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writes:I went away on a university trip abroad and (very drunkenly) hooked up with one of my classmates. I have a boyfriend of two years, and have been having doubts about the relationship for a while but cheating just further assured me - is it worth trying to reignite my relationship or is it time to get out?
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reader, MsSadie  +, writes (23 March 2013):
 The way you phrased your question would suggest that you're really just seeking validation to break up with your boyfriend.Here's your validation: End it. Because dragging your boyfriend along in a relationship that you're if-y about is hurtful to him and selfish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2013): I have recently been on the receiving end of being dumped for poor performance in the bedroom. I didn't like being dumped but not being able to correct my errors if you want to put it that way almost destroyed me. Re consider your decision to throw away two years of a relationship without giving him a chance to mend or change his way. I don't think a hook-up should end a relationship but I am not you and you make the ultimate decision. If you had enough I understand but if you do dump him I hope you don't experience what I went through. It is not pretty. What goes around normally comes around and I am not threatening you in any way. Sorry.
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reader, R1 +, writes (23 March 2013):
 you're still young, now is the time to get out there and meet new people and have different experiences! It doesn't sound like it is working with your current bf but if you end it now you will be free to find what will make you happy.
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reader, llifton +, writes (23 March 2013):
 only you can know what truly is in your heart. but from the sound of it, it's time to move on and cut your boyfriend loose.
i think when you really love someone, cheating is the last thing on your mind. we all go through ups and downs and bad patches in relationships. that's to be expected. but no matter what, if your heart is in it for the long haul, you'd never feel the desire to cheat. you'd just buckle down and try harder.
so i think your actions show that it's probably time to move on.
best of luck!
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reader, CMMP +, writes (23 March 2013):
"Is it worth re-igniting?"
Since you didn't give any helpful information, impossible to give a good answer other than that it's worth it if you think it is.
Think of relationships as a way to find the best person to spend the rest of your life with. When you realize that someone isn't right for you, there's not much point in hanging on for old time's sake. The longer you do that the older you get and the more likely "Mr. Right" will pass you by.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2013): time to get out! the barriers are down and so is your interest in the relationship. it's downhill, time to end it.
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reader, cute angel  +, writes (23 March 2013):
 OP,If you were unsure of your relationship you should have spoken to your boyfriend about it long time ago,rather than tagging him along the 'fantasy' he had of you to together!And definitely cheating dint confirm anything OP,you weren't ready for a relationship,you weren't ready for commitment,cheating is just an excuse!Either way what's done is done,all you can do now is be truthful and honest and come out clean to your boyfriend,tell him you were having second thoughts about your relationship with him and to add cherry on top of the cake,u cheated!! Your boyfriend deserves to know the truth..don't string him along,let him go,so he can figure what he wants to do! Good luck OP
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