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writes:hi every one, I'm only 14 and i have fallen in love with this guy, but he only likes me for what I did in the past... I have shown him my breasts and I wish I didn't.. I really do. Now he wants me to show it to him again, but I keep on saying no. I just feel like in being used. He left me on a cliff hanger that he would pay more attention around school, that's only if I show him... I'm scared and confused. But I still want to be friends and him not to tell... help!!! from...
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 March 2008):
 Boys that age will tell and brag about it. It is difficult for them to shut up. Sorry , you have made a big mistake. Learn from it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Sweety, I'm also thirteen. Since your like only a child, don't show him your body parts because your so young. Don't let him pressure you into doing that again. Hun, Tell your parents. good luck...xoxxoxoxo.
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reader, angelagonyaunt +, writes (29 February 2008):
 why do you still want to be friends with him? After what hes done to you?You dont deserve this, no girl does, and you have let him use you.Never let any boy push you into something you dont want to do. I no you feel like whatever hes done dosent matter and you still love him, (dont worry, ive been there) but it does. Its time to ditch this loser and wait for someone else to come along who is worth it, and will respect you for who you are.
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reader, what  +, writes (29 February 2008):
 Dear Anonymous:
We all make mistakes in our lives. The big thing is to learn from them. The society you are growing up in is pretty messed up and trying to decided which messages right and which are wrong is going to be hard.
I said this to my daughter and now to my grand daugther 15yrs."STAND STRONG..YOU ARE IN CONTROL".
You said you know what you did was wrong now you can learn from this mistake. This boy is trying to control you by threatening you into pleasing his desires, he is abusing you emotional by pressuring you to do what he wants so he can please his desires, he is disrespectful of you as a person and your body, he does not care nor does he love you because these are things that you would not do to someone you care for or love. This young man has some serious problems and you need to walk away. There is nothing you need to do to fix his problems. You need to take care of yourself.
Talk to an adult or someone you can trust and get their help; this will be embarrassing and very hard to go through but I KNOW YOU ARE STRONG. Do you known why I know you are strong? Well that is because you have not given in to this boy again. You have all the right responses emotionally, mentally, morally and respectfully. You know what is right and wrong.
If you surround yourself with people who truly care about you you will not go through this type of thing.
You will be ok. If he does tell others you can still come out on top by letting everyone know that you may not be perfect but you learned by your mistakes. You only did it once not repeatedly even though he did request many times and even tried to threaten you into doing it. What do you think others will think of him then. Yes there will always be the ones who will think he is a real man because he saw breasts. Hey we have men like this in the adult world too. I guess they never grew up. lol
Listen to the LJ101 she is right.
I hope this helps. "STAND STRONG...YOU ARE IN CONTROL"
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (29 February 2008):
 this guy sounds like an asshole - excuse the language. dont do it, wat have you got to gain by knowing that the only reason he likes you is because you showed him your breasts? you're only 14 and behaviour like this is not cool - dont fall for his lies and tricks, he is immature and digusting. move on and try and find someone who will like you for more than your flashing skills. as for staying friends - why would you even want to be friends with a scumbag like that?!!he has no respect for you and doesnt care for your feelings. have some self respect and others will respect you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Just dont do it. Never ever do anything that you dont want to do and dont ever be pressurised into it. What kind of a lad will only take notice of you if you do that? A PIG! Dont you really wanted to be noticed by a pig? Have some pride and dont do it again. Stop worrying about the fact that you have done it once before. We all do thing in the past that we wish we hadnt done, but hey that is life! Dont let it get you down, but have some self respect.
take care
xx
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reader, Krystelle +, writes (29 February 2008):
right im the same age as you and my friends have done the same, maybe more. You should never trust guys with showing them things; specially over the computer because half the time they spread them to their friends and they are everywhere. trust me. my friend showed a naked pic of her to this guy she thought she loved. but he sent them to everyone and now they are on ppls mobiles. so dont do it. xoxo
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reader, daisydaresyou +, writes (29 February 2008):
While I agree with the message of the above poster, I can't hack the way she keeps calling you a slut! You're not a 'slut', that's a really nasty, oppressive word to be throwing around especially at a 14 year old girl who already regrets what she's done and is being manipulated. Leave it out ok?!Anyway, to the OP, you clearly aren't comfortable with this situation and you know something is up with it. The guy is using you get a quick thrill and basically using emotional blackmail to get it. Don't fall for it.Tell him you're not interested in his little bargain. It sounds like you are scared he will tell people that you flashed him before, but try not to let him use that against you. Even if he did tell, what's the worst that can happen? You'll have to be open about it, hold your head up high and say something like 'yea, I know I did flash him, what was I thinking, he's such a dick!' because if he does try to make you do stuff by threatening to show you up, he is a dick and not someone worth being friends with. Or you can just deny it, if it's his word against yours, if there is no risk of being found out.He sounds pretty nasty actually. Are you sure you want to be friends with him? Don't let him get away with any more than he already has. You are worth much more than that. Make sure the next guy you show them too appreciates you for you and not just for your breasts ok! I know it's a minefield when you're 14 and so remember, if you have doubts, you probably shouldn't be doing this stuff.Good luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Oh come on honey! I feel so bad that you're regretting it - but he's young and hormonal and he doesnt give a crap about YOU, just your breasts!! So why are you even considering showing them to him?! Really, its crazy. Why would you even want a friend that just liked you because you did one slutty thing? I'm sorry if saying its slutty is harsh, but I just feel that it is. He's being immature and definitely shouldnt threaten you or bribe you, so have some respect and show him girls have power! We arent just there for boobs, we are people! Come on, stand up to him and tell him where to stick it. If he wants a slut who'll flash her chest at all and sundry then he should go somewhere else! You're a nice person I'm sure and deserve more than to be treated like a toy, so show him how you've moved on, you've changed, and that you arent going to be used. Don't fall for his immature tricks honey, he's being a complete prat. Please. Don't do something you'll regret.
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