
 Have him "go down on you" tounge never fails.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2011): Thank you so much for all the responses I'll be sure to try all of them ! : )
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reader, bunnyblueeyes  +, writes (19 August 2011):
 Its seems to me that because you're so stressed about not coming during sex, you're stressing yourself out and not relaxing.
Sex doesn't always have to be about the big finish. Forget about trying to come and try relaxing and just going with it,
It may help.
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (19 August 2011):
Hi there. When you say you masturbated with a book, are you saying that you used the book to stimulate yourself with - instead of your hand?
If this is the case, then try masturbating by using your hand and forget the book.
By masturbating with your hand at home in your own time and with privacy, you can see what works and what doesn't.
Then when you are with your boyfriend, let him know what you like and tell him when something he does, doesn't work for you.
You can either tell him or move his hand to where you like to be touched and show him how, by guiding him with your own hand over his, and say to him how you like to be touched. Also, let him know if something hurts or is uncomfortable.
Then once you are getting the right kind of stimulation with your boyfriend, that you use yourself for masturbation, you will soon find that you will fairly easily reach an orgasm without any fuss at all.
The more flustered you get over this, it will only prevent you from ever getting there. All it does is get in the way of normal pleasurable feelings.
So just relax and enjoy the experience.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (19 August 2011):
 Focus on stimulating your own clitoris with your own hand during intercourse. That's the way many women reach orgasm and it's completely normal.
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