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I want to lose my virginity but how can I stop being nervouse?

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Question - (17 August 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 19 August 2009)
A male United Kingdom age 26-29, *ayx writes:

im nearly 15 and i havent lost my big V yet and my gf whants to have sex with me i want to do it too but im nevrous what can i do to not be nervous?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2009):

Sorry, dude, but everybody's bound to be nervous their first time. If you're going to lose your virginity, be sure you want to do it and use a condom. There's isn't anything you can do to stop being nervous.

PS--Virginity is all in your mind. There's no physical indication whether a person lost their virginity or not. (Well except for girls and their hymen but most of them rip it partially before their first time.)

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009):

only in the western culture there is anything called male virginity.in the oriental and eastern cultures only girls have virginity and that is her hymen which is broken when having sex for the first time.so please stop this nonsense about male virginity. there is no such thing.

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A male reader, RAINORFIRE United States +, writes (17 August 2009):

RAINORFIRE agony auntYour probably gonna be nervous about your first time at any age.What you need to decide is if your ready is it something you want.

Dont have sex to please some one else or becuse you think they will love you more.

You dont need to rush you have plenty if the boy really cares about you he wont pressure you into it.

its natural to be nervous you should explain this to your partner. the decision is ultimately yours if you do it do it because you want to.

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A female reader, kahlan United Kingdom +, writes (17 August 2009):

kahlan agony auntHoney,I dont want to sund like a prude, but it doesnt sound like your ready yet.Everyone is nervous their 1st time,but if you are totally ready then you should be more exited than nervous.I lost my V at 14 and regreted it as it wasnt with the right person.I fancied him but he was a bit of a whore-master and i was so tense it hurt as he didnt even try 2 give any foreplay.U dont say how old your gf is.If u are both determined,remember to give each other lots of foreplay.It will relax you both-especially if its her 1st time as well.In fact could u not give each other foreplay instead of having sex for a while.Also a wee warning.My wee 15 y/o cousin has just got his 15 y/o gf pregnant after their condom burst.They are really struggling and will be struggling more when the baby comes.No matter what you decide Good Luck to you both.

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A female reader, luvranon United States +, writes (17 August 2009):

DON'T do it. Then you have nothing to be nervous about! You are only 15, and if this gf of yours is pressuring you to have sex, then she must be pretty experienced herself. You could get over the nervousness of having sex...actually have it...then replace the nervousness in your life with that of wondering if you've gotten her pregnant, or contracted an STD.

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