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writes:My husband had an affair. We have been married for almost 13 years. He has apologized and said that he would not cheat again, and that he wanted to close the door to that part of his life. He said he wants to work things out with me. For the last month things have been going pretty good, however I still find it hard to trust him. I though closing the door meant that he would no longer be in contact with her. He has been home more and we make love twice a day. He is a truck driver and drives at night. Last night he called me about 3:20 and said that he was tired. I asked if he wanted me to stay on the phone with him, he told me to go back to sleep. He come home around normal time. The next morning I was compelled to check his cell phone calls and I found out that he called her right after talking to me and was on the phone with her for 25 min. I called her from his phone and as her if they were still sleeping, she told me to talk to him. I confronted him, he said that it was nothing for me to worry about. We fought, we argued, he says that they are just friends now. I asked him why did he call her, he said to see how her conference went. Why is he still talking to her, when he tells me I am all that he needs. He says that they are not still having an affair. I believe him, but I do not want him talking to her. What do I do? I want my marriage. I want my husband. Should I be suspicious, or should I just trust him when he says that it is nothing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2008): He might be trying to end it with her, but it is an addiction.
I would suggest that you get a marriage counselor.
I would not fight with him.
I would be kind and compassionate.
He is probably trying to get over her, but it is hard.
Be NICE AND LOVING TO YOUR HUSBAND , but say (IN A KIND VOICE) if you want to be in a relationship with me, you need to stop communicating with her.
He can not be friends with her.
Good luck.
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reader, bluntasaspoon  +, writes (10 August 2008):
 sorry to say this but i think that he may be still having this affair. after all who calls up an ex and asks her about a confrence at stupid o clock in the morning. i think that a councillor may be in need for u 2, and also if his ex said to ask him if they were still sleeping together that usually means yes from my experience
sorry hun
bluntasaspoon x
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reader, Replacement  +, writes (10 August 2008):
 Of course you should be suspicious, he's taking you for a ride and abusing your trust. If he really wants to move on from his affair, he needs to stop torturing himself and you with contact with her. She needs to be gone from his life completely.
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