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writes:my girl gave me a ton of reasons not to trust her. I went into her phone (which the password for texting was just changed) and found very dirty messages to other guys. I brought them up and she said they are just jokes but i couldnt handle it. I broke up with her and she begged and won me back. Now i still worry so i check her phone just to get a piece of mind and i find weird messages, but when i look in the outbox a message sent isn't there to a guy, but she has messages like "you are bad lol" but there is nothing in the outbox. I can't confront her about it because she'll lose it on me but i just want to know if she's doing it again. I love her so much and everything else except this is great.
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reader, Destiny28  +, writes (28 July 2008):
Hi,
Well, first of all one thing I have learned about myself is to follow n trust my gut feeling. I used to date this guy not long ago at all and to be quite frank with you my gut feeling told me that something isn't right. I ended up checking his phone myself and guess what I found...messages from other chicks.... n NOTHING IN HIS OUTBOX...in addition to that the messages from all these other chicks were nasty as... so honestly when you start doubting there is a reason and if you don't deal and confront this issue now you will not enjoy your time with this lucky women with you by her side. So sit her down and get to the bottom line of it all... remember there is a reason why you are suspicious in the first place... Good luck and let us know what happened!!! Cheers,
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reader, Replacement +, writes (28 July 2008):
 It doesn't look like she's willing to stop these dirty texts for you, so you can either accept it or break up again. If everything else is great, maybe it's something you can work out, but it sounds like a serious trust violation to me.
There's always the eye-for-an-eye game... do the same thing back, see how she likes it, and hope she has an awakening wherein she realizes that it's not worth the pain she's causing you.
There's also a chance they are really just 'jokes' as she puts it, and there are no serious feelings going on.
Its a judgment call on your part... how can you be with someone who you don't trust? How can you be with someone who lies to you?
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