Guy seems to date a girl but still makes eye contact with me
Q. Hi Everyone, There is this one guy in school whom I met the first time on the train as we both came from the airport back to the dorm together. We saw each other from time to time and in the beginning, made brief gestures to say hello, either mu...
A. 23 July 2013: Yeah, sorry, but I also am thinking that you're over-analyzing here.
Even if he is looking at you, looking (and liking what he sees) doesn't mean that he's willing to actually pursue you.... (read in full...)
Low libido due to medication. Is there anything I can do?
Q. Hi everyone. I take medication for depression and anxiety. It's not really an option to come off them at the moment. The problem is it more or less completely suppresses my sex drive. I'm still interested in women and sex, and I think if I had a...
A. 20 July 2013: This is something that you have to discuss with whoever prescribed the medication, not random strangers on the internet. I will say that when I was on similar medications, Zoloft and Klonopin, I kinda had the same issue. But not exactly, because... (read in full...)
Tired of one night stands -- am I being an idiot?
Q. I came out of a relationship a while ago and since then, i have been going on at least 2 dates each week and sleeping with the girls the first night. I never stayed in touch with them and thought being single was great. Last week i was at a bar w...
A. 20 July 2013: Nope, you're doing the right thing.... (read in full...)
He's living with his mistress and driving her SUV only 2 weeks of leaving our home.
Q. I had my husband of 15 years to move out of our home because I discovered more evidence that he's having an affair. He moved out, but refuses to talk to me about anything. He's been doing this every time I try to talk to him. The isolation from our ...
A. 20 July 2013: Well, you DID kick him out. There's this odd belief in women that shaming their partners and kicking them out when they've done wrong will somehow make the man realize what a fool he's been. That does happen occasionally, but for the most part real ... (read in full...)
After our weekend away together, my boyfriend called me a slut and a whore and said I never leave him alone.
Q. Dear Cupid I am in LDR now with my bf of 4 years. We went for a trip few days ago as we didn't meet for few months. As far as i could see the trip was great and fun. We came back to our respective cities. I called him next day, he sounded ok, but ...
A. 20 July 2013: This feels like another one of those questions where the asker leaves out some crucial details.
From what you've written, though, I say un-cling yourself from this guy, and walk away from the relationship. Whatever happened, he's not interest... (read in full...)
My American wife green eyes scare me during sex
Q. I'm Pakistan and two months back I came to US on fiance visa to marry my American Fiance whom I met through internet. We got married one month ago. I'm 33 and my wife is 34. She is beautiful, caring and loving. I have been confronting a very strange ...
A. 19 July 2013: Strangely enough, I can almost relate to this question. In my case I have a little PTSD episode whenever a guy is on top of me and peering into my eyes because of this abusive piece of sh*t I used to date who'd force himself on me while demanding I ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering if girlfriend was a virgin?
Q. hello dear aunts, I have recently start dating this girl, she has just turned 21. she recently confessed she was a virgin when we did it for the first time, however I've been skeptical. (sorry for being graphic) I gave her oral a few times, only ...
A. 19 July 2013: I think so, yes.
But I'm going to have to co-sign on every point with WiseOwlE here. This question makes me uncomfortable because of the implications you seem to be setting.... (read in full...)
Went on a trip with my LDR and now he doesn't call
Q. Dear Cupid I am in LDR with my bf of 3 years for the past 6 months. We went for a trip few days back and had a very nice time. Few times he was cranky, but otherwise trip was a success. Its been a week, he hasnt called me once or returned by me...
A. 18 July 2013: Was this the first time you met?
It sounds like he's just not that into the real you, if it was indeed the first time you met in person. That's neither your fault nor his.
Consider moving on. Preferably look for guys who live in your immediat... (read in full...)
I think I'm gay, but people can't just turn gay over the years, can they?
Q. Dear agony aunts, I think I'm gay, I'm 23 and for years I have been having gay thoughts and fantasies which arouses me and sometimes I can't help but mastubate to them but then I feel wrong somehow. I used to have a few girlfriends when I was ...
A. 18 July 2013: It's not really "turning gay" so much as realizing that you're gay. It's just the way society is that many people (especially men) go through their teens acting the way mainstream society tells them they should - aspiring for big money, banging ... (read in full...)
How do I become better at dating?
Q. I'm 27, have Asperger's syndrome, do some voluntary work with disabled adults, and voluntary IT work for a living, and live in the United Kingdom. However, my problem is in regard to dating; for me it's hard to get a girlfriend. Maybe it's beca...
A. 18 July 2013: Have you gone through university already?
I've found that a great way to meet date potentials is by taking classes. It doesn't even have to be matriculated classes. Here in the US there are all kinds of workshops, noncredit classes, and quick ce... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend told me I had bad breath and now I'm paranoid
Q. Hi everyone my ex boyfriend who i split up with 4 month ago told me i had bad breath i have asked all my friends and family who i can trust to tell me the truth i have had a couple of dates with a new man but im so paranoid about the comment my ex ...
A. 15 July 2013: You said you spoke to your family and close friends, but you didn't say if they confirmed what your ex said. Did they, too, tell you that you have bad breath?
If so, you're first step should be to determine what may be causing that. Are you a sm... (read in full...)
She's married but we're sort of friends. Is it ok to invite her for coffee?
Q. I've got to know my next door neighbour over the past year or so. She walks her kids to school at the same time I go to work, and we spend the time chatting. I haven't seen her in a couple of months and this week we bumped into each other. We said ...
A. 14 July 2013: If you have a crush on her, then no. Don't do it.... (read in full...)
Ideas for fun first dates?
Q. You have probably read my other questions recently about my online potentials! Well, I've been talking to this girl recently who sounds really nice, and guess what, she asked me when we are going to meet up! I have been out with younger women be...
A. 9 July 2013: I agree with Euphoric. It's not a great idea to have a first date coincide with an outing with friends. Even if she brings some of her friends, it just kinda diminishes your opportunities to have a one-on-one conversation with each other.... (read in full...)
Does it matter that I'm not that physically attracted to him?
Q. hi. Im just looking for advice on dating someone ur not sexually attracted to?! iv met this lovely man, his nearly 17 yrs older than me but that isn't a problem for us. we get on rather well and i feel ifwe get together as an actual couple he would ...
A. 9 July 2013: I don't care what feel-good BS many others like to say, looks totally do matter. It's literally a biological part of attraction. Now, obviously, if you're in the 30-35 age range, then that would put him somewhere over 45 which means you're probably ... (read in full...)
We are not dating but his level of interest has dropped! I like him alot. How should I proceed?
Q. I am so lost right now, and it seems like I can anticipate the type of advice I will receive, but I think I will ask it anyway. I really have no where to turn to. So there was a phone app, and this guy that lives about a six hour drive contacted me. ...
A. 5 July 2013: Long distance relationships rarely work. And since the two of you haven't even met in the several months that you've been talking, I'd go ahead and call it a bust. There's usually a window of time where you have to meet someone in person who you've ... (read in full...)
My parents are forcing me to chose either them or the girl!
Q. I'm 23, male. I met this mentally challenged girl (21 y.o.) about six months ago. Before I met her I was a very lonely person. I never had many friends. Those whom I trusted always betrayed me in some way or the other. This girl changed my life. She ...
A. 5 July 2013: I have a feeling that there's a ton of history between you and your parents that you're leaving out this question. For your parents to give you that ultimatum just because they found out you're dating a mentally challenged girl doesn't make sense on ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped my because I wouldn't add her as a friend on Facebook.
Q. My Girlfriend dumped me because I wouldn't add her as my friend on Facebook. I don't understand what everyone's obsession over Facebook is. I like to keep my private life private. I think she is just too jealous. I don't feel I should have to add ...
A. 5 July 2013: SensitiveBloke's answer wasn't all that sensitive, but I completely agree with him.
It's not so much that you wouldn't add her on facebook as it is your mentality that you want to keep your "private life private." What the hell does that even mea... (read in full...)
I'm engaged but my guy friend who's interested in me just wont take no for an answer
Q. Hi there, I have a question about one of my guy friends.He is a sweet guy that would do anything for me.We hang out get along great but are just friends. he has been hinting around that he wants more, but I have a fiance and just want to remain ...
A. 29 June 2013: As they say, "the truth hurts." Cerberus' answer may feel like a backhand to the face, but it's the most honest. You're a grown woman who has a man devoted to you enough to be willing to commit to you in matrimony, and you can't even figure out ... (read in full...)
I want to make it clear that there will be no sex on the first date
Q. Basically, I am in a bit of a situation with this guy. I met him in a student bar and we hit it off. We had a bit to drink and ended up making out throughout the night. After this, we ended up exchanging numbers. He text me last week asking to meet ...
A. 29 June 2013: I think Jonas said it best. This dude definitely has a particular expectation of what will go down should you two meet again. You can be honest with him about what your limitations are, but don't be surprised if he tries to sway you in a differe... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my girlfriend? We don't seem to have that spark.
Q. My and my girlfriend have been together for nearly three months. She is 18 and im 22. My problem is that we dont seem to talk very much. I am naturally quite quiet and she is too I suppose, but I just wonder if this is normal. I see my friends ...
A. 23 June 2013: Have you only started feeling weird about this because you're measuring your relationship against your friends' relationships? I've known a few couples who can sit in the same room together for hours without saying more than a few words to each ot... (read in full...)
Will I measure up OK for upcoming one-night stand?
Q. Hi, my mates girlfriend is coming to visit him in a week (she lives in another city) and we are going clubbing when she comes, she is bringing her mate with her to set her up with me (just for a one night stand), now I'm just a bit anxious as I ...
A. 23 June 2013: Only she can decide that. The measurements you listed are average, so I don't see a big (no pun intended) issue.
It's just a one-night stand anyway.... (read in full...)
I feel like I threw away a good thing and now don't know how to contact her, after 8 months. Help?
Q. a while back i dated a girl who had been a friend for a good six months before we got together. we only dated about four months. the relationship was rocky (she had just broken up with her ex) and both of us were extremely insecure. we jumped into ...
A. 21 June 2013: I think that what's done is done here, but there's no harm in reaching out to her. You can start by texting her just to see if she's even willing to be engaged in conversation with you.
After 3/4 of a year, it's quite likely she moved on. Don'... (read in full...)
Ideas for fun first dates?
Q. You have probably read my other questions recently about my online potentials! Well, I've been talking to this girl recently who sounds really nice, and guess what, she asked me when we are going to meet up! I have been out with younger women be...
A. 21 June 2013: Is a long walk out of the question as well? It's so cliche, but that's my favorite first date setting: coffee shop/cafe followed by a walk around the city or a park.
I'm about your date's age, and I can tell you that we don't need all our date... (read in full...)
Should I lose my virginity to a webcam girl?
Q. Hi all, I'm a 26 yr old male virgin. I saw this girl on one of her online webcam shows and found out she's a flight attendant flying into my city. She made a proposition that she will offer sex for money. I am a virgin and want to know what sex fe...
A. 20 June 2013: It sounds a little risky to me. At least if you're going to pay for sex do it with a reputable escort agency, not some random cam girl who happens to be flying to your city.
Of course the best thing you could do is meet someone the proper way - be... (read in full...)
Do you need to be attractive in order for people to talk to you. Please help me I feel invisible!
Q. hi this is not a relationship advice question however i need some help. Im currently studying in uni, iwould consider myself a less attractive plus size gal. I have always had issues with weight and have very bad hyperpigmentation on my face. Im not ...
A. 20 June 2013: Sometimes YOU have to make the effort to talk to people, you know? Do you have to be a perfect 10 to get attention and approached? No. In fact, some people make a point of not approaching super gorgeous people under the belief that super gorge... (read in full...)
Friend has given me an ultimatium--either be his girlfriend or we no longer talk
Q. I'm really close to my friend who told me he wanted to be more than friends about a year ago. Initially I said I didn't feel the same way and we tried to carry on as we had been before, talking everyday but I was seeing other people. Since then ...
A. 19 June 2013: Yeah, I'd walk.
It's very possible that he put that ultimatum out there because he felt as though you were leading him on, but that doesn't excuse him. Giving someone an ultimatum is the severest of power-plays and nothing less than manipula... (read in full...)
He needed a break and doesn't want me back.
Q. I have been split up with my ex 7 weeks today and I just can't seem to get over it! I've seen pictures with him and other girls and its really getting to me! I have phoned him and asked him if he is with someone but he said its got nothing to do ...
A. 19 June 2013: The first step that you can take is to stop looking at pictures of your ex. Clearly he's moved on, and seeing that he's moved on isn't doing anything but driving you crazy.
Two years is a decent amount of time for a relationship, so it's not surp... (read in full...)
Should I cheat on my girlfriend because she's overweight?
Q. Should i cheat on my GF? I know its wrong and everything, but i have been talking to this girl lately and i feel i have a connection with her, like its crazy how similar we are. Im not 100% sexually attracted to my current gf, she is over weight, ...
A. 17 June 2013: "Should i cheat on my GF?
I know its wrong and everything..."
Hey, looky there! You answered your own question.
Cheating should never be an option. You can tell your girl that you'd be more attracted to her if she lost a bit of weight. It... (read in full...)
Gave him oral sex, he cumed quickly after around four minutes what does that mean ??
Q. Last night i gave oral sex to my boyfriend. i sucked his dick. We've been talking for a while and we recently made it official. So I'm not sure what he's done when we were "just talking". Last night when i gave him head , he told me i was good. ...
A. 17 June 2013: It means he was probably really turned on before you even went down on him, so that by the time you were down there he was already close to popping.
A little strange that you were timing it, I have to say.... (read in full...)
Curious about my wife's sexual past
Q. My wife and I have been together 9 years, and had the whole "how many people have you ******" conversation many years ago. Ever since then, I, like many husbands, still wonder "is that her real number, or is she holding some back?" The history she ...
A. 17 June 2013: I don't think it's that weird at all. I went through a very similar wild year (thankfully I somehow escaped ever getting an STD, though), and that's really, honestly, and truly all that it was - ONE wild year.
Like your wife, I still have the tatt... (read in full...)
Planned a vacation with a friend but her negativity is giving me second thoughts
Q. Here is the upsetting situation for me with my friend. More than a year ago we went to a bar with her and I met one of the most gorgeous guys ever. He was younger and really good looking. He took my phone number in bar, and kept texting me after we...
A. 13 June 2013: Sounds like you're not really open to any opinions that are in opposition with whatever it is you want to see happen. What, do you want us to tell you that your friend is just a jealous bitch? Not gonna happen.
Nobody wants to be the third wh... (read in full...)
After years of pornography I have no desire to date
Q. I was addicted to porn and masturbation for years. I decided to stop doing engaging my habits and I am happy that I have succeeded. The problem is that I have no interest in girls or relationships anymore. Before I was too afraid to try and date, ...
A. 10 June 2013: My guess is that you didn't really want to engage with real women before you started watching porn either, whether you realized it or not.
Watching porn and masturbating aren't bad. I do both of those and I have healthy relationships - sexual a... (read in full...)
He won't tell me if he's gay and neither will anyone else!
Q. I'm 24, and gay, and there's a guy who I like who drinks at a local gay bar - the only one in our small Northern England coastal town. I've spoken to him a few times, seems like a nice guy, but how can I tell if he's gay or not? I know he comes to...
A. 10 June 2013: I'd just ask him out. He can accept your invitation as a) a guy who reciprocates your interest or b) as a friend who likes you but not like that. Even if it is B, who cares about his sexual orientation in that scenario?
He can also reject the invi... (read in full...)
Attempts at anal sex cause extreme pain. What can we do?
Q. I apologize in advance if this gets to be too gross or weird. It is for me but I figured some answers might be helpful since past posts have always been. My boyfriend has tried anal sex a few times but I've always stopped him immediately beca...
A. 10 June 2013: You need to lube up, hun. Butts don't have natural lubrication like vaginas do. So, lube the inside your anus and on his penis.
Also, push out while he's going in. It makes his entrance a little easier.
It'll be quite uncomfortable un... (read in full...)
Does this sound like my boyfriend was molested by his dad?
Q. I think my boyfriend was molested as a child. The even crazier thing is I suspect it was by his own parents. The first time I thought something was weird was because he told me he knew about sexual acts at a very pre mature age. He said when he was ...
A. 3 June 2013: I don't think it's right for you to go searching for possible traumas that may or may not have happened in your boyfriend's past. I'm sure you mean well, but digging for something that you don't know is there is just nonsensical and will cause m... (read in full...)
Our moral values don't match because my girlfriend has no compassion towards suffering.
Q. I had a conversation with my girlfriend today about how I was upset about other people getting unfairly hurt due to no fault of their own, people being homeless and such and she told me that people who care about others are stupid and that people ...
A. 3 June 2013: If your moral values don't match up, then I don't think that you should continue the relationship. To me what your question ultimately reveals is that the level on which you two connect is more superficial than you may like to believe.... (read in full...)
My irrational fear of getting pregnant is stopping me from meeting guys.
Q. Hi there, i'm sure this seems like a really stupid question but i just need some calming advice. I'm 22, still a virgin and only kissed a couple of guys. I dont have a problem with any of this however my problem is i have an irrational fear of ...
A. 3 June 2013: Birth control isn't an option? Most guys your age aren't exactly looking to make babies with every girl that they hookup with... As for a long-term relationship, make it clear from the beginning that you don't want to have kids. It's totally pos... (read in full...)
How to cope with moving in with a SO.
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, I made the grave mistake of moving in with my boyfriend. In my defence, he seemed like a solid, responsible guy, and he is! He currently carries most of our financial burden. Since he is working, and I am looking for a job so...
A. 31 May 2013: "Swallow your pride and go back to your parents." Couldn't have said it better myself. I'm not going to rag on this guy because I don't know him, and I understand that some people just have different standards, beliefs, and rules for relations... (read in full...)
I am unsure how to help my online girlfriend with her sexual needs
Q. This will probably sound odd at first, but please bear with me. So for the past eight months, I have been dating this girl in MA online, and for the most part, everything has been going fine. We have our ups and downs, but we love oneanother deepl...
A. 31 May 2013: This may sound condescending. It is not intended to be, so I apologize if that's how you read it. Here goes: First and foremost, supposing this girl you've never met is being one hundred percent honest with you, you are both teenagers. That ... (read in full...)
Is cybersex cheating and is it forgivable?
Q. My husband of 15 years was caught having an affair online with a colleague. He left "chat" open and I read all the sordid details. He claims everything happened online but I discovered they had plans to meet. I feel beyond betrayed and hurt and...
A. 31 May 2013: Is cybersex cheating? Yes. Is it forgivable? Well, that's entirely up to you. I don't know how long you and your husband have been together, but I do know that even short-term relationships can be very difficult to move on from. In th... (read in full...)
Herpes. How do I tell my volatire partner? Should I avoid a big fight and not tell, or take a risk??? please help!!
Q. Hello everyone, Im a 28 yr old female. I just took standard blood work because im in the health field and a routine gyn pap, every thing came out normal. I got a letter about about my bloodwork. I called the office and found out I have Herp...
A. 27 May 2013: I have to cosign with Daisy all the way here.
Herpes is actually super common - like so common that more people carry the infection than don't, and a good number of people who have it don't know (and may never know) that they have it. So, if your ... (read in full...)
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