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writes:Hoping someone can help. I am so hurt right now. My ex left town three years ago and moved back to his hometown. He was with someone and they split about six months ago. He called me in February and I stopped in and visited with him in March.We have been in regular phone contact talking to each other almost every night. Things did get a bit physical. I just got back from visiting him for the long weekend here. I asked him if he saw us getting together again in the near future and he said he was flabbergasted, that he thought it was just a fling for both of us. I cryed a bit because I guess I still care and was so let down to hear this news...but I accept it and know it is probably the end of the road for us. The thing that hurts is that I have been going through a rough time at work and he has been there for me, calling every night and offering support. He still seems heartbroken by the breakup of his other relationship. They split six months ago and his ex girlfriend still leaves taunting belittling comments on his phone message system...she did it when I was there. We were together twelve years. Is it time to break this friendsip off the map. He seems to be attracted to women who are so immature. I am not like that and he does not want me. Any replies so appreciated.
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (20 May 2008):
 Let him go - there is a massive history between you so I can understand why you still feel so much for him and you are certainly not the first "ex's" to get physical...it's so weird not to be that way with someone you were so intimate with for so long!!. However, it sounds like he's making it pretty clear to you that he isn't going to go back. You should end on good terms and focus on a bright, beautiful future...whatever that may hold!
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (19 May 2008):
 Apparently it is time to move on!
He seems to care about you, just in a different way than you do. Give time to time to see what happens. He is currently emotionally unavailable for anything other than a physical relationship and you don't want only that. So, if it hurts you, just move on. If it doesn't, try to reestablish the friendship.
Good luck!
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reader, softballplaya  +, writes (19 May 2008):
 Alright hun, I know how you feel.
Especailly when you put everything into a relationship and find out that to them it was meaningless. It hurts alot. But what you need to do is hold your head high and walk away. You said it yourself that he always falls for immature girls and you know that your not one so dont waste your time on someone who isnt worth the time of day. What you need to do is find a guy that knows how to appreciate you because to me he seems like a player and believe me thats the last type of guy you want involved with! Have some pride in yourself and be proud your not an immature girl for him to fall for. To me I think its time to cut the strings with him ya know, save yourself anymore future heartbreak and end it all. I am not going to sugar coat this, Im telling the brutal truth...It will be hard, because you seem very much attached to him. HOWEVER in the long run you will see that your doing the right thing
take care && good luck=]
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