My teenage son wears my women's underwear, what should I do?
Q. My son (16) steals my unders and we talked but I have not talked or to my husband about him putting things in his hind end while he does this. That bothers me so should I worry? It's been a lot of house hold items I unfortunately have picked up to ...
A. 8 April 2013: Maybe he's belatedly going through his oedipal stage? Or perhaps he has some sort of fetish?
Talk to your husband, and then the two of you should have a conversation together with your son. Obviously, you can't expect your son to divulge all the ... (read in full...)
What guy wants an insecure fat girl when he can have a beautiful skinny girl?
Q. So I am quite embarrassed to post my situation here, but I would like to get opinions about my problem. I am 19 years old and being completely honest here, I have never had a boyfriend or even a good guy friend for that matter. I am also overweig...
A. 7 April 2013: Plain and simple, guys take advantage of and/or don't like girls with low self-esteem. You, my dear, have low self-esteem. If losing weight is what will help you feel better about yourself, then continue working towards a healthier body. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to get naughty on chat roulette with strangers?
Q. Is it wrong to get naughty with strangers over Chat Roulette? My boyfriend has been gone for a few weeks overseas, and I have been very bored and lonely. I would never cheat on my partner, but lately I have been masturbating with men on Chat Rou...
A. 7 April 2013: All tea, all shade: that's really creepy. Generally, the guys who masturbate on online are sick ^^^rds who don't care who is watching them masturbate, be it women, other men, OR children. And as CMMP said, there's also the danger of you being sec... (read in full...)
My 12 year old sister is being bullied at school because our mother died of an overdose. What can I do?
Q. This isn't really a relationship question so much as a cry for help. My younger sister is getting made fun of at school because we have lost our mother. Our mother died four years ago of an overdose of pills and alcohol. I don't know the exact d...
A. 7 April 2013: I really think that the only thing you can do is notify the school or the perpetrators' guardians about the situation, supposing that pulling your sister out of that school isn't an option. In the meantime, closely follow Abella's tips.
Sound... (read in full...)
Should I think our hook up was just a one time thing? I'm afraid to ask him!
Q. Basically last year I ended up getting involved with my best guy mate, we spent the summer together and then it just ended for stupid reasons and we didn't speak for 8 months. Now we started messaging and we eventually met up. He was cuddling me ...
A. 6 April 2013: I'd just go with the flow. There's no need to have any serious conversation about what's going on right away because these things tend to become obvious after getting together a few times.
Come back in a couple weeks, and let us know how things h... (read in full...)
If she liked me so much, why haven't I heard anything from her? Why hasn't she replied??
Q. I recently met a girl and she seemed really into me. She was constantly coming into my place of work and speaking to me whenever she had the chance. On one occasion a friend of hers had to physically drag her out and away from me! My boss was cons...
A. 6 April 2013: It could be she didn't get the message. It could be that she's still coming up with the perfect response. Or it could be that she's lost interest.
Not much help, huh? All I can really tell you for sure is that there isn't anything you can do excep... (read in full...)
Before I grew up I did wild stuff; he wants a threesome
Q. So I was telling my boyfriend of 7 months about my semi-wild past. I've had one night stands and threesoms before, even hooked up with a hand full of girls. Those days are gone, I've grown up and gained self respect for myself. He, on the other ...
A. 6 April 2013: First things first, partaking in the lifestyle you did earlier in life doesn't necessarily mean you had no self-respect. The way that I see it, self-respect is less determined by the action than the motivation (i.e. if you were hooking up with girls ... (read in full...)
I have a crush, but is the age difference too much?
Q. This is not like me but I've got a crush on a girl who is 18. I have never been attracted to a girl with that big of an age difference and I kinda of feel weird aboit it. I'm 30. When I first met this girl I thought she was 22-24, and that is right ...
A. 5 April 2013: Hard to say. When I was 18, I dated a guy who was 28. It didn't work out for reasons that probably don't concern you (he was a druggie). I'm not going to answer if it's right or wrong for you to date her because it's a "different strokes for diff... (read in full...)
What actions should I take to protect myself from this demanding girl who's behaviour concerns me?
Q. I got talking to this girl on a dating website on Wednesday. She asked me firstly would I pay for sex! Obviously, I said no. I gave her my number and I thought all was legitimate, until she asked for £2500 to 'make her flat habitable' because ...
A. 5 April 2013: End all contact. Block her number, if possible.
Next time, don't give out your phone number so soon. If someone asks you if you'll pay for sex, they probably aren't the kind of person you want to have your phone number.... (read in full...)
I don’t want to rule him out but then also don’t want to be walked all over
Q. I met a guy on a dating site and he seemed really genuine and sweet. After a week of talking, despite not being 100% on his picture, I agreed to meet with him for a drink because I thought we had a lot in common. We met and had a really lovely ...
A. 4 April 2013: I'm not convinced that he's lying, but I'm not convinced that he's being 100% honest either. He could have really lost his phone or whatever. Or he could have met someone over the weekend that he liked but with whom he couldn't make it work, so... (read in full...)
We need a good cover story for how we met in a coffee shop, help, please!
Q. Hi, Basically me and my gf have been going out now for 3 years and we are going to get married. But first we have to tell our parents. Our parents have indian cultures. Hence we haven't told them before, because gf and bf is frowned upon. However ...
A. 1 April 2013: I'm not going to tell you to throw caution to the wind here because I understand that your culture is different than mine.
Wherever you met this person when you first met offline is probably a good place to say things started. Can you say that you... (read in full...)
Should I pursue this or drop the relationship?
Q. Oh man this is a rough one. I hope someone can steer me in a better way of thinking! My current girlfriend, whom I have been seeing roughly 6 weeks messed up majorly. Now don't get me wrong, I really do love her. It was an instant feeling, and it ...
A. 1 April 2013: Leave. Leave right now. End the relationship because, I'm telling you, that's just the beginning.
When I was 18 I dated a 28 year old man who was also a "former" drug addict. Just like you, I thought that I loved the guy incredibly early on (I wo... (read in full...)
Is it hopeless or could he ever truly love me?
Q. I am absolutely heartbroken because I've found the person who I know is meant for me, and I know in my heart that I love him more than I'll ever love anyone. He's divorced (I know this for a fact) and has a little boy with his ex wife. I underst...
A. 1 April 2013: "I've found the person who I know is meant for me, and I know in my heart that I love him more than I'll ever love anyone." Really? So, you know this for a fact? If so, you should really write a book outlining how one goes about knowing for sure... (read in full...)
Should I just ask him to leave my house and be civil for our son or should I try work on things?
Q. I'm mortified my partner has gone away for a weekend with a mate we have chatted every day like normal and made plans to go on a mini break together Except tonight he sent me a message asking me if we are meant to be together I asked him why he...
A. 1 April 2013: How did your conversation about trying for another baby go? Try to think back, and answer that question as honestly as possibly. If I had to guess from the little bit of information you've typed here, I'd say that conversation was probably you ... (read in full...)
My partner says I'm too heavy for sex!
Q. We cannot have sexual intercouse because my female partner has told me that I am too heavy for her. What is the best way to lose weight? Is it a good idea for me to go to the gym? Has this been a common problem for other couples when hav...
A. 31 March 2013: "Is it a good idea to go to the gym?"
Is there any reason an advisor would say to no that? Are you prone to injury or something?
Eat right and exercise. Try to make it into a couple activity to add a little together-time, if you'd like. Othe... (read in full...)
Her crush claimed, to me, that he does not like her. Should I tell her?
Q. Hey so I wanted to know how to tell my friend her crush doesn't like her. My friend and I are very close and we trust each other. Her crush rides my bus so she is always wanting me to ask him questions so I do. Once I asked him if he likes her and...
A. 29 March 2013: You already told her everything she needs to know, which is that he's not into her type. There really isn't anything you can do to curb someone's attraction; it happens on its own. It might help to hang out places where she can fall for someone ... (read in full...)
What is the difference between making love and having sex?
Q. What is the difference between making love and having sex? Is it more morally right to make love rather than have sex? My BF says he could never just have sex but would like to make love (we are both 19) and just wanted thoughts please, not on us ...
A. 29 March 2013: Call me cynical, but as far as I'm concerned the only people who think that the term "making love" has it's own meaning are a) corny b) trying to bed you c) virgins or d) hopeless romantics.
Cross your fingers that he's D and not A or B.
I ... (read in full...)
I want children and what if my almost 39 year old girlfriend can't have them?
Q. I m a 40 years old man. I never had a chance to find someone who I wanted to share mylife with and have children with until a year ago. I had girlfriends but never anyone who I could marry. I m also an only child, as my mother had me in her lat...
A. 29 March 2013: Adoption and surrogates are always an option. An expensive option, but an option nonetheless.... (read in full...)
I want a FWB relationship that is exclusive with him
Q. I have a friends with 'some' benefits type of relationship going with a very hot n sexy guy. He's the hottest guy I've ever laid eyes on, and he makes me wanna just be free and not hold back in any way, or I might regret it. However, becau...
A. 29 March 2013: Cerebus and Staceily nailed it.
"Exclusive FWB" is a bit of an oxymoron. He's not interested in getting exclusive, and I'm sure he wouldn't think twice about dropping you from his schedule if you start making demands or giving him ultimatu... (read in full...)
Should I make a move on my friend already? Or am I just that clueless?
Q. I need some advice from a 3rd party. i'm unsure if i should make a move on a friend. shes currently on the outs of an abusive relationship and we've been spending more time together. whenever she's feeling neglected or upset, she'll come to me and ...
A. 29 March 2013: Why not start by kissing her goodbye next time you part ways? Like on the cheek or forehead? Or how about making physical contact by touching her arm while you're talking, occasionally placing your hand on the small of her back, or wiping an eyelash ... (read in full...)
Why do women treat nice guys badly?
Q. hi, to all you women who say you want to meet a nice guy, but when you do, you treat him like sh.t, but a bad guy comes around you fall madly in love, you all say thats not true, but think about it,a nice guy you know what hes going to say, what hes ...
A. 28 March 2013: This is the equivalent of if I asked you why men only like women who are loose, so to speak. That wouldn't be a very fair generalization, now is it?
Have you ever considered that maybe you need to stop chasing after the kinds of women who like... (read in full...)
How can I ask my customers politely to leave tip?
Q. I've been waitressing at a restaurant for a few months. I've noticed that certain regulars don't leave tip regardless of service. And of course there are occasional customers that don't tip at all. How can I ask my customers politely to leave tip? ...
A. 27 March 2013: Wow! I'm shocked by some of the responses here.
I don't consider tipping optional because I know, as my sister worked in the service industry, that most of a server's salary comes from their tips. (Here in PA I think that the minimum wage for rest... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and I've never had a girlfriend
Q. I know that this is the really long, depressing kind of question which has been asked hundreds of times, but I'm feeling pretty crap and i'd really like some advice. I'm 20 years old and I have never had a girlfriend, i've been on one date with thr...
A. 27 March 2013: Common question gets a common answer: First things first, you need to work on your self-esteem. I know that that's so much easier said than done. Back in high school I nearly went mad feeling the way that you do. And feeling like there was s... (read in full...)
Is she trying to get me to notice her, or just treating me as a brotherly figure?
Q. A uni mate of mine (girl) is giving me (guy) a few weird vibes and I have grown to fancy her a lot. When she was dating her boyfriend (who's now history) she'd always say 'Aw, I think I love you' and 'I wish he was like you'. Other signals were 'do ...
A. 24 March 2013: I reckon that it's worth testing the waters.
Honestly, I used to say stuff like that to my guy friends in a joking kind of way all the time, and they knew that I was playing around. But had any of them taken it seriously and asked me out, I probab... (read in full...)
Considering getting back with ex who cheated. Advice?
Q. Okay, this is a very sensitive issue, and well I would really like some advice, i'm in a very emotional state atm so please don't be too harsh guys :L Recently, i've been thinking that I could get back with my ex. ...
A. 24 March 2013: " I am a very hard person to convince to forgive another"
This entire question would suggest otherwise.
I'm going to agree with iAmHereToHelpYou here. At 16/17 and with only a three month relationship, I think all this drama is more trouble tha... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't know how to kiss and is not interested in any form of intimacy.
Q. Though the relationship is only new, me and my boyfriend get on really well. However, there is one problem. He really can't kiss and I'm his first. I got out of an 8 month relationship about 2 months before I started dating him, however. But th...
A. 24 March 2013: There aren't too many options here. You can either stick it out with this dude, and deal with having to be patient since you're his first. Or you can downgrade him to a friend, and find someone better suited for your needs.
I personally don't re... (read in full...)
We have two young kids and my husband is hiding and deleting texts to a 17 year old girl.
Q. My husband and I recently got in a fight. Hes a 26 year old man texting and messaging a 17 year old girl about our marriage problems, but that's not all. He was deleting their messages as if they were never even talking. I questioned him on it one ...
A. 24 March 2013: You're in the 18-21 age range, correct? If you're 18 or 19, I can see why this guy wouldn't think it strange to talk to a 17 year old girl. If you're older, then I think the fact that he's talking intimately with a 17 year old is the first issue ... (read in full...)
My step sister is falling for me. How can I tell her I only like her as a step sister? I have a boyfriend.
Q. My parents at separated and my mom has a bf with a daughter. That daughter (my step sister) doesn't live with us,she lives with her Mom who is a lesbian. Her Mom lives with a Gf. My step sister is a month older than me . She has had becom a bise...
A. 24 March 2013: I'm cosigning with everything FauxAngel said.
The only thing you can do is be up front that you're not interested in being with her, whether it's because you're just not feeling it or you don't like the idea of being with a stepsister. If she's an... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable for me to tell my wife to stop kissing other men on the lips?
Q. I really do not like it when other men kiss my wife on the lips. These are friends - just 2 or so. They do it as a greeting, when, for example, we first meet up for the night, and then again when we say good bye. I am fairly certain it has nothing ...
A. 24 March 2013: I don't think you're off base.
Would you be comfortable confronting your friends about this as well? I'm sure that, as your friends, they would be more receptive to your discomfort.... (read in full...)
He's a virgin and I am not. Seems I only want sex from him and it's only been two weeks. He wants cute dates. What should I do?
Q. Why do I seem to only want sex from my boyfriend of two weeks? He's really shy and he's a virgin but I'm not - and I feel terrible! He keeps asking me out on walks and cute little dates, and then there's me; just trying to initiate more. How ca...
A. 24 March 2013: You can stop it by relieving him of the relationship, i.e. break up.
Clearly you two are not looking for the same thing in a relationship, and so you owe it to yourself as well as your boyfriend to find people better suited for your needs and desi... (read in full...)
Should I leave my alcoholic boyfriend? At times he blacked out and acted evil.
Q. My boyfriend Max and I have dated for seven months. I thought he was the "one." He was always very attentive, we have wonderful fun together and we spend lots of itme together. As the relationship progressed I noticed that each time we went out to ...
A. 24 March 2013: My motto is: when in doubt, just say no.
You're feeling shaky about this guy, and that's enough of a reason to end the relationship.
Conversely, if you do want to give your boyfriend a few more weeks of a chance, then I definitely recom... (read in full...)
Are women put off by skinny guys?
Q. I'm a skinny lad and I was wondering is this a turn-off? I mean I know some girls like guys to be teddy bears but is there really any market for us skinny guys? I'm 5'11"/180 cm and 143 pounds/64 kg and feel as though I'm not bulky enough for women ...
A. 24 March 2013: I hate it when people give answers like this, but: everyone is attractive to someone.
There are plenty of girls who find skinny guys attractive, plenty who find chubby guys attractive, plenty who find red heads attractive, plenty who find hairless... (read in full...)
I thought she loved me but she broke up with me saying I'm too angry all the time
Q. hi..im 19...ive been in a relationship with this girl for one year six months...we love each other or loved each other...she always says im angry all the time but its not my fault...my parents hate me...and im constantly being targeted by my ...
A. 23 March 2013: Despite what reality television and Lifetime like to portray, constant fighting in a relationship is not normal. You're 19. You're an adult. You know you have issues. There are plenty of resources out there for you to get the help you need. It sou... (read in full...)
On a trip I had a drunken hookup, is it time to end things with my boyfriend?
Q. I went away on a university trip abroad and (very drunkenly) hooked up with one of my classmates. I have a boyfriend of two years, and have been having doubts about the relationship for a while but cheating just further assured me - is it worth ...
A. 23 March 2013: The way you phrased your question would suggest that you're really just seeking validation to break up with your boyfriend. Here's your validation: End it. Because dragging your boyfriend along in a relationship that you're if-y about is hurtful... (read in full...)
Why did I let him turn me into someone I hate?
Q. I dated this guy last year, and I had only known him for 2 months when we started dating. I was completely innocent when we started dating, and he had a lot of sexual experience with girls before me. At first the relationship started steadily...
A. 23 March 2013: Girlfriend, the same thing happened to me my freshman year of college. And in my case it took such a toll on my mental health that I ended up dropping out of my dream school to postpone my studies (and entire life, really) for a year. Granted, my ... (read in full...)
Can a single mom with 2 kids consider a military job?
Q. I apologize that this question isn't about dating. I'm not currently dating, as I'm focused more so on my future. Here's my situation: I'm 31, divorced, two kids... and contemplating joining the military. Is that crazy??? The job market is rough and ...
A. 23 March 2013: My sister's boyfriend joined the air force when my sister was pregnant with his child. He'll be leaving in two weeks for eight months of training. Now, his daughter is a baby - I'm not sure how old your children are - but for my niece's father, he's ... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend I don't have money for an Ipad, then he stopped talking to me.
Q. Dear cupid My bf of 3 years is asking me to buy him new iPad for his birthday, I don't have that kind of money and I cannot afford it. He never bought me anything for my b'day and I never really made an issue out of it. I told him I cannot ...
A. 23 March 2013: Don't buy him the iPad, don't continue to reach out to him, and certainly don't feel guilty about either of those things. Maybe send a pre-birthday text to feel out if he's decided to start acting like a man again. If he hasn't, you know where yo... (read in full...)
I am a fem dom. Can I convince my man to be my sub?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a very attactive and girly girl feminine woman. I appreciate the beauty of a woman but am not sexually attracted to women. I am sexually attracted to men but I will not allow a man to have intercourse with me in a traditional ...
A. 23 March 2013: Is this man a boyfriend or a husband? Either way, it's clear that being a fem dom is part of your identity, so it's only fair that you tell your dude about this interest. When you discuss it, do so as you did here: talk about it as YOUR interest... (read in full...)
What should I do about my fiance lying about porn?
Q. when me and my boyfriend started dated we made it very clear what we expect from each other. Together we made the commitment to be a christian couple and live that kind of life. I just had a baby with him and he asked me to marry him, i said yes, ...
A. 23 March 2013: Are you two less sexually active? My guess is that if you recently had a baby, the answer is no. If he's as young as you are (18-21), expecting him to remain celibate for a stretch of time is expecting too much (and it that isn't necessarily just... (read in full...)
I need this crush to end now before I do something stupid and I don't know how
Q. I'm in my early 20's and infatuated by this guy at work who is older than me. (late thirties) He's gorgeous for his age , rough,masculine and he's such a laugh...... I think about him day and night , dream about him. The sexual tension between ...
A. 23 March 2013: I don't think it's possible to force yourself to stop being attracted to someone. Physical attraction isn't like having a cold, so we can't give you any home remedies to squash it. Do you always have to act on your crushes? If I acted on every c... (read in full...)
I think he stole my bracelet
Q. Over a year ago, I found my favorite bracelet, a diamond cuff bracelet missing. It was hidden in the side pocket of my suitcase, which was in my bedroom. I keep my bedroom locked when I'm not there. My boyfriend moved in with me about a month ...
A. 18 November 2012: Was it expensive enough to be a big deal if you reported it?
If so, mention to your roommate, his/her girlfriend, and your boyfriend that you reported its theft to the police, regardless of whether or not you actually do, and then ask one last tim... (read in full...)
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