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writes:i'm 21 yrs old and from Sri Lanka. I have been going out with my boy friend for the past 2 yrs (he's 24)but we still haven't had sex. When I ask him if he really want to have it, he won't say anything. And I get turned on very easly and he dosen't. most of the time we fight cause of that. he's never horney and i'm always when i'm with him. i try to look sexy when we are together but still it dosen't work and i know for sure he's not having another relationship. please help me Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): If you've been together two years and he doesn't want sex then theres definitely something wrong. Have you considerd maybe theres something he's embarrased of, have you asked him about his past sexual experiences (if there have been any!). He hasn't got any problems that he might be embarrased to talk about and thats why he keeps avoiding sex? If none of this is the case then maybe he is gay or asexual, however i really think you should sit down and calmly talk to him about it in a non confronational way. Hope this helps, Matt
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reader, O Connor  + ♥, writes (1 March 2008):
 well after being together that long, i think you have the right to know wat is going on. a boyfriend is meant to be attracted to his partner, sexually. ask him and tell him that you want to know the truth once and for all - and tell him that you have the right to know. he at least owes you that. if he doesnt give you an answer, and is not willing to open up to you, then i think that you should think about leaving him. as a woman you have the right to be sexually active and feel confident with the man you are seeing. you know that, so get it!good luck hun, email me if you want xxx
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reader, hello1  +, writes (1 March 2008):
 Sorry but he may be using you as a cover, he may be gay. Or if he's not gay then he's asexual which means someone who isn't intrested in sex. Take your pick
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reader, Ask oldersister  + ♥, writes (1 March 2008):
 After 2 yrs, you have a right to know why he is not willing to have sex. If it is for religious reasons or other beliefs, he would have told you from the beginning- that would be the considerate thing to do. I think this has to do with some personal hangups or issues of his, not anything to do with you or his beliefs, unless he's gay! The fact he can't talk about it is concerning. Has he always been apathetic about it or is this just recent? If it's just recent it could be about someone else but I doubt it if he's never turned on. If this guy can't even give you a reason and doesn't respond to you like a normal guy, he is a waste of your time no matter what. Don't for a second feel bad about yourself, it's his problem. Let him know that this is a serious problem and he's got some 'splaining to do!
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