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Is making out with my sister incest?

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Question - (17 August 2009) 22 Answers - (Newest, 8 February 2010)
A male Canada age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I could use advice. I was playing with my sister and we started to make out i kissed her and she didnt pull away or get mad.I kissed her more and touched her breast and began to suck them she was just wearing a tank top and tight shorts i began rubing between her legs my fingers where getting wet through her shorts.

We began making out more and that progressed to me fingering her and her giving me handjobs and BJ. where both of age just two years apart and virgins. After this i kno longer even attempted to talk to other women not that i ever had any luck.

I dont have to worry about stds and i kno i can trust her more then i could trust any other woman. I kno we couldnt get married or have kids thats not even an issue where just having fun im not even sure if well even have sex. my question is, is making out incest

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A male reader, Toppo United States +, writes (8 February 2010):

Funny how people are so fixed in their reasoning on what "right" or "wrong" and yet carry on in their own lives with issues that by some could be found to be offensive. If they are old enough, and enjoy each others closeness, why is it wrong? As for birth defects, show me some real scientific evidence that this is so,and just how much or possibility of it even happening. Step up to the plate about other "wrongs" in our world and leave people that are happy alone.

As for making out with your sister, where better is there to be safe, be close and as time goes on, move on with your feelings knowing you can be a caring loving person

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A female reader, madella rose United Kingdom +, writes (6 January 2010):

I realy have no advice for you that could help. If you should feel like you should keep going then keep going but if it doesn't feel right then don't do it. Talk to your sister and hope this doesn't ruien your relatioship with her, these days it's rare to find a close sibling bond.

Don't forget that it's illegal to do what your doing.

Do whatever feels right, and be careful

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2009):

Yes it is incest, we all know that and we know its considered wrong because of the long term consequences. However having been in exactly the same situation decades ago with my own sister I know how it feels for both sides. A mixture of erotic euphoria, guilt and maybe a bit of fear. In my opinion there is nothing so intimate and close as a brother and sister who enjoy consensual activity. Both brother and sister have feelings of guilt and fear of being caught. If the relationship is kept secret and nobody finds out and the two of you learn to deal with it then fine. The hardest part is the 'physical seperation" in time because you will both realise that you have to move on and find another partner so that you can walk tall in general society.

My advice is that no matter how good it may be just prepare youself to move on. I see that you are 22-25 so you should easily move on. I also had a girlfriend or friends during the time I was "with" my sister so maybe that made it easier but it was difficult.

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A male reader, shuhyb United Arab Emirates +, writes (1 December 2009):

ofcourse its incest , what did you think a ''normal love''

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A male reader, funkykev100 Canada +, writes (1 December 2009):

well... you should be old enough to know this is a true incest. I believe your sister is very attractive. The reason incest is forbidden is because of genetic problem. When two siblings create a new born, the chances of getting a bad genes in your family heritage will double. Meaning if your family has a gene for cancer, the baby will have twice the chance to get it.

If you are lucky, the good genes would double instead of the bad ones. But no ones encourages to risk this.

Go out and date other girls. This happens because you are limited to people you meet.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009):

how can you be sexually with your own blood line. you know its wrong because you asked. find you someone you will like as a girlfriend and ur sister needs to do the same. it appears you both needs help! its wrong its wrong!!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2009):

I have read a lot of posts from girls who said they learned how to give handjobs and blowjobs by practicing on their brother. In a lot of cases, the girl had never done either one of those things before, and they practiced on their brother's penis so that once they got a boyfriend, they'd know what to do. Either they asked him to show them how to do it, or they accidentally caught him masturbating and asked if they could stay and watch, which led to the sister "trying it out." Most of the girls said they did it strictly for the practice, and there were no emotional feelings involved. For them, it was just practice, and they had no problem moving on to a "real" boyfriend.

What's dangerous about your situation is that your sister is becoming your substitute girlfriend or friend with benefits, and that you are not even approaching other women. If you and your sister were just doing this for fun until you find other people to have a relationship with, that would be one thing. But you are not even thinking about other women at all; you seem to be satisfied with your sister being your girlfriend.

As far as not knowing whether you will have sex with each other, you already are! It's just oral sex or manual sex. You are not just "making out," you are engaging in sex acts with each other. You should either stop now, so that you will be motivated to approach other women, or talk to your sister and agree that as soon as one of you finds another person to have a relationship with, you will stop your sexual behavior with each other. If you don't stop it soon, one or both of you are going to get bored with what you're doing now, and get so sexually aroused that you're going to want to have full sexual intercourse with each other. That's when emotional feelings of love and attachment could develop between you and your sister. Please stop before it gets to that point, because your life could become incredibly complicated if it gets to that point.

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A female reader, SHANIKA United Kingdom +, writes (21 August 2009):

seriously stop-your poor parents would be so devastated if they found out,try putting yourself in their shoes-and what if one day you couldn't control yourselfs and she got pregnant? You must know that would tear your family apart,stop now,someone could walk in on you at any time,or see you out together,it's just not worth the risk,it would be a lot better to have clamidia than to have your parents disown you and the whole neighbourhood know your buissness,I think your making excuses to yourself when you say that you can trust her and you would'nt get stis,because mabey you don't want the effort of going out into the big scary world and trying to find and keep a woman who fancies you,is interested in you for you,will be loyal and not leave you and the long agonizing process of learning to trust her-I understand that but the longer you put off socializing with appropriate women the harder it will get,trust me,and the same goes for your sister obviously,it is the best thing for both of you to not to talk to each other except when nessasery for now,at least,until you guys no longer feel tempted-the fact that you've never done it until recently indicates that it is a phase that will pass,although I understand that it must be confusing when you love her in a brother/sister way AND fancy her to separate feelings of family love from feelings of romantic love,but although it will be hard you must try to ignore them-once you no longer fancy her you will see things a lot clearer and know that you love her as your sister.and to answer your question,yes it most certainly is incest although I ain't about to judge-chances are,as with most things that are taboo and consequently not talked about this is a lot more common than most people think.but seriously,temptation can be very strong as I'm sure you know and making out can easily lead to other things,even if you start making out with no intention of having sex-how often do you hear people say "it just happened " when talking about sleeping with their boss or their friends partner?

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A male reader, softtouchmale2003 United States +, writes (20 August 2009):

softtouchmale2003 agony auntOkay I'll take a stab at this. I think modern society would probably but the two of you in jail.

However, consenting adults are entitled to do things that do not necessarily harm other people.

The problem I see here is that having sexual relations with your own sister can cause other emotional problems down the line. It interferes with normal, natural relationships outside the usual staid bonds of siblings (as in brotherly/sisterly love and not like lusty, steamy love).

So the point I am making here is that it could be considered a form of sexual abuse for both of you.

It can create conflicts down the road when one or both of you take on normal people as lovers or spouses.

So that's my take on it. If you take the law and the religion out of it, its just sort of not worth the trouble on down the line.

I hate to say "no" but saying "yes" can lead to too many issues down the road.

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A female reader, \m/J.D\m/ United Kingdom +, writes (18 August 2009):

\m/J.D\m/ agony auntyes its incest. shes your sisters, your both old enough to be responsible for your own actions.. SO your are both committing an offence.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009):

i didnt ask if it was wrong or rite i just wanted to kno if making out would be considered incest thanks to those who answered my question.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009):

STOP. if your parents know they will be devasitated.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2009):

You really think that society says sex, porn, and lust are wrong? Those are practically the things that MAKE UP society! You can't listen to society. If you did, you'd be wearing pants soo tight you couldn't walk, hair to your shoulders and eye makeup. That's how our modern guys are anyway.

Try listening to the law. That's usually a pretty good basis.

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A male reader, EXPLICIT00 United States +, writes (18 August 2009):

yeah, its wrong. it is incest. but i guess do what you want. if you think its okay then thats you. just be prepared to deal with the consequences.

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A male reader, RAINORFIRE United States +, writes (17 August 2009):

RAINORFIRE agony auntWikipedia says Incest is any sexual activity between relatives, it goes into more detail on all of that.

what you described i didn't think would be incest unless you actually had sex but heres the definition of sexual activity.

The term sexual activity can refer both to acts involving two or more people - as in sexual intercourse or oral sex- and to masturbation.

Its wrong because society says its wrong but society says porn is wrong alcohol is wrong weed is wrong lust is wrong and sex is wrong society is a bunch of contradictive fools.

Biologically it could be wrong siblings having children could lead to genetic disorders, the scientific community isnt solid on that could be another scare tactic.

God is right i try to follow Gods word and im positive he would be against it but not certain, that goes back to who was cains wife, and adam had more genetically in common with Eve then a brother has with a sister.

Morally that depends on your morals, one man can feel its immoral to shoot up a room full of people and another man can say thats ok aslong as you say a prayer for them.

personally i think it should be illegal because if it wasnt i would happen on a much larger scale and it could possibly damage the human gene pool. the entire planet could be wiped out by one nasty flu virus.

my advice do what your soul can live with.

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A female reader, A_Faylene_Mandie_Marie United States +, writes (17 August 2009):

A_Faylene_Mandie_Marie agony auntby the way, it's not STD's you have to worry about, it's pregnancy, and family issues it might cause if it ever comes out, and worst of all, if it goes far enough you can be prosecuted by law for it because it's considered illegal, that's why they don't allow bothers and sisters or cousins to marry.

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A female reader, A_Faylene_Mandie_Marie United States +, writes (17 August 2009):

A_Faylene_Mandie_Marie agony auntCuriosity is never a sin, and it is never bad, especially if you are a virgin, but it does cross the line and is considered incest if it's your own flesh and blood. I mean when my cousins and I were little kids (8 or 9) we would get curious about things we saw and experiment on each other, but its different in your case because you are old enough to know better, and if you are still doing it even tho its wrong, well that makes it even more wrong. You need an outlet of some kind and it doesn't matter what it is, as long as it's not your own sister, and vice verse with her as well.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009):

Yes, it would be considered incest. I'm sure that's how your parents would feel about it if they found out.

You said you've stopped trying to talk to other women. That's one of the problems with what you're doing -- having an outlet at home is preventing you from learning to have appropriate sexual relationships.

You know what you're doing is wrong. It's important that you stop now, because if you continue then at some point you're going to want to go all the way. That won't do your family any good, particularly if she ends up pregnant.

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A female reader, Charlpop United Kingdom +, writes (17 August 2009):

Charlpop agony auntKissing her isn't incest but it sounds like what you've done has seriously crossed the line.

You're asking if making out is incest, but you have to be honest that you've done a lot more than that (although, a bit of kissing with tongue action is also crossing the line).

I would suggest to keep your distances until you've both cooled off, and to seriously try not to do anything like this again, because you might both think there's not much wrong with it, but people outside of your duo might think differently.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009):

Yes it's incest, morally wrong, and is illegal under most if not all laws!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2009):

Yes it's incest, morally wrong, and is illegal under most if not all laws!!

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A female reader, busy04 United States +, writes (17 August 2009):

busy04 agony auntWhat do you honestly think?

It's incest and disgusting no matter how innocent you may think it is.

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