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writes:Well what it is i met a guy and talked to him for a while and then found out he was married well i let him alone, but he kept calling me over and over telling me him and his wife was splitting up, so my bad mistake was that i believed him, he left his wife for about 3 months and was with me...but they got back together and a little while after he went back to her...he wanted me back but like the dummy i am i accepted well then he went back to her again and at the moment they r living together, but now he wants me back again and even got his wife to call and send me messages and talk to me on the phone and she is saying that he does want to be with me and their marriage isnt gonna work out ...so what do i need to do?
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reader, played +, writes (2 June 2008):
played is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks for the advice and i am gonna do exactly what u and a thousand others has said..THANK U
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): Have you ever heard the saying "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."?You know what you should do. Refuse to accept any more phone calls, letters, emails from him OR his wife. Heaven only knows what she's playing at to tell you he really wants you back!Sounds as if they are playing a very sick sort of game with you.Don't play along with it. Back off now and recognize that, as you said yourself, you made a bad mistake getting involved with him in the first place!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): What you need to do is NOT be with him!! he is a LIAR!! if he cared anything about you he would be honest about the situation from the start! The wife is tricking you because I am sure she doesn't like you (sorry) she wants you to be with him because she knows that he is no good!!!
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (29 May 2008):
 Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
You've made the same mistake a couple of times now - don't you think it's time to learn from it?
The fact that this man has gone back and forth between you and his wife a couple of times now indicates to me that he can't make up his mind - you'd be best to just let it go. Don't be fooled again.
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reader, pashanoodle +, writes (29 May 2008):
 If I were you I would tell this guy to have some time on his own - so he can be sure what he does and doesn't want - and if after that he decides he does want to commit to you - then if you're wanting that, go with it. He sounds too messed up right now tho to commit to anything...and you guys unfortunately didn't start things out in a very positive way..so,you probably need to think about what you really want too. If he has behaved in the way he has - cheating, lying, hot and cold....can you really feel secure in a relationship with him?? I don;t think I would touch him with a ten foot pole...but I haven't fallen for him. Just be sure about what you want from him and whether you think he can deliver it!!
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