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| | *oyofthe Rovers's profile:I am currently coming to terms with alot of things in my life. One, would be the break up of someone extremely close to me which is taken its toll on me. The second, is to do with something which happened to me along time ago which I know i must now face to look forward. I feel I have reached a point in my life where I need to change things for the better, by facing my fears.
I found this site when i was at a real low point and it really helped to hear from other people who could understand/help my situation. Since then I have found myself wanting to help others who have found themselves in a situation they need advice from an outside source.
I just like to try and give my neutral and mature perspective to a given situation, without judging or labelling people.
As you probably guessed I am now single; I live in London, England and am just getting on with things the best I can for now. |
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My Gf is always at work, never has time for me, she wont have sex everyday so I wont cuddle her, what can I do ?
Q. Im 27 and my girl is 26 I have a problem because she is always at work and never have time for me. she would come home and she would ask me to cuddle with her. I told her she knows i cant do that because i like to have sex everyday and she dont ...
A. 11 April 2007: I have to agree with alot of the people here. You cant expect sex everyday in a relationship. Poeple have different sex drive levels. For you to turn down her offer of a cuddle is only pushing her further away. Women like to be held and ... (read in full...)
I like my brother's friend..but my brother is very protective! What should I do?
Q. plz help me! i really like my brothers mate but the problem is my brother is really protective! I've also been out with one of his friends already and it got serious so their friendship suffered and i don't think he would want that to happen again ...
A. 11 April 2007: How old is your brother? Chances are he is only being protective as you say, but you have a life to live aswell. He needs to learn this.
It probably is difficult for him as it is his best friend, but that is something fo him to deal with and... (read in full...)
My GF has just come back from a 5 week holiday, she seems to have changed, or am I being paranoid ?
Q. My girlfriend of one year has just come back from a five week long holiday on the other side of the world. She's changed. She seems to have something on her mind and she's not affectionate with me. Am I being paranoid or has something happened? ...
A. 11 April 2007: Yeah, just talk to her about this. Don't be aggresive about it but just say it gently, maybe treat her to a quiet night in, dinner and stuff and just bring it up in conversation. Long holidays away can change people, they come back more chilled ... (read in full...)
Loan payment problems involving my father! How do I talk to him about this?
Q. ok im 25, still live at home with parents, have a full time job which doesnt pay great but i get along like we have too (my parents understand hence why i dont pay rent). I bought a car with a loan from a company, my dad said i was paying way too ...
A. 11 April 2007: What a con!! What happened to doing you a favour? You would of been better off keeping the original loan, surely?
Money and family never really go hand in hand, and not if they are trying to rip the shirt off your back aswell. He is doing yo... (read in full...)
I want her to be more affectionate, shouldnt she be comfortable being affectionate after 2 months ?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going out for 2 months. She is really self conscious, and she even admitted it. She and I have held hands, etc, but at school she doesn't like anything else but hugging. I respect her space and comfort, but I really ...
A. 11 April 2007: Some girls find it hard to do this. Dont hold it against her. If you care for her the best thing you can do is to show her, by giving her time and the effort. Laughter does wonders with opening up people and their inhibitions.
Not all peop... (read in full...)
I dont trust him, we broke up as he like someone else, hes still in contact with her and were are back together!
Q. Should I still trust him? My boyfriend were going out for a year. Then suddenly he broke up with me, with not that good of an explanation. At that time, he got pretty close with another girl, and 3 weeks after our break up, he admitted to me that ...
A. 11 April 2007: Sounds like he cant make up his mind. Trust is a fragile thing which people sometimes take for granted. If he was at all serious about your relationship he would consider your feelings in all of this. What he done was wrong and you have every ... (read in full...)
I have a low self esteem and dont hold any of myself in high regard at all!! Please help!!!
Q. I really hate my body and my low self esteem is beginning to distract me from everything else that i should be focussing on. I actually feel a constant disgust from just being in my skin, i can't look at myself in the mirror without seeing all my ...
A. 11 April 2007: Putting yourself down like this can end up going round in circles and you will end up running yourself into a dark place. Its natural to see the obvious things you dont like about yourself; your hair, your skin, etc....But without sounding cliched, ... (read in full...)
How do I strike a balanced way of seeing things so that I can relate with people the way they are rather than trying to see them the way I want to.
Q. I have failed to found a person, yet, a friend or a girl who could really understand my deeper feelings and would appreciate the same or accept them to be normal. Because of this, i am losing faith and don't find it worth relating with any human ...
A. 11 April 2007: I can see where you come from. In the ideal world we would'nt have the horrors that surround us on a daily basis, plastered on the news and newspapers about racial hatred and the such. We now live in a society where no-one takes responsibility for ... (read in full...)
What has caused my libido to drop?
Q. Recently I haven't felt that horny and really for the past year I haven't been as horny as I was when I was about 15-16. I don't know why this is, but in the past few weeks I've had driving tests (3) and eventually passed. This is the only thing I ...
A. 9 April 2007: Stress can lower your sex drive no doubt. A hectic, busy lifestyle no matter what age can effect all aspects of your body and mind. Your diet can have an effect as well. You say the multi-vitamins worked for you then possibly it could be your ... (read in full...)
I need to open up more, how can I do this?
Q. ok so i guess im just really depressed but i need some help. So im almost 15 and i know that i have plenty of time to date but i feel soooo left out. im not a loser, and im likable but i dont know why guys just wont make their move! im kinda shy, ...
A. 9 April 2007: Being shy does'nt have to be a curse, for one. Sounds to me like you need a little bit of a confidence boost. Don't compare yourself to other people, you are who you are and should be proud of that. Some guy will come along and see that and ... (read in full...)
I have a mad crush on my doctor! How do I make my feelings go away?
Q. This is just it: I have a mad crush on my doctor. I'm sure it's some kind of transference type thing, but in the meantime, how do I keep from making a jerk of myself? I barely know the man, and he's not my type at all...so why is this ...
A. 9 April 2007: Simple way out would be to change doctor. However, good doctors can be hard to come by so i would use that as a last resort. It may be a security thing? I reckon this will pass over time. I would'nt worry too much about it.... (read in full...)
Im considering becoming a prostitute as I fear its the only way out of my debt!!
Q. I'm so desperate for money right now, I owe so much out, I've been having thoughts that my only way out is prostitution. I really don't want to do this, is there any way round this? I need money asap and really have no other choice. Is it dangerous ...
A. 9 April 2007: First thing is first, do you have any other income? If yes, think about getting a loan? Simple. If you are unemployed and totally out of work then get a job. Go down the job centre and get ANY job you can, and then get a loan. Does this money need ... (read in full...)
Married 9 months, shes seeing someone else! I said I can look past it if she cuts all ties! But shes carrying on! Am I too demanding!?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 9 months. In recent weeks, she has been going out late with her friends/clients to clubs, or for coffee. Few weeks ago, we had a major fight about her coming back at 7am in the morning and that left her angry with ...
A. 8 April 2007: You done have nothing wrong mate. If it only took her 9 months to stray from the path, then i would say get out while you can. It's obvious she can't be trusted in the way you would like to and you can not be happy looking over her shoulder for ... (read in full...)
He has trust issues from his past relationship! This keeps our relationship from going forward..what should I do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. I recently found out that he hasn't completely gotten over his last relationship. It's not that he wants to get back together with her or still loves her, but that he can't get over the fact that ...
A. 8 April 2007: The ball is really in his court. It is him who has to pull his finger out and actually realise that if he wants things to work then he has change his attitude. Yes, he may have issues with past relationships but he is with you now and he should be ... (read in full...)
6 years together, and all we seem to do is watch TV together! Nothing exciting happens, even the sex is dull! Please Help!!!
Q. Hey.. Needn some advice.. am in relationship for 6 years and engaged to the most committed man, well sort of. I know he loves me very much and i love him as much, he would also drive to the moon for me but since we have got engaged certain things a...
A. 8 April 2007: The most you can do is speak your mind. Tell him your concerns. If he really does love you and would "drive to the moon for you" then taking the time to listen to you and do something about it is little to ask. Make the time you have together ... (read in full...)
My friend has suddenly said that my husband has been sexually harrasing her for 10 years!!!
Q. Hi,can someone please tell me what kind of a friend would have a complaint about your husband and not tell you ????/ She claims that he has been sexually harrasing her for the past 10yrs, telling her that she is sexy and that he wants to have se...
A. 8 April 2007: To me it sounds like someone or both of them are lying. The question is where your trust lies and what is that trust based upon. Your friend (if being harrassed) would never call your husband if that was the case. I cant see how she would be ... (read in full...)
I was sexually abused and now I find my bf looking at child porn!!
Q. Last year I found out on my bf's computer that he was looking at porn... but also he was looking at pictures of 11-15 year old boys.. It broke my heart when I found this. I confronted him about this and the fight ended up as me being the bad guy ...
A. 8 April 2007: Child porn is wrong, no matter how it is looked at. If your BF can't admit he has an real issue that needs looking at then leave him where he is. If he loves you and is any kind of a man he will honour this fact and deal with his problems, coz it ... (read in full...)
What do YOU think of my boyfriend's comments?
Q. What do you do when your friends bail on a night out and you ask your boyfriend if you can join him and his mates and he says "but, I'll feel obligated to be with you all night, when I'm meant to be with my mates?" ...
A. 8 April 2007: Your supossed to his mate, aren't you? If you both can't enjoy time out together with each others' friends then you don't have much of a chance. There are exceptions if it's a lads night out, I can understand that. The same goes when the girls go ... (read in full...)
After getting over my ex he's came back into my life and I think I'm falling in love with him again!
Q. 2 years ago, I split up with my boyfriend because he told me he loved my best friend. I was only 15 at the time, but I was devastated, and the break up caused me to become very ill (I ended up going to counselling because I became ...
A. 8 April 2007: I would forget about him. It seems you have overcome alot to deal with the intial split and even tho you may still have feelings for him, you don't want to jeapordise your health. He does'nt have the same commitment you would have and therefore ... (read in full...)
How do I find it so hard to let people in and trust them?
Q. I find it hard to let people in. I am dating this really nice guy and I love him more than I have ever loved anyone.. I'm just soo scared.. I dont want to get hurt as I have had some s****y relationships in the past... I told him how I felt...
A. 8 April 2007: You are in a position now where you can resolve things for the better. Have you had counselling? I can totally confirm your feelings with trust with regards to your past. What kind of dad says those kinds of things anyway? I find that sickening. ... (read in full...)
So many doubts about my relationship....
Q. See also: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-think-i-might-love-my-chubby-hairy.html My New Girlfriend is acting werld for the next 3 weeks shes on a job centre course from 1pm - 4pm everyday now wouldn't u think she would agree 2 met me at 4pm t...
A. 8 April 2007: It does sound like you are over thinking things abit. Slow down. Putting the pressure on yourself and her is not going to help anything. It has been only a month which is nothing in the scale of things. Asking her to move in this early would ... (read in full...)
28, a virgin, and scared beyond hope - normal?
Q. So it seems that I'm going to be 28 soon, it's been 6 years that I have asked that infamous question "why am I single" and to this date, I'm still clueless. I remain single, virgin, daily masturbation routine, and pretty-much forced to live life ...
A. 8 April 2007: Sounds like a page from my book, its scary. I lost my virginity at a late stage, so i can see where you are coming from. The first time will always be a (scary) moment especially because of your age but once that first hurdle is beaten, maybe your ... (read in full...)
Are there any guys out there who could give me some insight into his behaviour?
Q. Why would a guy appear to like my attention, look into my eyes, be interested in visiting my blog on Yahoo etc. yet never take the opportunity to return any emails or texts with even an OK or a thank-you. We feel really comfortable with each other ...
A. 8 April 2007: he may see you as a very close friend, and wants to keep it that way. It does seem weird that he does'nt answer your e-mails, but that may be his way of keeping a plutonic distance between the two of you. Have you told him truly how you feel about ... (read in full...)
Someone help me get rid of these visions!
Q. ok this may sound a little bit weird,I am 20 years old and have just got my first girlfriend. This girl was quite a good friend of mine before we got together, and then she told me she liked me I felt the same and we got together. Before we got ...
A. 6 April 2007: Constantly worrying about things is never a healthy thing to do. I know I am a born worrier and have been in a similiar situation but with a girl who was more experienced than myself. I learnt my lessons the hard way. The last thing you want to ... (read in full...)
Do I make the choice for her and take control?
Q. There is this girl who I haven't known long. We have fell for each other though. She love's me, I love her. It wasn't a physical attraction that started it too. In fact we met through our parents. When we met it just clicked. We always are so happy ...
A. 6 April 2007: You both seem old and wise enough to make you own decisions. The parents are not part of the equation here. It is between you and her and the other fella. It is her who has to choose what to do and act upon it. You can only support her and be ... (read in full...)
Do you think I went too far too soon?
Q. Hey - I was wondering if I went too far with my girlfriend - We started kissing on the sofa and then I started moving my hands into her trousers into her bra. Did I go too far? I'm not sure if she enjoyed it or not and I'm worried that next time I ...
A. 6 April 2007: Your still quite young and both of you need to be sure your doing the right thing for the right reasons. Talk to her and see how she feels. Theres nothing wrong with just a bit of fun on the sofa, and will probably make her more at ease going at a ... (read in full...)
What are some of the signs that your love has found someone else that they are interested in?
Q. What are some of the signs that your love has found someone else that they are interested in?...
A. 5 April 2007: I would say a change in how they look maybe. Are they taking a little more extra effort out of the blue? Changes in routine. Mobile phone activity maybe. Has the relationship slackened at all? The changes should be clear if you relationship is ... (read in full...)
She feels she loves me and could stay with me forever because I am an amazing person, but that feeling of being "in love" is not there...
Q. Me and my g/f dated for 4 years. At the beginning everything was incredible. She had been in a 7 year relationship a year before and she would tell everyone that she had never felt what she had with me before and never knew it existed. We grew so ...
A. 5 April 2007: It maybe a case of her wanting different things. You both have had time apart which gives people time to reflect upon themselves. She may have changed in a way which changes her prioties in life or just her needs. The thing that confuses me is ... (read in full...)
My husband hates touching, kissing and cuddling me!!! What should I do!?
Q. I been married 17 months . I love my husband so much. But he hates touching kissing cuddling me . now even us talking ends in a row . He keeps telling me he dislikes me saying I love him I just don't understand. He used so caring towards me...
A. 5 April 2007: Does'nt sound like the nicest of chaps.. Do you know if he has been like this with previous partners? He may have a personal problem which he is hiding and refuses to aknowledge to you. If he cant be truthful when you ask him respectfully, (maybe ... (read in full...)
Why am I being so horrible to my ex ? He didnt hurt me, I dont understand ?
Q. Hi. I Broke up with my ex boyfriend around christmas time as i realsied it was just a rebound relationship and we were better of as friends. Now i cant help being horrible towards him saying nasty things and always casuing arguments. I fee...
A. 5 April 2007: Maybe its your way of keeping that extra distance from him. DO you still want to be best of friends? There is a fine line between people when they split whatever the reason. It can be hard to stay level headed because of the emotions involved. ... (read in full...)
How can I find true love that will last forever ?
Q. I am really wanting to find true love that will last forever. How can I do this?...
A. 5 April 2007: I have just come out of a 6 year relationship which was or used to be true love. We trusted each other and were true soul mates in every sense. Then it all went head over heels. True love will only work if BOTH people work at it, being truthful ... (read in full...)
Is it better for a guy to reach orgasm quickly or to take a while?
Q. Hi there, I have a question about sex! Is it better for a guy to reach orgasm quickly or to take a while? Could someone please explain that to me? thanx...
A. 30 March 2007: The simple answer for a guy is quickly. But and this is a BIG BUT. Depends on how greedy the bloke is in bed. A decent lover will learn how to hold off until the right moment, whenever that may be. Sex is a two-sided thing, and if its only ... (read in full...)
How can you stop loving someone!!?
Q. How do you stop liking/loving someone? Thanks to people who reply to this question....
A. 30 March 2007: I think this differs from person to person. But I know out of sight out mind does'nt always work. The thing to do as I have been told is to just get on with your life. Look at yourself, rather than that someone else all the time. Put the focus ... (read in full...)
I lost a special girl because of my fears and insecurities! How can I help myself to get over this?
Q. I really need some help to overcome my relationship insecurities. My last long term relationship ended because of this after my ex slept with somebody while we were temporarily broken up and now my girlfriend has left today because of the same ...
A. 29 March 2007: Insecurities can be very hard when trying to hold down a relationship with someone you truley care about. Be honest with her. That is the first step. Talk about your fears and why you have these fears. Talking about them to someone will only ... (read in full...)
Can anyone interpret this dream? I confided a sickness to a teacher in real life and had a bizarre dream about it!
Q. Okay. I was wondering if anybody is good at defining/interpreting people's dreams? My Dream: I was in some class room, with all of my sophomore classmates. I had this little pink diary and slipped it into my bookbag. Then I heard someone sa...
A. 29 March 2007: Dreams are damn weird things. They seem so real and you want to think they mean something meaningful. But the truth of the matter is that dreams are usually your mind sorting through all your problems from the day before and tries to make sense of ... (read in full...)
Is everyone just impolite ?
Q. help i do walk every day in town i do see people face to face ,sometimes i feel strange becouse it seems i am the only one who say hello ,we are humans we say that we love that we want every thing to be green full of love ,but why we dont say hell...
A. 29 March 2007: This is the state of the human race. We have been reduced to our own little lives and our own little problems, rather than stop and take a while to rememeber what surrounds us. We as humans, who are only another type of species living on this ... (read in full...)
Ive never iniated sex with anyone before, now my new bf thinks I dont want him, when really its I have no confidence to seduce him!
Q. I've never initiated sex with any of my boyfriends because I've never needed too. But now I'm with a great man who's a little older than me and it's ruining our relationship, he's losing confidence thinking I don't want him. I want to seduce him and ...
A. 22 March 2007: Remember why your with him and your feelings towards this person. Be truthful to yourself and to him. Don't be afraid because this feeling will only grow as time progresses and it will become harder to intiate anything in the future. Go for it, ... (read in full...)
During the relationship our sex life broke down and our communication broke down too.
Q. I have just broken up from a 4 year relationship with the woman i thought I would marry. Since we met we both have bought a house together far from where I come from and I had to move my job in the process. This girl was my first true love and ...
A. 22 March 2007: Now I have moved away from her I am finding things just as hard to deal with. I have spoken a few times to her but she does'nt want to speak about it. She says she has said everything already, and feels strong about that and just wants to get the ... (read in full...)
My gf and I broke up but I can't get her out of my head! whatcan I do?
Q. my ex girlfriend broke up with me on feb 3 and i cant get her out of my head. is this normal. i wish i could talk to her but i dont know what to say or do. ...
A. 22 March 2007: Going through a similiar thing myself at the moment. You feel like you could of done more? Feel guilty for the times you are catch yourself not thinking of her? Can't get her face out of your head? Constantly hoping that phone will ring? Hang in ... (read in full...)
During the relationship our sex life broke down and our communication broke down too.
Q. I have just broken up from a 4 year relationship with the woman i thought I would marry. Since we met we both have bought a house together far from where I come from and I had to move my job in the process. This girl was my first true love and ...
A. 22 March 2007: Thanks Dizzy. Your right in what you say, it does take two for things to work. The thing is I was'nt prepared to do the simple things like talk to her. It kills me to think I could'nt do that for somoneone who brought me so much happiness and ... (read in full...)
I am a woman with female partner. She is a wonderful person but I'm just not interested in her sexually any more.
Q. I am a woman and have a female partner. On paper she is perfect for me and for the first 6 months I really fancied her. After that the attraction for me has whittled away. It's been two years now and I'm finding it increasingly difficult to be intim...
A. 20 March 2007: Talk, talk, talk. Is it just the sex which has declined? Are there other areas which have disapeared in the relationship? The intimacy problem i think can most of the time be resolved through communication and a real effort to each other, ... (read in full...)
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