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writes:I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 26. For the past week or so he's been asking me to wear a bikini and halfshirt 24-7 and is getting angry that I won't do it.I told him no, it's inappropriate, but he thinks it'll be good for our relationship and it'll make me appreciate him even more.Our relationship is usually good, but I don't understand why he is so into this - I mean, isnt this weird?Carla B Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (24 August 2011):
 I dress for my man but it's my choice and when I am just around the house I wear what I want. He is allowed to pick my clothing when we go out for dates... I do limit him and will not wear things that are age inappropriate or too revealing... but he would never FORCE me.
tell him if you wear a bikini and a half shirt he needs to wear a man thong, high heels and a butt plug
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (23 August 2011):
 Dressing up for your guy once in awhile is fine. Being TOLD what to wear all the time is an issue of control.
The fact that he gets angry is disturbing.
What is the reasoning that dressing up for him like that will make you appreciate HIM more? (Rolls eyes)
You are his gf, not his dolly.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (23 August 2011):
 He probably has a fetish for clothing like that. Instead of assuming that he's being controlling, you need to talk to him openly without judgment or scorn and ask him to tell you if he has some sort of fetish for certain types of clothing, and if that's the reason why he's pressuring you to wear them.
Assuming that he's just being a controlling a-hole isn't going to get you anywhere, you need to TALK to him first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2011): oh dear i had this problem in an old relationship basically controlling me saying i couldnt wear skirts etc so i didnt then i couldnt speak to men, wanted to know where i was all the time just be careful and state its up to you what you wear you are your own person if he loves you he wouldnt be doing this, if it was just now and agin in the bedroom then yes but you need to talk to him about this good luck xx
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reader, auntyR  +, writes (23 August 2011):
Never let a man tell you what to wear! it's one rule every woman should obey. How would he like it if u told him to prance about in speedos all day! I'm sure he would complain. To have a happy compromise, maybe suggest that you dress up sexy for him when you are having a romantic night in. Bring his fantasy alive then, but make it very clear that he shouldn't expect it everytime and every day.After all he does not own you!
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