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male
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have a huge crush on my flatmate. She used to live next door and we did at one stage make plans to go out and see a movie, but we never got around to it. She moved away and then just happen to visit one day when we had a free room in the house. She moved in and I now do not know how to tell her how I feel about her because I am scared of losing the friendship that we have right now. But it is killing me inside. What should I do?
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (22 May 2008):
 Hey there Mr Lovestruck!
You may find this a bit cliched - but life is too short!! If you have deep feelings for this gal you should let her know - the worst thing that can happen is that she will say she doesn't feel the same about you, and even if that was the case I doubt that would mean the end of your friendship.
A very good friend of mine was persued by this guy for a number of years...he was a "close friend of the family" and so he was always around. She thought he was great...but didn't think of him that way, she would always tell him how much she valued his friendship and wouldn't want it to change. One day he brought around a friend (who is now his wife). It wasn't until this happened that my friend realised how much she felt for him, she tried to tell him but of course the timing was all off AND by then he had decided he didn't want to ruin their "friendship" either. She was heartbroken. Now they hardly even see each other.
I suppose I'm trying to demonstrate that sometimes you have to risk losing something to gain something....I think that's the case here.
I have a feeling you'll be glad you fessed up no matter what happens!!
Good luck!
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