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writes:My boyfriend of 4 yrs ( within this time frame has been unfaithful over 6 or more times that I am aware of) but within the last year has been faithful until 6 months ago, but now is in another side bar relationship with a married women, I also know who she is but she is unaware of who I am. Tells me he loves me and I do sexually everything to him but states he is single and sees this woman every two weeks for sex and other emotional things. He states it is what it is and I can leave whenever I want to and he is single but it can't say that he wants out because of what reason? He continues to tell me what a great person she is and how we could become great friends and all the things they do. And he tells her that I am nothing special. He also lives with his x-wife, strickly platonic, he states. If he is constantly hurting me verbally this way is he wanting me to leave first? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): You're darn right you're not stupid sweetheart!
You've been through sooo much. Loosing someone you love must be the hardest thing you could ever go through.
I hope that you can rebuild your life and find someone that will treat you with respect and love you back as much as you love them.
Don't let your past experiences hold you back. Make your life a happy one.
Good luck, I hope you can remain strong.
And remember is you ever need any support, we are here to help you.
Emivia. X
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): If he is cheating on you,then that should tell you that hedoesn't give a damn about you.Why do you keep taking him back?If he's done it 6 times then you know it's not gonna stop anytime soon.He's not gonna be faithful,so just face it.Find a man who really cares about you, and expressesit everyday by loving you and staying faithful.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (2 June 2008):
 Vaya con Dios... be strong!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to Thank all of you for your honest answers. I know I am not stupid and I realize this is not a good relationship. Life has no quarentees for any happiness. You create your own happiness. I have failed myself in getting involved with this person and letting myself love him 100%. I know that and I will seek counseling to get stronger to leave this situation and move on with my life. Just for your information. We have been freinds for over 15yrs and still continue to work together and will even after the break-up. So I need to be strong with that also to not have the wounds of the break-up continue to open. Thanks again. It's hard when you love someone and its your choice to leave the love doesn't go away. I have also in the past years have Loved someone who passed away and Love was taken from me, maybe thats why Its so hard for me to let go. I don't know but I have been writting alot and looking at myself and needs more now than ever. Thanks for all your answers I will take every one of them into consideration and support when I leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to Thank all of you for your honest answers. I know I am not stupid and I realize this is not a good relationship. Life has no quarentees for any happiness. You create your own happiness. I have failed myself in getting involved with this person and letting myself love him 100%. I know that and I will seek counseling to get stronger to leave this situation and move on with my life. Just for your information. We have been freinds for over 15yrs and still continue to work together and will even after the break-up. So I need to be strong with that also to not have the wounds of the break-up continue to open. Thanks again. It's hard when you love someone and its your choice to leave the love doesn't go away. I have also in the past years have Loved someone who passed away and Love was taken from me, maybe thats why Its so hard for me to let go. I don't know but I have been writting alot and looking at myself and needs more now than ever. Thanks for all your answers I will take every one of them into consideration and support when I leave.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): Hay, Mia Rio. Don't call her stupid. She's been through a lot. It's hard to leave someone you love... It's not stupid if you don't.
Look sweet heart, he's treating you badly. I don't think that he wants you to leave at all. He wants to have his cake and eat it... Better than that, he wants to have LOTS of cakes and eat them ALL. He wants you to stay with him so that he can not only have you, but have whom ever else he feels like aswel.
He says he is single and acts it. Why should you be tied down to that if it's not what you want?
If you're not happy being one woman out of many then pack up your bags and show him that you mean more than that.
Good Luck.
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reader, Mia Rio  +, writes (30 May 2008):
right your stupid for staying with him. he clearly doesnt care. he sees you as a walk over for accepting his cheating. if my boyfriend even kissed another person i'd be out that door faster than the speed of light. have some respect for yuorself and find someone who appreciates you!!
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (30 May 2008):
 The biggest predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour - if he has cheated that many times he is never gonna stop! He is basically telling you he couldn't care less what you think...listen to the other aunts here and DUMP THIS LOSER!! I suspect this knob and the awful situation you are in has really affected your self esteem and self confidence - you probably half believe that you don't deserve to be treated better....that is NOT TRUE!! Do yourself a favour and go speak to a counsellor for YOU...you will need support to get over this and ensure you don't wind up in another abusive, draining, degrading relationship. Good luck!
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reader, duskyrowe +, writes (30 May 2008):
 OMG DUMP THIS LOSER NOW BEFORE HE BRINGS YOU DOWN ANYMORE!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2008): WHY THE HELL ARE YOU WITH HIM???? This is sick, sorry to be so blunt, but do you like punishing yourself? What is going on here, is this some kind of a sick joke question. Are you going through life like a zombie, or are we all on another planet? I cannot believe that there are people out there like you, so stupid to put with this kind of terrible behaviour. Have some backbone and kick him to the gutter where he belongs, and get back on your own two feet, and stop being a bloody doormat! I am angry now, why put up with this?????????????????????????????????
Get a life and get him out of it today.
take care
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (30 May 2008):
I've used this phrase with others, now it's your turn... It's time to trade up!
So, let's review... he cheats on you (and is not only forthright about it, but is a repeat offender), he lives with his ex-wife (hmmm), and has some kind of commitment issue/phobia...
I'm sorry, you're still with him because? ...he's hung like a bull moose?
OK, joking aside now. Plain and simple: do you feel like your feelings and concerns are being trounced on? If the answer is yes, then leave. Nobody on the face of the Earth -- in any way -- deserves the load of crap he's slinging into your face, period! Please show him that you deserve much better and you're going to leave to go find it! You must know that all this isn't right (nowhere even close!). It's time to do something about this. It's time to put yourself first because any kind of love this man claims is for you, isn't. He loves only one thing here -- himself and how much he can get for himself on the backs of others. It's time to head out to green pastures!
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