My partner and I argue and argue and argue...
Q. Hi, I am feeling really down right now because my partner and I argue all the time. I do love him and know he loves me but it is getting unbearable. It has been like this for some time now and we keep hoping it will get better. I am a disabled ...
A. 26 January 2005: Dear Shaz I think you have both got into a rut with arguing and it is getting out of control. This means that you aren't spending any quality time at all together and you are almost expecting to argue and flaring up very easily. You have got into... (read in full...)
I have lots of worries going through my mind about my lovely fella
Q. I met this lovely guy about a year ago who I instantly became attracted to. He wasn't interested but I kept my hopes up because we kept in contact both via the Internet and through text messages. At one point he even agreed to go out on a type of ...
A. 26 January 2005: I think you do need to establish why it is he changed his mind and ask him. It isn't surprising you feel insecure as at first he didn't really want to know. You also do need reassurance that he isn't cheating on you at uni. Basically, you need to ... (read in full...)
How do I measure love?
Q. I have two men in my life. One has a live-in lover but he claims he loves me. The other says he loves me too!?? I am confused. How do I measure their love for me? Thanks...
A. 26 January 2005: How do you feel about them? I think that is most important. Do you feel more for one than the other? It must be very confusing for you and do they know about each other??! The one that has a live-in lover sounds extremely untrustworthy! Does his... (read in full...)
69 worries
Q. my boyfriend wants to have oral sex in the 69 position altough this turns me on, it really scares me as well. we've done every thing else. but the thing is is i've never had anyone go down on me. i'm worried that i will smell and taste horrible. ...
A. 26 January 2005: You won't smell and taste horrible-your natural smell will most certainly turn him on so please do not worry. Anyway, what about him? Have you considered that he may be nervous about doing it as well? He may have done it before but not with you ... (read in full...)
I gave him the boot, now I find him attractive again (but he's dating my best friend)
Q. I dumped my boyfriend because it didn't feel right and now he's going out with my best mate but suddenly i've started to notice how good looking he is and how funny he is. So what do i do ?...
A. 26 January 2005: Why did you give him the boot in the first place? This is what you need to consider first and foremost just to remind yourself that you were right in the first place for doing it! If you think you were that is! It is simply only because your bes... (read in full...)
My fiancee dropped a bombshell, now I face a terrible choice: Between my man or ever becoming a mother
Q. I have been together with my now fiance for nine years. We had planned to get married in August. Now he drops a bombshell, he doesn't want children. He has known from the start of the relationship that one day I hope to be a mother. What should ...
A. 26 January 2005: You need to talk to your fiance again and establish exactly why it is that he doesn't want children. If he has always been aware that you wanted children perhaps something has made him change his mind or did he want children before? Did you discuss ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's sleazy collection of nudey cut-outs he keeps under his bed (and he's 22)!
Q. I am 20 years old and have been going out with my boyfriend for 5 years, my problem is not really our relationship because we get on fine. My real problem is that he keep photos of naked women under his bed that he gets from mens mags and news ...
A. 25 January 2005: In answer to your question as to why does he have to have a whore collection under his bed is quite simple: he is a man!! Men can't help but be visually stimulated unlike women who are more so turned on by emotional matters and feelings (in most ... (read in full...)
Should I ignore hot new guy who makes me feel on fire!?
Q. What do I do? I am 27 years old and have been with the same boyfriend for 14 years. We do love each other & think we want to spend the rest of our life together but now another man has tried it on with me! After 2 years of inocent flirting...
A. 25 January 2005: I think you need to seriously consider what your relationship means to you. Are you perhaps bored? Can you do anything to spice it up? This is what is missing, otherwise you wouldn't be quite so attracted to someone else. If you do indulge in anyth... (read in full...)
I find myself crying at marriage breakup... Could I have done more?
Q. I have been married for almost 6 years. My wife has been a nurse for the last 5 years and has always had the desire to become a doctor. Last September she successfully secured a place on a medical degree course at University. At first she was ...
A. 25 January 2005: Perhaps this really is a case of; 'if you love someone, let them go and if they come back to you, then they are yours, if they don't, they never were.' I think that you don't really have much choice but to let your wife go and fulfil her ambition... (read in full...)
Size of the average penis?
Q. Hi, I'm going to ask you a question you probaly get asked quite a lot but before you answer this has nothing to to with sex its purely based on penis size. At what point does a penis become small? I'm 5 inches long and its also thin. Am I smal...
A. 24 January 2005: 5 inches erect or flaccid?? I guess you mean erect as the average penis when not erect is about 1 and a half inches in width and 3 and a half inches long. Erect, the average penis is about 5 to 7 inches long so you fit in quite well (excuse ... (read in full...)
I keep getting turned down by girls, how can I make myself more attractive?
Q. I never seem to be able to get a girlfriend everytime i ask a girl out she turns me down i just wish some girl would like me but none do but i like many girls but since i have been turned down so many times i am afraid to get close to any girl and i ...
A. 24 January 2005: I think that perhaps you need to develop yourself a little more before you ask out another girl. Why not pursue your hobbies, spend some time with your mates and forget about girls for a while. Try to develop your confidence. Girls like interest... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has changed the photo on his phone, to a friend... Has he fallen out of love?
Q. i got together with my boyfriend after we had a casual relationship. when he told me he loved me and wanted a proper relationship. I didnt trust him at first because he used to be a bit of a tart, but he never gave me a reason not to trust him. now ...
A. 23 January 2005: I think the most important thing that you need to do is talk to your boy-friend. Explain to him that you feel as if he has somehow gone off you because of the way he has been acting. Tell him that you believe you can still trust him and that as you ... (read in full...)
Due to get married this summer! But what if grass is greener on the other side?
Q. Hello, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the last 3 years, and we are due to get married this summer. The problem is, although I love him very much I dont see us having a future. I am so confused I don't know what to do. What happ...
A. 21 January 2005: Dear H I think you need to ask yourself exactly why you feel so miserable and why you think your relationship has no future. Is it because you have nothing in common? Do you not laugh together anymore? Have you perhaps grown apart? Do you still ma... (read in full...)
Split up with my partner but we still keep ending up in bed! I can't go on like this
Q. PLEASE HELP! I was with my partner for 9 1/2 years when last july he decided he wanted to split up and he moved out. We had problems but as always he did not talk to me about his feelings and decisions and it came as a shock. I found the break up...
A. 21 January 2005: I am sorry to be brutal but it seems very much to me as if your ex-boyfriend is using you for when it is convenient for him. He ignores you when you need him but you are there constantly for him. You are making it very easy for him! This is not goin... (read in full...)
I wish my girlfriend showed a little more upset at our breakup!
Q. Hi, My ex-girlfriend and I finally decided to call it quits after I accidentally read her chat logs with one of her friends (I swear I bumped into it but I dont think she believes me) about how she has a crush on one of my close mates. We've ...
A. 21 January 2005: Your ex-girlfriend has no plans to move out and doesn't want you to either which indicates that she does value your friendship. Why can she not forgive herself? What did she do that was so wrong? You only say that she had a crush on one of your clo... (read in full...)
Does the desire to cheat and be satisfied make me selfish
Q. I have been having problems with my husband lately and i am starting to feel that maybe we are growing apart. We have only been married for 18months and have a 9month old son. Since being married my husband has had an accident and cannot return to ...
A. 21 January 2005: You are not being selfish. You simply want to feel desired and wanted and right this moment in time, your husband isn't making you feel this way. You want affection from your husband. It would be too easy to fall into the trap of having an affair w... (read in full...)
My girlfriend refuses sex so I can't help feeling frustrated and resentful!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for nearly 3 years and have a 1 year old daughter together. However, we are starting to drift apart and I'm worried our family will break up. It's been like this for about 5 months now, since my girlfriend ...
A. 21 January 2005: You say that you can talk and laugh together. I think you need to do this first and then gradually ease into the conversation what is bothering you. Explain to your girl-friend the importance of trust as well as intimacy and ask her whether it is ... (read in full...)
Should I feel flattered or upset that boyfriend only suffers premature ejaculation with me?
Q. i have been in a relationship now for 18 months and although he is fantastic and couldnt fault him in any way he has a big problem with premature ejaculation, ive printed stuff off the computer about this & know that it is normal, me & my boyfriend ...
A. 19 January 2005: You aren't doing anything wrong and you obviously do indeed turn your boy-friend on in a big way but on the other hand, this can be a little unsatisfying sometimes. I think he has become very performance conscious and you need to ease the pressure... (read in full...)
Should I feel flattered or upset that boyfriend only suffers premature ejaculation with me?
Q. i have been in a relationship now for 18 months and although he is fantastic and couldnt fault him in any way he has a big problem with premature ejaculation, ive printed stuff off the computer about this & know that it is normal, me & my boyfriend ...
A. 19 January 2005: You aren't doing anything wrong and you obviously do indeed turn your boy-friend on in a big way but on the other hand, this can be a little unsatisfying sometimes. I think he has become very performance conscious and you need to ease the pressure... (read in full...)
Scared of sex with my boyfriend... Don't want to be a virgin forever!
Q. hiya. i really want to have sex with my boyfriend but i am scared i will do something wrong. and will it hurt. my boyfriend says if i dont want to have sex we can do oral but i am also scared i will do this wrong. i am worried that becouse of this ...
A. 19 January 2005: You don't say how old you are but you need to remember that you shouldn't feel pressurised into doing something you aren't ready for yet and it seems this way to me. You both need to be ready to have sex not just one of you. If you don't want to ... (read in full...)
I read his cheating diary
Q. I've been with my partner now for almost 14 months. I'm 39 and he is 45, divorced, and we get on really well. We met through a dating magazine. It's just that he has a lot of female friends some of whom are women who he went on dates with before ...
A. 19 January 2005: Dear A Your partner obviously didn't want to tell you about who he had slept with because he thought it would portray him in a poor light. Unfortunately, curiosity always killed the cat as you have found! It was wrong for him to lie but it was a... (read in full...)
I get so jealous of guy I fancy... And emotional!
Q. I'm a student at university and i've been feeling really emotional. I really fancy a guy on my corridoor and he doesn't appear to fancy me back. I get jealous when he flirts with other girls and tonight i couldn't stand it anymore and i started ...
A. 19 January 2005: This strikes me as being a simple case of unrequited love! You want this guy because he doesn't appear to want you and then he becomes more of a challenge and more exciting to you. Does he know how you feel? If perhaps he did know, he may even ask... (read in full...)
Went to disco and picked up a... Text and email pest!
Q. hi. i went to a disco recently, and i took this guys e-mail address. my sister e-mailed him, so now he has my address. i was really angry with her, but this guy won't stop e-mailing me. he also has my mobile number and texts me at night. i know...
A. 19 January 2005: Somehow this guy has ended up with your email address although you need to remember you may have given him a bit of interest by taking his email address. I wander how he has your mobile number as well? It doesn't really matter because you don't want ... (read in full...)
I'm married to a wonderful woman... But she has just put a permanent ban on sex!
Q. Hi, I have been married to a wonderful woman for 22 years, she means the world to me and my 2 children, we are both now 43. My problem is, she doesn't want to have sex anymore, she said the problem is not with me, and that if I wanted to have s...
A. 18 January 2005: When you were making love with your wife, did you believe that she enjoyed it or did you ever get the feeling that she was only doing it to please you? You say that you enjoyed it but do you really believe that she did too?? Consider how she ... (read in full...)
My low self esteem is ruining my relationship with amazing guy
Q. I am with an amazing guy and up until now we've been very happy. The unhappiness started when I felt that he didn't like me anymore. Of course being an idiot female I then asked him if he liked me all the time, read way too much into everythi...
A. 18 January 2005: Obviously something has happened in your life to make you suffer such low self esteem. Perhaps firstly you need to challenge this and try to understand why your lack of confidence has come about. However, perhaps more importantly, you need to ... (read in full...)
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