My boyfriend crossed the line and called me a "dirty whore"!
Q. Sometimes i dont know what to do. Things just haven't been going my way lately. Me and my boyfriend argue about the simplest things. But today he crossed the line and called me a dirty whore. There was no reaction to that reply i just turned my head ...
A. 22 August 2008: Yikes, you shoulda slapped him for that one.
Just kidding, that's obviously a bad idea but I reckon my girlfriend would do a lot worse to me if I had the balls to call her that!
You need to let him know that if he wants to call you names when you... (read in full...)
As a man I just can't resist all these beautiful ladies! Which one do I choose?
Q. I started dating a co-teacher at my school 3 months ago, I seduced her the first time we went out and started making trips back to my house with her even during working hours. The thing is that I already had a girl friend working in a nearby city ...
A. 21 August 2008: Maybe you should choose abstinence for a while. Just a suggestion, break it off with all of these women and give yourself a few months to calm down and clear your head. Because I think you are in too deep in the mess you've created. Start from fresh ... (read in full...)
I'm a young guy with sexual problems. My girlfriend is getting frustrated. How do I fix this
Q. I've been having sexual problems lately. I've been with this woman for 4 years and never had anything like this happen, but for the past two or three months or so I've been going soft during sex and sometimes we have to stop altogether because I ...
A. 20 August 2008: You might be psyching yourself out a bit, on top of any physical problems you have. Maybe you're so worried that you won't perform, that you don't? I experienced a minor hiccup one night with my girlfriend and every time we went to make love after ... (read in full...)
I have a couple questions for the guys!
Q. i have a couple questions for the guys! they would help me a bunch! 1) what turns you onto a women most? 2) do guys check out there closest friends that re girls, and if so, how often? 3) do you have anything you would suggest that turns yo...
A. 15 August 2008: I'm hoping this is just idle curiosity and not you, a 13-15 year old, looking for tips on how to turn men on.
I'll answer nonetheless.
1) Nowadays it's subtle things... the way she smiles, the way she smells, how she carries herself. I'm really i... (read in full...)
Sex god or good guy?
Q. SO: i am a 15 (almost 16) girl. there are two guys that are really into me-both are about my age. the first one is rly into sex-he's no virgin, and is rly bold. the second is a little more laid back, and idk weither he's had sex before, although i ...
A. 15 August 2008: Well, on the positive side, the virgin is probably less of an STD risk.
But honestly I don't think previous sexual experience is a good criteria to base such a decision on. There's so much more to a person than their sexual history, you should real... (read in full...)
I just seem to think I'm not going to find anyone until I'm like 19-20.
Q. Hey, Okay. Long story short. I'm 16, I dated this guy for about 3 months who I really liked and he claimed to really like me back. It WASN'T official, we were not in a proper relationship. We didn't kiss or anything and I recently had an injury an...
A. 15 August 2008: There is nothing wrong with not finding anyone until you're 19-20... for most people, it takes even longer than that... we go through countless relationships, looking for the one that will treat us right, one that we can love and cherish. It's a ... (read in full...)
I really don't like who she is now, what do I do?
Q. Hello, My GF and i started dating about a week ago, and we hung out like 4 times before becoming official, and it was so much fun, we laughed alot and i really liked who she was alot. But mysteriously she changed as soon as we started da...
A. 15 August 2008: Sounds like she is insecure and has trust issues. Either you try to help her overcome these problems, or you bail out, because take it from me- dating an insecure woman isn't an easy task. It is very demanding, and eventually you'll be emotionally ... (read in full...)
How can I show my boyfriend that I am committed and faithful?
Q. well my boyfriend and i live together, and we are talking about getting married. of course i am so happy but he told me he was "uncertain about my commitment". how can i show him that i love him and will be faithful to him?...
A. 15 August 2008: I guess your actions will have to speak for themselves. Trust is something that builds over time, so long as each partner remains honest and faithful in all ways. You can't force someone to trust you, nor can you talk someone into trusting you. All ... (read in full...)
We are both 16, and all we want to do is cuddle in my bed, my parents absolutely won't allow it, how do I get them to understand that we are not going to have sex, we only want to hold each other?
Q. im 16 and my gf is the same we want to cuddle in my bed but my parents wont even let her set foot in my room do u have any advice on how i can convince them dat we will jus be cudlin and not goin to have sex...
A. 14 August 2008: I'm not sure that any parent would believe that. Maybe suggest you cuddle over the covers, with the door open, so they can check on you every few minutes. ... (read in full...)
The guy I'm seeing tells me that hes not happy with his wife and the marriage is only on paper to him and she is just a roommate?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for about 2 months now. He is married and i knew that the day i met him. Ive known him longer than ive been seeing him. I am in love with him and i know for sure he is my future. He was the one to say I love you first and ...
A. 14 August 2008: I think that you, just like many girls your age, have become a plaything for a man who is bored in his marriage and looking for some excitement. If I were you, I would take everything he says with a huge grain of salt, including the stuff about ... (read in full...)
I recently discovered my husband has been going to adult websites. How do men really feel about sex with their mate? Is it meaningless?
Q. My hubby and I have been married almost 7 years. I recently discovered that he has been going to adult websites. Sharing myself with him means a lot to me and I almost feel betrayed. Plus, he's never told me he loves me while having sex with me. ...
A. 13 August 2008: Well every man is different. Some really can separate sex from all feelings that they have, and just view it as a means to an end. For me, personally, when having sex with someone I love, I view it as very special (usually, of course I like to get ... (read in full...)
What would you think of this?
Q. If you found a message to your husband saying "Last time you came over in the middle of sex you said..." and "if you can make the 4th that would be great. Better not come back to mine, we shouldn't have sex again. The pain wasn't worth the...
A. 11 August 2008: I would think that he was having/has had sex with someone else.... (read in full...)
It's a vicious cycle of stress and depression driving to me these places, all the while feeling guilty for doing so. Any advice for me, please?
Q. Hi everyone, let me begin by apologising in advance as this topic is controversial and will likely cause offence to some. I am not condoning my behaviour, which is why Im asking for advice. I am 22, under a lot of stress at uni, with some heal...
A. 11 August 2008: Professional counseling will help you. You don't want to keep doing this because, like you said, it puts your health and future at risk. Spend the money on a therapist instead, it'll help your stress a lot more (rather than adding to it). And if ... (read in full...)
How could he hurt me by watching pornography?
Q. I honestly believed that my boyfriend was not in the faintest interested in pornography. I have come to know otherwise. I moved in with my boyfriend a few months ago and about a month ago, found him doing the unthinkable. Prior to this and when...
A. 11 August 2008: This is a really common problem for couples. A lot of men (not all) watch porn to masturbate and most men don't really understand how much it hurts their girlfriends. Or they understand, but are too selfish or impulsive to change their behavior ... (read in full...)
A question for men about younger ladies ??
Q. Ok, soooooo... Well, to begin, I kind of really like my teacher... I know there are lots of questions about teacher-crushes on here but mine is different. I know nothing is ever gonna happen, he's happily married and has a baby. I just want to kn...
A. 11 August 2008: Yes, most adults think high school kids are really immature (and when you get older, you will too).
As a general rule, don't count on 'older' men being attracted to girls in your age range.
But obviously high school teachers are occasion... (read in full...)
He tells me their affair has ended, can I believe him? Why are they still talking??
Q. My husband had an affair. We have been married for almost 13 years. He has apologized and said that he would not cheat again, and that he wanted to close the door to that part of his life. He said he wants to work things out with me. For the ...
A. 10 August 2008: Of course you should be suspicious, he's taking you for a ride and abusing your trust. If he really wants to move on from his affair, he needs to stop torturing himself and you with contact with her. She needs to be gone from his life completely. ... (read in full...)
Even though I'm in a happy relationsship I cannot stop thinking about my friend... help me forget her!
Q. Im in serious need of help/advice, im love two women. The one is my current girlfriend going on 5 years now, we have a great relationsship. The other is my friend, who ive known for about 7 years. She has never been a close/best friend but since sh...
A. 10 August 2008: Hate to break it to you mate but if you're 'in love' with another women, you're not in a happy relationship.
If you really love this other chick, you OWE it to your girlfriend to break up with her. It's selfish and callous to stay in a relation... (read in full...)
I suspect he is cheating; but why would he then still want to hang out with me without being intimate and why would he talk about our future?
Q. I met a guy on a dating site about four months ago. After seeing each other for awhile, we also became intimate. I usually went to his place every other day and stayed over. We usually watched movies together; had dinner; had great sex; etc. I am ...
A. 10 August 2008: Of course a guy can survive without sex for six weeks... not happily mind you, but it's doable. If he's really stressed out then chances are sex is one of the last things on his mind.
But it is concerning that this stuff is going on so early in y... (read in full...)
Is my friend jealous that her boyfriend called me gorgeous?
Q. I have this friend and I recently met her boyfriend. He was nice and even told his gf "You said she was cute, but she is GORGEOUS!" when he met me. He even said that I could get any guy I wanted and wanted to set me up with his friends. My friend ...
A. 10 August 2008: You won't know unless you ask but you're probably reading too much into it. Maybe she was just busy or tired, or thinking of other things and distracted. When other people are acting funny, people have a tendency to assume it's about them or ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is disrespecting me--he says I'm being unreasonable. Help?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year. He cheated on me last winter with his ex girlfriend which i have never fully got over. He still wants to meet up with her(just to chat as friends) and often talks to girls in an ...
A. 9 August 2008: Yeah... he's cheating on you or at least trying to. Why would we want to meet up with a girl he cheated on you with? Why on earth would he expect YOU to be okay with this?
He's selfish and he thinks he can walk all over you. And he can, beca... (read in full...)
You think I could change my feelings towards large women or should I try and cool things down before I hurt her feelings?
Q. I met a girl online a couple of months ago and we have met a few times since then. We get on really well and she is one if the few girls that I've met that I can talk with for hours on end and forget what the time is. We appear to have so much in ...
A. 8 August 2008: Well, while we're sort of opposite in our preferences (I prefer my women to be fit and around US size 12-14 because I like a bit of booty) I can relate to your situation. A few years back I was dating a girl who I really connected with but she was a ... (read in full...)
He kissed his ex, wanted more... Should I stay? How do I trust him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, in the beginning of our relationship I found him emotionally cheating via email with 3 other women. Since then I have always had trust issues, I am constantly checking his email, voicemail, myspace. ...
A. 7 August 2008: If you can't put up with cheating, you shouldn't date a cheater. I think he's had more than three strikes, he's out.
Understand that his apologies are pretty much meaningless because he never intended to tell you about his transgression. I have... (read in full...)
I feel like letting my girlfriend get dressed up and tease a few guys at a club. Will this hurt or help our relationship?
Q. Hey, first post here so i apoligise if im doing something wrong.. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months and she is a good looking girl, who could probably get lots of attention off other guys our sex life has dropped a little, and I want...
A. 7 August 2008: Depends on her, obviously. I've done this with girlfriends (not intentionally, but it happens at clubs) and had great sex afterwards. As long as you're not a jealous type, and she's not a cheating type, it can be relatively harmless. But it is a bit ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has been away for a month and a half, I want to masturbate and look at porn. Is that cheating?
Q. My girlfriend has gone away and i miss her loads. We have a very active sex life and she will be away for a month and a half. I have thought about masturbating but i'm not sure if its okay to or not. Also, if i do and i use porn to help, is that ...
A. 7 August 2008: Not technically cheating but for some women it is a violation of trust. If you're concerned about her feelings, I suggest you bring it up to her before you do it, that way she will feel respected and thought of. Don't do it behind her back and lie ... (read in full...)
What is your take on couples taking a break? I want to experiment more before I settle with him!
Q. I'm eighteen and my boyfriend of a year and a half is twenty. we are very in love and he really is the guy i want to marry. the problem is, he is my first relationship whereas i'm his fourth, and i just feel like i wish i had partied a little ...
A. 6 August 2008: These thoughts are normal... You're on the verge of settling down for the rest of your life and you're not even out of your teens yet. I imagine most girls your age would be a bit scared of the idea of only sleeping with one guy in their whole ... (read in full...)
He wants to know my fantasies... but they are SO dirty, I don't think he could handle it.
Q. My boyfriend wants me to tell him my fantasies, but I'm so nervous. Some of them are really DIRTY. For example, I have rape fantasies, one of the most common I know, but kind of hard to explain. Especially since I want it rough. Not just him taking ...
A. 6 August 2008: Start out slow, with one of your tamer fantasies and gauge his reaction. Maybe once you loosen him up, he'll be open to experimenting and maybe even acting out on some of them. I'm sure there's a freak inside of him dying to break out.... (read in full...)
Did I fall in love with a slut without knowing it?
Q. Alright, My girlfriend and I sort of met one night while we were both out drinking, we ended up having sex that night, either of us knew anything about each other really more than our names. Yes, a one night stand. We both were extremely dr...
A. 6 August 2008: She is who she is NOW, her past is her past. Most of us have wild youths and then eventually settle down. People mature and change their views. She was a single girl having a good time, but it's not "her" anymore. She's a different person. You just ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but I find one of my male friends very sexy, Is this okay?
Q. I'm 19 and I am in a very loving relationship that has lasted about 4 years almost, I'm engaged and very much in love with my fiancee. The problem is I find one of my male friends very attractive, and I dont know if is normal to find anyone else but ...
A. 6 August 2008: Yes, it's normal. As long as you're not obsessing (i.e. thinking about them every day, or when you make love, or comparing your hubby to him, etc) then there's nothing wrong with a little crush. Innocent crushes are normal, healthy and pretty much ... (read in full...)
Is he still attracted to me even though he and I have different views on porn?
Q. I share a computer with my bf. He left the computer on one day, and when I got home decided I would go on and check my email... I looked in the search bar and saw he was looking up porn. (He forgot to delete the search bar.) I felt insecure like ...
A. 5 August 2008: If you let your man know that you're uncomfortable with it, he won't be turned on anymore during sex? What? That's the biggest load of crap I've ever heard.
I'm a man. I don't watch porn when I'm in committed relationships. My current girl... (read in full...)
What noises should I make during sex??
Q. well im going to be losing my virginity soon as me and my boyfriend are ready for sex. but im really worried about how itll feel like but most of all what kind of noises to make. i mean, just soft moans or screams? what should i be saying?? what do ...
A. 5 August 2008: Well guys your age expect: "OH MY GOD YES YOU'RE AMAZING OH YES HOLY MOTHER OF GOD WOW WOW WOW YOU'RE A GOD, YOU'RE A STUD, YOU'RE THE MAN OH MY GOD OH MY GOD!!!"
But in real life, teenage sex sounds more like: "Umm... is it in? Oh... yeah... ummm... (read in full...)
I always thought I'd get married, have kids etc. Now I'm not so sure.
Q. Hello, I'm having a bit of confusion here. I always thought I'd get married. Have kids, raise a family, be happy. My boyfriend always tells me how much he loves and how he wants to marry me and spend the rest of his life with me, after we graduat...
A. 5 August 2008: Marriage is what you make of it. Not every husband is unfaithful and not every wife is a controlling witch.
Don't believe everything you read. That article was one persons perspective, but it doesn't represent all men or all women or all marr... (read in full...)
Was my wife really a virgin, if she almost had complete intercourse, but not quite?
Q. I've never obsessed over my wive's past before. She was a virgin (so she said) when we got engaged and moved in together. I knew of a few past boyfriends where they did some 'heavy petting', but that's it. This past weekend, we had a romantic n...
A. 5 August 2008: Was she a virgin or not?
It doesn't matter.
"Technically", no she wasn't. But then again everyone has their own definitions of virginity. Some think that if you have anal sex you're not a virgin, for some if you have oral sex, you're not a virgin... (read in full...)
I've been seeing a married man for 6 years and I think he's talking to other girls online!
Q. Hi: I have been seeing a married man for 6 years now, he tells me he loves me but he keeps chatting with women on line and wanting to get to know them better. When I ask him about he says it is not true but I know otherwise, what should I do?...
A. 5 August 2008: I think you asked for this by carrying on with a married man in the first place. He's obviously a dog. Why would he be faithful to you?
... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I fantasize about my best friends cousin who I don't 'like'?
Q. Hey. I liked this girl in primary/junior school for about two years. It just so happens that I became best friends with her cousin (a boy) by pure coinsidence a few years back and still are. Now, I stayed around his house last night where she also ...
A. 5 August 2008: No. At your age, it's normal to fantasize about just about any female that crosses your path. It's a hormonal, sexually frustrating time. Don't worry about it.... (read in full...)
Will I ever have good sex ever again? None of my other lovers have stacked up to him!
Q. Can I ever have really good sex again? I had sex with a younger guy I was 29 he was 18 and we would have wild sex for 2 or 3 hours each night. It was the most physical connection I ever felt with a man but we weren't dating. Just having sex ever...
A. 5 August 2008: It might be one of a kind, or it might not. You could have just gotten lucky with this particular guy, and had that intense physical connection. I think that sort of connection is rare- 3 hours a night for a year? His age was probably helpful.
I... (read in full...)
What can I do so that my girlfriend accepts she is beautiful?...
Q. Do girls and woman really judge themselves harshly on their own appearance? My girlfriend is absolutely gorgeous yet she is convinced that she is plain looking!!!! What can I do to get through to my g/f she is beautiful?! I keep telling her she is ...
A. 4 August 2008: Yeah, it's a really common thing.
I've dated a lot of girls and have yet to find one who can see how beautiful she is. In my experience, women are generally very insecure and self-critical. Perhaps not all of them are, but most are. It's part... (read in full...)
How can I stop the pain I feel because of my body issues? Girls in movies and magazines make me feel inadequate.
Q. What can I do to stop the hurt of body issues? Last night I was with my boyfriend watching one of these silly comedies, you know, a la American Pie. It wasn't Amreican Pie, but it was that style. You know, it wasn't even pornographic - but t...
A. 4 August 2008:
"Wondering why aren't real women displayed more foten, why aren't we pretty enough for the big screen? The male leads were all ugly, typical looking guys. Why can't it be the same for women?"
Haha... It's not really skewed thinking as you said,... (read in full...)
He loves pornography, if I start behaving in bed like a porn star, will he stop watching the pornography?
Q. I know my boyfriend loves me, but if I start acting like a porn star in bed and doing all the acts he enjoys watching in porn, will he begin to lose interest in porn and stop watching it altogether? I've lost weight and now I'm thin like the girls ...
A. 29 July 2008: Well... there's no harm in being more experimental in bed, and trying new positions and acts. But don't "act" like a porn star- porn stars aren't exactly known for their amazing acting ability, usually the over the top moaning and screaming is more ... (read in full...)
I still worry and check her phone, and I still find weird messages... what do I do?
Q. my girl gave me a ton of reasons not to trust her. I went into her phone (which the password for texting was just changed) and found very dirty messages to other guys. I brought them up and she said they are just jokes but i couldnt handle it. I ...
A. 28 July 2008: It doesn't look like she's willing to stop these dirty texts for you, so you can either accept it or break up again. If everything else is great, maybe it's something you can work out, but it sounds like a serious trust violation to me.
T... (read in full...)
Doubtful about physical closeness as I am very self-conscious about my stomach area... will he care?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months now and we haven't gone beyond making out. I know he wants to feel me up and I want him to, but I'm not skinny and I'm self-conscious about my stomach area. Will he care? I don't want to be ...
A. 28 July 2008: I'm sure he knows what you look like by now, so I doubt your stomach will be a surprise. Don't let your insecurities stop you from doing things you really want to do. ... (read in full...)
I cheated numerous times since my wife told me the truth about her sexual past, in hope I would feel better. I feel worse and still angry. Help!
Q. I am seriously troubled with my wifes past and am so frusterated at the idea of living the rest of my life in anger. It is really depressing. She was my first girl friend and my only other sexual experience before her was a very humiliat...
A. 28 July 2008: Why are you so angry? She never cheated on you, she was a free gal doing what free people do- have sex with whomever they like. She didn't (and doesn't) owe you anything.
Why did you badger her so much about her past? Why was it so importan... (read in full...)
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