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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (28 August 2011):
 My wife and I are friends with another couple. The woman and I get along very well, and there is precisely zero sexual chemistry there. I enjoy chatting with her, enjoy her company, and wouldn't go to bed with her under any circumstance I could possibly imagine. The very thought is awful.
So yes, it is entirely possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2011): how close of a friendship do you want?
if your'e looking for a BFF, it's not so easy to have a male BFF because either one of you will get attracted to the other and cause awkwardness, or else one or both of your spouses or partners will get uncomfortable.
but you can have lots of less intense and more superficial friendships where you don't disclose too many personal details and pour your heart out to each other a lot.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (28 August 2011):
 It is ABSOLUTELY possible! I have had a male friend for eleven years now and we have had no problems remaining completely platonic.
It's possible, you just have to make sure from the first that you're just looking for 100% platonic friendship and don't ever send them any signals that you want something more. Be clear with your intentions. It's really easy once you put your mind to it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2011): Yes, it's possible. Be warned though that many of them tend to make one of three assumptions: 1) Friendship is a stepping stone to something more, or 2) You only want a sexual relationship, or 3) You'll change your mind once you get to know them. So be very blunt about your intentions.Don't worry about letting them down gently if they fancy you but you don't feel the same way. If you're too nice you'll be walked all over. If you have to remind them more than once, cut them loose. You don't need the burden of having to keep rejecting someone or the added work of constantly reinforcing boundaries.
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reader, stephekm  +, writes (28 August 2011):
Yes,it works.i have lots of male friends.The only way it works is if only one of you has the physical attraction.This stops friends going any further.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (28 August 2011):
 Yes it's possible!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 August 2011):
 Works if he's gay or a former lover that you tested and found not suitable for you, or he's in a long term relationship with someone else/married. Well in my case anyway, I rarely make male friends (good friends mind you), because whenever I get friendly and open they seem to think Im flirting, or they end up falling in love with me. I guess I shouldn't complain, but that's just the case with me. Other people are different, and I've seen platonic friendships between male and female. It works if there is zero physical attraction.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (28 August 2011):
 i have heard it can happen but i have never seen it! usually another agenda appears. the only way is to make friends with a guy who does not find you attractive, but then; he might not want to bother being friends with you!
i think it depends on the individual. have you got a particular man in mind or are you just looking generally for a guy friend who can do things that a boyfriend would do? (take you for meals etc, help with DIY, fix you car)
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