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writes:I recently rekindled with my ex after two years apart. We were together for 8 years before that. We split because I grew distant, he didn't have a lot of respect for me. However when we broke up, it seems I completely broke his heart. I was told that he never got over me. I bumped into him accidentally a few weeks ago for the first time since we split and we have gone on a few dates.he now wants to see me more and more. I thought I had feelings but I don't think that I really do. They are more like familiar old love feelings.The problem is that I really don't want to break his heart again. He seems so happy to have me back. I'm worried about him and I don't know what to say that will make him think that I wasn't trying to lead him on. I feel terrible.... What do I do?
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (23 July 2014):
You may have fond memories of the past but will not make a happy future.First of all you owe to youself to be truthful and you owe to the man you now live with .Remember the longer you stay living with him the more you will hurt him.Have a open chat with him and explain how you feel.becauce if you dont this relationship wont last.Sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind.Best luck NORA B,
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reader, Mistresskiki +, writes (23 July 2014):
I would break it off now, while it is still new and uncertain and cut both your losses. Yes he may end up hurt, but not as badly as if you had dated for a few months and then break up.I can't see that going on a few dates is leading anyone on; unless you have suggested making it a more permanent thing than it is, then all that has happened is that you have spent some time together. Even if you have slept together, unless you have both verbalised some sort of commitment then you are casual and nothing else.Be graceful about it, and either break it straight off, or space out dates until it tails off; either way don't get his hopes up and allow both of you to move on with your lives.You can't keep seeing this guy just because he is still in love with you; it won't work and you will continue to be guilted into something you obviously don't want, which isn't healthy for either of you. You will also be shutting yourself off to the possibility of being with someone you have real feelings for by staying with this chap out what is, fundamentally, pity.
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