Why was she hesitant to give me a kiss? Before that we talked.Any suggestions on how I could have handled it?
Q. I would just appreciate opinions on the following: I was sitting alone in a venue in the early hours, when a girl sat near me and started talking to me. Which is quite unusual for a female to do at 2am. The normal thing they do is stand around g...
A. 11 August 2013: It's possible that she is just a friendly person who didn't want to wait alone for her taxi. Don't assume that just because a woman approaches you it's because she's into you.
As for how you could have handled it, I wouldn't suggest asking a... (read in full...)
The boyfriend, his ex and their child are going to the movies!
Q. Hey. This site always gives me great advice and I was wondering if you lovely people could give me your opinion. Dating boyfriend 1.5 years. He has a 6 year old daughter with an ex. Bit if history/ Seen as myself and my other half knew ...
A. 11 August 2013: I don't think you need to worry about it.
My sister has a daughter with her ex. He joined the US Air Force, so he's been in training in a state far away from where he lived and dated my sister. They have a very close relationship, and he'll pa... (read in full...)
How can I help my younger sister and get her out of the house more?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles. This is long and I apologize but please, please bear with me. I'll be honest, it's hard typing this because this is my younger sister I'm talking about. It breaks my damn heart... My younger sister was dealt a difficult card i...
A. 10 August 2013: There are adult day cares of sorts where she can spend the day socializing with others. Another option, though extremely expensive, is to invest in a caretaker who can take her out and act almost as a friend.
Can she work? Grocery stores are comm... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is so social and constantly posting about places/things we do. I don't care for it!
Q. Dear All, My boyfriend and I have been together just over two years. I’m a more private person, whereas he’s fond of social networks, which I understand, but I asked him when we’d only been together a few months not to ‘check in’ places when we’r...
A. 10 August 2013: It's definitely an annoying habit that he has, but it's also a rather harmless one. Maybe you could allow him to check-in places, but ask that he not say he's there with you. Have you told him that you're okay with this habit so long as he does it ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to tell me that I am not her best lover. Why does she lie?
Q. I met my wife when she was 40 (now she is 46). She told me that, among almost 30 previous sex partners, I am her best lover. I can not believe her. My penis is only 5 inches and normal thickness. I am not bad in bed, but I know I am not the best. ...
A. 10 August 2013: Why do you care? She probably only says that to you so often because you're so insecure about it.
I agree with the agony aunts who suggest you may have OCD or a personality disorder that makes you so obsessive. I strongly suggest you confront... (read in full...)
I'm very depressed since my sister moved away!
Q. hey guys , i'm a girl 18 years old,i think i have a real depression problem,four months ago my sister traveled to france, with her husband, it was so hard for me to say goodbye to her , we were best friends we did everything together , i cried so ...
A. 10 August 2013: Was she your only friend? Are you sure that there isn't something else going on in your life?
Is it impossible for you to contact her? You two can't email or Skype?
I'm a bit nomadic, and like to move around my country often (I live in the USA)... (read in full...)
She's practically perfect, but has two kids to two different dads!
Q. Iam really struggling with this situation. I have been seeing a woman for the past couple of months. She is amazing just what I have been looking for funny, supportive, kind, affectionate. She's an amazing cook. She educated and a working ...
A. 10 August 2013: Of course she can be a great wife, if that's really all that you're asking.
If the issue is that you yourself are not comfortable with her situation, than I advise you take a step back for your own sake AND hers in the long-run. I literall... (read in full...)
I'm being supported by my family while in college and I feel like a failure!
Q. This is not a relationship question, but more of a personal struggle I'm trying to cope with. I graduated with my AA in Spring of 2012. I decided to go with a psychology degree though I had intended on going to medical school so it didn't really ...
A. 10 August 2013: I understand your frustration. I completely bombed my first year of college due to alcohol, an abusive relationship, and a mental breakdown. So, I dropped out of that school, one of the best in the country, and took a year and a half long hiatus to ... (read in full...)
Am I cheating if its just in my thoughts?
Q. I just don't know whether it is right or wrong to be in the situation which I am in right now. I am in a very fulfilling relationship with an amazing person. He loves me so much and ofcourse I love him back so much. And I am looking forward to ...
A. 10 August 2013: No, you're fine.
There are tons of hot people out there. The only way to stop noticing them is through altering the production of your hormones or castration. I don't recommend either. Physical attraction to others, even when contentedly involved... (read in full...)
We have something good, but he's married and his wife refuses to divorce him! What should I do?
Q. I met this guy a 5 months ago. We get along well and are still getting to know each other. We have something good. Our previous relationships were painful for both of us and the things they he went through in the relationship were horrendous,...
A. 10 August 2013: "It sounds like a gangster movie"
Sure does. So, don't be like those idiots in horror movies who have clearly never seen horror movies themselves since they make every move that will only put them in further danger.
Something isn't right here... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me? Why have I never been asked out?
Q. I'm 23 and have never been asked out. I'm smart, go to uni and actively participate in student organisations as well as take part in social work. I love having good discussions and always take genuine interest in listening to the person I'm talking ...
A. 10 August 2013: I have to disagree with Chigirl. I dress at least a little provocatively every time I step out of my home, and I get hit on and asked out all the time because of it. Of course, the more provocatively I dress the more likely these men courting me are ... (read in full...)
He's been seeing a male prostitute for friendship?
Q. I'm 36, and my husband's 40, we have a 15-year-old daughter. He admitted last night that he'd been going to a male prostitutes to "talk" and have a few beers, and even gave me his mobile number! My husband also said no sex was involved and tha...
A. 10 August 2013: If all that he was in need of is advice, he'd go to a support network or pay for a therapist; he wouldn't pay for a male prostitute to be his friend. That's..kinda weird.
My guess is that he's building up to confronting a curiosity that he has, ... (read in full...)
Male friend not getting the fact that I'm now in a relationship
Q. As of only a month, I've been in a relationship with a guy who I've been good friends with for 5 years. Just now we are taking it to the next level and if we keep going at this rate, things might turn out very well. However, I have another mal...
A. 10 August 2013: I think you're going to just have to deal with the awkward group outings because ending the "friendship" is the only path I can really see taking here. This guy isn't your friend, and his blatant disregard for your admitted discomfort with his ... (read in full...)
I'm devastated to discover my crush wants to marry by the end of the year and obviously not to me!
Q. I'm crying over and over and over :( I m in love with a guy and he also showed many signs that he likes me and I thought he'll ask me out one day.) But When I was talking with him today I realized something . He was talking about his marriage plans ...
A. 9 August 2013: He wants to get married by the end of the year, but isn't seeing anyone? How do you know that he didn't tell you that as a way of piquing your interest?
In the future, not to be harsh, but don't fall in love with someone that you're not official... (read in full...)
I took photos of her and the next day she had one of them on her facebook. Does she like me?
Q. Well the other day I took some, pictures of this beautiful girl non nude. In we hit it of great had a fun time doing it. And it's kind of funny, I never had a girl wan't me to take picture's of her. So could she maybe be into me. Because we had a ...
A. 9 August 2013: Well, she definitely liked the picture you took.
It's hard to say if she's interested in you or not, so why don't you ask her out for an evening? That's the surest way to tell if someone is interested or not.... (read in full...)
Has anyone had an ex that has reached out after realizing he made a "mistake" and wanted to work things out?
Q. It has been 2 months since my ex boyfriend and I have had "no contact". He broke things off. I miss him so much I haven't reached out at all, no calls, no texts, or emails, nothing. I keep wishing he'll miss me and realize he wants me back. I am ...
A. 9 August 2013: Yes. And our second, third, and fourth attempts at reconciliation ended far worse than the first breakup.
I don't know enough about your relationship or why you two broke up, so I can't say for sure if you should let it go. But my usual motto is... (read in full...)
My GF seem to want her mom-daughter see us have sex!. Why would this be?
Q. My girlfriend seems to be setting things up so that her daughter or her mother see us making love. Is this a more common desire for women than I realized? My girlfriend and I are sort of engaged to be engaged. she surrently lives with her mom and...
A. 9 August 2013: She could be a budding exhibitionist. Or she could be trying to prove something to them in some bizarre, twisted way.
Does she have any friends? Maybe it's a way for her to prove her worth to others. You know, like "look what I'm doing? See how ... (read in full...)
Can I leave him or am I trapped forever?
Q. I have lived with my husband for six years. I believe that I have always relied on men in the past and have had several abusive relationships. I suffer from deep seated fears/phobias from my childhood and agoraphobia (mild now). My husband has clin...
A. 9 August 2013: You can create a support network by branching out to support groups that center around your situation and experiences.
Also, have you ever talked to a therapist? I think you should try that so that you may learn to be less dependent on others f... (read in full...)
Am I asking for trouble by dating my ex's uncle?
Q. I am dating my kids daddy's Uncle! and he doesn't want hie Family to know yet he say's! Am I being played / because sometimes I hear from him and sometimes I don't!...
A. 9 August 2013: Yes.
Not just because he's your ex's uncle, but because of the circumstances you underlined.... (read in full...)
Am I desperate for something to happen since I haven't been in a relationship for awhile?
Q. It has been 10 months since I have had a relationship. And my last relationship wasn't the most amazing. I did start seeing a guy a few months ago, around June time. We didn't sleep with each other, but we have fore play. (We didn't have sex ...
A. 9 August 2013: Yeah, you are sounding like you're mildly desperate for a legitimate relationship.
No harm in that so long as these guys that you're seeing are guys that you actually like, and you're not letting them take advantage of the fact that you're l... (read in full...)
Is there any way to love someone less?
Q. I love deeply my girlfriend of a year and a half, but I feel she does not love as much as I do. I know she loves me, just not as deeply as I woukd like. has anyone experienced the same thing? is there any way, method so I can love her less and be ...
A. 9 August 2013: Why do think you love her too much? Is it the kind of scenario where you put a lot more in to the relationship than she does? Are you the type who likes to surprise your partner with little gifts all the time, go out of your way to please her, and ... (read in full...)
Should I wear a bra because my boyfriend think it's too sexual otherwise?
Q. Is it normal that my boyfriend constantly goes on about the fact that I should wear a bra? We've been having a very hot summer so far and I started leaving the house wearing tops but without a bra underneath. He says that it's obscene and ...
A. 9 August 2013: Eyeswideopen, I agree.
I'll never understand the people who come to this site just to have their egos fanned. Thank goodness that those types are few and far between.... (read in full...)
Should I wear a bra because my boyfriend think it's too sexual otherwise?
Q. Is it normal that my boyfriend constantly goes on about the fact that I should wear a bra? We've been having a very hot summer so far and I started leaving the house wearing tops but without a bra underneath. He says that it's obscene and ...
A. 8 August 2013: Tisha, how'd you make that connection? I'm not doubting you because both questions struck me as a little suspicious, just curious.
Anyway, unless you have a flat chest and your nipples never get hard, I'd say it most certainly is quite sexual t... (read in full...)
Feeling sexually amped -- except with my wife
Q. I've been married for 5 years with two kids. Lately I've had little sexual attraction to my wife but I still watch porn and stuff. Lately, I've been getting hit on by female coworkers, one in particular (gorgeous). Lately, I've felt particularly ...
A. 8 August 2013: Has your wife changed physically? Like, has she gained weight and stopped dressing herself nicely? Is she more slovenly and lethargic than when you two first got together? Or have you simply grown bored of her? If the answer is in my first s... (read in full...)
I'm finding it very hard to cope with my marriage ending and need advice from others who had to start over following a divorce
Q. I'm starting over at the age of 25. I had everything. A husband, a house, planning for children. We are getting a divorce after only a year and a half of marriage. I feel embarrassed it was so short. I feel terrified of starting over. I feel old ...
A. 8 August 2013: How about trying a divorce support group or meetup? It may be a struggle to find people your age in the same situation, but you'll still gain perspective and be around people who understand what you're feeling.... (read in full...)
Will sex always feel like something too big is going in you?
Q. I think it is normal for our first time feel like fitting some thing big into a our vagina which is too small. Will this feeling appear in the 2nd time also? ...
A. 8 August 2013: It varies how long it'll take for a girl/woman to get used to the feeling. I wasn't counting the number of lays I had after first losing my virginity, so I can't tell you exactly when it stopped being uncomfortable. But it definitely took multiple ... (read in full...)
Why does nothing work for me?
Q. After two days, we will have Eid in Pakistan after one month of Ramadan fasting. Eid is like Christmas for us in which we buy new cloths and shoes. It has been almost 10 years since I bought new cloths on Eid. My friends have gone miles in their ...
A. 8 August 2013: Really, nothing works for you? Your car doesn't run? You're physically paralyzed? You have no friends or family? Everything you touches dies? You need to learn to focus on what DOES work for you in order to be happy. The things you listed in wh... (read in full...)
A female in denial of her feelings. Anyone dealt with that?
Q. Im curious. Has anyone ever dealt with a female who was in denial of her feelings? And if so, what did it take for her to get over it and come around?...
A. 8 August 2013: In denial of what? Can you at least specify that?... (read in full...)
My husband is too good to divorce but we live in a 100% non sexual marriage
Q. My husband never hugs me, or looks at me. I don't understand him, because he says ,he loves me. He is completely non sexual with me. I feel totally deprived, and neglected. He is a nice man, he is working hard, and supportive with money.. He ...
A. 8 August 2013: I can't believe how many people are telling you to drop the guy. As someone who has gone through a severe bout of depression in the past, I can promise you that he doesn't mean to hurt you or neglect you. He isn't angry or resentful towards you, he ... (read in full...)
My fiancé admits she still has feeling for her first love and wants him to be a part of her life
Q. My fiancé dated a guy who was 6 years older than her when she was 14, he was her first love but she cheated on him with me and we ended up being together. We're the same age, we started going out when we were 16 up to now. She told me she loves me...
A. 8 August 2013: She isn't over him, and she's in denial about the fact that she isn't over him. That's going to be a tough route for you to navigate, but I think what you ought to do is to tell her that you're not comfortable with what she's asking for here.... (read in full...)
I really want to help women gain some body confidence but I'm not sure how I can make a difference
Q. I'm really interested in helping women with body issues, but I don't know where to start. We've all heard of the negative messages that are out there telling women that small breasted women are automatically less attractive than large breasted ...
A. 7 August 2013: Does it have to be you and you alone who "makes a difference"? Because there are already plenty of groups, blogs, and feminist events that promote exactly what you're talking about. Why not join one of those? Or network with people within th... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend and told him, when I suggested splitting up he cried and begged me to stay, but the thing is I am much more attracted to the other guy than to my boyfriend
Q. Guys, I need help, I think I'm going mad. I've been in this relationship now for around 9 years. We love each other, but many a time during the first few years I slipped and cheated on my excellent boyfriend. I told him and we managed to work ...
A. 7 August 2013: So, you don't respect your boyfriend enough to remain faithful to him, but you want us to believe that you respect him too much to leave him sobbing and lonely? For real, just end it with him. He'll get over it.... (read in full...)
Do women like man who is in demand and valued by other women ?
Q. My girlfriend would tell me that I'm too much into her, like spending time with her, calling , texting and sending her gifts . So she said that I should socialize with other people as well so that I couldn't not be hanging on her head 24/7. Thought ...
A. 5 August 2013: You went from being clingy and overly-affectionate to talking to other girls online.
No, this does not mean that making your girlfriend jealous is the key to maintaining a relationship. It just means that you went from one extreme to another,... (read in full...)
I'm a nice guy but not getting treated nicely relating to dating
Q. I've never had a gf in my life (well for a few weeks was the longest one). In my past, my date left me on prom night. I've had issues ever since then. It's nine years later, and I feel miserable at times. I see everybody with dates or getting ...
A. 5 August 2013: You were stood up once 9 years ago. Since then you've rejected a few dates or the idea of dating several girls because, in your opinion, they haven't got their sh*t together. And from this you conclude that you can't get a girl because they don't ... (read in full...)
How can I have an orgasm without touching the clitoris?
Q. Please help on how i can achieve an orgasm through squeezing the clit without touching it? I've never managed to make it happen and i need tips on how to....
A. 5 August 2013: Squeezing the clitoris without touching it? Huh? Do you mean clenching your legs together? Rubbing on furniture and pillows?
I can't think of how one could physically squeeze something without her hands, lest she mastered telekinesis.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to move in with him but he can't see a marriage or family for another 10 years!
Q. Hi everyone, ok so my problem is probably quite common but I still have no idea what to do so I would really appreciate your advice. Basically, I'm 28 and have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. He recently asked me to move in with him...
A. 5 August 2013: iAmHereToHelpYou and the anonymous male reader beat me to it. This is totally the flip side of a question from the other day. Hmm.
I'll give you advice that follows the same logic as I gave him: don't move in with him.
I understand your ... (read in full...)
I do not understand why he has to play me like this.
Q. Hi all, I am in an annoying situation. I met a guy in March. I am 27 and he is 28. When I first met him, he seemed nice and harmless. I chatted with him on fb but he responded very slowly. I was fed up one day and stopped talking to him About one...
A. 4 August 2013: Why are you lingering on this one guy? Is he the only man in your life?
I honestly don't think that he's playing you. It sounds like he's just really shy and maybe a little insecure.
The only feasible path that I can see taking here is you movi... (read in full...)
I am terrified to give blowjobs!
Q. I am wondering if this problem is common or if there is another qoman who has learned a way to deal with it. I am terrified to give blowjobs. Not only is the smell and taste horrendous to me, but i begin panicking, shutting down mentally, and go...
A. 4 August 2013: My advice is stop giving blowjobs. Do you not do full-on penetration with him yet? If you do, how do you feel about that?
Not sure how long and you this dude have been together but if he genuinely loves you for who you are, then he's probably... (read in full...)
Serious HELP! How do I keep a player interested in me?!!!!
Q. Met this guy who is very very wealthy, handsome and well connected yesterday. We swapped numbers and he has texted me asking me out. But he is saying stuff about how he wants me and wants me to go to his house etc. Obv he is a player and takes diff ...
A. 3 August 2013: So, wait a minute. You're NOT asking how to keep this guy interested romantically, but rather how to network with him? That'll be tough. A good friend of mine was in a very similar situation, and she ended up getting pressured by the guy to get i... (read in full...)
I asked my girlfriend to move in but she wants me to tell her what I plan for the future. I'm not sure what I want yet, what do I do?
Q. I am 25 and I recently asked my girlfriend of 4 years to move in with me. She is 28. She told me she needed to think about it for a few days, but when she came back she told me she couldn't decide until she knew for certain whether I want marriage ...
A. 3 August 2013: This one's got a good head on her shoulders. I think she's a keeper!. I'm not sure how you can be so confident that you want to live with someone indefinitely but not positive that you want to marry her. May I ask what the bold line between the... (read in full...)
Can you fall in love with someone without having ever talked?
Q. Can you fall in love with someone without ever having talked to them? I am in this date site. But I am not a gold member. So I can't talk to anyone, just when gold member contact me if I like their profile I can answer. I can get over hundreds em...
A. 3 August 2013: That's what we call a "crush" here in the United States. It's also known as infatuation. No, you can't fall in love with someone you don't know - not even unrequited love - but you can certainly be intrigued by him. The language barrier and ... (read in full...)
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