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writes:I am 20 going to be 21 this year and have never had a boyfriend before. Actually, there were several guys who pursue me last time and I almost got into a relationship with a guy (J) this year april after dating for around 3 months. We agreed to keep it from our common friends because he said that he don't want them to interfere in our courtship. Things get odd and I told him to be friends when I find out from our common frenz that he is flirting with a junior in my school. When I questioned him he denie and told him he is just trying to distract them to think that the girl he likes is not me but the junior. I told him to be friends because I am too heartbroken then and after around 2 months he got into a relationship with that junior.I am very upset about it and is very pessimistic with regards to relationship now. There is another guy ( W) who kept asking me out but I rejected him more than 7 times. I am very afraid that I will not dare to trust anyone again.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI see thanks beachbabe but I don't love him anymore. Hope to start everything afresh in my own single life.
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reader, beachbabe  +, writes (18 August 2009):
No problem =)
Well..
if you really love this guy you should still communciate with him " as friends", don't avoid him. Do try to be friends with him. Act normal & never tell him you miss him. Also you should get to know other guys =) Which would make your ex super jealous & he might come running back to you. guys gets really jealous easily.. even thou he has a new girlfriend.. he will get jealous ^-^. But, dont only talk to other guys to get him jealous, you should talk to others to forget about him..move on. but, usually when a girl is moved on the ex usually be the one to come running back.
Good Luck Girl! =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear beachbabe,
Do mind to explain what do you mean by I got to tell him how I feel when everything its over already?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am heartened to hear all of your answers which makes me more sure that time will really heal the wounds. Yes, I agree that I am perhaps too serious in this relationship with him even before we are really together because I never know that he is a lier. Everyone can be a lier just that I can still stay truthful to myself when I meet another special one.
Actually (w) knows about (j) as I told him that before when he asked me out. I guess I will give him a chance to know him better next time, ultimately I guess making one more friend doesn't seems to be a bad idea afterall.
Guys, I really really appreciate all of your replies and I promised that I will be back to normal and slowly learn to trust again. A heart maybe broken but at least I know I will not give up in finding the one I love just because of a betrayer.
Thanks
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reader, beachbabe +, writes (17 August 2009):
you need to tell him how you feel, or he will not care.
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reader, EXPLICIT00  +, writes (16 August 2009):
everyone gets their heart broken sometime. its the way of life. out of all the guys you date only one 1 of them will be the one for you. even though you may feel horrible right now you'll get over it and learn to love again. its happened to me plenty of times. i meet a girl, start to really like her, get hurt, and say i'll never trust anyone with my heart ever again but i always get over it. it just takes time and remember that time heals all wounds.
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reader, Crazy-Candice  +, writes (16 August 2009):
 Forget that guy,... He was never good enough to bother with in the beginning. After years of dating you learn that trust is somewhat overrated - don't be afraid to just have fun new experiences. Often we regret more what we do NOT do more than what we do.
Take these things with a pinch of sugar, Don't take it all to seriously, Love is a fool's game, and Dating is a mug's game.
Use the whole thing for fun experiences and cuddles and dancing in the moonlight. Let romance happen and maybe start to relax, as rejecting people all the time (i know) It can be quite disappointing and draining.
Just have fun but know that a break up or heartbreak is not the end of the world and theres too many guys out there to obsess over ONE :) good luck x
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (16 August 2009):
 your gonna let this guy treachery ruin your chance at love and finding a good guy ? does that make sense? look guys lie people lie this guy has asked you 7 times he must really like you your just dating a trying things out just dont have sex with any of theese men till your absolutely sure there into you
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