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writes:I found e mails between my wife and an old boyfriend in which there have been statements of deep love back and forth and in which my wife says to him that he was her first and only love at first sight and they have indicated they plan to meet in the near future.Should I confront her on the matter and indicate that I have been through her e mail? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): yes confront her and why should you be admonished for reading her emails. what is top secret there anyway.........oh, wait her emotional and soon physical cheating.
PLEASE do not even bother to say you are sorry you read her emails. if you need to snoop even more, please do so. .......suddenly there is honour among theives!!!!!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2009): Many thanks for the useful suggestions. i will raise the matter with her and accept the admonishment for reading her e mails but I think this is something we have to address-regardless of the outcome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): If you value your marriage you have to fight for it. Yes indeed you should confront her. You need to find out how much of it was idle banter and how much was a genuine intention to meet and perhaps cheat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): I think you have every reason to confront her and if you don't it will just drive you crazy any way.
Let her know that you are concerned by the emails and the fact that she plans to meet with him in the future and listen to what she has to say before you read her the riot act.
She could be mad that you read her emails, but I think in a marriage full disclosure is expected. People with nothing to hide, hide nothing. She should have shared this with you already. I don't know if what she said means that she wants to cheat on you with him, she may just be feeling nostalgic and would like to catch up with him, after all he was an important part of her life at one time, but the fact that she is not sharing this with you is definately a concern.
I wish you luck.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (14 September 2009):
 no!!! dont confront her get more gory details let them meet get a whole bunch of stuff on her. You may want a divorce after this things will go in your favor if you have alot of proof. your wife may even try to kill you so just go along with everything hire some private detectives shes probably going to try and have you killed or take all your money so you need to get proof of this in time just play it out be smart dont give in to your emotions and you will come out on top
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