I just want to sleep with him but now I've said something silly and I don't know how to convince him that I only want sex!
Q. I want to maintain a strictly sexual relationship with this guy I've been sleeping with on and off for the past few months. But the other day, after a great night of sex, I made a stupid request. I told him next time I just want to talk and go to ...
A. 15 January 2006: Perhaps it was a freudian slip that made you say what you did. Are you being honest with what you really want in this relationship? It takes quite a strong minded woman to maintain a sex only relationship without any emotions. Be sure in your mind ... (read in full...)
I have cunning plan to get back with my ex-girlfriend... Tell me: Will it work?
Q. I submitted an inquiry about my girlfriend of 2 and a half years breaking up with me. She said "I don't think I can rekindle the feelings I once had for you, no matter how much you change." But I am determined to prove her wrong. I have thought very ...
A. 13 January 2006: I truely believe you are trying too hard and that if she has any sense at all she will see right through your 'plans'!
If you have to create, organise and plan a method of 'getting her back' then you aren't being true to her or yourself. She isn'... (read in full...)
I've lost friends because he's overprotective...
Q. Hi im am 16 and have lost most of my friends because my boyfriend is very overprotective! What can i do to stop him from being like this and getting my friendships back?...
A. 12 January 2006: I don't know how old your boyfriend is but if he isn't much older than you then it is far too young to be so overprotective and insecure.
Perhaps the best thing to do is be firm with your boyfriend. Explain to him that you intend to talk to some... (read in full...)
Lots of non verbal behaviour...does this mean she likes me??
Q. dear ladies..i have just got out of a relationship of 5 yrs(10 weeks ago now) and have just met a lovely woman, we have been out on a couple of dates, and theres a lot of the flicking of her hair, playing with her hair, knee pointing at me..do i ...
A. 12 January 2006: She might just like playing with her hair and she might just be comfortable sitting that way! You could be reading a little too much into this but generally speaking, our bodies do have a habit of revealing how we feel. Women may play with their ... (read in full...)
I feel horrible for violating her need for space. Please let me know if there is anything all that I can do to mend things between us?
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me a month ago today. She said she needed her space. I violated that space by sending her mails VIA internet. I realize that I totally messed up, and I let her know that. She said It's good that I realized that I messed ...
A. 12 January 2006: I must admit to not being too sure exactly how you viloated her space if you only sent her emails? Or did you send her mail somewhere?? I'm a bit confused here as I can't see what you've done wrong and on the basis of that, I would say she's making ... (read in full...)
Is she on the rebound...does she care anymore for me??
Q. Sorry for writting maybe to much but i have a lot to say: MAIN QUESTION IS AT THE BOTTOM I met this girl when I was 13 yrs. old and she was 9. We met when our brothers were hospitalized and were having cancer treatment. We both were from the same...
A. 6 January 2006: Depends on the woman as to whether she can hide her feelings better than her male counterpart; some can, some can't. We are all unique and I don't think that women can necessarily hide their feelings better than men or vice versa.
The guy she is s... (read in full...)
My wife left over my anger problems. She also had affairs. I want to work through our problems, but she won't even see me!
Q. My wife left me a few months ago after 5 years and 1 day of marriage. She has returned to her home country of Spain and for another week I am still in the States before I depart for Spain as well. I will begin by stating her reasons for leaving....
A. 6 January 2006: Perhaps she didn't give herself 100% to the marriage but then neither did you if you got so angry and treated her so badly. It would have been better if you had received help when you were both together such as marriage guidance counselling; going ... (read in full...)
We lost the sex and I am so sad about it...
Q. Hi. Have a question about sex with my wife. We've been married for 8 years, together for about 13 total. Sex has always been great. Up until maybe 3 years ago. She started losing interest in sex and seemed to only want to do it to please me. ...
A. 5 January 2006: Ignore anonymous below firstly.
I think you have tried most things and have shown yourself to be amazingly patient. I imagine that you have discussed all reasonable causes and you are not pressurising her.
I'm sure you have possibly extended... (read in full...)
Does my willy have too much skin? What will my MSN love think?
Q. Hi, i've just turned 14 (december) and have met this girl through over mates of mine. I havn't seen her in person yet but she wants to meet up soon. Many girls on msn have said i look "fit" but this girl says she "loves" me. But the only thing is...
A. 4 January 2006: First and foremost, it would be highly unlikely that this girl loves you as she hasn't even met you and built up a relationship with you so hold your horses! Plus, you are very young which I'm assuming means she is young also. I think you need to ... (read in full...)
I split with my gf of 4 years a couple weeks ago...now I want her back! She's unsure-what do I do?
Q. need advice,split up with my girl friend of 4 years 2 weeks ago, a decision we both made but i sugested it, all though it was very hard for me. but now i know how much i love her and want to get back with her. I have told her this but she is unsur...
A. 4 January 2006: You do need to examine the reasons why you both split in the first place and you need to give her time to think things through.
It possibly doesn't feel right for her because you have split up and it would feel a little odd to get back together agai... (read in full...)
I want more than friendship from her...what do I do?
Q. Ok so I know this girl. Shes 27 and she is AWSOME. I can't get enough of her when Im around her and we connect on all levels. I've had this major (you prolly can't fathom how big this crush is) on her. Now we used to work together and we've still ...
A. 4 January 2006: I wonder what the age difference is between you?
Instead of trying to kiss her, why not ask her how she would feel about going on a date?
Explain to her that you love being friends with her and that if she wishes it to remain this way, then tha... (read in full...)
Have I the right to revenge?
Q. I am in the process of a messy break up. I put up with too many ugly lies, cheating and dangerous behavior from her. I feel right to revenge at this point, should I?...
A. 3 January 2006: All the answers here have the right idea. Don't get so caught up in planning your revenge and instead consider how you are going to live your life now and avoid another woman like this one.
You must also take some responsibility here. If you were... (read in full...)
A sexual question I need to ask...
Q. please don't laugh at this question, but what is a gimp? all i know is that they wear a funny mask, but what do they do? i mean, i know it's something sexual. are thry kind of sex slaves? i am 23 and i am embarrassed not to know this and i'd feel ...
A. 3 January 2006: A gimp isn't a person but a fetish mask that some people like to wear to fetish/sexual parties or when making love. You were half right, but it isn't a name for a certain type of person but a certain type of face/head wear.... (read in full...)
How do I tell her that I'm much older than she thinks??
Q. Age difference I'm a currently single 42 year old guy who, I guess, has been blessed with a bit of a "baby face". I also keep myself in shape, and even my hair is still pretty much it's natural colour (that is, next to no greying). Many p...
A. 3 January 2006: I think you just need to be honest really. Ask her how old she thinks you are. You may be surprised and find out that she actually thinks you are older than what you think she thinks, which therefore won't be a problem for her if she likes you (hope ... (read in full...)
He says he gets no feeling from sex...how can I help him??
Q. He says "he doesn’t" like sex! I asked why and he says he gets no feeling, Im 21 and he's 22. He insists on using a condom every time (he’s a big guy and the condom's are fun and games just to get on) even though I take the pill, I wonder if its ...
A. 3 January 2006: He obviously has a big hang up about the idea of getting you pregnant. It seems to totally terrify him which would explain why he gets no feeling from sex - its psychological more than a physical problem.
Condoms can also decrease feeling for a man.... (read in full...)
How much sex is normal in a relationship??
Q. I have been married for four months, living with my partner for 18 months and together for 3 1/2 years. He thinks we are not having enough sex, I'm satisfied, and it is starting to become an issue. How much sex is normal in a long term relationship? ...
A. 3 January 2006: I think Tinkz below was trying to suggest a compromise and that is a good idea. Perhaps you feel satisfied and don't wish for more sex but that he does, so you could pleasure him in ways that do not involve intercourse if you don't want to do that. ... (read in full...)
Will he ever change and will I ever get what I really need from this relationship??
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 22 year old female and I have been with my current boyfriend for 2 years. Our relationship has been nothing but up and down from the beginning. We have broken up four or more times, and we argue quite frequently. My friends ...
A. 3 January 2006: I bet when you finished writing your posting to this site that you had a good idea as to what people would say and I also reckon you already know the answer to your situation.
However, emotions and fear do have a nasty habit of getting in the way,... (read in full...)
What does the winking, wedding-ring-wearing, man mean?
Q. There is this man i have been friendly with for the best part of a year. Though we have never specifically met up alone. when we see each other he will be as friendly as ever, even giving me a touch on the shoulder or back whenever i've seen him ...
A. 30 December 2005: If he wears a wedding ring, sex without strings would be my first guess.
Perhaps what you need to do is consider his wedding band as a warning that should be printed on his forehead: "I am married so avoid me if I am flirtatious as I'm not to be t... (read in full...)
My married lover feels sorry for his wife and won't leave because of the kids. How do I break off this affair?
Q. I have been having an affair with a married man for ten years. I was twenty four then, and a student in his torts class. He says he loves his wife, but he loves me more. Because of their two children, he has to stay with her (he also feels sorry ...
A. 30 December 2005: All the advice below is accurate but I think you need to ask yourself why it is you have been with him for the last ten years. Once you've figured this out, then you can understand why you have stuck with him and what you would like from someone who ... (read in full...)
I had unplanned sex with my girlfriend, but I'm not yet 14. She couldn't be pregnant, could she?
Q. Hi People, I am a 13 year old male who is almost 14. Recently (for about 2 months) I have been going out with this 16 year old girl. At first all we did was kiss, make-out and foreplay etc, but last night my parents were both at hen/stag nights ...
A. 29 December 2005: We all make mistakes, even people much older than you have made a similiar mistake involving having sex without protection but your age, whether you are brainy or not, whether you plan to stay together are all irrelevant. You both took a huge risk ... (read in full...)
My wife hates the idea of my close female friend. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, Please help me solve a problem with my wife. I have a married female coworker who I have become friends with. We talk on the phone daily as we are not always assigned to the same location. She sends emails and pictures to me a...
A. 29 December 2005: I feel for both you and your wife. Your wife obviously has issues with self esteem and confidence as well as insecurity and jealousy. These need to be addressed in as gentle a way as possible.
Remind and reassure your wife how much you love her (I'm... (read in full...)
I despair... My Xmas present from my younger boyfriend was a 2nd hand book about rabbits!
Q. Iv'e been having a relationship on and off for more than 3 years now with a man who is 9 years younger. I am 42 and have 2 grown up children, I'm educated and have just become a grandmother on xmas day,(which he made a sarcastic remark about me...
A. 29 December 2005: You are not selfish, nor are you expecting too much from this 'boy'. You are expecting an equal and loving relationship which you deserve and which he cannot seem to give.
Don't confront him again; simply say to him calmly that you are no long... (read in full...)
I treated her so badly...but I desperately want her forgiveness
Q. Hi, please am so sad i need help.Try not to judge me when you read my story, my mind is already doing that.i have been under depression but i know its no excuse.here it goes. I have been dating this girl for 6years now. I did promise to marry...
A. 22 December 2005: Your posting really moved me and I think you are brave to admit how badly you treated this girl. This will stand you in good stead to not do it again with a future relationship. However, you must also try and understand why you were this way with ... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much of my partner to give me more compliments... Is it right to ask him to change?
Q. Hi everyone, I have an otherwise good relationship with my partner. We have been together for two years and living together for 18 months of that. He says he loves me and I believe that he does, but he is not very good at articulating his...
A. 21 December 2005: You aren't asking too much to want to be made to feel special, wanted, sexy, attractive, etc, etc. However, women do not always receive such compliments and expressions from their partners. This is pretty common and it is all to do with the ... (read in full...)
He does look at porn, and he lies to me about it. Should this be the end of things?
Q. Been with my bf for over 3 years. Anyways I feel really insecure in the relationship. He looks at porn and always perves at other women when we are out in the public. I have told him about how this makes me feel yet he still does it. I was just won...
A. 19 December 2005: Talk to him again first.
Looking at porn is one thing, disrespecting you while you are out by leering at other women is possibly worse and then lying about the porn as well does equal a man who appears not to care for how you feel. Allow him to know... (read in full...)
When I asked my husband what he liked about my body he replied "hands and feet" !
Q. Im hoping some of you wonderful people can give me some input on this one. As you will know from my previous post my husband made it very clear that he found porn stars more attractive than me. Since this problem came out in the open he has ...
A. 18 December 2005: If you want him to understand just how important it is for you to feel special, attractive and wanted in his eyes then you could really bite the bullet on this one. He hasn't got the slightest clue how women really tick and this may seem a little ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can have a bigger penis??
Q. This may sound dumb but, my girlfriend has had sex with alot of guys (like 30) this dosen't bother me that much (well it does but I'll deal) She had a couple guys with huge penis's like 10 inchers I have a 7incher and want a bigger one has anything ...
A. 16 December 2005: Surgery may give you a bigger penis but it will hurt!
There is absolutely nothing wrong with the size that you are and what you need to do instead is recognise why you feel this way.
If your girlfriend was happy with her previous sexual partners... (read in full...)
I like him but I worry he may think I'm after him to get a free meal ticket-and I'm not!
Q. The man I like is extremely popular (he is the life and soul of the party and I am the wallflower) and is highly successful in his career, whereas I feel like a total loser in comparison. I am in my early 30’s, and I am feeling at the lowest point ...
A. 15 December 2005: Right, now what else do you exactly wish to contribute to the relationship? I'm assuming you mean money because from what I can gather, you can provide this man with everything else. I reckon you would be the perfect woman for him and the qualities ... (read in full...)
How can I win his heart though he is with someone else?
Q. i am starting to really like this man, but he has a girlfriend. he says there's nothing there, but he is afraid to make her go because she has no where to go. but he won't make our dating experience known to her. but everyone in my family knows and ...
A. 12 December 2005: Don't try to win his heart unless you want to end up with a broken one of your own (not to even mention his poor girlfriend).
Your best bet is to leave this man alone to sort out his problems (if he does indeed have any...and you can only take his ... (read in full...)
How do I get away from my verbally-abusive, drug dependant ex boyfriend so I can get on with my life?
Q. Sorry, this is kind of a long one, but it is quite a story, so hopefully someone will read it and give me some advice. I am almost 30 and have been with my 26 year old boyfriend for 4 1/2 years. I moved in with him 3 years ago. After I moved in, ...
A. 8 December 2005: My heart goes out to you and I think you are a very brave, strong woman in such awful circumstances. You are articulate and intelligent and I think you answer your own questions in your posting.
The man you have been involved with is very much unst... (read in full...)
She avoids looking at me sometimes...what does this mean?
Q. I have been involved with a girl at work for a few months now, and she has a live-in boyfriend. The two of them have a little girl. Some days she will openly flirt with me and look into my eyes, no problems. Yet on other days she will talk to me ...
A. 6 December 2005: If all you have been doing is exchanging a few looks, then you aren't involved with her at all.
This is very simple to answer...stop trying to work out what it means if she doesn't look at you properly. You want her to like you but she is invo... (read in full...)
My husband has threatened...either the pet dog goes or he moves out!
Q. I am a newlywed, married in August. When my husband and I were dating, I had a dog. My husband had never owned pets in his life, but seemed okay with it. Some months before the wedding, my dog was killed. I was grief stricken, but I always knew ...
A. 5 December 2005: Okay, my turn now.
Oops, going to make the fatal mistake of commenting on other people's advice here! But your answer to your problem is here within the answers.
The 'DreamMaster' (who incidentally I think normally writes excellent replies.... (read in full...)
My bf is physically abusing me and has threatened to kill me. My kids and I need to get away...I am terrified-please help me!
Q. I have been in a relationship with my son's dad for almost 4 years now. After we found out that we were having my son, he started getting verbally abusive, and eventually physically abusive. I have tried to leave him but I can't get away. Now that ...
A. 30 November 2005: I don't know where you live but I live in Great Britain and there is no way on this earth that the police here would tolerate such domestic violence. They have stepped up on it to protect victims of such abuse. I am horrified at the police's ... (read in full...)
My husband had an affair and watches porn.
Q. My husband has been lying to me, watching porn alone and has had a affair. what is wrong? ...
A. 30 November 2005: He is very much in the wrong and the only way to find out why this has happened is to open the communication channels between you.
There could be several reasons why he has had an affair and possibly the same or different reasons for him watc... (read in full...)
Need some help with a health assignment-need some input on responsible sexual relationships.
Q. Hello, i have an assignment from my health teacher and he wanted us to list some factors that will lead a couple to a responsible sexual relationship....
A. 30 November 2005: I think such an assignment would need some research on the following topics;
Contraception; the different types such as the pill, injection, condoms, etc. Perhaps included in this would be how a couple would discuss such an issue before they actu... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has been sleeping with my grandfather!
Q. I am 18 and my girlfriend is 16. Recently I found out she has been sleeping with my grandfather, and I feel so disgusted. What should I do?? Jason...
A. 29 November 2005: I am not surprised you feel disgusted. Have you spoken to your grandfather? Does he understand not only what he has done to your relationship but obviously how young this girl is and therefore how out of order and disgraceful his behaviour is?
S... (read in full...)
Is it right for me to want to get back with my ex?
Q. Hi there, recently my ex, who i had a 2 year relationship with, came back into my life after a year without talking because his girlfriend had ended with him. We had a lovely time and we got on very well, ive offered to be his shoulder to cry on and ...
A. 29 November 2005: It comes across to me that this ex may use you for sex when he can get round to it and he is having doubts about the idea. You don't want to be used; it seems you want to be a part of his life in the more committed sense and I'm not sure that he ... (read in full...)
Is it okay for your boyfriend to go to a nightclub?
Q. When a boyfriend takes a "guys night out" and the guys go to a stripclub, do they think any less of their girlfriend when they come back? Do they compare the girls they see to their girlfriend? Is there any good way to suggest to my boyfriend that ...
A. 28 November 2005: I don't believe it to be a sign of insecurity to state that if a man is happy in his relationship, then he doesn't have a need to go to a strip club. I mean, he has a girl at home who he loves, fancies, etc.
You have received a mixed bag of resp... (read in full...)
How do I end the flirting with my online friend without hurting her?
Q. I have got myself into a bit of trouble,or could do if i can't break my habit.I have been playing on my webcam with a lady for the past month and she thinks i am single and want to meet her,she is married as well but says she doesn't love her ...
A. 28 November 2005: You probably will hurt her as you haven't really got much choice in the matter.
It is a bit late now to tell you what you have done has been deceitful as I'm sure you are aware of this. Not only are you going to hurt this lady but also, what abou... (read in full...)
How do I make him want me again?
Q. I want to do something special for my husbands birthday... I can count the number of times that we have had sex on one hand in the last year, and if I use both hands thats about how many times we have in the past 18 months. I'm really confused ...
A. 28 November 2005: The very first thing to do is ignore what Tim has said!(Trying to live out his fantasies through your problem!)Could be a classic way to make things worse!
Going out for a romantic meal and just relaxing together could be a good idea for his birt... (read in full...)
How do we go back to how things were though she cheated?
Q. 3 days ago I discovered my partner of 5 years was seeing someone else. I still desperately love her, and want to get over this and get back together. She has been seeing him for a month and says that while she still has feelings for me, she loves ...
A. 27 November 2005: I am so sorry for the pain that you are in right now and my heart goes out to you.
If she is aware of the fact that you want the relationship to work and that you forgive her for her unfaithfulness, then the ball really is in her court now.
I don... (read in full...)
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