It wasn't enough for him to break it off with me; he humiliated me when I tried to be friendly.
Q. I went out with a lad for about 5 months, everything was fine at first but then towards the end he started freaking out about the '6 months' thing. I broke it off last November and heard nothing from him until today when I saw him in town and thou...
A. 17 March 2005: What is this 6 month thing? Is it the equivalent to the 7 year itch or something? Did he mean that once you reached 6 months of being together that things would then automatically go wrong? Perhaps he has had this experience before and was unwilling ... (read in full...)
I'm hot for Teacher, but this is different: we're both girls!
Q. I'm having trouble with my personal feelings! I'm still in school and I've recently started having a crush on a teacher! The thing is, it's a female! I'm bisexual, but I've never really had feelings for any of the girls that I've been with. I've ...
A. 17 March 2005: You have nothing to worry about. What you are feeling is normal; it is simply a crush, an infatuation but that knowledge doesn't really help you, does it? It just means that you are maturing and learning to cope with new emotions and feelings. T... (read in full...)
I've found my fiance's gay and bi magazines. Do we get married anyway?
Q. I think my boyfriend may be gay or bisexual. I have found male pornography magazines. I am six months pregnant and due to marry this summer. Should I confront him? I love him so much....
A. 16 March 2005: I think you most cetainly need to talk to him. There could be an explanation for him having such magazines or he could indeed be hiding something from you. Whatever is the case, you need to find out and soon. This is the first thing you have to ... (read in full...)
My husband seems like he's having an affair and I want to run away...
Q. I am a 26 year old woman that has been married for 4 years. I love my husband very much, but from the minute we got married he has been acting like someone that is having an affair. I know that he is because some things have happened that almost b...
A. 15 March 2005: Do you want to leave him? You say that you love him very much but you don't get very much, if anything, from your marriage. You deserve much better than this. Have you tried talking to your husband about how you feel? Have you told him how unhappy ... (read in full...)
When we try to have sex our 2-year-old bursts into the room to see what's happening!
Q. We have no privacy. My husband and I have been married almost 6 years and we still have a very active sex life. We want to have sex every day but we have a two year old that is very active. And if we try to go in our bedroom to be alone for a fe...
A. 15 March 2005: I am assuming your two year old does go to sleep at night? Perhaps you have reasons as to why this wouldn't be an appropriate time. Not trying to sound judgemental, you really shouldn't be leaving a two year old on his own anyway. He could get into... (read in full...)
Another girl offered my boyfriend sex, down the alley near our house...
Q. A girl offered my boyfriend sex down some alley by our house. We had had a falling out that weekend so he started to walk with her to this alley, then stopped and said that I came into his head. Why did he even start to walk with her, because ...
A. 15 March 2005: You say he gets everything and more from you. I wonder what you mean? Perhaps that you put everything into the relationship? The question is: does he? No, he shouldn't have even considered the notion of having sex with this girl. Okay, so it is lu... (read in full...)
Do I tell my husband about the "almost-sex" or forget it ever happened?
Q. I have been married for 8 years now and love my husband very much. We get along great and have wonderful time together. Although we did go through a rough patch about a year ago over him having a relationship with a co-worker. He promised me nothi...
A. 14 March 2005: I think in this case, it is best to try and forget that it ever happened and make sure that it doesn't happen again. You were going through a rough patch at the time, though that isn't a reason to do what you did, and you also thought he may have ... (read in full...)
Are our problems a result of the age difference? Our histories? Or what?
Q. Hi - im in love with a man 17 years my junior. He's 29 next month & I'm 46. We met at work - I thought he was mid-thirties; he thought I was mid-thirties & by the time we found out the truth we were already together. We've had more than our fair...
A. 14 March 2005: You may both just be using the age difference as an excuse when it comes to arguing as it seems you both have unresolved issues that simply need to be resolved! Perhaps it would be an idea if you both go to separate counselling that isn't actually ... (read in full...)
I know this relationship is destructive and I want to leave it... but how?
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 5 years, since I was 15 and although I still care about him, I no longer feel the same. However, when I tried to end it with him, he flipped and started threatning all sorts of stuff, including...
A. 14 March 2005: It seems to me as if the guy you are with is very possessive and extremely afraid of losing you. Unfortunately, it is his behaviour, probably amongst other things, that is driving you away. You have been with him a long time and I think you are reco... (read in full...)
Can masturbation be harmful?
Q. Hi I am 19 years-old boy. I have a sex related question. I want to know whether masturbation has a bad effect on the body. Does masturbation makes our body weak? How many time can we masturbate?...
A. 12 March 2005: Masturbation doesn't have a bad effect on the body. It can provide relief from tension as well as sexual frustration and can lead to feeling calmer and more relaxed. Masturbation certainly doesn't make the body weak. It can give you an insight into ... (read in full...)
He won't touch me "there". Is it me? Or him?
Q. I have been seeing my boyfriend for a year and a half and everything is going fine, although when it comes to foreplay he is reluctant to go anywhere down there, even a hand job. This has been like this from the start. Am I doing somthing wrong or ...
A. 10 March 2005: You aren't doing anything wrong; he is. He obviously has some kind of hang up that needs addressing. It isn't because he doesn't fancy you. For some unknown reason he can't seem to touch you in an area that most men do. Have you tried asking him ... (read in full...)
Between his "fetish" DVDs and his attraction to web porn, I'm feeling unattractive to him...
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been dating my fiance for over 5 years now, and since we got the internet installed I have come across some of the sites he has been viewing, he has even bought Fetish DVD's online, how I know this...it aint hard to click on the h...
A. 10 March 2005: You have two choices here, as I see it. You either end the relationship and find someone who is more interested in you than unattainable women on a screen or you work at receiving the reassurance and attention that you so rightly deserve. Try te... (read in full...)
Since we got engaged, I'm feeling "trapped" and wondering what's wrong...
Q. I feel trapped in my relationship with my fiance but want to work on it. Have been together for 3 and a half years and have had good and bad times like any other relationship. We only got engaged five months ago and I have only been feeling this ...
A. 10 March 2005: Sometimes indulging in the 'lightning bolt' type relationships can be incredibly exciting and passionate but because most of the time they are based on euphoric feelings and lust, they don't always tend to last and often seem to lead to heartache. ... (read in full...)
Should our relationship be be based on him seeing me only when it's convenient for him?
Q. My boyfriend recently split up with me. Things weren't good between us we always argued and I was feeling a little insecure because believe it or not I loved him so much. As things got so bad I turned to texting another male, suppose I liked th...
A. 9 March 2005: Well, it could be that he is only seeing you when it is convenient for him. Does he reassure you when you are together about how he feels for you? It is all very well him testing you but you said you were also feeling insecure, so does he make you ... (read in full...)
A friend hinted that I'm too young to have a boyfriend...
Q. Hi, I'm 15 and have a boyfriend but a 20 yr old friend of mine hinted I'm too young. But most of my friends have boyfriends. I don't know what to do. Should I dump him or do most 15 yr olds have boyfriends??? We're just kissing and stuff and I do...
A. 9 March 2005: 15 isn't necessarily too young to have a boyfriend. It all depends on how you feel and what you are ready for. It sounds to me as if you are quite mature; you know what you want and you seem sensible. Many young people of your age have ... (read in full...)
How can my b/f love me when I feel so ugly?
Q. I feel so ugly- my boyfriend is fit and says I'm beautiful but I don't believe him because other people tell me how ugly I am- I'm so depressed....
A. 8 March 2005: Why in the world do other people get the chance to tell you that you are ugly? What makes them say that? It sounds like jealousy to me. Your boyfriend says you are beautiful so to him you must be. You say he is fit and he is attracted to you, so ... (read in full...)
I'm unsure of my feelings for my fiance. If I leave, will I regret it?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been in a relationship for over two years and am engaged. I don't know how much I love my fiance' sometimes, and at other times I love him very much. I know that he is dragging me down with his debt and his lack of willpowe...
A. 8 March 2005: One option could be for you to work together to increase his 'worthiness'. It seems to me that he could well be suffering from depression. He probably has a rather low opinion of himself which has not been helped by what others may think and he may ... (read in full...)
The ex looks good after all these years, but we're both with other people.
Q. I’m not far off 30, tried not to move out of home too soon, get pregnant young or get married to the wrong person, but now I am ready to settle down & make a life with someone. I fell in love at 17 in a 2 yr relationship with someone who felt...
A. 7 March 2005: I think really the best thing to do is to let your ex go and make your present relationship work. You may not like to hear this but if you did get back with your ex, there could be so much heartache. For example, your boyfriend would be devastated ... (read in full...)
I'm so insecure with my longtime boyfriend. How can I overcome my esteem issues?
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years (I'm 17). The problem is lately I've become really insecure and every time my boyfriend mentions another girl I think he wants to go off with her. It's getting ridiculous. I am constantly ...
A. 7 March 2005: I wonder why it is just lately that you have been feeling so insecure. You have been with your boyfriend for almost two years. Did you ever feel this way before? Has something happened to make you feel this way now? You say he understands. What does ... (read in full...)
I found evidence that he's chatting up someone else... but I did it by snooping. Who's wrong?
Q. I have caught my boyfriend having X-rated conversations with this girl over the internet. Should I tell my boyfriend and soon to be father of our kid, or should I just forget about it? The catch is is that I caught him by looking through his ...
A. 7 March 2005: I think you are definitely going to have to say something. The reason why you were snooping was due to lack of trust and it isn't at all surprising. Okay, so he may have a go at you for reading his mail but he really hasn't got a leg to stand on. He ... (read in full...)
If he likes me, why won't he show it?
Q. Dear Cupid , There is this boy at school who has always liked me. He has told my friends and myself and I have always liked him, but he has a girlfriend. He flirts with me on the phone and on msn, but he blanks me face to face. It's as if im in...
A. 6 March 2005: This boy probably does fancy you, finds you attractive but he doesn't love you. He has a girlfriend which does state that he is already 'involved' with someone. This will account for him blanking you when you see him as well as the fact that he ... (read in full...)
I want to start again with him. How?
Q. I am in college and there is this boy. He went to my comprehensive and we went out for a while in the last year of school for about three months. We broke up but I still love him and he still likes me. What should i say to him?...
A. 28 February 2005: I wonder why you broke up? You say you still love him and he likes you. Does he have enough feelings for you to go out together again? The only way to find this out is to ask him. Say to him how you still like him very much and that you would l... (read in full...)
I lied and told him he was my first - now I want to tell the truth. Should I?
Q. I lied and told my boyfriend that i never had sex when i really did. I didnt tell him the truth when we first met because i didnt want him to be with me just for sex. This was when i was 15 now iam 18. We are still together but he still thinks h...
A. 28 February 2005: I think that in this case, telling the truth may cause more trouble than it should really. I realise that you want to be honest with him but so much time has passed that it is probably better to say nothing at all. It seems you have a stable and ... (read in full...)
I'm over the age difference, but why is he so possessive?
Q. Hi cupid, Please help me , i am 39 and started seeing a guy who is 26 .Fist of all i had a problem with the age gap ,but now ive accepted it ,and just enjoy what we have .. Afetr a few weeks of seeing each other he then tells me he is in love , wit...
A. 28 February 2005: He does sound very insecure and if you want to stay with this guy, it would mean you having to reassure him constantly. If you do love him, perhaps you will want to do this. He needs to realise that you are only interested in him and no one else and ... (read in full...)
We seem great together, but am I "second best"?
Q. Hi I have been seeing my girlfriend for just over two months now and it feels like I have known her all my life. I have fallen head over heels in love and I know she loves me too. There is just one small problem. Often my girlfriend talks about he...
A. 28 February 2005: I think you need to tell your girlfriend that the way in which she refers to her previous boyfriend makes you feel insecure and uncertain as to how she feels for you. She needs to be able to reassure you that you aren't second best and you need to ... (read in full...)
She dumped me twice, so I broke up the third time...
Q. I've just dumped my girlfriend of 4 months. It's the third time we have been together. The last times she dumped me and broke my heart... twice! I think she is a stunning looking girl and I think about her all the time, but I guess I'm just sca...
A. 28 February 2005: You ended it because you were basically frightened she was going to let you down again. But how can you be sure that she would have? Did she give you any inkling that she was about to break up with you or a suspicion that she couldn't be trusted? I... (read in full...)
What about what other people think?
Q. Hey, I really like someone but they are 2 years younger then me and is very young lookin. Should it matter what others think?...
A. 28 February 2005: All that really matters is what you think and feel and what your partner thinks and feels. In this case, we are talking about appearances so it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. There is more to a person than how they look. It would be ... (read in full...)
Are my feelings so strong they could drive him away?
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I have a problem and I need advice. I have been with my boyfriend about 14 mths. I love him so much and want to be with him every day when I am not with him I cry and get nervous. But when I am with him I feel so good and never want...
A. 28 February 2005: Dear Natasha The best thing that you can do and this won't be easy at all I'm afraid, is to let him go and do what he wants. You are clinging on too hard and you need to find ways to not make him the main focus of your life. You need to develop ... (read in full...)
Although I love the sex, I never climax...
Q. I have never had an orgasm. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly a year and he has never been able to get me to orgasm. I love having sex with him and I always enjoy it... what can I do to help increase my chances of having an orgamsm? ...
A. 28 February 2005: Can you have an orgasm through manual masturbation? On your own? You could try this first. Find out what gives you pleasure by stimulating your clitoris. Once you have discovered what really turns you on you could then show your boyfriend how to ... (read in full...)
He was too big... now I'm too embarrassed to try sex again!
Q. The first time I had sex, the guy was too "well-endowed" and couldn't fit inside me. We never saw each other again afterward. Am embarrassed to have sex again, because I am worried I am "too tight" as he put it. I wasn't nervous at the time and was ...
A. 28 February 2005: Well, you could say that you both experienced every woman and every man's fantasy! Many women (despite what they say about size not mattering) like a man who is well endowed and many men like a woman who is tight! Joking aside, obviously the ... (read in full...)
The guy she's with isn't a nice person, but she can't seem to see that...
Q. I love a girl I was sleeping with a year ago. We have always been good friends & I hear from the grapevine that she still has feelings for me, but she has hooked up with a guy that I know is not a nice person, & is using her. She has had a bit of a...
A. 26 February 2005: I think what you are doing now is the right thing to do; being a loyal and caring friend. If she is aware that you are there for her then she will turn to you when the need arises. It sounds as if she is likely to do this. It is probably due to l... (read in full...)
The sex is wonderful, but I know I shouldn't be this sore!
Q. Hello, Me and my boyfriend have great sex all the time but afterwards I feel sore and I sometimes bleed. I have the injection every 3 months so we never use condoms but just recently I have started to feel really sore and bleed. We have started to ...
A. 26 February 2005: The best thing for you to do is to go to your doctors who can diagnose what is happening and supply you with the necessary medication if you need it. It could be that you have an infection that is being irritated when you make love. You could ha... (read in full...)
Is there a way to win over her parents, so we can get married?
Q. I love a girl and she loves me too, but the problem is her parents are not agreeing for our engagement. She had an engagement before but was broken by her. Please assist me how to win her parents' hearts so I can get her. I love her a lot and can'...
A. 26 February 2005: I think you need to find out why it is that your girlfriend's parents dont want you both to be engaged. Perhaps they are concerned their daughter is going to get hurt. If this is the case you need to build up their trust in you which takes time. The ... (read in full...)
Sex 4 times in 4 months. Why can't I do it?
Q. I'm so confused at the moment. I have a great, wonderful boyfriend who I love so much. We have been together four months now but I have trouble understanding why in those four months, we have only made love about 4 times!! It's not him though, ...
A. 26 February 2005: I think it is very important that you do talk about this together. Have you found out if your boyfriend is happy with the amount of times that you do it? Are you reassured of his love for you? You say you think of all these romantic and sexy thi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too tired and moody for me to tell him how alone I feel...
Q. Dear Agony Aunt, I have a problem with being able to be alone! I have no job but am continuously looking for work but I don't have the best qualifications because I left school before I should have done due to bullying. I'm studying now for c...
A. 26 February 2005: I think that what has happened to you in your past is certainly affecting your present life. It seems you have low confidence and I think that it is important that you try to build this up. This has to be achieved on your own really so that you ... (read in full...)
Do girls care whether I'm circumcised?
Q. Do girls care if a man has been circumcised because i have and i am scared to get it out. help...
A. 24 February 2005: You have nothing to fear. Girls do not care about this in the way that you think. At the end of the day, if a girl really cares about you, this will not be her prime concern anyway. A loving relationship is about far more than appearan... (read in full...)
We married in January, but I'm in love with somebody else...
Q. I need help. I'm married but I don't love him. I'm in love with someone else. I have two kids and need to tell the man im married to I don't love him, but we just got married in Jan. please help me ...
A. 24 February 2005: I wander why you got married when you were in love with someone else? Did you feel pushed into marriage? Whatever the reasons, I am assuming you no longer wish to remain married. You will have to tell your husband in as tactful a way as possible... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't seem to want anything but the TV...
Q. My husband never wants sex with me and never kisses me or even touches me. He has no job or car and recently got atrial fibulation. We were seperated for a long time and recently got back together but it isn't working. He watches t.v. all day ...
A. 22 February 2005: It could be that your husband is suffering from depression which can cause him to feel lethargic and not wish to involve himself in every day life. You say he has no job which could be a contributory factor. He may also be experiencing lethargy from ... (read in full...)
My bf is concentrating so hard, he can't climax. What do we do?
Q. My new boyfriend has trouble reaching orgasm with me. He claims that it is because he likes me too much and gets too worried during sex. He says he's focusing too hard or thinking too hard. I've told him gently that all I care about is enjoying...
A. 21 February 2005: I think the pressure needs to be eased off your boy-friend as much as poss and I know you aren't putting him under pressure;he is basically doing this to himself. He is suffering from worries about his performance and it does become a vicious ... (read in full...)
He acts like a rude jerk and I just want to have a nice life as a family...
Q. Hello I have been with my partner for 5 years. We have 2 children which we both are exellent parents to, but we argue all the time and it has never improved. We seem to pick on each other he acts like a giant teenager and all I want is to have ...
A. 21 February 2005: You say you are excellent parents but arguing in front of the children doesn't constitute good parents and you say that your husband pushes you to breaking point in front of the kids. This certainly needs to stop because, as you have implied, an ... (read in full...)
How do I help my gf enjoy sex as much as I do?
Q. I'm 16 and I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months. We're both new at sex and she just told me of all the times weve done "it" shes only REALLY enjoyed it once and I wish she enjoyed it as much as I do. Am I doing something wrong? How can ...
A. 21 February 2005: Which was the time when she really enjoyed it? What did you do for her that satisfied her that time? You are both new to sex so it may take a while, perhaps not so much for you from what you say, but for her to discover what she really enjoys. ... (read in full...)
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