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writes:Is my friend really okay with that she's not dating the guy she was with anymore, her actions speak far louder than the words she's telling all of us!!She was seeing this guy for a few months, but he ended things with them so suddenly and in a careless way for her feelings, i don't think he was aware just how much she liked him. Point is, she was upset when it happened, most upset i've seen her and of course for a day after. But then straight away she kicked back to her normal self, she was fine, her normal happy self and saying that she's better without him and she's going to be fine, completely looking on the upside of it all and she had accepted it and it seemed she had moved on from him. I know it was only a day after and she said that, but she really did seem happy and fine i was really happy she wasn't still upset. So I just assumed she must have really thought about it and realised what good came out of this!Well, the day after was our friends birthday which she wasn't sure she wanted to go out for because she didn't want to deal with any guys. But she went because we said it'd be a good distraction and we knew because she's so beautiful, of course she would meet someone else and she did. But I didn't think she'd start dating already, it's only been a week if that! Maybe it's me, but do you think that she's just on the re-bound and that this guy is just a distraction for her from getting over the other guy?That's not all, she's always been skinny but when we went out yesterday for the evening oh my god has she gotten skinnier!!l I didn't notice because in the day you're more covered up, but there was not an inch of fat on her, she looked like she hadn't eaten all week!! I told her she looked like she had lost a lot of weight and she just smiled and carried on getting ready, i'm not the only one who said it because three of our friends were in the room and mentioned it before me too! I asked her had she eaten much today so she doesn't get drunk to quick and she said "no, i've completely forgot about food today! I'll have a slice of toast before we go" ..So now i'm thinking she's on the re-bound with another guy, which soon when that ends wont be good and she's developed an eating disorder without having realised it! So I don't think she's fine, but i'm not sure if i should say something, or whether this behaviour is normal, she says she's happy and fine and she does seem it? But what do you think?
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (30 January 2013):
 Hi
I think your right,she's not Ok at all. Keep a close eye on her,all of you.Watch her weight loss. If she is still losing weight in 2-4 weeks, then it's time to say something harsh.
Most people have weight loss after a break-up but she is clearly in denial.Also keep an eye on her drinking and other behaviour.Could be this is the way she deals with it all,a brave face,but my guess is she will crack eventually
Your a good friend,she is lucky.
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