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writes:okay, so im seventeen and ive never actually had a boyfriend, i was more interested in my school work, i was interested in boys, but felt i was too young for a relationship.. etc :) well recently, me and this guy (dean) have been talking, alot. we went to the same college and became good friends, but over msn and text we've been talking loads and both really like each other, hes not very experienced with girls, nor am i with guys, and i feel so comfortable talking to him about it.. so anyway, we decided that on thursday (20th) we'd meet up and go to college together, to collect our exam results, then go into town for lunch or to the pics or something (informal date) ive been looking forward to it for days now, last night we'd spent about 2 hours on the phone, and when i put it down, my ''**best friend**'' phoned me and she announced that her and dean had met up earlier on that night and she took him behind this bus stop and s*cked him off.. !! i burst out crying and i hung up on her. ive told her right from the start of likin him, which was about 4 months back now! how i felt, she was suppose to be my best friend and i told her everything! even about how amazin it felt about 3 weeks ago when he kissed me for th first an only time! :( he denies meetin her, and i do actually belive him! but cant understand why she'd say something like that if it wasnt true, even though shes a friend, she has got a reutation! also a boyfriend! i just dont know what to do. i feel so low and down! shes had everyone, and the ONE person i like, i tell her about and she f*cks it up for me! what can i do?!? :( sorry its so long x
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reader, Jen, +, writes (16 August 2009):
 If i'm honest, I can't believe she sucked him off. Your friend may just be a jealous person. One question that comes to me is why she told you she sucked him off, when she has a boyfriend. If she knew how much you loved this guy and she was a true friend she wouldn't have done that. That's if she even did that of course. If Dean denies it then don't listen to your friend. There are a lot of cruel people in this world that will do anything to destroy your happiness. One of those people could be your friend.
What she said shouldn't bring you down, continue with the guy. If you see that things won't work it out, then it's best that you don't go out.
Jen x
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reader, rcn  +, writes (16 August 2009):
 You believe him? I think I would too. Your friend may have been with everyone, but if she really did suck him off, I don't think she'd be calling you and bragging about it. I think she knows about your getting close and called to give you a hard time, or could be jealousy because you and he both have inexperience
I think for my experience too, granted younger folks are more experimental than we were. When I was shy, and nervous around girls with not much experience, there is no way I would have pulled anything out with a girl doing that behind a bus. If someone even started I would have been full of excuses, "hear mom calling, I gotta run, sorry." ya know. So I think in this case, give him the benefit of the doubt. I think your friend was rubbing her experience in your face, so to speak.
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reader, Mr. Adviser +, writes (16 August 2009):
 First off, lose that friend. Either way truth or not, shes a piece of you know what. You don't lie to someone like that, and you definitely don't interfere with someone elses relationship like that. I can almost say for certain Dean is telling you the truth. Seems like your friend is a little jealous perhaps? Or maybe she is tired of hearing about Dean, and decided to take care of it. There are many reasons for stupid people to do stupid things.
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reader, Scorpio 2  +, writes (16 August 2009):
Try to identfy his feelin and then make your self sure to continue without having sex for some time up to which you got his feeling
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): You can't possibly be her friend now. She is horrible. I remember years ago I went nightclubbing and really liked this singer and we dated. Then I took a friend to the nightclub and I left early and she stayed and went back to his home. I found this out because she phoned me discreetly asking if I had caught anything. I hadn't as I hadn't slept with him. She obviously did straight away. How could my friend do that to me? I'm not saying that your one did. If she has a character that would, she could be lying to break you up to get him, or she could have offered things to tempt him. I would give him the benefit of the doubt and dump her off
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (16 August 2009):
 shes bull shting you hope* im guessing she thought it would be funny to tell you that. You should call her up and find out if she was serious or joking if shes joking and she doesn apologize after you tell her how she made you feel shes not a friend at all just a hater.
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